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Shy Boyfriend/younger then me
I am 15 years old, and I have known my boyfriend for 4 years, he also happens to be my best friend's 13 year old brother. Just recently he and I became eachother's first boyfriend and girlfriend after we told eachother that we've always liked one another. It's been a few months now, we see eachother alot and just act silly and play like we always have....but it doesn't feel any different to me. I really wish to hold his hand or at least have him show the ways that he cares for me in person, instead of only showing them on-line :P. Then a few days ago he emailed me and told me that he cares for me so much but he doesn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship. He has also heard (from my best friend) that lately there have been some guys my age making moves on me...which of course i have no interest in tham at all! I was very understanding of his feelings, though it does make me sad. But he says that it makes him feel like a wimp that he hasn't made a move yet..He just feels nervous that he's going to mess up being romantic and he says that i deserve more than that. I really need some advice! I really truly like him, but should I just let this go and try dating someone my own age in the future?( which i can't imagine right now) What could I possibly do to help him with being more brave to show how he feels about me? Should I just be patient and let him start being romantic when it feels right for him?
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Be patient. PLEASE. Let him hold hands, kiss, and whatnot on his own terms.
I can't tell you how many times I've been in a relationship with a girl, and she was ready to do all that stuff, and I wasn't, and I felt REALLY pressured into doing it.
Let him know that you think it's sweet that he's trying to not mess up this relationship, and that you are completely supportive of him taking his time. That is the right thing to do.
--Jack
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cuuuuute(:
i absoultely know how your boyfriend is feeling. i had the same problem. i'm 19 and me and this guy who is 17 had a "thing" where we weren't official but we weren't just friends.
he NEVER made a move, and i think i know why. it was because he was intimidated. he even told me that he was, because he told me that i'm older, i'm so pretty that he would never think that i would ever like him like that, let alone want to kiss him or anything like that.
i was blown away by this. i never thought he would feel like that. i bet this is how your boyfriend is feeling PLUS your his first girlfriend, he doesn't know how to act, or what to do.
if you have enough courage, i say you make the first move. after you do that he will most likely feel comfortable making the move after that. he just needs to get use to the idea of having a girlfriend whose older than him. reassure him that he's your first boyfriend and that your just as experienced as he is.
tell him that you can't see yourself dating any other guy that him right now. tell him that he's all you want. you have to make him feel comfortable! after he feels comfortable, things will be smooth after that.
best of luck to the both of you! and if you ever need anything else, don't be shy to ask! ♥ LU
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this is too cute....I remember back in 2005 i was 15 & i meet this boy from church who happened to be 13...yes i like him alot & he also felt the same about me..he asked me out & i gave him a chance.Of course we were both inexperience & very shy expressing our feeling in person so we would write emails or little love notes to each other saying how much we like each other...the first couple of months we didnt do anything but just kiss & hang out...We were still both shy to hold hands & all that other stuff..Anyways the point is that up 2 this day me n him are still together =)(more than 4yrs now)....Im now 19 & he is 17...& we are deeply in love.. Girl i say dont rush anything in the relationship becoz its better to wait for all the good things ya both can share & do together, its a wonderful feeling being with that guy who you truely love.. my bf thought that since i was older i was going to leave him for someone around my age..but i proved him wrong because he was the one i wanted to be with...You gotta believe in your relationship, make the first move if you have too & live everyday without regrets. Tell him that your not going anywhere & together ya would be..& to not feel as if you going to leave him.....ya are young but it can happen =) Stay with him, ya would mature together.
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Hey.
You sound like a very nice girlfriend. And I'm glad you are, because you should give your boyfriend all the support he needs. First relationships are so nerve racking! But it's okay because you are both new at this and will both learn together :). But maybe if he is too nervous to make a move, you could make the first move!! :D Whenever the two of you are alone together you could try to hold his hand. From there, maybe that would lead to a kiss or something. I'm sure he would appreciate the help because guys usually have all this pressure about making the first move.
Good luck!! Take care <3
Hi again :).
Well if you do make the first move then maybe you should just hold his hand or when you are about to leave you can hug him goodbye and give him a kiss on the cheek.
I hope I helped! Good luck! :)
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