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moving out
so I have been dating my gf for about 2 months. She lives with her friend her 2 kids and my gf has a kid of her own. Well her friend takes all of her money makes her watch the kids, clean, cook, and if she doesnt do something right she gets yelled at. The friend lets her kids tear shit up and do whatever. I am having problems at home and want to move out and want to talk my gf into moving out, but she kinda has no choice until she can get help. but i dont want her to think im being bossy because I wanna get our own place what should I do? her friend and her kids are affecting are relationship
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It sounds like you really care for your girlfriend. However, no matter what the situation is for her with her friend, 2 months is not long enough to know someone well enough to move in with them. Right now your relationship is still new, so you haven't really had the chance to get to know all the sides of your girlfriend. The only way you can know all those things is with time. Moving in together so soon will only bring more problems, not solve them. Especially with a child involved. Its wonderful that you feel so strongly for her and want to help her, but perhaps there is another way. Does she work? Maybe you could help her save her money for her own place. With a child she should really have her own place anyway. Maybe you could help her budget her money so she can save, take her to the bank to open a savings account. Does she work? If not, help her with childcare and finding a job. If her friend is really taking all of her money, you could sit down with her and the friend (calmly, maturly) and explain that your girlfriend is trying to save for her own place so she can get out of her hair and maybe she could help her by not charging her so much, if she agreed to be out in a month or two. There are other ways to help this situation that don't involve moving in together.
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I know EXACTLY what its like to experience this.
What you need to do is, next time you and your gf are alone, be mature and talk to her about what you are watching her go through. Let her know that it hurts and upsets you to see her being treated this way. Then simply ask her what she thinks about the two of you living together. Give her a list of reasons why its the better choice. She should understand and see your reasoning behind it.
Just talk to her and really dig deep to find out how she truly feels about the situation.
Hope this helps! =]
Steph 21
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