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I Need Help With my Son
Umm My 15 year old son asked me if he could give his Virginity to me And I don't know what to say to him ......
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You tell him "No"
Having sexual relations with family is considered incest abd it is illegal and 100% wrong!
This is concerning your son would even ask such a thing, Perhaps take him to a therapist who can help him...
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"No."
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You know what the answer it's wrong it's illegal it's incest tell him no.
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The frontal part of our brains that help us to make good solid decisions doesn't finish developing until a person hits their mid twenties. Any time before that, a young person will make decisions that could forever change their world, sometimes in a bad way. As a parent, when our child is using us as a sounding board for any decision, as the parent you will want to point out things he may not have given thought to.Take yourself out of the equation when questioning him.
Ask him Why does he feel the need to give away his virginity at age 15? Why can't it wait until he is of legal age?
Is he determined to experience the sex act or as with a sex therapist does he just want to ask very personal things to learn intellectually (not from experience) what making love to a woman is like...perhaps he has a girl at school he likes enough that he would like to have sex with but has heard she has had sex before so he wants to be experienced or at least seem experienced when he asks her.
Or ask him if he thinks he is interested only in older women. If so, you can feel flattered but theres that part about him not being of legal age. Ask him to wait and once old enough he can go find older women for sex partner if thats what interests him.
Although in rare cases there are families where the parents and children have sex together, that does not mean it is okay. It can and will change the relationship you as the parent have with your son. Some young men may grow too fond of parent and not be able to ever connect with someone of their own age to marry and have kids. You and he won't know this ahead of time.
All these things need to be explained to him instead of a horrified, "No way..Yuck!" response.
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