My friend, lets call her Sarah, is completely obsessed with her ex boyfriend. Ive been trying to tell her forever to try and get over him! Hes been such a jerk to her, and he broke up with her to immpress one of his friends. How low is that? How can i get it through her head that she can do better, and stop wasting her time dwelling on the past?
It's difficult for you as a friend to watch, but you have to leave this one be. She needs to work out herself that this guy is bad news. You can try and encourage her to 'see the light' by talking about him and reminding her of the negative parts of their relationship, but if you just tell her outright that he's a jerk when she doesn't want to hear it (which she won't, being still hung up on him), she'll just find it more difficult to talk to you about it, which will cause friction between the two of you - which is the last thing you want! It's natural to want to protect her from this guy, but at the end of the day, you can't force her to think a certain way or stop her making mistakes. You can try to dissuade her from any further action with this guy, but if that fails, you just have to be there to catch her when she falls. Good luck.
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does anyone know the percent of chance of getting Hepatitis C from a lover that has it?
And, how is Hepatitis C spread to members that live in your household??
From http://www.thebody.com/nih/hepatitis_c/hepc03.html
"Sexual Transmission
Sexual transmission of hepatitis C between monogamous partners appears to be uncommon. Whether hepatitis C is spread by sexual contact is not conclusively proven and studies have been contradictory. Less than 5 percent of spouses of patients with chronic hepatitis C become infected. The risk of infection appears to correlate with the length of marriage and viral titers in the affected spouse; however, the studies reporting spouse transmission were confounded by other risk factors, such as other shared known sources of exposure, and came from areas of the world where hepatitis C is common in the general population."
So you are actually not that likely to get it, but it's not really worth risking, so I'd advise using condoms.
More links - http://nationalhepatitis-c.org/heplinks.htm
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alright, im not one of those overweight/underweight girls wanting attention or needing "emergency" help with their weight. but i have been wondering this question for a bit. when you say this weight is "average" for this height... are you saying most common kids for this age are this weight, or this is the weight you SHOULD be... in simpler words: are you basing average weight as the weight most common and good, or the weight that is considered average by professionals? i mean, the US has a large percentage of overweight children these days, and if you base it on average weight of all gendered children, wouldnt that make the scale a little off? sorry this is long- just want to know what everyone is basing their advice on! thank you and goodnight.
http://www.thebeehive.org/health/healthcalc.asp?calc=bmi
A chart about ideal weight for your height will use your height to calculate approximately how much you should weigh. It will then see whether you lie in that range, or how far your weight is from the ideal range (a few pounds above or below the ideal is not big deal, but 10 or 15 pounds will push you into either 'underweight' or 'overweight' categories).
The ideal is the ideal; what is most healthy for
a body that size, not what an average body is. If a test has said you are underweight, it's probably not because the test is skewed (although, obviously, you should take a test done on a chart you read off yourself or from a calculation in the internet with a pinch of salt, as they don't take into account your metabolism and other factos) so it's worth talking to a doctor or dietician. Good luck!
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I like this guy Brian, and he likes me back. He doesn't want to ask me out though because he thinks asking people out is dumb because then they never really do anything. I can see where he is coming from but I mean com'on! Well my friend was talking to him and she was agreeing with him on everything about hot you never go out and you stop talking, and I mean i guess it's kinda true. But I really want him to ask me out! So it's kind of like she is working against me. Then after she said I should be thankful for her even sending me the conversation, which was totally useless because all it did was make me upset. What should I say to her to make her realize how I'm feeling? By the way I'm in 7th grade.
You could tell your friend that you didn't appreciate being sent the conversation log because it was insensitive given that you liked him and didn't want to read details about how he doesn't want to ask [anybody] out. It sounds like she was acting on good intentions and just wanted to keep you informed, but this is something that she should be telling you herself. If you are upset about the way she behaved, talk to her about it, but be reasonable in the way you approach the topic or she's likely to just get defensive and the discussion won't get very far.
As for the guy, relax. I don't think saying he doesn't want to ask somebody out means he isn't interested in being in a relationship, it just means he's wary of a very clichéd course of events where a very young guy asks out a girl, they hang out twice and then suddenly they are 'boyfriend and girlfriend' without ever having really done anything that qualifies them as such. If you like him, try and get to know him as a friend and see where it goes - you may well find that you naturally become romantically involved without him asking you out and doing traditional 'date' activities that he maybe isn't interested in. Good luck!
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I am a 13 female and recently I just found out I am pregnant. I have no one for the baby except for my boyfriend who is the father. He is 16. My parents and me never keep in touch anymore so I live with my sister who is 18. She is never home and won't get mad if she found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend knows and is really happy. He is glad I am pregnant. But I'm not. I mean I am going to have the baby and keep it and i will love it but I am too young. But I do not know what I should do with my boyfriend. Can anyone give me advice? Please help.
You must talk honestly with your boyfriend about your feelings about being pregnant. If you are considering either abortion or adoption even momentarily, you should talk about your thoughts with your boyfriend - not only because his support as you weigh up your options will be invaluable to you, but also because it's unfair to not keep him informed when he's planning to be actively involved in the child's life. The decesion of whether to give birth, have an abortion or adopt must be wholey your own (as it is your body), but do talk to your boyfriend about what you want to do. Even if you are completely sure you want to keep and raise the child, talking to your boyfriend about his expectations is still important, as if he isn't aware of your differing attitudes about the pregnancy and birth, this will lead to friction between the two of you at some point. Good luck.
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All right, so, I'm 14/f, and this is basically about my guy friend, Jarrod. He really likes one of my best friends, Cora. He has liked her a really long time, and I was the first person he told after almost a year of liking her. He knows he can trust me not to tell anyone because I am an excellent secret-keeper, and so far I have told no one.
Although I did tell him that he should just tell her. Because I had to do that with this guy I liked, and everything turned out fine. But Jarrod and I both know that Cora doesn't really like him that way, although she really cherishes their friendship, I can tell. I told him that if he didn't do it by the end of this school year, I would tell her. (It's also sort of hard to keep this kind of thing from a best friend of yours for this long, even if Jarrod is a good friend too.)
And now, almost completely out of the blue, Jarrod told me that he's not sure why he told me in the first place, that there are other people he should have told before me, and that he doesn't want me privy to his love life anymore, and that I can't, under ANY circumstances, tell Cora. He also said that there is a personal reason that he doesn't want to tell Cora, and that he could not and WOULD not tell me.
What do I do? Why has Jarrod all of a sudden turned on me? Should I tell Cora and risk Jarrod's trust? HELP!!
Sorry about the long question...I rate!
I know it's hard to be caught in the middle of this, but if it's important to Jerrod that ly you don't tell Cora about his crush, then you should probably respect that. Maybe you are right, and it would be better if he just told her - but it's not really up to you to reveal his feelings if he'd really prefer to to keep them to himself, whatever the reason. Hopefully if you reassure Jerrod by showing him that he can really trust you to keep his secrets when he wants you to, he'll loose this paranoid streak he's suddenly developed.
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Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/
It's difficult to know if this guy is really a threat or if he just doesn't know where the boundaries of appropriateness are (i.e. touching your face). You could try talking to him and saying that some of his behaviour makes you a litle uncomfortable, but I think the bottom line is that if you aren't comfortable and things don't improve, don't stay. You should feel safe at all times, and if situation pus you on edge, the simplest thing to do is to withdraw. The chances are this guy is harmless, but it's better to be safe than sorry. If there are other similar petsitting buisnesses close by, look into those. If there aren't, you'll have to have a rethink - maybe there are other jobs you'd enjoy doing where you can also work with animals? Good luck.
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My boyfriend and i had sex the first time last week. Now we are doing it w/out the condom. He says that he has his cum under control and he knows when it is comming out. So he said that when it comes out or feels like it he will get out of me and wipe it off. He said w/out cum you can not get pregnate b/c with cum it has the sperms. Now is this true or is he lying to get me pregnate. Please help Me!!!!!!! :*(
If you have sex, there is a chance you will get pregnant. Repeat that to yourself, please. It doesn't matter if he pulls out or 'thinks he has it under control', because you only need one sperm out of the millions that are released to get you pregnant. Most of a guy's semen (the stuff that containing sperm) is released when he ejaculates (comes), that is true, but some of it is released beforehand, and yes, you can get pregnant from those sperm too. That means even if he pulls out before he comes, you can still get pregnant. Pulling out is not an alternative to contraception. The only safe sex is when you are using protection such as condoms. You need to use protection. I cannot emphasise this enough. If your boyfriend is not willing to play the game by these rules, do not have sex with him unless you are willing to accept the real possibility of pregnancy. Please, for your own sake, be responsible.
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Ok..Well...About 5 months ago me and my "BFF" stoppped being friends because, well, im not sure, i think it was because her other friends didnt want her to be friends with me, so the other night i said some stuff to her, since she wouldnt leave me alone ((talking to me online)) and saying she was just friends with me outta pity, blah blah. And now she is posting our conversations in her public diary, and getting my other ex-friends all against me. Its like...one little bitch, but shes so powerful! I literaly want to like..RYhwehgfwejlvf Haha i get pissed at her!! And she is teling poeple i lie about my personal problems, byut then w(hy)tf would i lie about having depression. Help me!! AND IM NOT APOLOGIZING I ALREADY DID LIKE 10 TIMES BEFORE AND SHE WAS GAY! x0x0x, me.
Ignore her. Most messenger programs have some sort of block function, so if you can, block her. If she's just going to pester and bait you when she speaks to you, it's best to remove the medium and cut her off at the source. Sadly, ther isn't much you can do about her bad-mouthing you to your old friends. If you avoid rising to the bait and being mean and petty back, she'll look like the one with the problem, and with time, her friends will see that to. It is difficult and hurtful when somebody you trusted turns against you, but ignoring it and concentrating on better things and better people is the best thing you can do - she'll soon find somebody else to fixate on. Good luck!
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Well, a couple nights ago I had some friends over and we were in my room drinking a little. :-\ and we did some stupid stuff though and my mom found out and she wont lemme do anything anymore!! Help!
IWantMyFreekinFreedomBackLol!
The truth is, you have to face up to the consequences of your actions. You've been caught out doing something wrong, and you will have to work to regain your mother's trust. The best way to do that is to gracefully accept your punishment, however much you dislike it. Hopefully dealing with your punishment in a mature way will show your mother that you've learnt from the experience. After a week or so, it might be worth talking to her about what happened and what reasonable boundaries are - should you be drinking in the house? If you do drink, can you be trusted to do it responsibly? etc. It'll take time and effort on both your parts to clear the air, but hopefully if you deal with the situation calmly and responsibly, she'll see that your ready to be allowed out again - but do expect some time in the doghouse before this happens. Good luck!
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okay well my ex boy friend when i was on vacatio i found out that he hooked up with this gurl from a friend but he still liked me but he also liked this other gurl so i broke up with him!!!
see i still like him but i dont know if i should just be his friend now or just forget about and i think i still like him what should i do?????
He cheated on you. He is not worth your time as a boyfriend, and I'd think seriously about whether you really want somebody who betrayed you as a friend. If it wasn't a serious relationship then sure, welcome him back into your life as a friend - holding pointless grudges gets you nowhere fast. If it was a serious relationship, or his behaviour really hurt you though, I wouldn't bother expelling too much effort on him - just move on.
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What's ways to get people back - like TP them and stuff like that i need answers FAST =O nothing to bad tho-- just stuff to do to their yard or house or something any ideas??X3 the kers
Petty acts of revenge are generally not a good idea unless you are sure the recipient (and, if applicable, their family who might have to help clear up the mess) is going to be good-humoured about what you are going to do. Don't do anything that is illegeal or causes long-term damage. Harmless things like setting up a trap where a person gets covered in water are amusing without being malicious, but if you really want revenge against somebody who's really hurt you (as opposed to say, a friendly prank by a friend) then I'm afraid I'm the wrong person to ask, as I'd say it would be better to just rise about and ignore it all.
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can you make a guy love you?! and if so..what kinda stuff can you do?!
You cannot make a guy love you. You could maybe manipulate somebody into a relationship, but that a) won't necessarily lead to love and b) is not a healthy start for a relationship. Love, and even to a lesser extent like, cannot be forced out of a person. All you can do is build relationships built on honesty and trust and hope that they will develop into a deep love.
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I'm 13/f with long blonde hair. I'm getting my hair highlighted (a lighter blonde) in a few days and i was just wondering is it really really bad for your hair? Can highlighting it do permenant damage? I'm not sure if i still want it highlighted if it's gunna ruin my hair.
Permanent hair dye, whether highlights or a full head, will dry out and potentially damage your hair. You can keep damage to a minimum however by making sure you treat it with specifically designed hair products for coloured hair which are extra-conditioning and will help stop your hair drying out. Highlighting still won't be good for your hair, but you can basically cancel out the damage it does.
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Hey. i have a huge problem. see my step cousin that actully has no blood relation to me is actully the perfect guy for me. he wants to be with me and i want to be with him, do you think that is incesed since there is no blood relation to us since it is all by marriage. i mean i really have always had feelings for him even b4 his mom and my uncle met. is it wronge to be in love with this guy please help. I rate!!!!
It's not incest, but I don't think it's a good idea, either. I don't know how close your families are, but it's not really a good idea to experiment with somebody if your going to have to keep seeing them even if you break up. You haven't said how old you are, but if you are living at home with your family, there's going to be akwardness if you have to see this guy as family at family events despite having a romantic history together. It's not immoral in any way, but I'd advise proceeding with caution whatever happens. Good luck!
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Okay well this guy saw my picture in my advice column and started saying I was fat and shit and I was ugly...and well I don't know what I did to him...now I just feel like dying I wrote him back a message and I freaked out after him but not that badly I didn't swear to much well not like f*** or shit like that and well I just feel like dying man it's not my fault I'm fat god I got far with my life like I play pro junior basket ball for my height and force and now he calls me fat I feel so bad...I'mm putting myself down and I hate it...I wanna die can ne one help me??
I know it's hard, but you shouldn't let comments like that get to you. Your worth as a person doesn't come from your appearance or what a random, cowardly person on the internet thinks of you. Repeat that to yourself, if you have to. Of course, there is a difference between saying these things and actually believing them. You want to slowly build up your confidence in yourself - concentrate on what you like about yourself, such as your talent at athletics, and hopefully you'll realise that comments about your weight or appearance don't matter, because it's what you think of yourself that matters.
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I know this is random but does anyone have the link to the purity test (having trouble finding it on quizilla) Thanks
There are many different 'purity tests' online. I quickly googled 'purity test' and found a familiar one http://www.armory.com/tests/400.html but there are lots around so I'm not sure if that's the one your searching for.
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My mom actually needs help with this one, but I'll explain.
Last night my neighbors who are around my age (I'm 14) came over. My mom rented 3 movies (even though we really couldn't afford it) but being the whiners they are, they didn't want to see any of them, so we let them bring their own movie over, for my and my 11-year old bro to watch with them. They chose Scary Movie and I have no idea why their mom let me! It was really inappropriate for my brother, who's going in to sixth grade. I mean, people were giving each other bjs and hjs, a girl got stuck to the ceiling by cum, etc. It was really digusting. The worst part is that they thought it was hilarious, Nick (older one, around my age) in particular kept going, "Noelle, come here" (my mom's name) at the grossest parts. Their mom is normally a pretty good mom but I just don't understand how on earth she could think it was appropriate for my brother. Obviously her boys were too immature for it too. My mom is going to call their Mom, Denise, whom we've been friends with for many years. Denise can get offended and mad very easily, so what should my mom say? And what should she say next time the boys want to bring over a movie?
Sorry about the long question. I rate!
This one might be best left for your mother and Denise to sort out together. I think your mother needs to let Denise know her opinion on the choice of film without sounding like she's criticisng the way Denise raises her own children, as this is likely to make Denise very defensive and will make actually sorting out the problem more difficult. Approach the topic gently, preferably in a place where Denise is comfortable (her home is better than yours) and when her children are out of earshot. Have your mother say that she's not really comfortable with her children, particuarly your younger brother, watching such explicit movies. You want to avoid sounding 'preachy', so make it clear that this is your personal opinion, but one you feel quite strongly about and would like to set down some rules about (such as only PG13 rated films in your home when your brother is around). Hopefully being reasonable and sensitive to Denise despite your differing opinions will mean things can be sorted out smoothly. Good luck!
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So, I've been sorta "seeing" my BEST FRIEND. (he's a guy) lol. and it's really not working out to well. I haven't talked to him in like 5 days, and I used to see him everyday. But the trouble is now, I really like this kid I've known for like 5 years, and we started to talk on Thursday. He leaves for college very soon, and I want to start something with him. I don't wanna hurt my best friends feelings by telling him there might be someone else....I have no clue what to do?!? help.
((I'm a female and I'm 16 yrs old.))
It's not fair to stay in a relationship with a guy if it isn't working out and you are interested in other people. If the situation was reversed, wouldn't you rather he was honest rather than kept things going while you remained obvlivious? The right thing to you is to gently break up with the guy you are seeing. It's probably not necessary to mention this other guy you are interested in - it would only sour his memories of you together with. I'd advise taking things slowly with this new guy though, both out of respect for your ex-boyfriend and yourself, as the last thing you need is an intense relationship with somebody who's about to move away to start college.
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I'm 13, and I am 5`1. Is there any ways I can grow taller? I heard that after you get your period, you stop growing, but i want to keep growing, because I got mine at an early age (9). My mom said that Yoga will add PLENTY of inches (maybe up to 5`6) , but is there another way that I can get taller? Thanks.
Coming from somebody who has been 5'1 for about 6 years, I have to say, I'm sorry, but you may just be somebody genetics has selected will be short. It honestly doesn't matter, unless you desperately want to enter a profession which has a height requirement (such as in the fire brigade or police). Nothing will make you grow if your body isn't meant to be tall, although if you are still growing (which is likely... most people grow a little until they are about 16-18) it's always a good idea to stick to a sensible diet with sensible amounts of all of the food groups (including carbs) and a moderate exercise regime.
Yoga will improve your flexibility and posture, which will possibly make you stand taller and so look taller, but it won't actually change your height.
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