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Pregnant Teen - - - Help PLease!
I am a 13 female and recently I just found out I am pregnant. I have no one for the baby except for my boyfriend who is the father. He is 16. My parents and me never keep in touch anymore so I live with my sister who is 18. She is never home and won't get mad if she found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend knows and is really happy. He is glad I am pregnant. But I'm not. I mean I am going to have the baby and keep it and i will love it but I am too young. But I do not know what I should do with my boyfriend. Can anyone give me advice? Please help.
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I think that you should discuss options with your boyfriend. Since you are too young to have a child you should ask him if he would mind if you give birth and give it up for adoption or not. Even if he says he's against it it's your decision. It's your body. But just be warned. If you do decide to have it and keep it you will be faced with hard times. If you give it up it has a chance for a better life and you won't have to get an abortion. And with adoption there's always the possibility of finding your child when you're older and ready for it.
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I could never imagine being pregnant so young. But anyways, I dont think you should drop out of school, and you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, if it was me, I would most likely give up the baby for adoption. Im sorry if Im not much help.
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hey well im 13 too nd i cant imagine being pregnant, i know that it could be difficult for u not having ur parents there with u but since u do have your sister, talk to her nd tell her how u feel nd that u really need help help nd cant go thru this alone nd with just ur boyfriend. you need to also talk to ur boyfriend nd tell him how u feel nd he should be there to support u nd help u thru all of this. make sure u finish school even with ur baby. even try goin to college or get a scholarship.ask ur sister to help you watch da baby after you have it while ur in school. well im against abortion nd i dont think thats best for u, sooo talk to them nd tell them how u feel nd that this is wen u mostly need them in ur life..well i hope i helped nd good luck!
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talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. and im sure your sister will help you out. but stay with school. sorry i couldnt help more...good luck and let me know how it goes.
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Hey, im really sorry your pregnant but if you are before 7 weeks pregnant and if you have any type of youth pregnancy center around go there and they will give u a shot and a few pills to take and thats your abortion or if you DO want to keep it tell your parents deff. but refuse to move in w/ them or anything, trhat will make matters worse and if they offer there help and support, take it. Make sure you GET A JOB!!! and make sure he has one!! and get as much support as possible, thats all i can say or an abortion you can get an abortion w/o your parents knowing..
~Nikki~
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first of all, finish school. When u get to high school don't drop out. try to get a scholarship and go to college. Your sister can help you watch the baby, and so can your boyfriend. I am against abortion, so i wouldn't reccommend that. The thing is though, if you choose to have the baby then you need your boyfriend to support it. If a child doesn't know one of his parents or have a mother as young as you, they are likely to have a more troubled life, as in school or jobs or just plain life. they are more likely to end up in jail or get in trouble. you would have to make sure that your boyfriend would support this child. Anyway, it's not likely that you and your boyfriend will get married. Many marriges whatever end because of their first born child and arguments about them. but please, go through college. you will need money to support your child. by the way, all the marrige and baby facts that I'm telling you are true. Studies have proven that. Fewer than one half of teen mothers recieve a high school diploma. 80% of teen mothers end up on welfare. Don't be part of that 80% or part of the half that doesnt get a high school diploma. Another way you could go is adoption. There are places that let you choose the family for your baby and you can see him/her every week or so. Whatever you do, its your choice. I would talk to your boyfriend about all of this though. A baby is a HUGE responsibility especially at 13. Next time be more careful though make sure your boyfriend or whoever takes the pill and uses a condom. email me if i can be of any more help! =c) oxangelofmyne6xo@netscape.net
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You must talk honestly with your boyfriend about your feelings about being pregnant. If you are considering either abortion or adoption even momentarily, you should talk about your thoughts with your boyfriend - not only because his support as you weigh up your options will be invaluable to you, but also because it's unfair to not keep him informed when he's planning to be actively involved in the child's life. The decesion of whether to give birth, have an abortion or adopt must be wholey your own (as it is your body), but do talk to your boyfriend about what you want to do. Even if you are completely sure you want to keep and raise the child, talking to your boyfriend about his expectations is still important, as if he isn't aware of your differing attitudes about the pregnancy and birth, this will lead to friction between the two of you at some point. Good luck.
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well just tell him that its his baby too and you can't support it urself. ur young but ull get tru it. just try an dbe prepared.
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well he is just as much a part of this as you are so it would be beyond stupid to break up with him right now. I mean you two are going to have a child together!!!! Just let him know the resposibility that he is going to have to take on and make sure he is always there for you. And you should probally tell his parents about it.(if they dont know already that is). Maybe they can help you sicne they are going to be grand parents after all.
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Be happy! Not many fathers to teen mothers stick around! Be glad u have a man to take care of your baby, and not just a sperm doner. I think u guys need to figure out what your gonna do as far as money, living arrangments, school, ect! These are all really important issues that never get discussed. Talk to your sister to! She's 8 and she knows more than you think! Lemme know how things go darlin!!! =) Love ya, Sonnie
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well thats tough.. im assuming since hes happy that he wants you to keep it.. but youre doubting that you want to keep it.. i think you should have a talk with your boyfriend. even thought hes happy about having a child, he has to realize that hes only 16 years old.. and not many 16 year olds are financially stabled to raise a child. being that your sister is only 18, i doubt that shes much help either. i, myself believe that abortion is wrong, but when it comes to kids at such a young age having a child, i feel as though maybe an abortion is the right way to go. so have talk with your guy and let him know how you feel. hopefully you two can work things out
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