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torn between friends...
All right, so, I'm 14/f, and this is basically about my guy friend, Jarrod. He really likes one of my best friends, Cora. He has liked her a really long time, and I was the first person he told after almost a year of liking her. He knows he can trust me not to tell anyone because I am an excellent secret-keeper, and so far I have told no one.
Although I did tell him that he should just tell her. Because I had to do that with this guy I liked, and everything turned out fine. But Jarrod and I both know that Cora doesn't really like him that way, although she really cherishes their friendship, I can tell. I told him that if he didn't do it by the end of this school year, I would tell her. (It's also sort of hard to keep this kind of thing from a best friend of yours for this long, even if Jarrod is a good friend too.)
And now, almost completely out of the blue, Jarrod told me that he's not sure why he told me in the first place, that there are other people he should have told before me, and that he doesn't want me privy to his love life anymore, and that I can't, under ANY circumstances, tell Cora. He also said that there is a personal reason that he doesn't want to tell Cora, and that he could not and WOULD not tell me.
What do I do? Why has Jarrod all of a sudden turned on me? Should I tell Cora and risk Jarrod's trust? HELP!!
Sorry about the long question...I rate!
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I know it's hard to be caught in the middle of this, but if it's important to Jerrod that ly you don't tell Cora about his crush, then you should probably respect that. Maybe you are right, and it would be better if he just told her - but it's not really up to you to reveal his feelings if he'd really prefer to to keep them to himself, whatever the reason. Hopefully if you reassure Jerrod by showing him that he can really trust you to keep his secrets when he wants you to, he'll loose this paranoid streak he's suddenly developed.
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Don't tell her that world be really rude and screwed up!! just don't say n e thing he will say somthing when he's ready..x0x0 Kay
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Jarrod is being stupid. Even,if the girl doesn't like him,he needs to get this off his chest. He'll feel a lot better. He's a pussy if he doesn't tell her. He's afraid to get laughed at and embarrassed if you tell Cora,but so what? It's not your place to tell the girl,he's gotta do that. He told you because he felt he had to get it off his chest to somebody and he picked you. He's really scared now you're gunna say something,but you're not gunna do that. He's acting like a big jackass,you're gunna get rejected in life kid,get used to it. I've been there,you're gunna be there,he's gunna be there and even the almight Cora will be there. That's life.
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i wouldnt tell cora yet. if you wait until the end of the school year, maybe jarrod won't like cora anymore, or maybe jarrod will have already asked her out. if there's a possibility that something could change, i would wait for a while. i dont think jarrod has turned on you, but its probably just that he thinks he cant trust you. if you keep this secret then youll gain back his trust and plus like i said before, who knows whatll happen from now until later. the personal reason is probably the biggest reason he cant tell cora. no problem about the long question, but for right now id just say wait and see what happens before you tell cora. good luck
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no, you shouldnt tell cora. jarrod is just mad because you threatened to break a promise to him. just tell him that you only said that because you thought that it would be best if he told her, because you never know, cuz something could happen between them two.
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You shouldn't tell Cora. 1) That's really his business eventhough he told you. If he doesn't want you to tell her then you can't. 2) You all know that Cora doesn't have feelings for Jarod, so why would you want to hurt Jarod like that by telling her how he feels?
You really have no right to say he HAS to tell her...
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Maybe it's because you told him that if he didn't tell her that you would. You shouldn't of said that. It is his busniess after all, but I can see you wanting to tell your best friend about the secret. I know it's hard but just don't tell her unless he wants you to, maybe he wants to tell her at the perfect time? You never know. Good luck!!
-xXoBrianna
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Not to be rude but i dunt blame him y would you tell that he liked her after he told you not to tell he trusted you if iw as him i wouldnt tell you anything anymore..
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Hmm i think mayb its becouse you told him that if he didnt tell her by the end of the year that u would tell her.I can understand how hard it is to keep a secret from ur bestfriend tho.But i do think u shouldnt tell her.If you do you will just loose jarrod's trust even more.Hope i helped!Good luck babe!
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I don't know if I'll be much of help in answering this question.. but if this would have happened to me.. I'd look at who I've known for the longest time and who has helped me through stuff.. and has told me stuff that was about me..but was supposed to be a secret... You might have to risk jarrod's trust.. but it could all work out for jarrod.. Cora could realize that she does like him.. Hope i helped.. If ya need anything else hit me up..
*~jamie~*
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Thats a "tuffy". but i think the best thing is to just leave him be and don't say anything to Cora, just keep the secret and don't get between them. hope i made sense if not IM me or ask me another question to clarify.
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