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what should i do?i cheated
i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i hate the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me?
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Your boyfriend shouldn't have to deal with your shit. He shouldn't have taken you back after you told him you cheated. I can guarantee if my boyfriend cheated on me, the relationship would be done and there would be no attempts to fix it.
He can't trust you, and that's a problem. No trust = no relationship. You guys should just stay friends. He deserves better.
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Well,
If your ex cheated on you how would you feel? Would you ever trust him again? Sounds like he deserves better.
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Well not to sound mean or anything but you did cheat on him. He will eventually get to the point where he can trust you again, but right now he is still seriously hurt. When someone gets cheated on they don't just feel bad that the person cheated. They begin to think what did I do wrong? What did I do? What did I not do? Why were they tempted to cheat? Am I worth anything?
They start to believe the thoughts about them being well worthless once someone cheats on them. He took you back; which means he does like you a lot and does not want things to end between you, but that does not change the fact that you did what you did to him and he still feels like crap. The reason he gets all sad is because he still thinks about those things I mentioned above. He is also living in fear. Fear that you will do it again. Which this fear leads him back to thinking even more about where and what and how he went wrong to make you want to cheat. Granted you didn't want to do it. And sometimes things happen. But this is what goes through peoples minds once they have been cheated on.
Now what you have to do to earn the trust back is well be urself for one. Be the girl u were before things got rough. Show him that he is the only one you ever think about by giving him attention. Spend time with him. Instead of going out with friends, go with him. You don't have to go places where money is required. Go to the park, sit outside, go for walks, swim, etc. Just go the extra mile to show him you really want him and no one else. Also tell him how you feel. But always keep in mind words mean nothing if the body language isn't there. You can tell him you love him and he is the only one, but if you spend more time with your friends then him, even for a day he is most likely going to think bad things and start thinking that you don't care. The main thing is to show him that you really do care for him and that you will never do anything like that again or anything to hurt him. You need to tell him, but showing him will truly get him to see that you do care about him a lot. And I wish I could tell you exactly how to show him, but that has to be on you what ever you feel will show him how you feel about him you do it. And don't ever give up he will eventually come around. Good luck.
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my boyfriend ended up cheating on me, ohhhh i was furious!
but guess what? i'm back with him and things couldnt be better (:
i understand where your boyfriend is coming from because i couldn't trust my boyfriend after he did that to me.
but i realized that no one else could make me happier then he did. he was my best friend. he changed my life.
yeah i told him that it will take time to heal, and that i will have my doubts but i'm not going to be that jealous girlfriend, because what good is that going to do? it's just going to cause a fight.
reassure your boyfriend that you love him, and that it was a huge mistake. tell him that you can't see yourself with any other guy and that you're so happy he took you back.
you have to expect him to be down about it though, expect him to be cautious, expect him to not fully trust you right away. he does have a right to feel like that.
tell him that you will have no contact with your ex anymore, delete his number from your phone if you have it. tell him that he's the only boy you have eyes for.
show him that he can gain your trust back. like the person below me said, it will take time for him to heal and fully trust you but if he loves you, and cares about you, thinks will work out.
good luck! if you need anything else, don't be shy! ♥ LU
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im going through this two, with my boyfriend so i know were your boyfriend is coming from on this hes hurt, and crushed that your trust barrier was broken, all he needs is time, reasure him that it will never happen again any time he feels down. and in time he will come around
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