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intimacy issues???
i am 16/f.my boyfriend is very frank with me. he says there is nothing to be shy about when we both love each other. i know he has a point but i just can't stop getting shy. one of these days he asked me what i use to shave my genitals and i went red like a tomato. he laughed....did not mind though.i love him a lot and truly i have no problem with him. i just start getting butterflies when he gets closer with naughty chats or physically...and i am shy though i know i am very comfortable with him in every aspect . i know he will respect my feelings but still i am shy. and yesterday...he said he could not control so he started kissing me and stuff.....he didnot penetrate but he was touching me and licking me over there....i was moaning like hell....and twisting like anything...he had a hard time to put me in place and continue and i pleaded him to stop bcuz i was feeling shy but he continued..and suddenly i felt this urge to pee.....but he still continued and....i started feeling something i can't explain...like someone is tickling me and i want it to get over but i don't want it to stop .... finally he pinned me down with his weight n made me helpless n continued doing his stuff till i ....started trembling...he stopped and asked me to let go but i didn't, he said he wanted to see it but i didn't....finally he gave up. is this shyness normal?..was the moaning and twisting and asking him to stop normal?...was the urge to pee and trembling normal?....if i really let go infront of him...will he feel good or..will nothing come out other than urine?...plz help. he is really sad and i am too.
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Girl, you were on the verge of a G-spot orgasm. The gspot is right next to the urethra of your bladder. Manipulating the gspot will give an urge to pee followed by a powerful orgasm and sometimes a woman ejaculates a gush or a little trickle but not necessarily, If you are afraid of it possibly being pee- which is sterile so its not a big deal, then empty your bladder before trying it next time.
Even if you both are not doing penetration yet, all this playing around and maybe sometimes you or him touching his penis and then yourself next, the precum has sperm which can be transferred by hands so get on some contraception right away. Look up all the kinds online first and read about what the side effects are...you may be ok with it or if hormonal ones aren't the way you want to go get the Copper IUD. Planned Parenthood can help with that too.
I think it's time you and he together do some learning about things like sexuality, relationships and learn from someone who is your peer, well educated, funny short video lessons and has her own sex positive youtube channel. Her name is Laci Green. I will post the link for the one on Gspot. I highly recommend her. Very knowledgeable stuff. Watch em all and subscribe to her channel.
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watch the one on squirting after.
Watching Laci will give you a positive view of your sexuality so you will likely lose that shyness.
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All of that is normal and you would have had an orgasm.
Anyways, this guy doesn't seem to be right for you. Once you're comfortable with someone, then you won't be as shy but you're not at that level yet and seems to not respect that because he brings this stuff up more than once.
He might truly be a good guy and really good to you but he seems pushy and that's not a good quality. When you're comfortable with him, then you'll be able to be intimate with him.
Then he said he couldn't control himself? Every guy should be able to control himself. That is very wrong if he can't control his urges.
The shyness is normal, I don't know how long you've been with him but you need to go slow with him because if he pressures you a lot, you won't feel comfortable with him.
So you need to move slow, you're only 16 and he hasn't learned self control so be careful.
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From what I have read you don't seem emotionally ready for this kind of relationship. That peeing sensation is the feeling you get before orgasm. All these things are. Completely natural and if you were to release this feeling it would feel very good. But only do this if you are ready. I suggest if you have sex to use a condom. Be safe and have fun
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