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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Umm My 15 year old son asked me if he could give his Virginity to me And I don't know what to say to him ......

You know what the answer it's wrong it's illegal it's incest tell him no.

I am now stuck in a situation that's really hurting me , I have never done this or tought of sharing my problems on such an advise website but I can't hold back . I have recently moved in with my pregnant girlfriends she's now 5 months and a half but recently I've felt like she dosnt like me here are some examples
1. She's always annoyed by the things I do
2. She's always fighting with me basically fighting over everything
3. She was in a relationship before me and we'll she always put up with his shit and he would treat her horrible I treat her like a queen and get treated like trash help?

When a women is pregnant her hormones are all mixed up, especially as she nears the end of the pregnancy. Then add in the fact that the closer to her due date she is the more uncomfortable she is.

Just about every organ in her body is not in its proper place. They have been pushed aside and up to make room for the baby. Any man who has had his wife or girlfriend go through a pregnancy knows how you feel at this time.

All I can tell you is she doesn't mean what she is saying. She is uncomfortable and she is dealing with raging hormones on top of it. The best thing you can do is try to agree with anything she says, do what ever she asks when she asks it of you . Help her with whatever she is doing and see to it that she can stays off her feet whenever a possible for as long as possible.

Most women have terrible back pain when pregnant or in the late term of pregnancy. One thing you can do to help her is to offer to rub her back for her. You don't have to be a massage therapist, just rub her back and she will let you know where and how hard to rub. My wife use to like to have her feet washed and her toe nails polished. Washing her feet was not a problem and I learned how to put polish on her nails. Why she liked this I can't say and after our child was born she could not tell me. It was just something that made her feel good.

So my advice is be Mr. helpful and Mr. agreeable. Don't take anything she say bad or argumentative to heart as she probably doesn't mean it and won't remember any of it after the baby is born.

My baby's momma acts really weird lately she gets annoyed by anything she yells at me fights with me and I love her a lot I'm still trying because she's pregnant I'm really trying for my future family but I wanna kill myself most of the time

When a women is pregnant her hormones are all mixed up, especially as she nears the end of the pregnancy. Then add in the fact that the closer to her due date she is the more uncomfortable she is.

Just about every organ in her body is not in its proper place. They have been pushed aside and up to make room for the baby. Any man who has had his wife or girlfriend go through a pregnancy knows how you feel at this time.

All I can tell you is she doesn't mean what she is saying. She is uncomfortable and she is dealing with raging hormones on top of it. The best thing you can do is try to agree with anything she says, do what ever she asks when she asks it of you . Help her with whatever she is doing and see to it that she can stays off her feet whenever a possible for as long as possible.

Most women have terrible back pain when pregnant or in the late term of pregnancy. One thing you can do to help her is to offer to rub her back for her. You don't have to be a massage therapist, just rub her back and she will let you know where and how hard to rub. My wife use to like to have her feet washed and her toe nails polished. Washing her feet was not a problem and I learned how to put polish on her nails. Why she liked this I can't say and after our child was born she could not tell me. It was just something that made her feel good.

So my advice is be Mr. helpful and Mr. agreeable. Don't take anything she say bad or argumentative to heart as she probably doesn't mean it and won't remember any of it after the baby is born.

Hello Good day,

I would like to ask something about taking oral contraceptives. I had been using bcp for 3 years now just this month of May I switched to a different brand from trust pills to althea. Because of switching to a different pill brand I took 2 pills everyday cause I'm afraid that I might get pregnant. My boyfriend and I never use condom ever since now I'm just a little worried because usually I have my period on the fourth and fifth day off the pill. It's my sixth day off the pill and still I don't get my period though I'm experiencing some symptoms that it's going to come but still I'm worried. Can taking two pills everyday affect the cycle of your menstruation? Please I need some advice on this. Thank You!

I don't have an answer for your question as to why your period is late.

What I do think is it was wrong to take two different medications of the same type without consulting or without your doctors permission or knowledge. My best advice is to contact the prescribing doctor and advice the doctor what you have been doing and ask for advice.

can u get with crabs tho

Your question is incomplete. Please rewrite and submit again.

Im 14 and im about to have sex for the first time with a 14 year old too but he has had sex before..

I was just wondering..
Does it hurt? I heard it does because you viagina tears..
And what if the condombreaks?

Im not worried about much right now i just dont want a kid right now.. not ever actually. But if you could please help? Thank you.

First let me explain something about young teenage males. They do not have the same definition of love that you do. To them love and lust are the same. When he says he loves you and pressures you to have sex with him to prove your love for him. This is lust talking. It is his raging hormones talking brought on by puberty. Hence the word horny. He is horny and lustful but in love, no. Most likely he will be like other boys his age once he gets what he wants he will be off to find a new girl to conquer.

As for sex hurting you the first time. At your age it most definitely will. Puberty may have given you the body of a women but you are still maturing and changing. Your vagina is still changing and maturing. If your boyfriend has a normal sized or larger penis he is going to hurt you just trying to get in your vagina even before he tears your Hymen.

Now what are the chances of what I have just written being right in your case. About 85% depending on how far along you are in your bodies maturing.

Sex is a wonderful thing. It should happen for all the right reasons not just to prove your love for some horny 14 year old boy. Another reason not to do so with him is 14 year old boys cannot keep this a secret. He will tell his best friend who will tell someone else and the next thing you know every boy in school will be after you because you had sex with him and they will want you to have sex with them. One of those boys may not take no for an answer and just force himself on you. That's rape, it happens more often than you think.

Why am I telling you this. Well I am old enough to be your grandfather and with age comes more wisdom. You need to know why not to do something rather than to be told just not to do so. Also I was once, as hard as this is to believe, a 14 year old boy. I know what and how 14 year old boys think and what they will say and do to get a girl to have sex with them.

I'm not going to tell you to wait until you are married. It would be nice and a great present for your husband. It would also be hypocritical of most parents and grandparents to say this.

What I will say is this boy is most likely a first love. You will have more loves before you find the guy you marry. Wait until you are older and more mature. Until you find a guy who will appreciate the gift you are giving him and make it special for you. Who will see to your comfort and security when you have sex for the first time as this is important for your enjoyment as well as helping you to relax and limit the pain that you will have.

Tell this boy no. If he continues to beg or push you to have sex with him that should tell you it is lust and not love he feels for you.

I don't know what to do anymore... I have been with the same person for over a year. They have a 3 year old little boy that I love and we are happy a good amount of the time. However there are a few issues.
They don't have a babysitter so I always get stuck babysitting. It has turned into an expectation and they rarely ask until they are leaving. We talk about this all the time but they never follow through even though all I ask is that they get my okay to babysit before setting and making plans. They also are usually 30-60 minutes past the time they said they would be back.

I do all the cooking and dishes, I normally do not mind but, they have a roommate who sits around and never cleans up after themselves. Went out for dinner to get away from dishes and I come back to a messy ass kitchen and smoke filled house.
This roommate also treats me like a maid. (Conplains when I don't cook, leaves messes and then bitches when it is still there later) I have constantly asked my significant other to speak with them but they don't.

And a big one. I never get to do things just us two because they find the need to invite the roommate and 2-4 other friends. It is embarrassing showing up to a friend's house with a car full of people who didn't even ask if they could come. How do I tell my significant other that I don't like this? It is a constant thing and it is driving me to the edge. I need advice desperately.
Anything helps.

The way you have written this it sounds like your significant other is still in a relationship with some one else.

You write,"They have a 3 year old little boy;" "They don't have a babysitter so I always get stuck babysitting. It has turned into an expectation and they rarely ask until they are leaving."

Who are THEY and why do you let them walk on you like this? You may consider this person your significant other. To me he does not consider you a significant other but more as a unpaid servant.

My advice; find someone else who will actually give you the respect you deserve and return the love and affection of being a significant other.

I have a friend called tiffany.. She is a good friend and she goes to the same school as me. But ever since she has come to my school I have been getting into more trouble but I'm not sure whether it her influence or its me?? Her dad says I'm a bad influence on her but my mom says she's a bad influence on me ? So I have (on my own) decided to move school away from her was that the right decision tho?

Based on the little you have written it is hard to say who is influencing who. If you have been getting in more trouble since Tiffany and you have become friends. Then separating from her is probably the best thing to do and I would support your decision to do so.

I have a boyfriend we have been together about a 9 months and he's the first boyfriend that I have felt secure and comfortable with I'm 16 coming 17 and really in love with this boy and we want to take it to the next step but I'm not sure that I'm ready to loose my virginity what shall I do? Shall I wait?

I found the following website, found at bottom of this page) while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”

On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.

The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.

As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent and I believe at 16 you are s little young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. I am sure your parents have already given you this advice and it is good advice. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy.

Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.

Before you make your decision review the website I have included below:

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

Do have to take Semen test before producing a baby?How do u know that these sperms/semens are ok for producing?

It is generally taken as a given that a healthy male and female are capable of making a baby. If a couple are trying to conceive and unable to then medical testing is the first step to try and find out if there is a problem and who might be the problem.

To answer your question though: No; as a general rule it is not necessary to have semen tested before trying to have a baby.

I had a sex dream about my cousin.....is there something wrong with me?

No I don't think there is something wrong with you. We can't deny someone's beauty or sexual attraction to us. What would be wrong would be if you wanted to act upon that attraction and have sex with your cousin. You know this is wrong. As long as you don't act on your attraction to your cousin you have nothing to worry about.

Ok so i am a 16 year old girl and i think that I’m either bisexual or gay. Because i am not emotionally attracted to men, i feel like i can't trust them and i don't know why, I’ve never been hurt by them. I’ll look at a guy, say he’s hot but that’s it I feel like I can’t ever emotionally connect with them. As with women I’m both emotionally and physically attracted to them. But I can see myself with both. I’ve never really told anyone of how I feel because I am so confused and scared that if people knew they’d hate me. please help!

From what little you written I really cannot say one way or the other if your Bi, straight or just what your sexual orientation may be. What I believe is you are 16, female going through what is normal for any 16 year old female when it comes to their sexuality.

Your teenage years is a time for you to explore life with a safety net. The safety net of having a home and parents to guide you. It is the time for you to learn about life and just who you are and where you place in this world will be.

I don't see being fearful of making an emotional attachment to boys at your age as being something to worry about. In fact I think it is probably better not to be emotionally attached to anyone at this age. As for sex; well depending on what you mean as long as it does not mean full intercourse, for which you are still to young, I don't see a problem there either.

There is also nothing wrong with being bi or being a lesbian. Whatever your sexual orientation turns out to be it is what you were meant to be. As for being a lesbian I think you would know by know as that is not something you become as it has been found being gay is how you are born. Being bi is different, that just may be something you develop a liking or need for. In any case you are correct that now at your age it is not something you want to share with friends or family.

All in all since I am old enough to be your grandfather and if you came to me for advice, which in a sense you have. I would tell you to relax and just enjoy who you are now. It is my belief from what you have written that you are a normal 16 year old girl going through normal confusion with her sexuality and feelings. Just relax and let life take its course and I believe things will sort themselves out for you.

Hi guys, if you must know i'm 18. The problem is, i'm in a downward spiral so yes, i need some advice. I know people out there face tougher challenges, but i know my life will get worse too if i don't face 'em. I'm starting to cling onto people to get happiness and my self-esteem is breaking down. It's not even there anymore ! I have a wide family but not all of them can be trusted. Not all. I have lots of friends but hey, i could even count with my fingers the ones who're really true. I'm facing rejection by the ones i would sactifice for. I don't really need guys in my life but i do really love one guy who seems to.. I don't know. We're no longer close and i break down every night missing him. Anyhow, I could no longer stress out due to the fact that i'm beginning to have detrimental heart problems because of the problems i'm facing and i admit my wrongdoings are involved too. I just need an advice on how to be wise and independent in life. I still believethat i can be a good person too, i just don't want to give up. Please help me, i can't go on feeling so messed up anymore. Thanks guys.

There is not a lot of information to go on here. Not having trust in people and sounding as down on yourself as you do are two signs of depression. Just two signs is not enough to say you are depressed or suffering from a depressive episode or clinical depression. Besides I'm not a doctor and I can't make that call.

What I do suggest, what I think will help you is meeting with a psychologist for some talk therapy. Finding a therapist who you feel comfortable enough to tell your deepest, darkest secrets to may take going through 2 or more therapist until you find someone your comfortable with. It is worth effort for once you find that therapist you can now talk openly with him or her secure in the knowledge that nothing said in therapy can every be retold outside of therapy even in a court of law. You have total medical confidentiality.

Being 18 these visits would be covered under your parents insurance coverage and or one or both of their EAP programs at work. The EAP programs generally cover a select number of visits in full then health insurance kicks in.

Stress is the major cause of most depressive symptoms. Talking about them to someone unrelated and set back from your day to day life can be a big help in getting a handle on things which may be getting away from you. Which just may be your problem and you are not seeing it.

If you want you can go see your family doctor first and get a full physical which the therapist should recommend anyway. While there your doctor, if you ask, can test you for depression. The test is simple. It is simply questions the doctors ask that by your responses they can determine if you are suffering some form of depression. Then the doctor will most likely suggest talk therapy as well.

Difference between the Bypass Surgery and Angioplasty?

russianspy1234 got it about 75% correct. Angioplasty is a radiology procedure where they insert a wire in the vain, usually in the groin and thread it up to the artery or arteries in the heart that are blocked. They clear the blockages and insert stints to keep those veins open.

Bypass Surgery is open heart surgery where you are generally placed on the heart lung machine while the surgeons actually rework some or all of the plumbing (veins) to your heart). They do this by taking a vein or veins from the leg(s) depending on how much vein the need and BYPASSS the original veins which are blocked with the new veins.

If you or someone you know such as a family member is having either one of these procedures the doctors who are going to perform the procedure must inform them of just what and how the procedure is to be done and the risks that are involved. They must do so as a matter of law and protocol for the patient must sign a medical release to have either of these procedures done.

If the patient is not able to sign then the spouse, child or closest relative must sign the release which also states that they have been informed of this procedure and the risks.

I am really scared that i peed in bed last night its first time in my life after I left wetting bed in the age of 12. I am quite healthy I don't take any medicines I don't drink wine I don't know what to do I am ashamed of telling it to others.actually last night in my dreams I went to my uncle new house but in dreams when I reached there I felt that I need to urinate badly so I used my uncle bathroom and did a lot of pee but it happened in real and I got up immediately and found my bed wet.

I;m sure you are upset by this but at the moment it appears to be a one time ting. For the moment I would not be too upset by this.

When we dream we are in REM sleep which is a very deep sleep one which is hard to wake up from. In your dream you peed in your Uncles bath room. Coincidentally you needed to go to the bathroom but were to deeply asleep for you body to wake you so it followed the dream. This of course is an over simplification of what happened. The dream could have also been your sub-conscious trying to tell you to get up and go to the bathroom as well and you just missed the signal. It happens when we are sleeping.

If it is a one time thing I would not worry about it. Air out the mattress, wash the sheets, then turn the mattress over and forget about it.

Now if it happens again then you need to see your doctor and find out if there is an organic cause for this problem. You may also need to see a Urologist.

Just a thought: You don't happen to have someone living with you who, trying to play a joke; might have stuck one of your hands in a bucket of warm water. We use to do this to guys in the military when they where sleeping. Doing this would generally trigger what happened to you.

16 yr old Female, UK
My Music teacher is 49. I am 16. I help out in some of his lessons, for younger years. We talk all the time. He tells me funny little stories about his family, and he tells me about his difficult past, personal stuff... but he has always seemed such a closed off man.

He calls me Professor Jane (Jane is not my name, but I don't want to put my name on here), and I call him by just his last name (like smith, rather than Mr. Smith)

I resently left school (year 11) and he wrote a funny limerick about me (teasing me) in my leavers book, and I know he didn't write in anyone elses. He gave me his number, in case I needed it for my exam revision.

We argue, like allot, over all sorts of silly stuff. Like, the other day, we argued about the best Dr from Dr who, and its like real arguing.

He tells me stuff about the school, like stuff about private teachers meeting. I consider him a very good friend.

I suppose this is not a question, more a situation, and I would like your opinions on it?

Thank you
x

Not knowing the laws in England it is a bit hard to comment with any true knowledge.

What I will say is as long as you relationship with this teacher remains as you have written; their is nothing from what you have written that is inappropriate. Many students have relationships with teachers or other adults that go beyond the point of a classroom or other structured environment a person your age might find themselves in with adults. There is nothing wrong with this.

Where these relationships go wrong is if they go to another level, a personal or sexual level. Then depending on the laws concerning age of consent and student teacher relationships in your County is where problems come in.

If you have finished at this school to move on to college which is are high school I believe or University. Then the student teacher relationship is not a problem but age of consent may be.

This is the best I can offer with out more information and knowledge of the laws concerning students and teacher relationships and the age of consent. I hope this helps you some.

tips?
prep tips?
how long is recovery?
how do i make an appointment for this?
is it worth it?
can i pick a shape?

I would not recommend it. I watched a documentary on this subject on discovery health a year or so ago. They followed a number of women who did a variety of things to first get a better view of what their vagina's looked like. They stared with plaster impressions, actually sitting in plaster molds. This was done in sex shops, Britain's views on sex are more liberal than ours.

The documentary followed these women from the plaster impressions, through discussions with boyfriends, husbands and finally gynecologists.

Some of the girls wanting to have the surgery, which in England is done as an office procedure, went and spoke with those who had already had it done. All who had it done said it was very painful. Of the six interviewed half said if they new how painful and how long and bloody the recovery was they would not have done so. The other half admitted it was painful but felt better about themselves.

As for picking a shape. It really depends on how much labia you have and how much the doctor may be willing to remove. This is not plastic surgery in its truest form. In fact do not expect your insurance company to pay for this surgery unless your doctor can attest to it being necessary for other than cosmetic reasons.

From a male point of view I see this as an unnecessary surgery. A vagina serves two purposes or actually one. It is a sexual organ designed to bring new life into this world. Your boyfriend or husband is not going to refuse to have sex with you because you have a large labia. I'll let you in on a secret men don't see your labia as anything more than a sex organ to be enjoyed in ways that they enjoy.

My wife has a large labia and I enjoy the extra feeling I have when we have sex. This feeling is something I didn't feel with women who had smaller labia's. Frankly I didn't know what I was missing until the first time she and I had sex.

My advice is not to do it. In fact if your under 18 no doctor will perform any cosmetic surgery until your at least 18 and done with puberty. You may even have to wait a bit longer if the doctors feel you are still in the grips of puberty which can last into your earl 20's.

This can be a very painful operation that can ruin your sex life for life. Please think long and hard before doing so.

we masturbate together and hes horny again in a few min,.... is that normal? what do we do? should i help him every time? is it healthy?

Since you have not given your ages I have to assume you are both in your early teens. If so Yes it is normal for a guy to masturbate or even have sex and in a few minutes be ready to do it again.

For young men this will continue for most of them well into their twenties and early thirties if they remain healthy in all other respects. DO you have to help him get off each time he gets an erection when you are together? That is strictly your call. There are no hard and true rules when it comes to sex other than this one.

Sex between two people must be consensual or it is rape. It matters not if you had foreplay, mutual masturbation, just before or if you even if you have had sex once already Once one person says stop, or no that means you stop or you do not do whatever one of you wanted to wanted to do. To try to or not stopping is rape or sexual assault.

So in answer to your question; just because you got him off once you are not obligated to do so again . If you were forced to do so by him, even though you would be giving him sexual pleasure; it is still a rape of you by him. The rape would fall under the sodomy laws of your state.

Short answer to your question is: He is normal and no you are not obligated to give him additional relief.

i am 19 years old. My period starts on 17th of the month & it go for next 5 five days. I going for sex with my my boyfriend after 7 days of completing of my period on 24th. What is the chances of pregnency?

It should be relatively small as almost 80% of women ovulate during the middle 14 days of there cycle. Problem for you is are you one of the 20% of women who ovulate at any time during their cycle?

You're 19 you can and should be on birth control or at the very least the boy should use a condom. Condoms are 85% effective in protecting against pregnancy and are also effective in the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Even if you are on Birth control until you are in a long term monogamous relationship and both of you have been tested, condoms should always be used to protect against those STDS they do protect against.

Short answer to your question: You need to know when you ovulate to know for sure when you are most fertile so you know when not to have sex. Ovulation kits can be purchased at your local drug store. Consider getting birth control. You are an adult know and do not need parental permission even if you are on you parents health insurance. As an adult you have total medical confidentiality regardless of who is paying the bill. I also urge you to use condoms/

18/F

I'd first like to start off by saying that yes, I know being a virgin in this day and age is rare and something I should be proud of, hold onto, and cherish. Or so some say. I know I should wait for someone special who cares and respects me and blah blah. But this isn't a fairy tail and my life doesn't become anything close to those options.

I've had the opportunity to sleep with a guy I've known for about a year, I have feelings for him and I think he's really nice and very attractive so I'm very surprised I was even given this opportunity considering I'm..not. I'm just not completely sure if he feels the same about me. I have a big feeling that I'm just a booty call and I hate to be one of those girls that hopes that sleeping with him will change that fact.

On the other hand, weather it's with him or not I want to lose my virginity. I want to have a boyfriend even more than that but I don't know many people and like I mentioned, I'm not attractive and that's pretty much all anyone looks for nowadays. Or if you have a nice body they can ignore your face but then again you're just an object to them. I can honestly say if you're just going to answer this telling me to wait until someone special comes a long you're pretty much wasting your time because no one special is going to. I know the guy I mentioned above will respect me considering it's my first time and he knows that, and he's seen me mostly unclothed also so that help. Not sure about the after result though. I have a horrible time meeting new people and can't even make friends with a girl let alone a guy.

I've realized that this kind of came out like a rant, but either way is like opinions/comments whatever. Thanks for your time.

Before I answerer your question their is something more important to be addressed and that is the issue of birth control. Before you go ahead with starting a sex life be responsible and get on some form of birth control. Also if you are not familiar with how to put a condom on a boy, buy some and practice with a banana.

The most important thing about this is to make sure you protect yourself from pregnancy and the STDS that condoms can protect you from. Condoms do not protect for all STDS but they do protect from many and the HIV/AIDS virus. Never enter into casual sex without the man using a condom. Most men prefer going bare back but it is for your protection. In my day girls/women would say no rubber, no lover.

Now as to loosing your virginity. This is not a perfect world. As I tell my son this is an off the rack world if your looking for a custom fit you take what's on the rack and have it altered.

Meaning if you wait for Mr. absolutely perfect to come along it won't happen. Though giving your virginity to this guy just to loose it doesn't sound right to me either. You said he will respect you but will he make your first time as special as it should be.

For a guy loosing his virginity does not include any pain, bleeding or any type of discomfort. Once his penis penetrates a vagina he is no longer a virgin. For a women it is quite different. She needs to feel safe, comfortable and most of all loved if she is going to get any enjoyment out of her first time. Can this guy or will this guy give you any of this or will it be some hurried up thing in the back seat of his car or in a bedroom hoping his or your parents don't catch you.

You are 18 legally an adult something we parents forget when and if we catch you having sex under our roof. Fact is as an adult you are now entitled to a sex life if you want one. My only caution is make sure your first time is made special by the guy you choose to have sex with the first time.

Last: You mention you feel you are less than pretty. You may be being to hard on yourself. In any case if you feel as you say you do there are other ways of meeting guys who will look past outer attractiveness and see the real you, the one I'm seeing who wrote this letter who I see as a beautiful person.

Having common interests is a great ice breaker and bridges that awkward gap in meeting people. Make a list, written down on paper, of things you like to do and things you are interested in. Then look for clubs or activities with these same interests or hobbies. Attend some of these meetings.

You would be surprised when say you are at a photography club meeting and you start taking about F-stops and lighting or subject matter. Next thing you know your having coffee and that moves on to a date and from there you end up in a bed together someplace with a guy that will not only respect you in the morning but someone that has actual feelings for you.

This is not a fairy tale. This is what these is what these expensive dating site rely on to match people up with. The match you up based on you general interests.

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