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afraid to let go..
I hardly ever ask questions about love life. But I really need advice. I would talk to my best friends about this matter, but one of them will just tell me to go for it without listening to how i feel about it, and the other will just tell me NO because of the guy. I'll tell you everything that happened up until now, and i won't leave anything else out so i get get a truthful-straight foward answer from you guys.
Just for a warning, this is probably gonna be long.
I'll take you back to a few months ago. lets say..may. Well, back then I was currently with my first boyfriend (lets call him Joe) and things weren't going very well. I was doing things I really didn't want to do because I felt like I was trying to compete with his ex. Even though he didn't have contact with her. Well, Joe met my mom one weekend, and she let us go down in the basement to watch a movie. Lets just say she walked in on something that she wasn't supposed to walk in on.. After that, me and him had a serious talk and were going to try to change our relationship around, and if it didnt' work out, we would end it.
It went good for a week, then around memorial day, joe, danny (his best friend), and hannah (my best friend) went to hannahs house for her family cookout. [[ Danny and Hannah are going out btw ]] Everything was going good, but then Danny and Joe went for a walk and were talking for a while. I wondered what they were talking about to Hannah, and Hannah said Joe was going to break up with me. I thought she was saying it as some mean joke, like she has been for the past week. So I just pretended to be mad and shurgged it off. Well, Joe and Danny came back and we all talked.I thought that everything was going good, and I guess it was.
Then the next day, I went to hang out with Frank (my other best friend). Frank told me that Jimmy (his best friend, and one of mine) told him that Hannah was saying that Joe was gonna break up with me and such. So Frank talked to Joe about what was going on. Apparently, Hannah knew everything going on before I did, but wasn't going to tell me because Danny made her swear not to tell. Which kind of pissed me off. But anyway, Frank got the inside scoop on why Joe wanted to break up and such. Looking back on it I guess I knew what everyone was talking about, I was just in shock.
So later that night, I called Hannah to see if she would have the guts to tell me herself. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to talk to Joe about it. I told her that I knew and pretended not to be mad at her. So, I ended up calling Joe later and flipped out on him about telling every single person in the school. He told me that he didn't think of me as the same person. We ended up deciding it wouldn't work out so we broke up "mutually". I didn't really care until the next morning when I was an emotional wreck the whole day. I was talking to my good friend Jade about it, and Jade told me that she heard from her friend Amy that Danny said that Joe told him that he wished he asked Amy out sooner instead of me when we started having problems.
Well, I was even more of an emotional fjewirjfl after that and tried to figure out what the heck was going on from Joe. Joe told me that Danny lied. But Danny told me that Joe lied. I ended up getting mad at Amy. And then Jade hated me for telling Joe what I heard. So that went on for a good couple of weeks. I still liked him for about a month after we broke up, and I told Joe how I felt, he told me he doesn't like me anymore and ended up getting into huge "sob" stories on how his other girl friends broke up with him. So I don't really talk to him about it anymore.
Me and Hannah aren't that good of friends anymore because she's all hypocritical about Danny. and honestly i hate Danny with a passion so I just don't bother getting into huge discussions like this with her.
The problem is, its been three months and I'm still afraid to let go of Joe completly. I havn't really accepted the fact that he won't come back. I faced it, I gave back the stupid stuff he gave me. But I still have this feeling in my gut that he still likes me? Or maybe I just want him to like me back.. I can hear people getting sick of me with dwelling on this for so long. I'm sick of it myself. I want to move on. and whats even worse is that Jimmy likes me. I want to like Jimmy so bad, but I wouldn't go out with him because of the fact of Joe. And I don't beleive in using people.
Part of me wants to Call Joe. Just to set things straight. Should I? What should I do? I'm really lost right now.
sorry for the confusion. I just don't know if I should set things straight again with Joe (relationship or no-relationship) or give Jimmy a chance.
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Cut joe out of your life, hes just playing you. on the other hand, so what if jimmy and joe are friends? if you like the guy, go for it. joe said he doesnt like you anymore, so if he was telling the truth about that, he wont care if you date one of his friends.
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You need to let go of joe..you are emotionally attached to him and that isnt good. It's never good to dwell over a relationship that is over and im sure you know that and even though relationships are hard to get over because of the "memories", you have to get over them some how. and if you dont get over joe you're going to miss out on other realtionships that'll probably be way better then what you two had.
i personally think you need to work on yourself before you get into another relationship, like maybe make some changes in your life such as friends like Hannah, who is letting a boy come and change her attitude and your frriendship. Another thing is to never get emotinally attach to a guy it isnt healthy no matter how much he means to you.
hope i helped >><< :)
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what you need to do is call joe. Get it out of your system. jimmy sounds like he would be a good thing for you too because hes a new guy! start a new relationship. but first you need to talk to joe find out some thing if he doesnt like you then your question is ova with but if he does tell him sorry hes not worth it but if you think he is then try once more he only gets 2 chances just put that in you head.
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