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how can i not get attached to this boy?
I have a problem where I get attached to boys very easily, if I am talking to them a lot or hook up with them and then it randomly stops I get extremely upset. It's to the point where I'm scared to even start anything with a boy because I know I'll end up getting hurt from it eventually. So there is this boy who just graduated and is now in college who I met and he was trying to hook up with me, but his ex-girlfriend is extremely jealous and said she wanted to beat me up so I told him I couldn't do anything. He told someone he was really into me and they gave him my number, and he kept acting like he liked me this whole night. Then he texted me and we've been talking through texting, on the phone or on facebook atleast twice a day for like 2ish weeks. We both really like taking to each other and I'm worried because I think I"m gunna start liking him, If I already don't. The reason I know that I've become attached is because the other night he was home for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out, we were both at the same place and he was texting me telling me to come hang out with him. We said hi to eachother once but I'm all paranoid about people knowing we're talking because I don't want to get beat up, so I told him I couldn't hang out with him in front of everyone. So then he didnb't know I was watching him, but i saw him leave with his ex-girlfriend and I saw them holding hands and stuff. I texted him and said something about how he lied and then he told me that she kissed him..I wasl ike um wtf? I thought you were just holding hands. Then my friend told me she heard someone say they were going out again. So i flipped shit because the whole time that we had been talking he always said he didn't like her at ALL and that she was obsessed with him and follows him around and stuff, which I know can be true to a point but that night I felt like he was giving some back. So I was being so mean and saying I can't beleive how many times he lied to me and stuff like that. I drank soooo much that night (until I passed out )because I felt completely used and screwed over and i was drunk texting him that night and he was claiming they were nothing, but he was being an ass which he usaully isn't. So the next day I was still upset and tried to admit to myself that we were done and he sent me a really long message on facebook saying sorry and how they aren't together at all she still really likes hiim though. I was really mean in my message back and was explaining how I'm not just someone to hook up with, I'm not a booty call, I'm not thek ind of girl you can have on the side while you have a girlfriend and he was like omg i know i never ever thought that i really like takling to you and then we had like a normal conversation, so i guess we're giong to keep talking. But i KNOW this is bad idea. but the thing about me is i like having a boy to talk too, and i have no one right now except him. How can i continue this and prevent before-hand me getting hurt in the end? cause i know i'm going too, I just want to prevent my sadness now instead of when it happens.
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i know exactly how you feel girl! i had the same problem. i liked my best friend and he made me feel like i was the only girl he had feelings for, turns out he was hanging out with 2 other girls too, saying he likes them. BULLSHIT. i had a big talk with him, and we decided that it would be best if we just stayed best friends. it's bad enough feeling jealous and down all the time about guys. of course we still flirt all the time, but thats the furthest it goes. i'd suggest you do the same. back off from him for a little bit, and i'm sure he'll come running back to you:)! like my friend said .. "he knows he's hot, so he's going to go running around trying to hook up with all these girls because he knows he can" and i realized she was right. i wasn't going to be another girl that he KNEW he could have. not that easy! don't give it up to him, tease him a little bit but not too much where he may get annoyed and just move on. you have to stay strong! if you need any other help, i'm always here! i've been through these situations too many times. good luck hun ♥ LU
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Maybe part of your promblem is, you are meeting the wrong guys, and even after they betray you, you continue to date them. Is it because, you have certain selfesteem issues, or you just afraid to be alone. And if it's either of those, you really need to work on things concering yourself. Trust me I've been were you are. And it's been alot of things that I have tooken from guys because, I didn't want to be alone. And now that I've been alone for over a year I can honestly say it's not that bad. Because any order for you to attract good guys, you have to make sure that everything in your life is put togeather. And you have to find the strength to leave these loosers where there at... This guy you're talking to is no good and you know it... So I don't know why you even put yourself threw the heartache... Men LIE alot, they tell you all these things about the other women especially to make them look bad so they could look good... And the gulible ladies that we are we believe them... First of all you should go by the saying believe nothing you hear... And half of what you see... And with your own eyes you seem him with this women that he claims he don't want... But he TELLS you theres nothing really going on... REMEMBER believe nothing you see... Go by your instints an focus in what you SEE... The best of luck to you and remember to please use wisdom...
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I am exactly like you... I get attached very easily you are a very dependent girl and just want to feel loved. Thats a problem because it will get your heart broken. As hard as it is you have to move slow to see if he is really true. Screw the ex girlfriend she has the label ex for a reason and she sounds like a big bully who only knows how to talk and not walk the walk to me!! find out more about this guy you can always tell how a guy is. Right now he seems of a bit of a player to me. but his ex could be quite a physcho and just causing shit. you did see them together tho so please take it slow dont sleep with him and dont give him your full trust. Put that wall up but dont act mean and crazy. I know how you feel and how hard it is but just act cool!
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