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my best friend and her bf
okay, i really need some help. One of my best friends is dating a 24 year old!!! and she is ONLY 16. They only talk on the phone though and see eachother maybe once a month at most. It's totally unhealthy.. I'm really scared for her because every time they do see eachother, theyve gone further and further, sexually. They've only made out, hes sucked her boobs, hes fingered her, and theyve had "dry sex" or w/e.. This has been goin on for about 4 monts now.. Ive tried several times talking to her about it, but I just dont know what to do anymore.. please help
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The problem is that with this age gap it might be likely that she will develop stronger feelings that he wil, although that isn't always the case. Because she is 16 it is up to her whether she has sex or not and the really difficult thing is that when you start seeing someone, you often get so wrapped up in your own feelings that you don't take advice. Have you tries talking to her? You have to make her understand in the nicest way possible that he is 8 years older than her. Is she grown up for her age? You have to ask her to question why he has chosen someone her age and not his. It will be very difficult to try and say these things to her without her taking them the wrong way. You really need to let her know that you are her friend and you will support her but she rally needs to understand that something might go wrong. Do you know any of his friends and could ask them if he is serious about her, if he is cheated on her?? Why do they see eachother once a month? Is that him making the decision to only see her once in a while?
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You are definately right. It is not healthy for her or him. I'm thinking maybe he is just kind of using her because of her body and what she gives to him if you know what I mean. You should try talking to her. Ask her if she loves him. Then ask her if he loves her. And also the age difference is very large. He is most likely alot more advance than she is. I think it would be better for her to date with people her own age so she can slow down a bit.
I hope I helped<3
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try talking to her again and tell her how much you care about her and that you dont want anything to happen to her. if this doest work, just tell her you want nothing to do with her if she is going to act the way she is acting with a 24 year old. hope i helped!
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yah it sorta like hes raping her but not in the normal way..yah kno? you gotta tell her tht its gunna hurt her..yah she mite thingks she loves him..just cuz he does all tht shyt to her..prob makes her feel special but tell her tht its gunna hurt her in the long run..does her parents no..you have to tell them too..see if they can do nething bout it..it mite b hard to tell her but you have to if you care bout her tht much:-)
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dude... sorry to say this.. but that nasty and another thing he's almost like raping her. and that aint right. try telling her again. Does her parents know? they need to talk to her. like i said hes raping her but not hitting raping.
hope i helped..
Christine
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tell me again, why does that bother you? and why is that any of your business?
if they are happy and are willing to that then as long as they dont get caught having sex then it will all be ok.
granted it is illegal and he could be charged of corruption of a minor its none of your business. because she is of age of consention, thats pretty much all the can get him for. they may be able to get him for rape but she would have to testify that it was and there would have to be proof. so it could happen but it would be unlikely.
dont worry about it.. let them go. as long as they are both happy and enjoying themselves with each other it is nothing to be freaking out about. in my opinion it is still none of your business.
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Hang it all. Tell her mom. She is in a very dangerous situation. She could either become pregnant and ruin her life, or this guy could take her away. If you can't tell her mom, tell yours. She isn't going to listen to you becuase she is being stupid. She is too young to understand why this is wrong, but apparently you get it.
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From what I have gathered here, the dude just wants some action. Sadly, your friend has fallen for the "hes older and mature" type crap. You need to sit her down and force her to talk about it. Tell her its unheatly. She IS going to do something she will regret. It needs to end. You need to end it for her. This may seem harsh in a way but it must be said. If what it takes is to hurt her feelings then by all means do it. In the end she will understand and realize you were right. Dont let her make the wrong choices. Let her make the right ones.
I Hope I helped!
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