So, there is this guy. I really like him- he is a bit older than me and has a son who doesn't live with him. We have hung out a few times, and every time has led to something sexual (but that doesn't seem like it is all he wants from me).
He tells me that he really likes me, and is blowing up my phone when he wants to. But, other times, I will text him throughout the day only to get a couple short responses or none at all. There have been a couple of times when he asked me to hang out and then "fell asleep".
I am wondering what I have done that is making the guys I am interested in lose interest in me. He says he isn't but, something is up.
it's a guy thing. unfortunately us girls have to get use to things like this. i remember when i use to like my best guy friend and he would always be so short with me when he would text me, but then when he wanted something and i wouldnt answer he would keep calling and if i was with friends, he would want me to leave to go hang out with him. they feel like they can demand us around. you can't let this guy do that to you. you can't allow him to know that you can be pushed around like that. i asked my best friend whats wrong with him while he texts, and why he never seems to want to hang out and he said, "nothings wrong:) what are you talking about!? im fine! and i'd love to hangout, but you never text me and ask so i didn't know you wanted to"
this just goes to show guys are confusing. as for the texts, guys are foolish and don't know that they're making girls feel like that. EVERY girl goes through this. they feel like the guy doesn't care when he's texting because he'll be like .. "yeah .. okay .. lol.." but it's just how they text. nothing to be worried over! the thing i did wrong was kept asking what was wrong, what i did and so on..and this pushed him away because really nothing was wrong. if he tells you he isn't losing interest in you.. he's not! i'd lay low on the sexual things for now.. it'd prove even more that he wants you and not just sex! hope this helped. if you need anything else, inbox! ♥ LU
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Okay, So I'm a senior in high school and he's a sophomore. I know its cradle robbing but we are soo much alike and like each other and to me he's pretty mature. But you know guys always put that show on for girls. My question is Do you think anything is wrong with him being younger than me? I do really like him and we hang out. And all my guy friends love him and want me to say yes.
definately go for it! i went through the same thing also. me and this guy were two years apart and at first i was like ... uhhh are people going to be talking about us? it's always weird at first but then things get better, trust me:) i just didn't care! if he makes you happy, go for it. i talked to my mom about it because i was feeling so insecure and she told me some wise words:
"don't let anyone ruin your happiness, if he puts a smile on your face and butterflies in your stomach, thats all that matter. it's your life- nobody else's :)"
that made me feel alot better. after awhile people won't even notice! they'll just be like .. oh you guys are so cute together! and yeaaaah some people may be like how old is he? but you just have to be confident and say he's a sophomore. honestly, people won't care. now if gilrs start talking about you two - it's just because there jealous ;) good luck! if you need anything else, leave it in the inbox. i know what you're going through ♥ LU
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So I have known this boy for 2 years and ever since the moment I met him there has been a connection with him. We flirt literally every time we are together even if one of us is currently seeing someone else. We have so many things and common and always manage to have a good time. We never dated before but we have both talked about how we have always liked each other it has just never worked out. Also he is a huge flirt and goes out with a lot of girls but somehow I feel its different with me because he always seems generally concerned with how I am and never wants to push me to do anything I don't want but I don't know if I really am different or just another girl. I have recently started college and I know I'm young and I'm still going to meet so many people and I have met/am meeting so many new people but I still think about him all the time. I can really see myself being with him possibly forever but have no way of knowing. I don't feel this strongly about any of the other boys I have dated and I am really scared that we will never end up together. The only problem with me realizing all of this now is that he is at school in South Carolina while I am in Boston so it is very inconvenient and I don't know what to do.
ohhhhmygodddd. this is crazy, i am.. or was in the same situation. i basically fell in love with my best friend. me and him have been friends for about 4 yrs now. everytime we were together everyone would ask if we were dating because we would act like it but that was never the case. i felt the same way you do; he acted different towards me. he was a popular guy and everyone loved him but he seemed generally caring towards me and always made sure i was happy. turns out he was doing that for all the other girls i didn't know about :( now i'm not saying this guy is seeing other girls but you just don't know. i don't want to be a downer AT ALl or have you lose faith, but just be sure of possible situations. i think i fell in love with our friendship and thought we could be more by the way he acted towards me but thats how he was being with every other girl too and when i found that out i was crushed. i really do think you should focus on meeting new people and i'm not saying you have to date any of them! you can still keep in contact with that guy, and ask him what he thinks of your guys situation. ask if he could ever see you two being more. ask him how college is going and if he's met alot of new people, girlsss?!!;) think about this.. are you in love with your friendship and knowing that he was always there for you and having that comfort or are you IN love with him? and can see yourself persuing this relationship. the bad thing i always thought about was what if you dated and broke up and it ruined your friendship? although i do hear that the best relationships are those of best friends! if you can't stop thinking about him and don't want him to get away.. you have to talk to him! don't let him ruin your college experience though. you two are in different states so it may now be difficult to have a relationship. if you were to persue a romantic relationship with him would it make things worse with the long distance? think about all of this before you make any moves:) good luck girl! if you need anything else, i'm here! ♥ LU
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18/f
okay, so i've been talking to this guy for a while like since I was 15. He's an amazing guy, he has a great family, my family adores him, and I really honestly love him. Well, he had a girlfriend that he had been dating since before we even met, but he didn't love her & didnt want to be with her but he didnt know how to tell her. He just didnt want to break her heart. Anyway, while he wsa with his ex he spent every day with me, we talked all the time, we even kissed/held hands/etc... a lot. So techinically he cheated on her. They broke up about two weeks ago, and he told me he wanted to be with me but that he was scared to jump into things too soon after breaking up with his ex. Then when he finally did ask me to be his girlfriend he confessed that he was just scared to date me because he knows how college guys can be and he hangs out with girls a lot and didnt want to date me til he knew for sure he wasnt going to be tempted by them.
But now that we're together, the fact that he cheated on his ex is really starting to bother me even though it was my fault too. Now I'm constantly worried that he'll do the same thing to me. He's away at college but he stays with me on the weekends but i'm constantly worried he'll do something to hurt me... Like last night was the beginning of rush week, and he got really drunk and stopped texting me so I have no idea what he was doing... he usually texts me constantly, its not normal for him to just stop. And I know he wasnt sleeping because when I woke up this morning there was a text from about 3 hours after my last text to him. I don't think he'd do anything to hurt me, but it still bothers me because I've been hurt a lot, and he means the world to me. He hangs out with a couple of girls who are party animals & do drugs and stuff and they like to make out in front of my boyfriend and his roommates... thats pretty tempting, dont you think? It just worries me. I fell for him when I was 16 and now I finally have my opportunity to be his girl, I just don't want to screw it up with being the jealous type... its just really hard.
I havent said anything to him because I dont want to come off like that so soon in our relationship, but I also dont want him to think i'm naive or that he can just walk all over me... Any advice for me?
i honestly know how you feel. i liked my best guy friend, and he had a girlfriend of three years; talk about committment. turns out they ended up breaking up and he tried getting with me. he's a really cute guy don't get me wrong which is why i was really insecure. he would always flirt with other girls in front of me and so i would confront him asking if he liked them and he always said no. well i continued to see this happening so i kept bringing it up; turns out it only pushed him away. if you were to keep being jealous and thinking these things and if you were ever to bring it up with him more than once, he will start to feel annoyed that you don't trust him. i know this because thats how my best friend felt. the only thing you can do is believe that your boyfriend will do no wrong and do nothing to hurt you. you could bring it up with him saying how you feel so insecure but if he reassures you that everythings going to be okay, beleive it. don't keep nagging him about it. most girls do have those feelings though, it is common. we just love something and we are paranoid it's going to be taken away from us by something better that comes along. but he's with you right NOW right :) guess you must be doing something right sweetheart! good luck, don't make the same mistake i did. ♥ LU
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I have a problem where I get attached to boys very easily, if I am talking to them a lot or hook up with them and then it randomly stops I get extremely upset. It's to the point where I'm scared to even start anything with a boy because I know I'll end up getting hurt from it eventually. So there is this boy who just graduated and is now in college who I met and he was trying to hook up with me, but his ex-girlfriend is extremely jealous and said she wanted to beat me up so I told him I couldn't do anything. He told someone he was really into me and they gave him my number, and he kept acting like he liked me this whole night. Then he texted me and we've been talking through texting, on the phone or on facebook atleast twice a day for like 2ish weeks. We both really like taking to each other and I'm worried because I think I"m gunna start liking him, If I already don't. The reason I know that I've become attached is because the other night he was home for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out, we were both at the same place and he was texting me telling me to come hang out with him. We said hi to eachother once but I'm all paranoid about people knowing we're talking because I don't want to get beat up, so I told him I couldn't hang out with him in front of everyone. So then he didnb't know I was watching him, but i saw him leave with his ex-girlfriend and I saw them holding hands and stuff. I texted him and said something about how he lied and then he told me that she kissed him..I wasl ike um wtf? I thought you were just holding hands. Then my friend told me she heard someone say they were going out again. So i flipped shit because the whole time that we had been talking he always said he didn't like her at ALL and that she was obsessed with him and follows him around and stuff, which I know can be true to a point but that night I felt like he was giving some back. So I was being so mean and saying I can't beleive how many times he lied to me and stuff like that. I drank soooo much that night (until I passed out )because I felt completely used and screwed over and i was drunk texting him that night and he was claiming they were nothing, but he was being an ass which he usaully isn't. So the next day I was still upset and tried to admit to myself that we were done and he sent me a really long message on facebook saying sorry and how they aren't together at all she still really likes hiim though. I was really mean in my message back and was explaining how I'm not just someone to hook up with, I'm not a booty call, I'm not thek ind of girl you can have on the side while you have a girlfriend and he was like omg i know i never ever thought that i really like takling to you and then we had like a normal conversation, so i guess we're giong to keep talking. But i KNOW this is bad idea. but the thing about me is i like having a boy to talk too, and i have no one right now except him. How can i continue this and prevent before-hand me getting hurt in the end? cause i know i'm going too, I just want to prevent my sadness now instead of when it happens.
i know exactly how you feel girl! i had the same problem. i liked my best friend and he made me feel like i was the only girl he had feelings for, turns out he was hanging out with 2 other girls too, saying he likes them. BULLSHIT. i had a big talk with him, and we decided that it would be best if we just stayed best friends. it's bad enough feeling jealous and down all the time about guys. of course we still flirt all the time, but thats the furthest it goes. i'd suggest you do the same. back off from him for a little bit, and i'm sure he'll come running back to you:)! like my friend said .. "he knows he's hot, so he's going to go running around trying to hook up with all these girls because he knows he can" and i realized she was right. i wasn't going to be another girl that he KNEW he could have. not that easy! don't give it up to him, tease him a little bit but not too much where he may get annoyed and just move on. you have to stay strong! if you need any other help, i'm always here! i've been through these situations too many times. good luck hun ♥ LU
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name:shelly
age:16
gender:female
my boyfriend && i have been together since 8th grade. but kinda off && on ish situations. 8th grade we were fine. we were together the summer,then high school started. freshman year we were good. wherent together that summer. sophmore year we were off && on the whole year. wherent together that summer. now june 28th @ my birthday party (not my actual birthday) he asked me out again. its summer now but were going into school together as a couple again. we do not go to the same schools anymore. he goes to a tech school && i go to a public school. he is my everything && we have been threw so much together. on our anniversary we got together @ my house i spent all day cooking his favorite foods (spaghetti && meatballs && also taco flavored stuffed shells) i set up outside on a small swing that i have on my porch i put a blanket there so that after we were done eating we could cuddle up together, i had a candle && drink cupz it looked wicked cute all set up! when he came to the swing he saw everything && looked @ me && said everything was amazing && he gave me flowers! he looked @ me && said i appriciate everything you have done for me but im not really that hungry im sorry babe. it was okay that he wasnt hungry but i still felt like shit cuz i was cooking all day, i ended up crying infront of him cuz i didnt know what to do, it hurt me i guess. but it was okay i stopped crying && we just cuddled && talked. it ended up turning out good. now im thinking ahead for next month on what i should do ? anything you can think of?
- thankyou for everything!
awh your such a good girlfriend! that idea was really good (:
anyways i'm guessing you don't want to do the whole food thing again. you could buy him something that will be meaningful to him. i'm not sure what he's into but if he likes sports you could buy him tickets to his favorite team! you could buy him a hat, you could get him a necklace.
one of my good friends did a scavenger hunt for her boyfriend, making him go to different places and then at the end she was standing there with tickets to a concert. it was really cute! you could also have a jar and then put a bunch of notes into there saying things you love about him, quotes that remind you of him, memories you two have together and have him take one out each day and read it.
this involves food, but i think it would be really cute! you could go to a beach or lake or something of that sort, depends on where you live! but bring a blanket and go when the suns about to set and have a little picnic and you can bring candles too!
you two could go somewhere during the day, maybe the zoo or something like that and then at night go somewhere romantic where you can watch the sunset together!
it all depends on what you and your boyfriend like to do. if you don't like any of these ideas leave another question in the inbox saying what you two like to do and maybe i can get a better understand and come up with a better idea!(:
♥ LU
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I'm having a difficult time letting go of my ex. Its been a year since we broke up, but I still love him even though we were mostly just a summer fling and weren't a serious relationship. Now he likes one of my best friends and they're trying to have a relationship. I'm trying to be supportive but it's really taking a toll on me. Its one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
Well...I've pretty much given up on him coming around and liking me again. I just don't see it happening. But I still love him and can't get over him and I don't know why.
Surprisingly, my question isn't about how to get him back or how to get over him. I mean if you have some advice for that, then I'm definitley open minded to it. But what I'm really looking for is some quotes I might be able to relate to. I love reading quotes that make me feel like I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thanks for your help!
i'm done with blaming myself for something that wasn't even my fault. i'm done with thinking i'm not good enough for you, because the truth is:
you're not good enough for me
you let go, so now its my turn. i can accept that, but when i find happiness, don't decide you love me
i look into his eyes, and i see that same boy i fell in love with, and even though things have changed, i still love you
i'll wait for the day when i forget who you are,
when the sound of your name is old & worn. the days when i forget why i needed you so bad.
don't feel stupid for missing him; even if he treated you like shit. you still had happy memories, & you're always going to miss them...don't try to replace him- because you won't. just get through each day, & eventually it'll get better. i promise. eventually someone will come into your life, & whether or not you realize it, they're going to be something special to you. so don't throw yourself at every guy you see, trying to replace him, or at least the dull memories because you're only going to make yourself see how hard he is to replace. someone better will eventually come along.
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so, im 17/m, my girlfriend (17 too) and I have been going out for almost a year and 3 months now. She's my first girlfriend, but really love her.
A few weeks ago we were on our way back from some back-to-school shopping in the city and she asked me how I felt about having a girlfriend when i was in college, (we're planning on going to different colleges next year and she wasn't sure how to feel either). I freaked out, had a meltdown and told her all kinds of things i had thought about, but never acted on. Like how she's my first girlfriend and how I wasnt 100% sure of how strongly I loved her, since I havent been with anyone else. After getting back to her house, we talked some more and cried alot and decided to just be friends for a while.
I got home, felt terrible and didnt sleep at all that night. I still loved her, she never did anything that annoyed me or made me love her any less. I texted her how horrible I felt that morning and we decided to meet and talk that night.
We were back together again within 24 hours. I had never felt better. Instead of leaving her house crying, i practicaly skipped to my car and happily waved goodbye to her as i drove away. I thought we were all better.
That was a few weeks ago, and now she's telling me that she's afraid to love me because i hurt her feelings when we broke up. She did the same thing when we started going out because her last boyfriend broke up with her and made her feel terrible. Ive been working as hard as i can, spending as much time as i can with her. I guess i cant really blame her because i freaked out so badly, but i want to make us work again!
I'm running out of energy trying to love her and getting no love back. Last night she gave me a handjob and wouldnt even look me in the eyes. i felt so detached...
Is there any way to fix what we have? or was our relationship doomed all along since she's my first? What can i say or do so that she knows i love her even though ive never had anything else?
i know exactly what you're going through. because i put my boyfriend through the same thing.
we all get scared off at times, i think you just freaked out on her because you LOVE her so much, and are scared of the possibility of losing her.
don't break up just because you think that nobody stays with their first love. it does happen. love her unconditionally, treat her like a princess. she does have her guard up though. i'm sure she had it up when she first started dating you, and then slowly let it down but after you broke up with her, it wen't back up again and showed her how vulnerable she really is and how quickly something can be taken away from you that you really love.
give her all the attention like you're doing. she's a girl, we all take time to heal. you hurt her, she is going to be a little sour towards you. talk to her, ask her what you can do to be close again. tell her how you're feeling, let it alllll out on the table boy.
i wouldn't ask her to be doing anything sexual right now. i would work on other things. you can buy her flowers (: we all love those. take her out to dinner. just sit there and cuddle with her and tell her you won't let anything happen to her because she means so much to you.
look her in the eyes and tell her you love her. just be there for her. i know it might get old, but like i said it will take time for her to let her guard down. but it will happen.
good luck! if you need anything else, don't be afraid to come back! ♥ LU
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So me and my really close guy friend used to have a thing and he kinda told me he just wanted to be friends.
Now ,we are extremely close. we hangout everyday,we talk all the time and he kinda makes sexual gestures toward me,and talks about us hooking up...we haven't though since we stopped "talking".
But I still really like him,and we are like best friends but it feels like more to me.
what should i do?
I'm scared to talk to him about it because i don't want him to stop being my friend...
I was considering maybe actually taking his "hookup talk" more seriously and see how that goes.
help!
i'm in a similar situation.
i like my best friend. now he hasn't told me he just wants to be friends but i think he wants to be more of.. friends with benefits.
i kept going back and forth thinking about everything. if i did something with him, that's all we'll ever be. i'll want to be more and he will just want sex.
if i didn't we can still be best friends. and we are. we're closer than ever and we haven't done anything.
i wouldn't do anything sexually with him, if thats what you were thinking. but i would still continue being friends. you don't want to lose him :) i always say, "if he can't be my boyfriend, i still need him as my best friend!"
i hope this helped, if you need anything else, ask away! ♥ LU
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so friday i'm moving and monday is first day of college! i'm excited but soo nervous. i'm completely lost as to what it'll be like, i'm hearing all the horror stories of how hard it is and i'm freaking out. i graduated high school with honors, but i'm a big time slacker & procrastinator, so i know i have to stop that. can anyone give me some advice about college? i'm getting my laptop hopefully in the next few days... do i need to take it to my classes with me for use in there, or is that mostly gonna be used for homework & papers & such? will i need it every day? they said at orientation that for every hour of class we have per week, we'll need 1-2 hours of OUTSIDE study time. is that really true? i have 17 hours of classes... so i'll be studying 34 hours a week!? also are we supposed to have books our first day? i havent heard ANYTHING about the books we need, so do we have to actually go to class to find out first or are we supposed to know ahead of time? and the campus is huge, how am i supposed to find my way around to the different rooms? it's not like highschool where they give you a map and point you in the right direction, i'm gonna be totally on my own!
ahh im just so lost. i dont want be behind right off the bat. any tips for my first year?
im majoring in biology if it helps.
i know exactly how you felt! but luckily for me, my brother went to the same school and could help me out and show me what building the classes were in.
anywayssss! you are incredibly OVER estimating everything, i understand college is very scary because it's so different than what you're use to. i remember i couldn't sleep the night before classes started because i was so worried i wouldn't know where i was going, or that i wouldn't know anyone in the class which would make it even more awkward but it was so different.
most people don't use their laptops during class, i think i only had one kid in ONE of my classes who had his laptop to take notes on, but other than that its all pen and paper (: and i think it would be best to use pen rather than pencil because you do take ALOT of notes, and by using pencil your hand will start to hurt sooner than when using a pen.
studying; ohhhhh studying! it's what college is all about. for me, i didn't have much homework which was nice BUT we would take notes for like three weeks and then have a test on all the stuff we took notes on so you have to remember everything. and most of your classes i'm guessing will be based on your quizzes and tests, and well some papers you write. so don't put studying off until the last second, because you will get even more stressed. i understand where you're coming from though, because i was a straight A student in high school so there was pressure for me to do good in college, and i did, well my first year! it's going to be my second yr this year, but it's all about the studying. make sure you're paying attention and asking questions is you don't understand something.
and don't worry, you'll make friends! everyone in you're class will feel the same as you. they want to meet new people too and make friends. in every one of my classes people started just talking to me, or i would talk to them and then we became close. it's not like high school, people are different. they're so open and NICE.
as for finding your way around, maybe when you move in and get everything settled you should just look around campus, and try to find out where your classes are. on the first day of classes, go early so you aren't stressed about whether or not you're going to make it in time and don't be afriad to ask someone where anything is!
if i missed anything, make sure you come back and ask :) don't be nervous, it's so different than what you're expecting.
good luck! ♥ LU
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I am 15 years old, and I have known my boyfriend for 4 years, he also happens to be my best friend's 13 year old brother. Just recently he and I became eachother's first boyfriend and girlfriend after we told eachother that we've always liked one another. It's been a few months now, we see eachother alot and just act silly and play like we always have....but it doesn't feel any different to me. I really wish to hold his hand or at least have him show the ways that he cares for me in person, instead of only showing them on-line :P. Then a few days ago he emailed me and told me that he cares for me so much but he doesn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship. He has also heard (from my best friend) that lately there have been some guys my age making moves on me...which of course i have no interest in tham at all! I was very understanding of his feelings, though it does make me sad. But he says that it makes him feel like a wimp that he hasn't made a move yet..He just feels nervous that he's going to mess up being romantic and he says that i deserve more than that. I really need some advice! I really truly like him, but should I just let this go and try dating someone my own age in the future?( which i can't imagine right now) What could I possibly do to help him with being more brave to show how he feels about me? Should I just be patient and let him start being romantic when it feels right for him?
cuuuuute(:
i absoultely know how your boyfriend is feeling. i had the same problem. i'm 19 and me and this guy who is 17 had a "thing" where we weren't official but we weren't just friends.
he NEVER made a move, and i think i know why. it was because he was intimidated. he even told me that he was, because he told me that i'm older, i'm so pretty that he would never think that i would ever like him like that, let alone want to kiss him or anything like that.
i was blown away by this. i never thought he would feel like that. i bet this is how your boyfriend is feeling PLUS your his first girlfriend, he doesn't know how to act, or what to do.
if you have enough courage, i say you make the first move. after you do that he will most likely feel comfortable making the move after that. he just needs to get use to the idea of having a girlfriend whose older than him. reassure him that he's your first boyfriend and that your just as experienced as he is.
tell him that you can't see yourself dating any other guy that him right now. tell him that he's all you want. you have to make him feel comfortable! after he feels comfortable, things will be smooth after that.
best of luck to the both of you! and if you ever need anything else, don't be shy to ask! ♥ LU
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We are expecting our first child and need baby name help. My husband and I have chosen not to find out the sex of our baby until he/she has been born. We have some names we like, but we aren't 100% sure on any of them. We thought maybe someone could suggest some that they really enjoy and let us know what they thought about some of ours.
Baby names we like so far...
Baby boy names:
Michael David
John Patrick
James Paul
David Austin
Baby girl names:
Grace Anne
Madison Faith
Anna-Claire
Elisa Grace
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
We like sweet, old-fashioned names, and traditional names mainly.
Thank you.
ever since i was little i've ALWAYS loved the name isabella rose :) because you could call her bella, i think its adorable! and i also like the name malorie.
for boys i like the name landon, braden and carter.
out of yours for a boy i like david austin and for a girl i like madison faith!
good luck! ♥ LU
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My name is Natalie, I am 17 years old and in the beginning to myn9th grade year I dated this guy named James. We were on and off and I listened to other people and it just messed up things for me and him. Over the time I started to fall in love with him. We decided to go back out his first year of college and I was a high school junior, of course it didn't work out because Of our schedules and then months later we had this big fall out and he blocked me from facebook and I deleted his number. In April I think I started feeling guilty because I did treat him like he was nothing and I do love him so I apolgized and he told me that his mother died and he was sorry too be aide life was too short to hold grudges. So we went back to being friends but I still loved him and wanted more but I realized he was dating someone else. I told him anyway and he told me true love never dies and he still loves me. It's like I want him to be happy but I want him to be happy with me. Am I being selfish?? Should I leave him alone?? What should I do??
-Natalie
oh my god! this happened to me!
my best friend, i loved him. but he was dating his girlfriend for three years. just like you said, i wanted him to be happy, but i wanted him to be happy with me!
everyone told me, don't get with him and make him cheat on his girlfriend with you because you don't want to be the reason they break up. you want him to break up with her because he wants to.
we remained best friends, still are. but just last night i found out that he was no longer dating his girlfriend anymore. it was so much of a relief knowing that i had nothing to do with the break up, and now that he's a single man i can do what i want (:
it's not selfish at all. i use to think the same way, but everyone wants to be happy! its normal to be jealous of his girlfriend, its normal for you to want him to be with you and not her.
if you continue to stay friends and hang out with him, i am almost positive all those feelings are going to come rushing back to him and he's going to realize what a good thing he had with you, and re-think things with his current girlfriend.
keep your head up! things will work out.
if you need to talk, or have any other question, don't be shy! ♥ LU
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i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i hate the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me?
my boyfriend ended up cheating on me, ohhhh i was furious!
but guess what? i'm back with him and things couldnt be better (:
i understand where your boyfriend is coming from because i couldn't trust my boyfriend after he did that to me.
but i realized that no one else could make me happier then he did. he was my best friend. he changed my life.
yeah i told him that it will take time to heal, and that i will have my doubts but i'm not going to be that jealous girlfriend, because what good is that going to do? it's just going to cause a fight.
reassure your boyfriend that you love him, and that it was a huge mistake. tell him that you can't see yourself with any other guy and that you're so happy he took you back.
you have to expect him to be down about it though, expect him to be cautious, expect him to not fully trust you right away. he does have a right to feel like that.
tell him that you will have no contact with your ex anymore, delete his number from your phone if you have it. tell him that he's the only boy you have eyes for.
show him that he can gain your trust back. like the person below me said, it will take time for him to heal and fully trust you but if he loves you, and cares about you, thinks will work out.
good luck! if you need anything else, don't be shy! ♥ LU
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ok. well i have this bf and he is like the type who will keep asking for sex but he seems pleased if i don't talk about it that much. So I am wondering is he having sex with other woman or does he respect my desicion and doesn't do anything with other girls???
P.S. Every night we hang up the phone, when we don't get into a fight which we barely do, he tells me he loves me...
i've got to agree with the person below me.
there are some guys who will go out and cheat on their girlfriends because their not giving them sex, and then there are the guys that are genuinely nice and are willing to wait until you're ready, because they love you.
the sad thing i will tell you. my good friend, hes a guy. he's been dating his girlfriend for three years. yes, they have sex but he still wants to have sex with me. obviously, thats not happening but he tells his girlfriend he loves her, which he does but he must not be pleasured enough, sadly.
it is hard to tell with your boyfriend, since i don't know him and have never met him but next time he asks you to have sex, just say sorry babe i'm just not ready. and just see what his reaction is. if he looks totally fine with it and doesn't try getting with you right after, i'm pretty sure he's not cheating.
if he keeps bugging you about sex, and after you tell him you don't want to he seems upset or really annoyed, you will be able to tell.
afterall, if you ask i'm almost 98% positive he won't tell you the truth. what guy is going to come out and say their cheating on you with another girl whose giving it up?
tough situation. but from my conclusions i have a feeling he's a good guy and he does respect your decision, not all guys are bad (:
good luck hun! need anything else, come back! ♥ LU
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Do you usually use Maxi Pads or Tampons? And do you know any kinds that work good?
hey! i use tampons, they are most deff. the best thing ever invented. and i use tampax pearl, which is amazing!
yes, it's scary for the first time putting it in but do NOT use the cardboard ones, use the plastic ones (:
once you get the hang of putting them in, feels like theres nothing even there!
have any questions, feel free to ask!
♥ LU
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Okay so I had a problem with two boys earlier that alot of people gave me advice on. I took a short break from talking to two boys that I cared so much about so that I could decide which one I wanted to be with. When I decided I needed only Jason in my life I waited a couple days then I was going to go hang out with himat his house. (turns out I shoulda called first) Well when I got there his mom told me he was in his room and I could just go in. when I came in the guy I had cared so much for and spent the last six months with was kissing his new "girlfreind" how suprising this all was concidering just 8 days ago he was with me. Anyways I pretty much acted like i could care less and everything was all fine. So when I left his house I guess I was very on the reboundish, when I ran into matt. This is jasons best freind, a guys that hits on me everytime I see him but also talks down on me at times > he's the total player type. So anyways we were talking and when he put his arms around my waist it just felt so great to be touched that I couldnt stop him, same when he kissed me I wanted to kiss him back and I did many times. The thing is I knew when I didnt have sex with him immediately he was going to tell me to leave. I expected it because I know him and how he treats girls, but if I expected it why did it hurt so much? Why did I care? And when he told me he wanted me to leave he said it in this sweet little way and then said but will I see you later? outloud I said no but in my heart I yelled yes. I dont like him never have but why do I want to see him so badly again, and why is all this crap happening to me? please help me
oh hun, i know what you're going through.
like you said, your feeling like this because you're on the rebound. matt is like a comfort to you, even though he only wants sex it doesn't matter because right now, you just want to be held and feel special after what happened with jason.
sometimes in your life, you need lust. you need the adrenaline rush of knowing that this is not forever and that you're not committed to anything. this is how you're feeling with matt.
i know that feeling when you see someone you love so much, be with someone whose not you. i'm going through the same thing. and sometimes i just get so upset that i just want to go and hook up with a guy, wishing that he would know. it's just an initial reaction.
i'm SO proud of you though that you said no to him, obviously this is not someone you want to get involved with if he asks you to leave because you won't give him sex.
another reason you may want to see him again is because you know it's not right. it's that feeling like you know you shouldn't do it, but it makes you want to even more. like you know what the outcome is going to be, but you don't care because it's what you wanted at that moment.
you may also want him because it's jason's best friend. since you're so upset with jason, you want to get back at him for doing this to you by getting with his best friend.
i know how you're feeling. all these things run through my mind too girly. you have to stay strong (: please! i know you're a strong girl, i know you'll make good decisions.
if you need ANYTHING else, i'm always here for ya!
♥ LU
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13/m
hey jsut wondering what are some cute things to say to my girlfriend while we are walking with each other or watching a movie at her or my house just some like good compliments other than just your beautiful and things like that
i thought of one before: i ask her if she believes in angels and she says yes, no maybe something like that then if she says do you i say of course! im looking at one right now. im not sure if its too corny or something but yea just nice things to say to her to make her feel special
thanks.
awh, cute boy!
i like the beautiful thing, but you have to do it random. just hold her hand and look at her & say, baby you're so beautiful. if a guy said that to me i would LOVE it.
you could also say something like baby you look gorgeous as always.
or if you're watching a movie you could just look at her and smile & she will probably say something like "why are you smiling" and you could say, because looking at you makes me happy (:
or something simple when you're watching a movie like; i could hold you forever.
when she smiles when she's with you just say; i love it when you smile.
you wouldnt think, but simple things like that girls love!
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Ok, so I'm 19/f and about to enter my sophmore year in college. For the past two years, I've had this thing for my best friends little brother, who just turned 17 and about to be a senior in high school. We have never hooked up, with the only thing being done is me kissing him while I was hammered and he was completely sober. I'm about to go back to school in about a month, and I don't know if I should pursue something or not. Last summer I left without doing anything because I was going to go to college, and didn't want to be tied down for my freshman year, but this year, I think I may be ready to try something
But for one, theres the age difference. I know its only two years, but hes in high school and I'm in college. While he is mature for his age, he still lacks any experience in the girl department. Second, I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty crazy in college, and I'm afraid I would do something to mess it up, and the last thing I want to do is hurt him. He's on the right track, a pretty straight edge kid, and I'm, to say the least, the complete opposite. Third, he is my best friends little brother, and although she fully supports us, if something bad was to happen, I wouldn't want that to come in between me and my best friend.
But in the end, I really really really like him, and for the first time since I can remember, I might be willing to try somethinh. But there's only a month left in summer, and were not really at the point where we could start a relationship, and I don't know if we can get to that point in just a month. Especially since he's really shy, and I pretty much make the first move on everything. Basically, everythings just really confusing, and not a day goes by where I don't debate what to do. Sorry this is so long, but any help would be appreciated :-/
i've got to disagree with everyone below me BECAUSE..
i'm 19 and i'm dating a 17 year old (: and he's one of the best things that's ever happened to me!
i know what you're talking about, the age thing. at first it seems really strange that you would be going out with a senior in HIGH SCHOOL, and you may care what others think, right? i felt the same way. but you cant help what you feel in your heart.
yeah college gets crazy with all the studying, all the work, all different kinds of people you see BUT my boyfriend has actually helped me straighten things out and calm me down with all the craziness going on in my life.
it's nice to have someone whose one of your best friends, but also a boyfriend. if you really like this guy, no other guy you see in college will compare to him and i've really figured that out.
go for it! it sounds like he's not the player type if he's really shy and you have to make the first move so i don't think you would have a problem trusting him either. i love to party in college, don't get me wrong who wouldnt! but you can go out and still have fun without having to cheat on this guy. he could even come visit you on the weekends.
i really think things could work out for you two, if you don't give it a try you'll never know what could have been and do you really want to regret it?
think about it(: ♥ LU
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me: 14/F
him: 15/M
Okay. So I'm like super nervous to hang out with this boy. Here's what happened. I met him a few months ago and we swapped numbers, yadayadayada. Anyway, for like a month we just didn't text, and then a few weeks ago we started again, I don't know, we just did. Well, we really got to know eachother for the first time because I never see him (he is a year older and goes to a diferent school) and well, I think I really like him. He started to call me and we would talk on the phone at night, and then he asked me on a date... And I said yes.
Well now here's the tricky part. See, first off, he IS a year older, and quite a bit more experienced than me. He has made out, and I've never even been kissed. He wants to kiss on our date, but, well I just don't know... Also, I am totally scared that it is going to be so awkward. Because, I can't really remember very wonderfully what he looks like. I could recognize him if I saw him (I think!?), but I don't know if he remembers me that well. He says he does, but what if he doesn't? What if he thinks I'm like super ugly and stuff? Plus, since this is pretty much our first time meeting in person, I just think it is going to be so awkward...
Any advice? Tips? Something to calm me down? Kissing tips would be great, advice on how to make the date less awkward or what to do on a first date because I am SOOO new at this... Plus, what do I do if I he starts moving too fast? Help!?
PS: We are going to see a movie if that helps
i hope i'm not too late in answering this question!
this has happened to my friends alot. i always tell them that if you think it's going to be awkward, you're going to make it awkward.
if he's not talking, you must talk! don't be super random but just start talking and asking him things about himself that you don't know yet.
i'm a wild girl, and i've been told that there's never a dull moment when i'm around because i just dont care what people think! you must do the same. just be yourself, if he doesn't like how you look then it wasn't meant to be and it shows that he was just a shallow asshole anyways (:
i will admit, sometimes a first date can be intimidating but look at the good side, at least you don't have to talk that much since you are going to be watching a movie!
if he tries to move too fast, and tries to do something your not comfortable doing just say "please dont, i'm trying to watch the movie" or if you want to be more blunt about it just say something like "sorry but i just want to move slower" and if he keeps trying to get with you, then again he's not for you.
OR you could always bring a friend and he could bring a friend which would make is alot less intimidating.
hope all goes well! ♥ LU
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