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Is it absolutely (scientifically?) important to take it at around the same time every day? Or is that just what they tell you so it's easier for you to remember to take the pill? (link)
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The biggest reason for taking it the same time each day is so you will remember to take it. Its always good to take any type of medication at around the same time of day to keep the levels of that medication more or less the same all the time.
Just so you don't panic though, once you have been taking it a while, if you miss one or don't always take it at the same time, its not a big deal. Your chances of getting pregnant decrease the longer you take it. Women who take it for many years and then decide to start a family may even have difficulty getting pregnant.
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13/f
and i like a
13/m
BEWARE: this might be long.
OK. So i have posted so many questions on the same topic. But i haven't gotten any real good advice. All of my answers usually say "just go with what you think is right" or "its better to do it and say you did the to not and regret it later." so i hope you can give me better advice. like what i should specifically do.
So i have like this guy for a long time. Ive known him since elementary school and he lives two houses away from me. I think I'm IN LOVE with him. now don't say "i think your too young to be IN LOVE" or "you need to wait and see if these feelings leave. if they don't then....." because I've heard it all before. I know for a fact that I'm IN LOVE with him. so i know that he likes me because he asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. I said no because my mom doesn't approve of neighbors dating. because if we ever break up then it'll be awkward because i see him all over the place. but i like him so much that i am willing to hide it from my mom. But another reason why i know that he likes me is because, not too long ago, we were walking home together and he touched my ass. on purpose. so if that's not flirting than i don't know what flirting is. lol. so i have no idea what to do. do i ask him out myself or just wait for him to ask me out? please help me. and im sorry that this was so long. thank you in advance. (link)
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First of all I don't think you should start by hiding it from your mom. She may not like it, but its not good to start any relationship based on lying. No matter how old you are!
I'm not going to say you are to young to know what love is. I do want to want you to understand though, that love is much more than sex. 13 year old boys, no offense to the one you like, often look for someone who will allow sex. Don't fall into that trap. You want a guy to love you for who you are, not what they can get. Touching your butt isn't really flirting. Its seeing what he can get away with. :)
Dating someone at your age is very hard. Nobody can drive, parents have to chauffeur you anywhere that isn't in walking distance. I see nothing wrong with you inviting him over for a movie, or out to do something. It might be best to wait for him to make the first move though. I'm kinda old fashioned. :) Let him know you are interested. He may already know, or think he does. Let him know he is right. If he mentions doing something, say something like.."That sounds like fun, maybe we can do that (see a movie or whatever) together sometime." Let him know you would go out with him if he asked.
Good luck!
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My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage and has full-custody. We've had custody of them for 3 years now in Texas. Their mother lives in California. She has been unemployed since she moved out there 5 years ago. She makes no efforts to be a "real" part of the kids' lives. She hasn't come to visit, her cell is continuously shut off so calls are limited (once a week or every two weeks). And the children are currently 11, 8, and 6.
The other day the 8 year old asked if I knew why she didn't correct someone when they call me her mom. She then told me she didn't want them to know I was her step-mom. I asked her if she believed it was a bad thing and she told me no, she thinks I am a mom. I told her it was fine if she does that in front of people. She took it the wrong way and now wants desperately to call me mom 24/7.
My question is if both myself and the child are comfortable with mom is it alright for her to call me that? Her real mom's jealousy is not an issue because her presence is absent. Most people I ask tell me not to encourage her but she is the one asking not me. (link)
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Let her call you mom if that's what she wants to do. What a compliment!
As far as this child is concerned YOU are her mom. you are there for her everyday. You feed and clothe her. You fix her boo boos. You are her mom in every way a mom is.
I don't know the circumstances of why her dad has full custody, but I know the courts don't take kids from their mothers if they are good ones. So, even if the day comes when her birth mom decides she doesn't like it...well, that's something she maybe should have thought about a lot earlier.
Enjoy it mom, you deserve the title. Ignore those who have a problem with it. I can only imagine they are thinking of their own kids calling another mom. Just remind them that your circumstances are special.
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hi!
my boyfriend said that he'd like for me to make him an omelet for breakfast. omelets usually have cheese. but he hates cheese! he likes meat, sausage and bacon and stuff, but what could i use as a substitute for cheese in the omelet? (link)
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Like Ninja said before me, cheese isn't necessary in an omelet. The only thing I'd like to add is
that you can put salsa on top or on the side, or even sour cream. Good with or without cheese! It
might add that little something extra.
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ok this is stupid but whatever. my boyfriend is completely loyal and i trust him completely. but he like calls this girl wifey and theyre acquaintances not best friends or even close or anything. should i feel weird? or am i over-exaggerating? its not like he likes her but is that flirty of him hes all like "you can be my wifey" and im like wut.. k thanks ! (link)
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Since men usually "sleep" with their "wifeys", I'd be feeling more than a little weird. I'd be finding out why he calls a mere acquaintance this. Most people don't nickname people they don't know well.
Your boyfriend has some explaining to do.
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female, 19yo
i don't know what to do anymore..we've been together for 3 years. lately i've been feeling like i want to be single, but the relationship we have is the greatest. i don't want to throw it away. i've been thinking about other guys and stuff. i don't know. i still love him. we've been close to ending it a few times, but cry then we're fine again. the truth comes out when you're drunk right? i hate it when he's drinking with his friends. they just play beer pong and have fun. and now they're playing for money..anyway..this is when we're about to break up everytime. he'll come in the room because i want him to. he'd be hammered and start arguing and he'd say the worst things that would ever come out of his mouth. i don't think he'd say anything like that if he was sober. besides all that, he's the greatest guy that i could ever be with. (link)
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Your relationship isn't the greatest. Honestly, if it were, you wouldn't have these feelings. You've been in a relationship since you were around 16. Its a comfortable habit.
Sometimes one partner will grow up a little sooner than the other. I think that could be whats happening. You have matured beyond the partying with the boys stage & he hasn't. It might be time for you to move on for a while and see who else is out there.
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I'm 14 and I'm a girl. I started going out with this guy a week ago and I thought he really liked me. But I found out that the first time we kissed that he got paid to do it. I really like him though and I want it to work but I'm not 100% sure of what to do. Oh I'm one grade above him but were the same age. Please help? (link)
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If you like him, and he seems to like you, then just forget about it. Boys his age do some strange stuff now and then. Just let him know that you found out about it & that there better not be any more bets where you're concerned.
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The past three nights, I have gotten sick. I all of a sudden get really nauseous and need to throw up. Im asking if I am pregnant because I know that a lot of women actually get 'morning sickness' at night (my mother did with me and my brother). I am on birth control, but last week when I had sex with my boyfriend I was also on antibiotics which I know lower the effectiveness of birth control. I was just wondering what everyone thinks the chances of my being pregnant are. Im supposed to get my period in the next four days. Thanks for the help! (link)
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Wait and see what happens without worrying about it.
I'm not a doctor and wouldn't want to tell you for absolute certain that you aren't pregnant. I HAVE read in several different places that studies have shown antibiotics no longer make birth control ineffective. Yet, I worked with a doctor who would still give the warning on the side of safety to use
another form of birth control as well while on them.
Its possible you are, but I'm gonna say the chances are small. This time of year I suffer night nausea myself because of allergies & sinus problems. There could be another explanation for the nausea.
If your period doesn't come in a week or so, take a home test. Remember stress can make you late or cause you to skip a period.
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I will be moving to another city with my boyfriend in a couple of months, and right now, he is constantly being manipulated by his mother for money. She will say things like "we can't pay our bills this month" or "we really need the money" but most of the times, she will take the money from his account without any acknowledgment at all. He works full time, and 75% of his paycheck goes to her; he is still living at home.
He refuses to talk to her about it, and when I try to talk to him, he gets upset and says that no matter what, she's his mom, and when she asks him for something, he'll give her anything.
He needs to start saving money for when we'll be living on our own, but no matter what I try to do, he will give all the money to his mom.
We know that she has a gambling problem; she also treats him unfairly. He has three other siblings, and they are given generous birthday presents, while my boyfriend has not received acknowledgment of his birthday for the past 3 years. Also, he is given almost no Christmas presents, while his siblings, again, are give generous gifts.
I know that he is being treated unfairly, and he knows it, but will not do anything about it.
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I agree with dearcandore. Do not under any circumstances move in with this guy until he talks to and can say NO to his mother. If he doesn't do it now, he will not do it later, no matter what he may be telling you. If you move in together, you will foot the bills while he continues to give his money to mommy.
Instead of arguing with him or getting upset you need to have a talk. During this talk, do not listen to excuses etc. Have your say first. Make it VERY CLEAR to him that you will not move in with him until he can keep the majority of his money for himself. Not until mom is taken off his bank accounts and no longer has access to his money. Not until he can grow up and act like a man.
After that just stand back and see what happens. Be prepared for him to do nothing to change things. You need to set a time limit in your head for how long you will continue to put up with it.
I hope it works out in your favor, if it doesn't though don't spend years waiting. Sooner or later it will destroy the relationship.
Before you take that step to move in with him, know the situation has changed. Don't just take his word for it.
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my kids father took me to court a year ago. His wife wanted him to lower chld support, get rid of kids medical, all so he could continue to pay for her 4 kids. he covered all of her kids (none are his)on medical and asked to drop mine. They submitted a request and made me sit there until i agreed to sign over my son for tax purposes, drop medical, and lower support. A mediator submitted a form and i was supposed to be notified of the outcome. Thing is, the judge denied it. There are no court papers on file, i went to the courthouse yesterday. He gave the original mediators request to a tax preparer, who claimed my son, and gives the same INVALID paper to his employers so that he doesnt have to pay medical. we both claimed my son and now I am wondering how much trouble he could get in for showing this false paper to everyone. I told him i wouldnt sign my sons exeption paper because he never sees the kids and is always behind on support. His felon exwife drew up these papers by the way. Am I missing something. The court has nothing on record for me to see?he has a$5000 return and is $2500 behind on support, is jobless and wont pay a penny o me.what can be done? thanks guys! (link)
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You need a lawyer. One of you is going to be in trouble with the IRS. You don't want to be in trouble with the IRS. It will cost you much more than a lawyer will to deal with them. A lawyer can find things out at the courthouse that you can't find unless you know the proper questions to ask.
Find one and nail your ex's hide to the wall.
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Iv'e noticed whenever i'm showering and shaving my legs i get dizzy and my body starts to sway back and forth like i'm going to faint..i become light headed i usually eat before i shower so i don't go into the shower on a empty stomach when this happens i get worried cause there's a possiblity i could faint while showering...
Why is this happening to me? Should i
tell my parents and my doctor? What can
i do so this doesn't happen anymore?
I know that most of you aren't doctors
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Cool the water down. I'm a fan of really HOT showers too. They will cause the symptoms you describe though. So just take showers that aren't as hot.
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I am 46 yrs old and am thinking about getting a bachelors in healthcare administration--I got an assoc in rad technology 24 years ago. I would like to do it online and it is expensive so the question is do I risk going into some debt to pursue this new career. I don't think I have what it takes physically to do my current job for another 20 years so that is why I am thinking of continuing my education and it is something I always thought I could do--just worried about risk versus reward I guess. (link)
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By all means! If you have the time to devote to it and its something you really want to do then go for it!
The only thing I would suggest is to really research the online school. Make sure it is a legit place and that your degree will be accepted by employers you may be interested in.
As a matter of fact, you might go so far as to talk to some people in the field you are wanting to go into and get some advice. Find out what schools they find acceptable and any other questions you may have.
Good luck!
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So iv'e been on the pill for over a year and my boyfriend wanted to finish inside me without protection and last night i finally let him. It was on the last day of my period and i take my pill religiously. Im very nervous about getting pregnant.. am i at alot or risk? (link)
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Not a lot of risk. It doesn't matter at all where you are in your cycle. Once on the pill and if taken properly, your chances of not getting pregnant
are the best they can be.
There is always a slight risk. Nothing is 100% except abstinence. But I really don't think you have a thing to worry about.
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what do girls do when they start to get sick of a guy? (link)
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The smart girl will move on to the next guy.
This continues until you find the right one
& live happily ever after. ;)
Response to feedback:
I don't know why they would move on without saying something. Thats pretty rude of them not to. They should give a guy a reason for why they suddenly have a change of heart. I know they would certainly expect it from a guy.
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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her? (link)
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Because it may help you to see it if you hear it often enough, I will add more of the same.
He is with her because he loves her.
He tells you he loves you because you'll make out with him if he does.
Simple as that. You are being used. Men, and probably some women having been using this method
for years. Why? Because some girl always falls for it in a desperate attempt get him.
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is there any techniques to male masturbatio? (link)
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We aren't allowed to give "how to" advice on sex.
If we did we'd never hear the end of it. 13 year olds around the world would be pulling up our site
and ruining monitors.
We can give you links or searches to find what you need. Here is a search that has plenty of sites to visit for more information.
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How do you get over a girl you are in love with?
How do you move on?
What's the best way to do this? (link)
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The ONLY way to do this is to find another girl.
You don't have to be crazy in love with her but
find another girl or girls to occupy your time.
Sooner or later you will find a new friend and possibly the right girl for you.
This isn't something you have to do today. Take time to grieve over your lost love if you want to.
You just won't truly get over the loss until you move on to the next girl. :)
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I haven't spoken to my father in 8 months, Let me begin...
A year ago, My oldest sister and my father had a fight as my father is remarried and my oldest sister never saw eye to eye with her. My stepmother is very manipulative and often told my sister the right and wrongs of how to raise her children. Eventually, My father had felt that my sister was coming between him and his wife because my sister had stated that she doesn't appreciate her stating her opinions also she wrote a letter regarding her feelings towards my father. My father never really seem like he wanted me or my sister in his life, His time spent with us were almost as if they were a burden to him as he put his wife before his kids.
My father had called my oldest telling her (at 8 months) to have a nice life, Leaving behind her and her 3 children at the time. I was bothered from the beginning and over time my relationship with my father began to fade due to lack of respect and gradually I began to feel my step mother had got her way. It is now 8 months later since I have spoken to my father, I have been wanting to write him a letter for quiet some time now and I haven't had the sense to even know how I would approach it as I just cut complete contact without saying a word. I feel I need closure and that letting my father know how I truly feel is never too late, Although it will not solve the issue I would like to let him know that I will no longer be involved in his life and why. What I am asking is should I do this? I need opinions and much is appreciated
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I advise you not to do it.
This happened in my own family. My dad was married many times and some of the women weren't the most pleasant creatures. Especially the next to the last one. When my daughter, who was then 3 years old climbed on his lap during a Christmas visit, this woman was jealous. As soon as my daughter hopped down to get something, she jumped on his lap so my daughter couldn't get back up there.
My youngest brother who was about a high school freshman was told he couldn't visit anymore (by her). She felt he was old enough that he didn't need to be staying every other weekend with his dad. Besides, she liked running around in her bra & it just wouldn't be appropriate with a young teenage boy in the house. I'd like to add that this woman had a butt so big & wide she could stand behind a pick up truck and hide the tailgate. My 14 year old brother was not interested in looking at her.
My brother continued to visit a couple more years.
This woman's hate for him grew. When he married & had a child of his own she told him not to come visit anymore. She didn't like his kids. Same story with my sister and other brothers. They stopped visiting my dad.
I kept visiting only because my attitude was she may not like me but I'm not here to see her. I very "sweetly" ignored most of her barbs and my
husband did the same. If she expressed jealousy over my kids, I made a joke about how a grown woman was jealous of a little baby girl. It continued until he got rid of that one and moved on.
His last wife was very much the opposite. Having come from a family where her own children ignored her unless she had money to hand over, she always enjoyed seeing us and our kids.
By this time though 15 or 20 years had passed for my brothers and sisters. Especially my youngest brother. His oldest kids were all grown & almost graduated from high school. After 20 years its a little difficult to just show up and try to resume a relationship.
My dad discovered a couple of years ago that he had an abdominal aneurysm. In testing him for surgery, they discovered he had a pretty aggressive form of lung cancer. They couldn't fix the aneurysm because the cancer was to far advanced. His wife had a big BBQ and invited everyone. All the kids and grands came except my 2 younger brothers. Heck my mom even came, his first of the 4 wives.
About a week later the aneurysm broke. He had surgery but it was doubtful he would wake from it. They keep you in a drug induced coma for 24 hours or so after a surgery like that to help the body heal. My dad never took very well to knock out drugs. Of course the medical staff thought they knew better than us & didn't give him enough. Thankfully my youngest brother put pride aside and showed up to see him. When dad heard him he woke for just long enough to tell my brother he loved him. They were his last words.
He was given stronger knock out drugs & he never woke again.
I tell you this story so you will understand that time & things change. Don't let this woman bully you or your sister. Don't allow what she says or thinks keep you from visiting your dad.
Yes indeed he should be supporting his kids against her, but it doesn't always work that way. You will both have to understand that your dad is married to a freaking idiot. For whatever reason your dad loves her. Love sometimes makes a man stupid. Sorry men but its true. I've also found that dads have a hard time expressing their feelings to their kids. I'll always be grateful to his last wife for making my dad realize its OK
to tell your kids you love them. Don't just assume they know, she'd tell him. They need to hear it now and then. Your dad just doesn't know
how to express his feelings. He may also feel some guilt for divorcing your mom & not being in your life more.
Here is the thing. If you all stay away and write dad off. This bitch wins. She gets just exactly what she wanted. Your dad all to herself. Don't let her win. My brother feels somewhat better that he got to let my dad know he loved him. He also feels terribly bad that he missed so many years of visiting him now and then. My dad never got to know his kids. He will never get over that.
So don't write that letter. Hard as it will be, get that sister of yours and go visit. Don't let some woman bully you into staying away. Life is way to short to keep a family feud going. This woman tries to tell you or your sister how to raise your kids, ignore her like her stupid little opinion doesn't matter. Don't argue with
her. It just makes you guys look bad. IGNORE HER.
Be polite when you have to speak to her, but don't go out of your way to talk to her. She will keep it up and soon look like the bully she is to your dad.
If your dad didn't have some feelings for your sister, he wouldn't have taken the time to call her and say what he did. His feelings are hurt.
Believe me, it would have been much easier for him to remain silent & go on with his life.
Its ok not to like this woman, but don't let her ruin the lives of your family.
Best of luck.
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i am a 18 year old male and i need some good advice with my girlfriend? :/ recently we have been experimenting with four play, but everytime i try to stimulate her clit, or finger her it feels good at first but then i have to stop cause it always hurts her. i tried using my tongue, but even that eventually started hurting, i always stop when she says it hurts. i just want to figure out how to pleasure her, without hurting her?... please help? (link)
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It could be the more aroused you get, the rougher you get. Not intentionally of course. When she says it hurts try easing up until she isn't having pain.
If that doesn't (or hasn't) work, then she needs to see her doctor to find out why. It shouldn't be hurting her.
Here is a search with lots of tip sites. Perhaps you will find something that could help.
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I have a friend who I have known for almost 15 years, and she is like a sister to me and a best friend. Recently, my friend said she was going away on a hen do weekend to Ibiza because someone she knows is getting married, and my friend said to me 'you should come', but at the time I said I will try because I would have to find someone to watch my son for the weekend.
Fortunately, another friend of mine has offered to look after my son so I could go on the hen weekend with my 'sis', and I told her I had found someone and could she please let me know the flight details A.S.A.P so I could make sure that I get on the same flight as the hen party (the rest of the hen party has already booked), furthermore, flight prices go up by the day so it was important that I got the details from her soon as possible.
However, since then, every time I have asked her for the detail or if she has spoken to her friend about getting them yet, she says she hasn't seen her friend or she has been too tired to go and see her friend, (however, her friend lives in the flat next door!) It feels like she has been fobbing me off with excuses every time I ask, which has made me feel really sad, and that she may not be the friend I always thought she was.
I believe she may have said ‘you should come’ just to be nice, however, if she didn’t really mean it, then she could have been just as nice in letting me down and making up an excuse or something. She probably didn’t expect me to find someone to have my son as well. I just think after 14 years of friendship, she could have at least been honest with me. I wouldn’t have wanted to go on holiday with someone who didn’t want me there anyway.
There is more to this story: my ‘sis’ was also pregnant at the time she said ‘you should come’ (this was back in April) and her baby was born recently, and I have sent her a card but I have not yet been down to see her or her new baby. To be honest, the whole situation upsets me because of the dishonesty from her, so I have just been keeping away and my head down and studying for my Uni exams which are next week, so I have been dead busy anyway, but I would like to go see her and the baby, I just feel I can’t right now because of how I feel I have been treated.
Also, I have been very careful about how and when I mention to her about the flight details because I was very understanding about her pregnancy. I know she has been tired and she has had a lot on her mind with getting everything ready for the new baby, but, getting the flight details for me was not a huge task, and as I mentioned, her friend lives next door, and she also has a phone. I just feel she has been fobbing me off with excuses because she doesn’t really want me to come on the hen weekend.
Today, my ‘sis’ sent me a message through Facebook asking when I am going to go and visit her and the new baby, and now I don’t really know how to bring this subject up with her. I want her to know she has upset me and I don’t like being fobbed off, however, she is one of my best friends and I have known her a long time and I don’t want to end up in a row over it all and consequently, loose her as a friend.
I would appreciate your advice on this dilemma and it would be good to hear what others think of this situation. Many thanks in advance.
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Never ever assume she is just avoiding getting you the information. She may not be telling the whole story, but don't write her off as a friend until you get all the details. Maybe the friend/neighbor is putting HER off.
What you need to do is go visit her and the new baby. She is probably thinking the same thing about you not visiting her right now as you feel about her ignoring your hen party details.
While visiting, ask her straight out, is there a problem with getting me the details? Do the others not want me going? Why do I feel you are blowing me off in all this? Get your answers. You are friends so talk! Don't just assume things. We all have a tendency to think the worse. Sometimes we have it all wrong. :)
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