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How do I tell my significant other that I don't like this behaviour?
I don't know what to do anymore... I have been with the same person for over a year. They have a 3 year old little boy that I love and we are happy a good amount of the time. However there are a few issues.
They don't have a babysitter so I always get stuck babysitting. It has turned into an expectation and they rarely ask until they are leaving. We talk about this all the time but they never follow through even though all I ask is that they get my okay to babysit before setting and making plans. They also are usually 30-60 minutes past the time they said they would be back.
I do all the cooking and dishes, I normally do not mind but, they have a roommate who sits around and never cleans up after themselves. Went out for dinner to get away from dishes and I come back to a messy ass kitchen and smoke filled house.
This roommate also treats me like a maid. (Conplains when I don't cook, leaves messes and then bitches when it is still there later) I have constantly asked my significant other to speak with them but they don't.
And a big one. I never get to do things just us two because they find the need to invite the roommate and 2-4 other friends. It is embarrassing showing up to a friend's house with a car full of people who didn't even ask if they could come. How do I tell my significant other that I don't like this? It is a constant thing and it is driving me to the edge. I need advice desperately.
Anything helps.
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Dump him and find somewhere else to live?
I'm sorry. I know that isn't the advice you are looking for, but what you have described here isn't annoyance like leaving wet towels on the bed or picking his nose - this is a pattern of utter disrespect and contempt of you and his child.
It's unlikely to change if you stay where you are.
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The way you have written this it sounds like your significant other is still in a relationship with some one else.
You write,"They have a 3 year old little boy;" "They don't have a babysitter so I always get stuck babysitting. It has turned into an expectation and they rarely ask until they are leaving."
Who are THEY and why do you let them walk on you like this? You may consider this person your significant other. To me he does not consider you a significant other but more as a unpaid servant.
My advice; find someone else who will actually give you the respect you deserve and return the love and affection of being a significant other.
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Girl, I believe your significant other does not sound very significant as a person and having other roommates that Use you becausenthats not a good situation either.
Have you asked yourself why you are still there? Is it because you need a place to live? Start looking for a different living situation. Is it because you dont think another guy is going to be interested in you or that you can't find someone better?
Being driven to the edge of your sanity sounds like something you do not like. So the answer is simple, don't allow it in your life. But I can't make them change you say. Thats exactly right! Because you can't make them change, you must be the one to leave. Maybe this saying will help you in life, "If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong." Being someones maid is not fun, its a drag. So the way you are living your life right now according to that saying would be 'wrong'.
Change is scary, it's not always easy and can be as painful at first as your current situation but if you truly are looking for something better, eventually you will reap the rewards.
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