I'm going into my second semester of college and I live in a dorm with two bedrooms where I have one roommate and two suite mates. All four of us became very close and have had a good first semester. Unfortunately, my roommate is now moving out to go to a different school and I will be having my friend move in with me next semester. My friend I have known for 18 years and we have had many fights and many good times. Over first semester, my long time friend and I have had our discrepencies even when we didn't live together and my suite mate has heard me talk about it all so she thinks she already has an idea on what type of person my friend is. Although I had previously asked my suite mate if she cares that my friend will be moving in and she said no, she now says she doesn't think she can live with her because they won't "get along". The problem is, my friend has already moved her things in and there is no turning back. I just don't think my suite mate has even given my friend a chance so I would like to know what I can to do help solve this situation and make sure we all have a great second semester. Thanks so much!
When your friend moves in, have a roommate "party." Play a board game and share some dinner. That will break the ice and give a little insight into how they think. Just share some time together and things will smooth over.
Everybody gets aggravated with their friends sometimes and confides in other people. Try to accentuate the positive side of your friend more for a while. It will probably work out just fine.
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Me and my boyfriend always end up in these steamy makeout sessions with either him on top of me or me on top of him... which ever way we end up we're usually rubbing our bodies together and i think you get the point... what would this be considered as? please tell me... and do you guys consider this bad? we're both virgins and we both believe in abstinence... we never "touched" eachother in inappropriate ways either.. except for maybe on the butt a few times.... but that's it!
There are a bunch of words for it: dry sex, dry humping, and grudge sex. Anyway, it's perfectly all right, and is the only pure form of safe sex. You are still virgins, and it feels good. Your parents may not think its real cool, but sheesh at least you aren't having sex.
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i get horrible cramps right before and during my period. what can i do to make them not hurt so much. i have had to stay home from school like every 2 months when it comes.
Yes medicine helps. Lay off some of the caffeine when you know you are about to go on your period. Chocolate seems like your friend, but it really doesn't help. Sometimes a nice hot bath works. Increase your water intake. I know it sounds weird, but going for a walk or some exercise does help. As you get older, it isn't as bad, but it takes a long time. If it is interrupting your schoolwork, you need to see a doctor.
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I love singing cuz I look up to Alicia Keys I take up piano and I love to sing but my brother and sister make fun of me.Whenever I plan on writing songs I need the right sound but my sister won't let me use the keyboard.She yells at me no it's in my room not yours do you apprehend or is that to big a word for you and so I have to tell her something in big words so she'll shut up for a few minutes.I go to my room and second guess my talent.I wonder when I was in the 4th grade was I only in the All city chorus cuz the other people sucked?If I want to live my dream what should I do while juggling myschool,love,home,and musical life at once? I have too much pressure what do I do?
Definitely get in contact with your local music teacher to steer you in the right direction. You will also want to check out either a fine arts high school or college in the future.
In the meantime, I would be saving up money like crazy to have a keyboard (maybe Santa will bring you one). That way whenever you get a spare moment you can work on your songwriting. You just have to find a way to get it all done. It is a good skill to have, and balancing your time will help you in any job and life in the future.
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Well, about four years ago, my father divorced my mother. It took a little over three years for the divorce to go through. During that time, my father treated me like crap. He was constantly yelling at me, picking on me, and just making me completely miserable. On time, he told his family that I should go to fat camp, and they all laughed at me. He's called me "fat, ugly, stupid, and a piece of sh**." I tried running away, but he caught me, and dragged me back. He also dropped me off on the side of a highway in the middle of winter, and drove off. He lead me to become so depressed, I would hurt myself.
Their divorce was finaliazed, but we had to move our of our house and move in with my grandma. I still visit him on Fridays and Sundays. He's been making us look at houses for him, which makes me really upset. He won't support us at all because he claims he has no money, but he owns his own business, and I've done some detective work, and found out how much he makes. I hate going with him because all we do is look at houses, and it bothers me because we had to move out of our house. My 16th birthday was in September and not one person from his side of the family realized how old I was. My father didn't even have a cake for me. This was one of the most important birthdays for a girl, and he totally ignored it. He just left yesterday to go with his girlfriend to Florida, and didn't even invite us, and also waited until the night before to tell us he was going. He doesn't plan on seeing us when he moves to Florida in a couple of years. Should I just stop goign with him? I'm 16-years-old, and I would rather spend my Friday nights with my friends. I want to have a father, but not one that makes me feel so crappy. What should I do? Should I continue to visit him for the sake of having a father, or should I just forget about him? Thank you so much for helping!
You don't deserve to be treated badly because you are fat. Your dad may be under the deranged notion that yelling at you makes it better. Although it appears to me that he is an uncaring unfeeling bastard. My father used to shame and berate me over the things I ate. All it did was make me want to eat more because that is all the comfort I had. Eventually, we stopped eating with him because dinner became a war zone.
If I had a choice in the matter, I would stop seeing him. Maybe someday he will realize his mistake and come crawling back, but don't count on it.
You have got to stop cutting. There has got to be someone else that can you help you resolve it. If you can't see a counselor, see a member of the clergy. It is just a tool to not deal with the feelings that you need to settle for yourself.
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I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with my boyfriend lately. I've been with him almost 6 years and we have 1 child together, our 1 year old son. My boyfriend is usually an all around nice guy who is family oriented and fun to be with. He is a dedicated worker and family man. But lately he seems self-destructive. Keep in mind he works two jobs so he is working 17 hours 5 days a week which he's been doing over a year now. He gets NO sleep, maybe 2 hours a night. That could be what's getting to him. But he is unwilling to make a change. I told him he either needs depression medication or a job change or both. So he's been extremely mean to me lately, turning everything I say upside down and picking fights with me in front of our son. He seems to not be caring about anything and he's so cold and hard inside. I prefer not to say exactly what, but he's been getting into something substance related, he's having like a relapse of our old party days or something, he's got the wrong friends. He actually took something out in front of our child and I had to pull him from his high chair and take him in the other room. He's like, "what, he doesn't know what's going on." and I'm like, "it' doesn't matter it's the act." Also, he smokes cigarettes and I hate cigarettes and we have an agreement not to smoke in the house. But he's been smoking in here anyway after I go to bed. I don't believe me and my child should have to suffer for his bad habit, he should take it outside. He knows my wishes but goes behind my back anyways. He would normally never do this. I'm not a mean girlfriend, just a good mother. So this is totally not normally him and I don't understand what is happening here. All he does is bitch about life and say how he's going to die early and stuff and I'm so sick of it now. He never wants to do anything anymore with us as family. I don't want our son growing up in this environment, but also, I really love and care about my boyfriend and know that something deep inside him is really wrong and I would hate to turn my back on him, but am tempted to kick him the fuck out, he's really pressing my buttons, it's like he's seeing how far I will go with this. Also, our sex life is nothing to complain about, just so you know. Is this something we may be able to get passed or is this an ending he has created and he's going to lose everything that's good in his life? I know it's up to him to make a change, but how much should I take? Once it's over with us, that's it, it's over, that's why I am putting off the end until whatever sets me off, sets me off. Please help.
He sounds like the responsiblity of keeping his family is really stressing him out. Both of you need counseling now. If he won't go, you go anyway. If you can afford to go to work and help it out that might help; but he is doing everything to get you to get rid of him, and it's working. Have you tried talking to him to see if you can do anything to make him feel better? Losing sleep, doing drugs, and working all the time are definitely not good. It's like he is trying to be gone as much as is possible.
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i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!!
Don't panic. You have to go to the doctor before you are sure you have breast cancer. It could just be a stopped up lymph node, which isn't terrible. So tell you parents and find out for sure, and then decide from their. It's very good that you are testing yourself.
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At night when I'm in bed, my jaw always clinches. It gets so bad to wear it even starts hurting and I can't help doing it. I've tried putting my tongue in between my teeth but I just end up biting my tongue.
It also happens during the day. But I just make sure I always have gum with me because it keeps my jaw from clinching.
Does anyone know of anything I could try that would help? Or should I go to my dentist?
No the mouth guard would help you not to clench down so much. Please see a dentist or doctor soon about this. My boss had this problem, and because she didn't see about it, she had to have surgery. Her jaw had completely locked up. Please get seen.
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Ok, I'm 17 and me and my bf just broke up. Well, i'm not suppose to talk to him ever again and I did. Huge mistake, but now he's saying he will tell my mom we've been talking if I don't see him or do what he wants me to do. What should I do?
Oh yeah blackmail is so sexy this time of year. Forget him. Tell your mom so that she is hearing it from you. You could say something like, "I talked to X today. I now understand why you don't want me to talk to him. He is so manipulative. I am totally not going to do that again." The power is yours and you NEVER have to do anything that you don't want to because of what someone else is threatening to do.
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This coming sunday (The 19th) I'm supposed to sing a duet. The person I'm singing with isn't comfortable singing though her voice is reasonable. She feels immbarrised to stand up and sing in sacrament so we talked with the person that asked us and sister Naylor is going to have her daughter who as a matter of fact, a beautiful singer. I personaly don't want to have Lori sing with us because we will be zoned out for one, Anna and I are not the best singers. The most we can do is stay on pitch and I honestly have never sung in front of anyone because...Well I really don't have that beautiful singing voice that some have. And Two she hasn't practiced with us. (We have to sing with a Harp) So my question to all of you is what do I do? Should I just keep my mouth quiet and just sing with Lori and Anna and not say anything, Or should I share my oppinion with sis. Naylor? I would rather be heard without Lori taking control.
Just try to give me some good advice please.
AG
Tell her how you feel about Lori butting in. Then both of you practice like the dickens. The more comfortable you are with the music, the more confident you can be with your performance. Everybody gets nervous. Just channel it to the good. Pray for confidence, and remember you are doing it to praise God. Your best is all you can give.
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do i need a new transmition if my car won't accelerate past 20 mph or could it be an easy fix?
I doubt its an easy fix. If it is a manual, it could just be a slave cylinder leak that won't let you get any faster,but that is the $300 fix as opposed to the $1200 fix that is a transmission. It could just be a gasket. Check all of your fluids. Put a piece of paper under the car and see what color leaks you might have. If its pink, its transmission fluid.
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I'm 15 and a female. ok i have been liking this guy for a little over a year now. We said we liked each other but we couldnt date because his dad said "i was too young" i just made 15 and he'll be 16 in May. So we decided we would date when i started high school in August. Well about two weeks before school started, i found out he was dating a girl from another school and i confronted him when i called his cell phone and she answered, but thats a whole other story. Well we didnt go to h/c together, he went alone and i went with a senior. We still have not dated but he tells me how much he likes me and I told him we either date or are just friends b/c I cant handle this anymore so he said he really likes me, and when he hears"my boo" he cant stop thinking about me but he said we should be really good friends and let nature take its course, whatever that means. Well I still cant get over him and we still go places together and he calls me and he acts like he likes me, i dont know what hes thinking! and I cant make myself like anyone else. I know it seems like I should just move on but he said hes scared hes going to hurt me again if we date for a while and I deserve better. And he doesnt want to lose our friendship so hes scared to date me. and he knows he messed up before! please help! Sorry its soo long, but what do I do?!
He wants his cake and eat it too. Wait until after he ends this relationship before you even think about starting to date him. His is immature and playing with your heart. This is not nice for anyone to do. And as far as friendship, he doesn't have to lose it. If he is still hung up on that note, then wait until he changes his mind. In the meantime, find someone else, you are worth it.
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okay, i really need some help. One of my best friends is dating a 24 year old!!! and she is ONLY 16. They only talk on the phone though and see eachother maybe once a month at most. It's totally unhealthy.. I'm really scared for her because every time they do see eachother, theyve gone further and further, sexually. They've only made out, hes sucked her boobs, hes fingered her, and theyve had "dry sex" or w/e.. This has been goin on for about 4 monts now.. Ive tried several times talking to her about it, but I just dont know what to do anymore.. please help
Hang it all. Tell her mom. She is in a very dangerous situation. She could either become pregnant and ruin her life, or this guy could take her away. If you can't tell her mom, tell yours. She isn't going to listen to you becuase she is being stupid. She is too young to understand why this is wrong, but apparently you get it.
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i just gave birth 5 weeks ago and my disposible stiches are irrating me so much, the dr said it was normal but id like to hear other opinions...also my discharge is really goopy, i think its the disposable-ness of the stiches??? im not sure...help...
Did you tell the doctor that your discharge is goopy? It is probably normal, but you can just call him and ask him. If you are still worried, maybe you can a different doctor look at it. Itching usually happens when you are healing, but constant redness, puffiness, or pus are a different thing.
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I have been with my boyfriend for three years n still havent got pregant n it is really scaring me because I want a baby now.What shounld I do.
You really should get married for moral and legal reasons before having a child. It would also help with the much needed insurance that you need to have a child in the hospital.
In addition to the "are you really ready yet" answer, why don't you babysit for some relatives and see how it really feels. There are people who volunteer in hospitals to rock unwanted crack/AIDS babies that really need some attention to get better. I know that sounds weird, but it will help you in the long run. Go to the store with a list of all the things you need to take care of a child. It's expensive even for a week.
Both of you do need to be checked out as to health and fertility with a doctor.
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My boyfriend and I had sex about 2 weeks ago almost and on Monday (This passed monday) He didn't have a condom on the first like 10 seconds we did it but then after that he had one on and we didn't finish because I was scared we just stopped. It was a total of about 5 minutes at the most. I woke up on Monday and I went to go to the bathroom and it would burn when I'd pee. So I went to the doctor and she took a urine sample and I just got the test results back today and she said that it was positive for a bacteria. I'm a little scared because I don't know if there is a chance I could be pregnant at all. I was at my least fertile the day we did it but I'm just scared. I've been trying so hard to get information on it and I'm fed up searching countless sites for the answer. Can ANYONE, for the love of GOD PLEASE tell me if coming up positive for a bacteria could be that I am pregnant? I've talked to my boyfriend about and he said that the chances were very low and this was before I got my results back. Can you Please please please tell me if getting your urine sample back as POSITIVE for a BACTERIA could I be pregnant? Thank you SO much if you can help me!!
Why in the heck didn't you ask for a pregnancy test while you were there? It would help alleviate your anxiety. It is possible to be pregnant because there is no "less fertile" day. It has been discovered that you ovulate more than once a cycle, and that is why the rythm (sp) method does not work.
Bacteriosis can be treated with medication, and is not serious unless you aren't treated for it. You can become infertile if you aren't treated. Sometimes it is mistaken for a yeast infection, and that is why it is recommended that you go to the doctor if you are having problems. **************************************************
She isn't stupid. Go to a different doctor. You should have thought about all of this before you had sex.
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if you had the opportunity to have sex with someone you weren't dating but have hooked up with a lot over the past few months would you? i guess im just wondering because everyone says sex is supposed to be a "special" thing you share with someone you love. I think i'm ready but i'm not even dating the guy let alone love him-so if i think he is the right guy to have sex with is he worth the risk? My friend told me, "if you like him don't do it, if you don't like him then go for it"
also on a side note-if you were my friend would you lose respect for me if i made the decision to have sex?
thanks a lot yall :)
Sex is not a light thing. If you should become pregnant, and you can, you will need that person's support in taking care of the child. You could end up with a complete idiot for a father or one that doesn't even show up. Plus the STDs you can get even if you do have a condom. And it is much better if you do love the person you are sleeping with. Sex is not the end all be all of a relationship. A good relationship should never require sex to keep it alive.
Now if you had sex with someone you didn't like, I would not be very happy with you. Plus you are going to feel like a creep. I would not stop being your friend, but I probably give you hell about it. I would worry about you and what you are doing to yourself emotionally and physically.
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I guess the best way to describe how I need advice is to briefly explain my situation.
I met this guy on Saturday Nite. The moment I saw him, I was stuck with a still focus. He looked back and forth, but it wasnt until his friend pointed out to him that I was looking over.
His friend tapped me on the shoulder and said that my friend is interested in you, but scared in approaching you. Nervous, well I guess we both were.
I walked over and introduced myself very bluntly, but friendly, because I thought that it was now or never. I shook his hand, and we briefly chatted, but the nervousness kept blocking both of us in having a normal conversation.
about 1 hour later, I walked back over to him and I gave him my mobile phone, and said 'here can i have your number'? He said yes, and put it in.
He offered to drive me home, as I was not driving that night. I was about to say yes, but I walked over to my friends, and asked them for advice. 2 of them said to say no, because unless you want to have sex tonight, dont go. I didnt go, because I never sleep with someone just for sex. Its more a need to trust first, then sex second.
I refused and said I would call him. He said ok.
I called him the next day, being sunday, and he invited me over for a movie at his place. I made it there at about 9pm. We spoke briefly, but went straight into the movie. It was probable the wrong movie to watch because it was a little erotic. I didnt choose this because of the erotic level, but rather because it had a story to it as well, and it was amazing.
after the movie, we spoke about out past a bit, about our interests as so on. He shared a lot of information, and I listened open minded. Then he asked me about my past. I was hesitant at first, but only because every other person I have met on a previous time has not wanted to see me again based on my past. No I havent murdered anyone, but I have been through a lot with my parental upbringing, meaning my parents subjected me to quite a vast amount of emotional torture. I never really have gotten over it, but everyday I try. I am only 25 but all the pain stopped at approx. 21. but the last 4 years have been very hard because emotionally and spiritually I have been very confused, very lost, and lonely due to it all.
Anyway, I told him that I didnt want to tell him yet, because of people running away due to the emotionally deepness of it all. He still wanted to know, and he put his head on my lap and started to stoke my knee, saying its ok, im not going anywhere. Please tell me. So i did. Not all, but bits and pieces. He still layed on my lap, but he grew more and more speechless and I became more and more confused. He said that although its a lot of information, its stuff people usually never tell people. I said well you persisted in asking me, I wasnt going to tell you, but I did only because you asked.
It was now 3am Monday Morning. I didnt want to drive home, because it was 35 minutes drive, and I said, if i slept here on the couch would you be offended. he said, come and sleep on my bed, and we can just cuddle, and nothing more, i promise.
I said ok. I walked into his room, and he kissed me, I stopped and looked at him, but the kiss was so passionate that I kissed him back. We didnt have sex, he didnt even offer. but what i did was fall asleep next to him, holding his hand.
I woke up, needed to leave, and said I have to go, around 7:30am this was. He said, kiss me, I did, and it was so different, because I have never felt this way. It wasnt love, I know, but it wasnt Lust either, It just felt really nice to be held by someone again. It was a long time since this had happened.
I left, and he walked me to my car. I opened my window, and he kissed me through the car window goodbye.
I drove off confused So Very Confused. Because It was the first time I had ever felt this feeling inside, but I was feeling very weird. He is 21 by the way.
I got home, got dressed, and headed off to work. I took my mobile with me, but because I had not much sleep, and this emotional feeling that was inside me exploding inside me, made me not keep my mind on my job all monday. I texted him later in the day, and I said that I had never felt this way before, and I dont want to scare you off, but am i moving too fast in saying that I feel something with you, something so powerful, something so profound and I cant explain it. He said no. You are not moving fast at all. Its ok.
I left that phone call thinking that this might be the one. and yes it was only the second day, but my heart was powerfully moved and my emotional connection with him was rapidly moving to climax. I wasnt sure of it all.
Tuesday came, and I rang him that night and offered him to come to meditation class with me. I said that its not hard to learn, and I would really love for you to come. I said think about it and please let me know either way. The class was on Wednesday Night at 7:30pm. He kept referring the whole meditation thing as 'HIPPY STUFF'. But I tried to reassure him that it wasnt.
Wednesday came, I didnt hear anything all day, so I turned on my phone, and texted him at 6:30pm. I said that I am off to Meditation class soon, and are you still coming. He first texted me and said, that you need to slow down a bit, cos im getting freaked out. I was ok, sure sorry I will.
he texted me back and said I am sorry, I am up having dinner with a mate. would you like to come and join us. I replied and said but im not dressed, and im in my work clothes. he said its ok. so i did.
I showed up, and we had dinner. he wasnt as talkative as usual, but I mean, we had been in contact non-stop, well actually I had been, not him, for the past 4 days. But remember he said I wasnt moving too fast. So i interpreted this as ok, keep moving at the current speed, its fine.
I spoke more to his mate and his mate was 15ish years older than him. We all walked to a quiet bar and sat and talked. I drant water because I didnt feel like alcohol. He didnt also. he sat next to me, and we hardly spoke. I guess I was nervous being with him like this, because the more I saw him, the more I grew closer to him. I didnt think it was love, but it sure felt like it.
I spent most of the nite on my mobile phone, texting people, because I was very nervous, and I didnt want to come on too strong, and I didnt want to freak him off. I liked him too much and didnt want to loose him to something so simple as my egarness.
he told me that i should put the phone down, but before i did, I texted him and said "do you know you are so sexy tonight"
he replied saying "haha. I know"
I thought nothing of the comment, and started talking about other things. then a friend from work came in and saw me. I was all nervous, i dont know why, but she walked past and said hi.
she sat over to my left on another lounge with 3 other girls. He was looking over at these people, and lots of others that walked past him. it was a little sad to watch his eyes roll all over them.
then suddenly he put his arm around me and yelled really loud, SO EVERYONE KNOWS NOW! ITS NO LONGER A SECRET. it embarrised me so much, but i didnt hate him, i just grew more silent. His friend told him to stop it, because he was embarrising me.
What confused me was the fact that one minute he is laying on my lap, begging me to tell him my past, stoking my knee. sleeping together, holding his hand. kissing him. kissing me goodbye through the car window. telling me i am not moving fast, and then i am, and that i am scaring him off. then inviting me out to dinner, and not talking to me much, and then putting his arms around me and speaking loudly. I didnt know what messages he was sending me, and it was making me emotionally confused.
We finished the night off, walking along the beach, the 3 of us, and then heading to a bar, where i played a game of pool with his mate. It was an all in all good nite, except he was silent, and he didnt say goodbye to me, but his friend said bye instead. his friend offered me a concert ticket to join the two of them on Monday night. I accepted.
He didnt say goodbye, and I was confused further. I guess I knew something had happened. but what?
I texted him in the morning, and said thank your for the night, and that I enjoyed myself quite a bit. by the way, we had already organised another date just the two of us, a few days earlier. on friday nite to have dinner somewhere.
anyway i texted him saying that i had a great night and that i enjoyed myself. I switched off my phone, and went to work, and didnt switch it back on, because i couldnt take any distractions today due to heavy work load.
I got home at 6:30pm, turned it on, and recieved a text back from his mate and him. his mate said that he got the tickets to the concert, 2nd row. but he texted me saying that I made him out to be a complete slut last night, and that i embarrised him. well I was confused again, but I was so sad to be confronted like that, so i texted him right back, and said I was on my way to talk to you to explain myself properly. He texted me back saying that he would rather speak about it on friday night. tonight was thursday. I said fine, ok, no worries, but also said sorry for any problems I may have caused.
I went over a friends house that evening, and he was online on the dating website I joined. although we didnt meet through this site, because it was local, we met at a bar. I messaged him and said hey, its me.
he messaged me back 10 minutes later. and he wrote that we could never have a relationship due to what happened last night and that because you hinted to me that you want a full on relationship, and that i dont. He said just because of this comment it doesnt mean that I want to f#%k around, but rather I cant see myself with you now. I am only 21.
I messaged him back, trying to get an explaination for the comment. he said join me in a private message chat room. i did.
he said that because of all of the shit last nite, i cant see myself with you long term. you are ready for a relationship and i am not. his profile on the website also states that he is after a relationship too. so again i was confused.
I started to cry and my friend i was with sitting next to me, was very confused, as to why i was getting so attached so soon to someone i barely knew.
we chatted for approx. 1 hour. and i poored so much emotion out that night, he didnt speak at all. I said all what i have told you, that the mixed messages, moving too fast then im not, so on. and he said, that why are you like this. any normal person would have told you to f#@k off by now, because you are freaking me out. then i was so sad, for that comment, i said i was hurt, my heart was crushed, and so on. [I can still feel the pain right now]. I said that i am not sure if i can be just friends because all i want to do is grab you kiss you and hold you. I feel something so profoundly impactfully stong and powerful, and why you dont see this, is beyond me. I said that if we were to sustain a friendship, after this big week, I would have to bottle all my feelings for you, and put a lid on them all. and try to be just friends. but i said it would be hard.
and then he said very little, but he said he wants to be friends. more than ever. but I was too sad to make a decision that night. he said he had to go to sleep for work the next day.
I couldnt sleep all night, because of the issues looming in my mind. i woke up every 1 hour tossing and turning. I woke up at 6:30am, and texted him one last time being Friday, the day we are to go out for a date. I said i was sorry for last night, sorry for going all emotionally distraught, so on. and I would like to come over tonight and speak to you in person, if that is to say goodbye, or to stay friends, i dont want to do it on the internet or the phone, i need to speak to you face to face.
I did ring his friend and say that I am shocked. that has he spoken to him? and he said no. I told him briefly, that I was feeling so connected to him, and I was afraid that i stuffed it all up, that i destroyed it all, because i moved fast. he said i did move too fast, but there is something you must know about this guy you are in love with. he is a very touchy feelie person. he did the exact same thing to another person 2 months ago. and the same reaction you are having happened. I said that have i blown my chances, and he said i am not sure, but i will talk to him, and say that you are deeply regreting loosing him as a friend. I said thanks. I also said that do you think that i should give the concert a miss because I might be moving again too fast too soon. seeing too much, and he may need time to settle down. cool down so to speak.
he said ill get back to you after i speak to him today.
which brings me to now. writing this.
the advice i am after is:
was i too fast.
am i too emotionally deep
is there something wrong with me
did i do things wrong.
why did i get attached so emotionally to this person
and what was the feeling in my body, if it wasnt love and wasnt lust.
i dont know if its me, but it sure feels like hell today. I am awaiting his return message but i am doubting he will message me and let me speak to him tonight.
ps: sorry my story is so long. i needed to set the story right so you could understand better.
thank you for reading it.
You reavealed a little more than he could handle too soon, but he seems a bit childish in telling his friends everything. That is immature and unfeeling of him. Before you enter another relationship, you need to heal. You attached yourself to him because you need to reach out to someone and feel loved. It's a normal to a point, but can leave you open for pain. Waiting around for him to call you is not a good thing. Give him a break. Men tend to run away when they think the prey is easy. You are very needy right now and it can be overwhelming to another person. You need to talk to a counselor or someone you can trust. A member of the clergy might help you with the feeling lost thing. It's awful to feel this way, but you can set yourself up for an unhealthy relationship.
The thing you felt was warmth and an ear, which you need very badly. It has happened to me before and can be very deceiving. Pour yourself into your meditations, and try to find center because you are a bit off balance. There is nothing horribly wrong other than you need someone to talk to.
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where can i find out what T.S. Eliot was thinking when he wrote Whispers of Immortality??
thanks
You can read commentaries on poetic work at the library. You may can find it online as well. Try googling the title.
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im 16/f
my parents offerd to by me a car. whats a good 1?
Lucky you. I had a Trans Am. My parents were out of their mind. The last thing you want is people who like you because of your car.
I am currently in a '94 Jeep Cherokee, and I have put it together (geez it had like 180,000 miles on it before the new engine). It is not the safest thing in the world, but I like the power and you can put stuff in it.
If your parents could get you a good used Volvo, that would be great because of all the safety features. Hondas can be really cool, and they get good gas mileage. I had one in college. I miss it. Chances are you are probably going to scratch it up, so a solid used car is probably your best bet.
Think about some of the things you would like to do in your car and find the one to match it. Don't necessarily turn up your nose at a manual shift because it is actually kind of fun. It takes a little learning, but it helped me get my friends safely back from a party when I knew how to drive it.
DON'T EVER LEND YOUR CAR TO YOUR BOYFRIEND. I don't care how much he begs. You will be paying for it for at least 3 years after he wrecks it in astronomical insurance premiums. This applys also to your best friend.
Learn how to change a tire before you go out in one. Ok. So you didn't ask all of this, but this is experience talking her. Best wishes.
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