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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Hey, basically I have had ear acge for a few days so I put it down to havinf dirty ears so I clean them but recently I was putting my foundation on and felr a small little lump thats so painful to turn my head, touch and uts making my neck ache (left ear) and its travekinf onto my shoulder despite my partner giving me massages doesnt seem to help its not even noticalble only when you touch it but I cant sleep woth it and my ear goes numb in so scared to what it could be I just need reassuring :) but as we speak im in serious pain with this tiny little lump please help

Thanks sam

I disagree with brenalair for the simple reason that you have not given enough of a description of the bump/lump to say if yours and brenalair's could be the same type of bump/lump.

Given the fact that you are in serious pain you need to see a doctor. This could be anything from a clogged oil duct needing to be lanced and drained, to something far more serious. We can't say as we are not doctors. Even if we were you can't make any type of diagnoses over the web.

Given the fact that you are in serious pain see if your family doctor will give you an emergency same day appointment. If not there are 24 hour walk in clinics staffed by doctors. Call one of them and see if you can make an appointment with them. While they are called walk-in clinics many will see you on a appointment basis that way you are not waiting around to see the doctor. Of course there is always the hospital emergency room that you can go to if needed.

One thing that is for certain you need to have this checked by a doctor.

I'm a 13 year old guy who gets horny a lot. I dont know what to do I masterbate when it gets that bad. But it changes how I feel about girls. And how I talk to them. I get really sweet am they like me and then they think I like them. I dont know what to do. Please help ):

Being 13 and Horny is absolutely normal for your age. Masturbating to relieve the sexual tension of puberty, which is the cause of you being horny, is absolutely normal. A teenage boy will masturbate 4 or more times a day which is considered normal.

Does it effect how you talk to girls? Not really, I believe that is all in your mind. Courting as your great-grandparents would call talking to girls and trying to get them to go out with you is all new. This is all part of teenage life. It is a learning experience in adult relationships.

When you were younger maybe you and your friends played soldier. The girls would play nurses and tend to your wounds. At least that is how it was when I was a preteen. Now your a teenager and sexually aware and it is a whole new ball game. Girls are different now, your different now.

Just relax and be yourself. The girl isn't going to bite you and she is just as nervous about all this as you are. So just be yourself and talk with her. Talk about things you have in common such as school, teachers and classes.

When you talk about things you have in common it makes it easier to get to know each other and easier for you to ask her on a date and for her to say yes. If she says no don't get upset. Boys are allowed to date sooner than girls so she may not be allowed to date and to ashamed to say so.

If you think this might be the case, instead of asking her on a date. Ask her if she would like to meet you at the mall on Saturday. That's not really a date its just hanging out together.

What could be wrong with me, whenever i have a romance with my boyfriend and when he sucks my breast i feel some pains in the breast even after the foreplay. unless i stop for a very long time before it stops. what could be the reason?

Since you withheld your age this question is a bit hard to answer. First none of us are doctors and we can only go on our experience with a question such as yours.

The only answer I can think of based on the limited information provided is: That it is possible that your boyfriend is being a bit rough with your tender breasts. If this is the only time your breast hurts it is the only answer I can think of.

If you are a young teenager this is not the type of question I think you would want to go to your mother with. What I would suggest is if you are over 14 and still of school age. That over the summer when having your preschool physical you can discuss this with your doctor.

If you are over 14 you are entitled to confidential doctors visits when you have any problem you wish to discuss, be examined for or treated for by a doctor related to your reproductive system. Your breasts would fall under this category. This means mom can not be in the exam room while the doctor examines you and she cannot know what you were examined for. Your medical records for anything related to your reproductive system are confidential and can only be released by you with written authorization to the doctor.

This confidentiality is granted to young people 14 years of age and older under a federal law called HIPPA. By granting young people this confidentiality congress is not giving them license to have sex but to see a doctor when they feel they need to for purposes of their reproductive health, parental permission is not needed or required to see a doctor. You can even ask for birth control medication and the doctor will prescribe. Parental permission is not required.

While I am really not sure if this is something that needs immediate attention of a doctor. What I suggest you do is check yourself regularly for lumps in your breasts, as you should be doing, until you see your doctor for your regular preschool physical.

i am 19 yrs old . i am a virgin . i and my boyfriend were having fun. i was wearing my panties . his pre ejaculation fluid touched my panties and i think it touched my vagina also . usually my periods are always late by a week or so . actually all this happened on may 5th and i was supposed to get my periods on may 10 th but i dint get them till now. i did home pregnancy test 4 times till now . i did the test today also . but the result is negative always but i dint get my periods yet. i am very very tensed . are there still chances of me getting pregnant ? plz help me .

If 4 tests say your not pregnant then you are probably not pregnant.

Stress is the leading cause of missing or late periods. You are quite obviously stressed out over possibly being pregnant. You may not get your period this month or if you are able to relax enough it will arrive soon.

If you again miss next months period then you should see your GYN for there is something else at work here. With 4 negative home tests you can be almost 100% assured you are not pregnant.

One other thing: If you have taken any medications, especially antibiotics, steroidal or narcotic based, these will throw of you cycle. Also changes in diet and exercise will do this as well. A women's menstrual is very finely tuned, it does not take much to throw it off.

Why when I'm going out blood coming out and have a pain on the inside of my stomach on the right habd side

The previous two advisers are correct in what they have told you. I'm not a doctor either but it sounds like you have some type of internal bleed. These are nothing to fool with and can be life threatening.

Do not drive yourself to the hospital as the bleed could cause you to pass out. Call 911 and have them send an ambulance to take you to the hospital. Yes, it is that serious or could be.

I am a retired first responder. If you were to call our Fire Station and ask us this question I would be sending an ambulance for you.

Hi all,

I'm currently a student in Europe, and I would really love to work from June to August in the US next summer. I was wondering if any of you currently living there were able to give me some information on this or even agencies/companies that offer summer jobs.

Any information would be much appreciated!

First there are summer jobs available to foreigners in the US. They are specific type jobs for which you must be qualified for. One such job is Lifeguards at pools and the Oceans. As there are more jobs than people to fill them.

To apply for any of these jobs, which there are agencies that specialize in placing people for these positions. You must first apply for a working VISA at the US Embassy in your Country.

The Embassy might be able to point you to one of the agencies who recruit for these jobs. Given the month we are in and the length of summer jobs you probably don't have any time to waste.

Not knowing how long it takes our Embassy to process an application for a working VISA you could be spending the summer at home waiting for the paperwork to clear.

It would be illegal to enter this country on a visitors VISA or visitor's entry status and apply for a job. If caught you could be deported and denied future entry for a long period of time or never again.

what to put on a rash

It all depends on the type of rash and where it is located. Some times an oral medication, such as Benadryl, available over the counter is the most helpful.

If your unsure and the rash is somewhere it can be seen. Your local pharmacist can be helpful in choosing the proper over the counter medication to use. The pharmacist may also be helpful in a identifying the type of rash and telling you if prescription medication may be needed and if you need to see a doctor.

Im 16 and all of my friends have had their "time of the month." I havent. I really feel bad because im dating this guy and he tries to to intimate but i dot know if i should get intimate. Would it effect me at all if i would have sex even though i havent had my period?

As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I have to say that 16 is still too young be engaging in sexual intercourse. The fact that your period has yet to happen also says your body has yet to receive the hormones needed to completely change you from a girl to a women. This would make intercourse very painful as while you may look like a women. Your sexual organ, your vagina, has not changed enough to be ready to accept a penis.

This is why so many young girls experience painful intercourse their first time. They are just to young and their bodies are not yet ready. The older you are the longer you have been in puberty the more time your body has to adjust and change itself to be fully an adult female. Yes, if your Hymen is still intact and not broken form using tampons or exercise, sex the first time may be a bit painful when you Hymen breaks. But not as painful as when your vagina is not ready to expand to accept a penis. The vagina not expanding is why some young women have trouble using tampons.

As to your question: Will having sex effect when you get you first period; I'm not 100% sure but I don't think so. One thing to worry about is if you have sex and are about to get your first period. If you have unprotected sex, meaning not having the boy use a condom, you run the chance of getting pregnant. For if you ovulate and eject an egg and have sex during that time. Instead of getting your period a few weeks later; you find out a few months later your pregnant.

No doctor will give you birth control medication until you have a regular menstrual cycle. So keep this in mind; you are what we parents call a late bloomer. Your period could arrive at any time; meaning you could be fertile at anytime of any month. Sex any time now could be dangerous for an unwanted pregnancy even with a condom as they are only 85% effective at preventing pregnancy when worn correctly.

I have probably not given you the answer you are looking for. Though it is the answer you need to know in considering if you should have sex now. I will add not to believe your friends when they say they have had sex for most of them, at least according to the most recent sex survey, have not. Most is all talk and less action. If they say they have had sex it is most likely oral or masturbatory type with a partner.

Hi I am a 14 year old girl and I might be a bit of something you would call a hypochondriac. Almost every disorder or illness I hear about I look it up and start worrying that I have or will get it to no end.(they never came true) This past month I've been a lot lot better then I was last year. There's still a little bit of the old me still there and I want to be carefree(not completely carefree) but just to the point where I don't worry about silly things so I would like to change my perspective on life. I want to be optimistic and fearless but in order to get there I need to get past this obstacle, right? How do I do so?

I can't answer or tell you why this happens to some people. What I can tell you is your not alone and that there are a great many people who suffer as you are. There is a women my wife works with who if she hears about an illness feels she has the same illness or will catch it. Why she is this way she doesn't know. She drives her doctor crazy.

What we think causes this is some form of mental trauma. It could be something as simple as when mom was teaching you how and when to wash your hands. Some parents use fear tactics to get their children to wash their hands after going to the bathroom and before eating an going to bed. You are so young when this happens you don't remember what was said or when but it sticks with you for life.

My mother put the fear of dogs in me when I was young. I do not remember what she said or when. She finally confessed to me when I was in my thirties and my son wanted a dog that my fear was her fault and why.

Germ phobia and hypochondria are real fears that are hard to overcome or live with. Sometimes it takes working with a clinical psychologist to get to and find the basis of the fear. Once the basis of the fear is found you can find a way to overcome it.

Without finding out the cause of your phobia you will never truly overcome the phobia. To just try to overcome it without finding the reason would be like turning up the car radio to mask any sounds the car may be making that it should not be.

My suggestion there for is that you talk with your parents and tell them about your phobias. Ask them if they can arrange for you to work with a psychologist to overcome them. Most EAP programs, if they have them, at work will cover these visits. You should be able to use both mom and dads EAAP programs separately if need be.

hi..i got my period on aprl 13th..on 19,20,21 i had sex and tuk two pils unwantd 72 and mistake pil..on 28,29 i hd sex and tuk postpone 72 pil..hd sex on 5,6th bt usd cmdm..got my period on june 8th..nw in july i havent got my date yet..wl i b pregnant or do u thnk due to pil overdose my body got afctd?

Your grammar and spelling are atrocious. You are not texting you are writing asking for advice. Proper writing techniques and proper English should be used so that no mistakes can be made in what your asking for.

Since we do not know you or your age. We can only respond based on how we perceive you to be based on your writing. You could be 12 or 21 we don't know. From the way you have written to us I would say Zane could and I have perceived you to be closer to 12. We could be wrong but we are seeing you as some one to young and too immature to be having sex and self-medicating.

Taking any medication, even medication available over the counter, can be extremely harmful and in some cases life threatening. While I don't feel you are in that kind of danger from the overdose of the plan "B" pill,which I think is what you took. I do believe you may have done yourself some type of harm and need to see a doctor.

If your are under 14 then you can only go to a planned parenthood or free women's clinic to see a doctor without you mom being with you. If you are over 14 you can see the doctor of your choice without parental consent as your problem is protected under a law called HIPPA. This law protects your reproductive rights and gives you the medical confidentiality you need to see a doctor without parental permission.

My main character was hit trying to cross the street and has severe injuries. She finds out that her older sister was driving the car that hit her, her older sister was texting and driving. After her older sister hit her, a truck collided into the older sisters car and killed her. The teen main character is devastated and depressed. She will have casts on and won't b able to walk or move around a lot for 4 weeks. Her parents blame her sisters death on her. The thing is I don't know what will happen during the next four weeks, I've tried to brainstorm but nothing works. I'm having a bit of writers block lol. I would appreciate it if you could help me brainstorm some ideas.By the way the main character is a 14 going to be 15 year old girl

Some notes:
- after this 4 week period she begins to become extremely depressed and continues to have nightmares about the whole accident
-she starts to self harm
-she starts to go down the wrong path, she starts stealing cigarettes from her dead sisters drawer and is offered drugs from her friend at a party and starts to take them
-she distances herself
-she commits suicide

I can't say what happens after this because it would firstly be too long and I don't want to give too much away. Btw she can't start a love interest because that occors with someone else later in the book. I only need ideas for the 4 weeks. This may seem like your run of the mill teen angst drama but its going to be much more than that, email me if you want to hear the rest :) i really appreciate the help!

I do a bit of writer myself, mostly for the pleasure of writing. When I hit these road blocks as I call them I try taking the story in several different directions even if it changes how I might have written some other later chapter.

For instance: Her parents blame her. So during the next four weeks the parents are distant yet she is her their daughter and they care for her. After the casts come off they take her to physical therapy. While at physical therapy she meets the person her sister was texting at the time of the accident. You can then write about him/her being urged by the sister to come forward and inform her parents.

Another story line would be to have the driver of the truck show up at the funeral. He is young maybe a year of two older than her. He tells her that her sister blew a stop sign and he saw her working her cell phone just before impact that he doesn't think her sister even knew she hit her or saw him.

She urges him to tell her mother but he can't because of the law suit they have already filed against him. He tells her to be tough as it will all come out in the end and that he will be there for her. You could go on to write that she falls for him and end up rewriting the other portions of your book.

It is for reasons like this I try not to write ahead of myself for sometimes my storyline will change from the direction I thought it would go. I only write ahead if I think I have a brilliant idea and then try to write to that idea. Most of the time I end up changing or deleting my brilliant idea.

One thing that never changes is the enjoyment I get from the writing. As I said I write for the enjoyment and for something to occupy my time. I never intend to publish anything I write. That could change though I don't think so.

Ok so when i was born my real dad signed rights off on me and my dad adopted me. Now that my mom and dad are divorced i dont like how my dad is treating me. I would rather stay at my real dads house rather than my dads house. What should i do? My dad has actually hit me a few times. I dont want to hurt his feelings but i dont want to live where i am getting hurt. What do i do? I am only 13 so i dont know what i can do. Please help.

If school is still in session then I suggest you talk with a trusted teacher or your school principal. If your dad is hitting you for non disciplinary reasons or in places he should not be hitting you at all. Then the school has procedures in place to follow to keep you safe.

If school has already let out for the summer you can go to any fire or police station as they are safe havens for children. Since it may be easier to go to a neighborhood fire station then go there. If like many fire stations in this country yours is a volunteer station and no fire fighters are on duty. On the front of the station near a door will be a red box. In side the box is a phone connected directly to the emergency dispatch center.

Use this phone to tell the dispatcher why you have come to the fire station. The dispatcher will then page for a crew to come to the station or send a paid crew to the station to care for you until the proper help can be contacted.

If you are in immanent danger from your dad such that he is harming you or has harmed you. Then call 911. Police will come to you.

I am a 13 year old girl and have gotten my period since I was 11. My period comes from the first through the seventh of each month. I know that it's irregular for the first few years, but in the last few years I have never been a day late. I'm not sexually active and I don't even masturbate! Is this bad? Should I be worried?

This is probably nothing to worry about. Things such as stress, changes in diet, physical exercise even certain medications will cause your cycle to be off.

The correct thing to do is to have a talk with you mom. If your mother is like most moms she is well aware of her daughters cycle. If she was concerned she would have said something to you by know. My mother would search the trash in the bathroom my sister and I shared looking for evidence my sisters period arrived.

Your period is a normal bodily function of a women, just as normal as any other bodily function. There is no reason if you are concerned not to discuss this with you mom. After all she has the same bodily functions as you do and would know if after talking with you, if there is a problem or not.

One very good reason for missing a period is stress. Given the time of the year it is with final exams and the changes in lifestyle that come with studying for finals, could be the reason behind your periods not coming. This could be the reason mom has not said anything to you as all women will on occasion miss a period during periods of high stress.

As I said there is nothing sexual about a women's period. You are now stressing over the fact that you have missed two periods which could delay even longer your period from returning. For your own peace of mind I suggest you speak with mom. She can put your mind at ease or suggest weeing a GYN.

I may be a male but I have lived with my wife for 42 years come next month. Before that with my sister and my mother. All men your dad included become very familiar with a women's menstrual cycle. So you could if you want even talk with dad if need be. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

I would suggest you start the conversation as you finished you note to us. Mom, "I'm not sexually active and I don't even masturbate! Is this bad? Should I be worried?" Then go on from there.

Ok so im 14/f and the boy is 13. Im going to highschool next year and weve reccently started flirting alot. Ive liked him for about a year now. 2 nights ago we were at a school trip to a 4 day camp and on the last bonfire day, we sat together. He held my hand and pulled me closer because I was shivering, he put his arm around me and gave me hugs after we had to go to bed. I like him alot and he likes me alot. Problem is that we wont get to see each other very much after school ends. He wants to date me but in highschool. I dont really think it will end up being that way because ive ben in the situation with my ex boyfriend. I want to date him so badly. Hes the perfect guy for me and everytime I felt like moving on, something didnt let me inside. We are going to hangout soon alone and he really wants to kiss or makeout with me. Im ready for that. But I want it to last forever. What can I do to keep our relationship strong until hes in highschool?

Sounds like you need some grandfatherly advice. Since I am of that age I will offer you some.

Your 14 years old still quite young by most standards. This boy is a first type love, one my parents would have called a puppy love. Between now and the time you go to college you will fall in and out of love many more times. This is suppose to happen, it is part of teenage life. It is part of growing up and learning how to judge people.

The kids you are friends with now will not be your friends once you all go off to college, the military or out into the world after high school. Once you leave the disciplined world of high school for the more adult world of College or other things you will grow and mature at different rates then one another depending on what colleges you may go to or if you go into the military or stay behind and enter the job world.

I would suggest that once you start school in the fall it will probably take less than two weeks before some young man steals your heart. There will be others chasing after it all through high school. Be discriminating as you will have an average of six boyfriends during you high school years, statistically speaking.

This is the way it is suppose to be. Be discriminating in who you allow to steal your heart. Do not fall for the line if you love me you will have sex with me for that is a line all boys use. For you see all teenage boys do not define love as teenage girls do. Their definition of love is the same as lust.

At 14 your too young for sex to begin with so don't fall for that line. Wait until you find a guy who truly loves you. Who is not a player. Who respects you as a person not as just an object of sexual desire. You may have to wait until your in college before you find him. When you do it will be worth the wait. Sex with young teenage boys is not worth it. They are only out for their own satisfaction.

I have to do semi-structured interview with single parents to get their lived experiences of being a single parent. REally struggling to come up with questions.

Got things like how have friends, family society treated you. tell me about your experiences of bieng single parent etc.

Its not about getting truths out of people just experiences of brining up a child as the lone parent lived it and experienced it or percieved it.

I would say you have the basic questions you need to ask. Some additional questions to ask while intrusive also should be asked. They would be.

1. How did you come to be a single parent. i.e. unwed mother, widow, divorce.

2. Do you date? What is it like dating as a single parent. Is it different then when you were just single.

3. If divorced; how long were you married and what was the cause of the divorce; how old were you when you married.

Adding these questions to the ones you already have should give you a somewhat rounded look into the how, why and what it is like to be a single parent. From this you should be able to write whatever you are being asked to write on being a single parent,

I'm 24 n dating a guy younger than me, we together for a year n our parents are aware we planning to get married next year.

My mom was on hospital for 10 days, I visited her twice a day n took cooked food n snacks! My bf visited every evening. Mum was released friday and I've been taking care of her since, sunday her brother flew down from another city to visit her. He never called once before saturday to find out anything , sunday evening mum asks my bf to hide in the room as her younger brother is coming to visit.she said her brother will insult her n ask questions as my bf is not rich . I found that rude n disgusting considering how much my bf has done , I then said I am going to go out for dinner with my bf and she can spend time with her brother ! She always worried what her brother says and puts him first, since sunday she has been sending me n my bf bad msgs calling me a bitch n telling me to leave her house ! This is not the first time !

I can't tell you why your mother is like this. I had an Aunt who was a lot like her. She played her daughter against her son to the point that neither speaks to the other. While my Aunt was alive I was the go between for them. Once my Aunt passed neither wanted anything to do with each other.

I tell you this to show you that you are not the only one with this particular problem. I will add this; that if this is something new in her behavior since she has been ill then you need to discuss this with her doctor.

If not then you are 24, an adult who is about to get married and hopefully have a family of her own. Live your own life and let your mother live hers. You can be there for your mother when you need to be if you want to be.

Do not let her poison your children when they come along with her style of parenting, which this can be called. Your children are yours to raise and if your mother takes issue with you. You politely but sternly tell her to mind her own business or you will limit her contact with her grandchildren.

At this point in your mothers life, if this is not new behavior for her, you will not be able to change her. What you can do is limit your exposure to it as well as your children's exposure when they come along.

I have a question for my homework
Does anybody know if the people in Germany trust their goverment or are they suspicious about it? Like, In general?

Since World War Two and after the fall of East Germany, all of Germany has been governed under a constitutional style of government similar to ours.

This type of government allows for their people to openly question those that govern or question what those who are governing do. This is how a free society remains free.

To get a better answer to your question you will have to do the research for yourself. What I have written should give you a start in what to write and where to look. But as the other advisor wrote, none of us will do your homework for you.

All my friends have had sex but me. Probably because they have girlfriends but still. What must I do to get a girl to have sex with me?

I wish you had put your age down as it would be useful in answering this question.

First you just don't get a girl to have sex with you. Sex is something you build to while in a relationship with someone. Sex is not a sporting event where once you score you move on.

Now if you are between 14 and 17 do not believe that all your friends have actually engaged in intercourse. The odds are they have not. They may have had some type of masturbatory sex but few of them, statistically, depending on their ages, less than 2 in 10 may have actually had intercourse. What it boils down to is their definition of sex. If you want to stick with the statistics the younger they are the higher the chances are they are more bragging then doing.

There have been a number of surveys done recently that point to less and less teenagers actually engaging in intercourse and fewer teenagers engaging in masturbatory sex together than ever before. So to say all your friends have had sex would be statistically impossible.

Statistically the numbers stay the same regardless of how many friends you have. One of your friends may have had intercourse and less than two have joined in mutual masturbation. The rest are falsely bragging about their triumphs.

If I knew your age I might be willing to offer more advice. Without knowing your age this is as far as I will go in offering any advice.

I need some help. I am a single mom with two kids. We have been dating about 7 months. He initially didnt make any effort to see my kids. He only wanted to see me at his house. I broke up with him because I felt he didnt want to be with me for the right reasons. He stopped taking me out and was just lame. We worked it out. He was spending time with me and the kids once a week and would see alone twice a week. More and more are alone time is just sex. He came to pick me up last night and because I wasnt able to go to his place for sex, because I couldnt get a sitter he said we should make it another night and left. I offered for him to come in and talk, Id make food or we could watch a movie. He just said we will make it another night. Am I right to be pissed? I only him see him two to 3 times a week.

From what you have written it sounds very much as if you are being used; as in a friend with benefits situation. This guy wants to milk the cow but doesn't want to pay for it or buy the cow as the saying goes.

It does not sound as if you are okay with this situation. It sounds like you want more from a relationship then just sex. My advice would be to give this guy his walking papers and find someone who is looking for the same type of relationship you are.

Hi I am 13 years old and Im positively not sexually active . I masturbate everyday though . This month I missed my period Im guessing it usually comes at the very beginning of the month but hasn't happened . Is this bad ? Should I be worried ?

It is not unusual to occasionally miss a period. One of the main reasons for missing a period are stress and changes in life style.

Given the time of the year it is, with end of year finals and all. It would be understandable that you would be under a lot of stress studying and finishing up class assignments. This also means that your normal life style is somewhat disrupted.

One other thing you should know. Moms are generally well aware of their daughters menstrual cycle and look for evidence that they have gotten their period each month. If mom was concerned that you missed you period she would have said something to you by now. Most likely she is waiting for next month to see if your period returns. If so no strike no foul most likely cause of the missed period was a stressful time something that happens to all women.

Now if your period does not return and you have been having regular periods for sometime then it may be reason to be concerned. There are many other reasons for missed periods that have nothing to do with being pregnant and are of no problem. These would include changes in diet, over exercising, taking of antibiotic medications and being under weight. The last one of all the others I mentioned is the only one that is of medical concern as that is not good. There could be other medical concerns which need be checked out as well.

So if your period does not return next month you need to tell mom so she can arrange a visit to your GYN which is medically needed to make sure there is not a medical reason.

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