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My Confused Friend
My friend, lets call her Sarah, is completely obsessed with her ex boyfriend. Ive been trying to tell her forever to try and get over him! Hes been such a jerk to her, and he broke up with her to immpress one of his friends. How low is that? How can i get it through her head that she can do better, and stop wasting her time dwelling on the past?
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It's difficult for you as a friend to watch, but you have to leave this one be. She needs to work out herself that this guy is bad news. You can try and encourage her to 'see the light' by talking about him and reminding her of the negative parts of their relationship, but if you just tell her outright that he's a jerk when she doesn't want to hear it (which she won't, being still hung up on him), she'll just find it more difficult to talk to you about it, which will cause friction between the two of you - which is the last thing you want! It's natural to want to protect her from this guy, but at the end of the day, you can't force her to think a certain way or stop her making mistakes. You can try to dissuade her from any further action with this guy, but if that fails, you just have to be there to catch her when she falls. Good luck.
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I went through the same thing with my best friend, but really she has to realise that hes a loser all on her own. It took my friend nearly 2 yrs till she realised it but she has been free from him for a yr. Just continue to give ur friend support and eventually she will realise u were right all along.
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my friend was like that too. She was totally obsessed with her old boyfriend, and it was really annoying. I tried to tell her and all i did was show her how much of a jerk he was. All you have to do is show her how low he is and bring up old times, like if he made her cry make her remember why, and tell her how much of a loser he is if he had to break up with her just to impress a friend. Try and help her find a new guy that might be worth trying to get in a relationship with or try and make her forget about the past and have like a girls night out or something that will take her mind of him.
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Juss be like your to good for him and he duznt deserve a girl like u there are plenty of otha fish in the see so juss try not to thing of him cuz he iz a real jerk and he iznt worth your time and u shouldnt cry ova sum stupid guy like him!! well hope i helped if u need n e thing juss ask*
Caitlin*
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well take her for a girls night. make her realize that you can have fun without the ex boyfirend. does she know that he dumpped her to impress the guys? if not tell her in a nice way... also... bringing new guys into the mix is always fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Bring new guys around her, let her see that there are like waaaaaaay more guys out there and that he seriously isnt worth her time, you just gotta show her that
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I just want to say..I have been on both sides of this dilemma..just recently on Sarah's side. It does get a little annoying when you know that this boy is such a jerk and he isn't worth it...but a lot of times the person who he used doesn't get it. When I was trying to get over my ex i was so thankful for my friends who stuck with me even when they wanted to shake me for being so miserable. Be a good friend and be there for her...don't be afraid to keep telling her it will get better and he doesn't deserve her, but mostly just be there. the obseesion will fade, but getiing upset with her will just make her feel worse. What she needs right now is a lot of love and patience. Hope it helps!
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you have to sit her down and have a little chat with her or you can find another guy how she might like and have her talk with him and she will get over him, or just let there be more time for her to think things through, it will take awhile for her to get over him
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talking to her might work if u constantly remind her that the reason why their relationship ended was becoz he was "using" her and playing with her heart. but this obsession will slowly die when she notices that he no longer shows interest in her. often people dwell on the past because they are afraid of what might happen to them in the future.. reassure her and support her, give her loads of care and hugs and tell her its time to move on. of course try not to sound too irritating, she might not like it.. -Rei
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