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It's going to be so awkward!
me: 14/F
him: 15/M
Okay. So I'm like super nervous to hang out with this boy. Here's what happened. I met him a few months ago and we swapped numbers, yadayadayada. Anyway, for like a month we just didn't text, and then a few weeks ago we started again, I don't know, we just did. Well, we really got to know eachother for the first time because I never see him (he is a year older and goes to a diferent school) and well, I think I really like him. He started to call me and we would talk on the phone at night, and then he asked me on a date... And I said yes.
Well now here's the tricky part. See, first off, he IS a year older, and quite a bit more experienced than me. He has made out, and I've never even been kissed. He wants to kiss on our date, but, well I just don't know... Also, I am totally scared that it is going to be so awkward. Because, I can't really remember very wonderfully what he looks like. I could recognize him if I saw him (I think!?), but I don't know if he remembers me that well. He says he does, but what if he doesn't? What if he thinks I'm like super ugly and stuff? Plus, since this is pretty much our first time meeting in person, I just think it is going to be so awkward...
Any advice? Tips? Something to calm me down? Kissing tips would be great, advice on how to make the date less awkward or what to do on a first date because I am SOOO new at this... Plus, what do I do if I he starts moving too fast? Help!?
PS: We are going to see a movie if that helps
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this has happened to my friends alot. i always tell them that if you think it's going to be awkward, you're going to make it awkward.
if he's not talking, you must talk! don't be super random but just start talking and asking him things about himself that you don't know yet.
i'm a wild girl, and i've been told that there's never a dull moment when i'm around because i just dont care what people think! you must do the same. just be yourself, if he doesn't like how you look then it wasn't meant to be and it shows that he was just a shallow asshole anyways (:
i will admit, sometimes a first date can be intimidating but look at the good side, at least you don't have to talk that much since you are going to be watching a movie!
if he tries to move too fast, and tries to do something your not comfortable doing just say "please dont, i'm trying to watch the movie" or if you want to be more blunt about it just say something like "sorry but i just want to move slower" and if he keeps trying to get with you, then again he's not for you.
OR you could always bring a friend and he could bring a friend which would make is alot less intimidating.
hope all goes well! ♥ LU
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I'm going to have to disagree with the whole movie thing that Jack suggested below only because if it is your first time meeting in person you two might want to talk and get to know each other. If you go to a movie that will get in the way of communication! As far as the awkwardness just relax! I'm sure you are not the only one who is going to be nervous. Just be yourself as far as kissing goes just let the moment come to you. You will know what too do when it happens it is sort of one of those natrual things it just happens. If you two want to have fun then why not go for a walk on the beach? afterall it is romantic and it is summer! :) Relax girly, You'll be just fine.
-Bahaima22
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Seeing a movie will take a lot of the pressure off of you to kiss and whatnot, even though people like to make out at the movies or whatever.
Anyway. So what if he thinks you're ugly. He likes your personality enough to go on a date with you, so I think that should matter for something.
Your first time meeting in person will only be awkward if you make it awkward. So don't. It's as simple as that.
Something to calm you down? Just go with the flow. Be yourself, and don't change yourself to impress him. He already likes you, at least it seems that way, so just act like you normally do.
Kissing tips? I have a lot from a previous question found here: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). But, my main advice is to go with the flow and don't shove your tongue down their throat because it's uncomfortable for the other person.
If he starts "moving too fast?" Well, talk to him and tell him what you're comfortable with, and let him know you'll tell him if things are too fast for you. He should be understanding since you're not experienced with kissing or anything. But definitely don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
Best of luck!
--Jack
(17/m)
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