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Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/
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U need 2 get outta tht job b4 ur boss thinks ur ez and goes farther....alot farther so0o0o aain its totally ur idea...but i would get out of tht job....fast! Hope I helped and plz rate!
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It's difficult to know if this guy is really a threat or if he just doesn't know where the boundaries of appropriateness are (i.e. touching your face). You could try talking to him and saying that some of his behaviour makes you a litle uncomfortable, but I think the bottom line is that if you aren't comfortable and things don't improve, don't stay. You should feel safe at all times, and if situation pus you on edge, the simplest thing to do is to withdraw. The chances are this guy is harmless, but it's better to be safe than sorry. If there are other similar petsitting buisnesses close by, look into those. If there aren't, you'll have to have a rethink - maybe there are other jobs you'd enjoy doing where you can also work with animals? Good luck.
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If you feel you are in any danger,quit now. Women have a sixth sense about this kind of shit. This guy sounds like a headtrip. It's great you like the job and everything,but you like your life more. You get the fuck outta there.
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tell sumbody! (besides yur mom.) I dont want u to get hurt, and who knows wat this guy is tryin to do. U dont really have to quit yur jod IF he stops, but if he doesnt, i think u shud. U and yur mom can go talk to his wife about it, maybe she cud go talk to him or sumthin. Jus make sure sumbody else knows. Or, u cud confront him about it. If yur there wit sumone, he'll probably lie and say nuthin's up. U'll have a better chance if u go by yurself. BUT, that cud be very danegerous, so talk to his wife. She seems like the one who cud ReAlLy do sumthin about this. Hope i helped!
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three possible scenarios here
1. he could jsut be friendly and you have nothing to worry about
2. he has pedophillia disorder (and yes it is a psycholical disorder) he cant help how he feels but it is highly unlikely that he will try anything
3. he is a willing pedoophile (think michael jackson and r.kelly) and you should carry protection (mace works the best)
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Hmm... I would talk to the guy first, maybe even have your mom come in with you and discuss the whole thing... but if it doesn't work out and he still makes you feel scared and harassed- quit your job. No one has the right to make you feel this way. Especially not someone you work for. If you miss your job too much and you still want to work with animals, consider starting your own petsitting business! It would be really fun and you could still make some money. Put up ads and stick flyers in peoples mailboxes. Maybe even hire some of your friends to join you and work with you! Just forget about that stupid guy and do your own thing!
Hope I helped! Let me know how it goes...
~Lana
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well u never said how old u were but im assuming that ur much younger then he is. first of all it does sound WAY creepy. second of all if ur underage its illagal and can be considered harassment!. 3rd of all i would deffinatly quit ur job, im sure u can get a new one and by staying there its like ur saying it ok for men to do that. ITS NOT. its completly disrespectful to women and terrible to his wife.. this guy is a loser! quit!
hope i could help
*angelea
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I would most definatly quit.
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I think you should talk to your boss and tell him that you know what he is trying to tell you and you hate it and if he wants you to work for him ever again he shall stop the nonsense and leave you alone.I mean he has a wife!
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Alright .. I would talk to your boss and tell him how you feel you're probably a great worker s0o0o you give him an ultimatum If you don't treat me with more respect I'm outta here !!
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It's obvious that you don't feel safe around him. I think you should quit. You can find another job where you feel safe. You don't need to put yourself in a situation where you can get hurt. Get out before it's too late.
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well trust yur instinks and tell if you have to but if you love this job so much then stay with it but you gatta tell his wife or else it might just get worse and BE CAREFUL!
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I would talk to him.. tell him how you feel and that you are not comfortable with him touching you.. just make sure when you tell him this you are in a public place.. bcuz if he does try to hurt or rape you after you tell him.. well he really cant in a public place.. so just be careful.. its risky telling him but.. if you dont he could end up raping u or sumthing or you could tell him and he could take that into consideration..!!
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I would tell him to stop and if he says he doent kno wut your talkin about explain to him that you like the job but if he doesnt stop makin passes your going to take him to court.. you might get fired but you dont want no ugly old man hittin on u hun...hoped i helped
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Ok, well I understand it must be really creepy and awkward. Sounds like a cool job, but if you are really suspicious and these things keep on happening you should definetly quit your job because it's sexual harassment. You dont have to listen to me, but I am just saying you should quit for safety. Good Luck with this, send me an IM if you want to ask more.
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Well you should probably tell his wife. If he's doing stuff like that then she should know. However, she might be too naive to believe you and you could possibly end up getting fierd. It's all about what you think you should do. If you don't do something about it, it more than likley won't stop. He's going to keep hitting on you until you do something about it. If it starts getting more out of control do something immediatly! He could have the urge to go further, like rape or something like that. If it gets too bad, quit your job if talking to the wife doesn't work. If he still hasn't stopped, go to the police.
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