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True Love Never Dies??
My name is Natalie, I am 17 years old and in the beginning to myn9th grade year I dated this guy named James. We were on and off and I listened to other people and it just messed up things for me and him. Over the time I started to fall in love with him. We decided to go back out his first year of college and I was a high school junior, of course it didn't work out because Of our schedules and then months later we had this big fall out and he blocked me from facebook and I deleted his number. In April I think I started feeling guilty because I did treat him like he was nothing and I do love him so I apolgized and he told me that his mother died and he was sorry too be aide life was too short to hold grudges. So we went back to being friends but I still loved him and wanted more but I realized he was dating someone else. I told him anyway and he told me true love never dies and he still loves me. It's like I want him to be happy but I want him to be happy with me. Am I being selfish?? Should I leave him alone?? What should I do??
-Natalie
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oh my god! this happened to me!
my best friend, i loved him. but he was dating his girlfriend for three years. just like you said, i wanted him to be happy, but i wanted him to be happy with me!
everyone told me, don't get with him and make him cheat on his girlfriend with you because you don't want to be the reason they break up. you want him to break up with her because he wants to.
we remained best friends, still are. but just last night i found out that he was no longer dating his girlfriend anymore. it was so much of a relief knowing that i had nothing to do with the break up, and now that he's a single man i can do what i want (:
it's not selfish at all. i use to think the same way, but everyone wants to be happy! its normal to be jealous of his girlfriend, its normal for you to want him to be with you and not her.
if you continue to stay friends and hang out with him, i am almost positive all those feelings are going to come rushing back to him and he's going to realize what a good thing he had with you, and re-think things with his current girlfriend.
keep your head up! things will work out.
if you need to talk, or have any other question, don't be shy! ♥ LU
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Hi Natalie :]
No, you are NOT being selfish by wanting him to be happy with you. It's only human considering he confirmed that the feelings were mutual.
I agree with Trauma: If he really loves you, he will leave the person he's dating to rekindle the flame you two had. A decent man will not lead you on, causing you to grow deeper in love with him to the point where you can't take it, to only have him tell you he can't be with you because of his girlfriend. I know that you must really love him after all this time, but whatever you do, don't mess up his current relationship. Just let it all unfold. Don't make moves on him, don't flirt with him, because it would be unfair to his girlfriend who wouldn't have a clue as to what her bf would be doing.. You guys can be friends but try and keep it at a friendly level only. And the day he tells you he's single, go for it :]
Good luck!
Uniq
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If he wants to be with you, he'll come back to you. Especially now that he knows you still have feelings for him. You really shouldn't try to interfere with their relationship, though. Put yourself in her shoes & think about how you'd feel if you were her.
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