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My Parents Are Divorced, My Dad Treats Me Like Crap...What S
Well, about four years ago, my father divorced my mother. It took a little over three years for the divorce to go through. During that time, my father treated me like crap. He was constantly yelling at me, picking on me, and just making me completely miserable. On time, he told his family that I should go to fat camp, and they all laughed at me. He's called me "fat, ugly, stupid, and a piece of sh**." I tried running away, but he caught me, and dragged me back. He also dropped me off on the side of a highway in the middle of winter, and drove off. He lead me to become so depressed, I would hurt myself.
Their divorce was finaliazed, but we had to move our of our house and move in with my grandma. I still visit him on Fridays and Sundays. He's been making us look at houses for him, which makes me really upset. He won't support us at all because he claims he has no money, but he owns his own business, and I've done some detective work, and found out how much he makes. I hate going with him because all we do is look at houses, and it bothers me because we had to move out of our house. My 16th birthday was in September and not one person from his side of the family realized how old I was. My father didn't even have a cake for me. This was one of the most important birthdays for a girl, and he totally ignored it. He just left yesterday to go with his girlfriend to Florida, and didn't even invite us, and also waited until the night before to tell us he was going. He doesn't plan on seeing us when he moves to Florida in a couple of years. Should I just stop goign with him? I'm 16-years-old, and I would rather spend my Friday nights with my friends. I want to have a father, but not one that makes me feel so crappy. What should I do? Should I continue to visit him for the sake of having a father, or should I just forget about him? Thank you so much for helping!
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Gosh...It sucks that crap like that has to happen to people. If I were in your shoes and things really were as bad as you say they are, I would probably stop seeing my dad. But...this is one of those situations where it really is just up to you...I know it's gotta' be terrible having a "deadbeat dad" like that. I mean, you have to love him because he's your father, but what he's doing is just wrong. Things will get better for you. And I'm sorry I couldn't give you definite advice on which decision to make.
P.S.- Yay for using good grammar!! lol
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You don't deserve to be treated badly because you are fat. Your dad may be under the deranged notion that yelling at you makes it better. Although it appears to me that he is an uncaring unfeeling bastard. My father used to shame and berate me over the things I ate. All it did was make me want to eat more because that is all the comfort I had. Eventually, we stopped eating with him because dinner became a war zone.
If I had a choice in the matter, I would stop seeing him. Maybe someday he will realize his mistake and come crawling back, but don't count on it.
You have got to stop cutting. There has got to be someone else that can you help you resolve it. If you can't see a counselor, see a member of the clergy. It is just a tool to not deal with the feelings that you need to settle for yourself.
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I think it would be best to just tell him to screw and be done with it. You deserve so much better than a father that treats you like shit. You should be able to hang out wiht your friends on fridays and not have to go with him "house" hunting. He's a prick, simple as that. He's abusive emotionally and no one should be subjected to stuff like that. So this is what you do. You tell him that you've had enough of his bullshit and that you refuse to include him in your life. Your mother and grandmother are wonderful people, so you dont need your dad at all. :) Tell him to screw for me, okay? :D Love you!!!!
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That's so wrong I was learning in family life that that is verbal and emotional abuse.If I were you I'd talk to your guidance councelor at school cuz that's just wrong
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You need to bring this up with your mom. You can't contiune to let him treat you like this. He's not a real dad. You probably still want a dad but your mom can do much better. He left you out on the side of a highway?!?!?!?! He may have some mental disabilities (or however you spell it). If stuff like cursing you off and leaving you on the side of the road keeps up you need to call the childcare hotline. If I can find it I'll edit this answer and put it on here. I hop I helped!
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YOUR dad is a sob( son of..)!! I am sorry..but for him to PUT you down when he is a super HUGE loser..man..would that I could go beat this crapola DAD down..
sorry..kids are gifts..and i am thinking I totally know why your Mom decided to dump this guy.
No I would not give him the time of day...besides the fact that he verbally ABUSED you, does not support you either financilly or emotionally...this guy is so SELFISH he cannot even remember your b-day. Sweet 16 is THE most important day in a teenagers life..grrrrrrrrrrr
Do not visit him..if he or your mom ask..tell them that you dad is not emotinally there for you and that you want to save yourself by keeping the pain he INFLICTS on you..to a minimum.
But remember..you are awesome. Any father but your stupid LOSER of a father would be proud and grateful for a girl like you. You hold your head up high and realize that your dad is losing out on the GREATEST gift that God give us...children.
Print this out..send a copy ot your dad with a it's been nice to know you..but i am ASKING SANTA FOR A NEW DAD!!!!!
Sorry...but to me..he really has no redeeming qualities to continue down this path...
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I think you should just 4-get about him. I mean wut kinda dad will sit up there and make fun of u. That's just wrong. so 4-get all about him and spend time with the people who really care 4 u. I also think that you should go and tell a counsler or someone about when he left you on the side of the highway. That is child abuse. Fur reel. Good Luck! Spend time with your friends.
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Well, you might regret it if you cut off all ties with your father, but you should never have anyone especially your parent treat you as such. Maybe you should not go with him as much, but still see him. Things could possibly get better at one point in time, so it's better to have atleast some contact. This might not be the best advice and I'm sorry if it doesn't help. Do whatever you are most comfortable with and you think you will benefit the most.
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Well, personally I think he's an asshole and he's the one that's the shitty person becuase he isn't even mature enough to raise you or even treat you like you should be treated. I would stop visiting him that's just me but if you would rather just visit him just to have a father hey be my guest. But would you rather stop feeling shitty on those Friday nights or instead just hang out with your friends and chill? I would just stop visiting him completely he probably wouldn't care anyways of what your saying about him. Just leave him be and see if he responds to you about not visiting anymore. Good luck with your dad problems! Hope i helped atleast a lil*
Shannon
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holy crap.. if i was you ide be out of there.. does your gaurdian know about this!?! this is crazy... also u should call dcfs and tell them the stuff he does or what he used to... or just find sumwhere to go every friday.. that would get annoyin though. sorry@@
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omg! thats so sad! that like made my eyes all teary! ok well my parents went threw a divorce like that but it was painful.. like i know its hard loosing your parents that was hard for me but my dad never called me fat or ugly or nething like that.. im really sorry your goin threw this! well what you can do is maybe just go talk to him like you and him and tell him how bad it hurts you. maybe you need to stop seeing him for a while and just like call him every week.. and maybe like on sunday night go out to dinner and just work on that then as you build up keep on seeing him more! well my dad treated me bad and he also like never calls me. but were working it out. it hurts because he will yell at you for stuff you didnt do and all this crap and you kno make you feel upset and maybe even start crying.. or maybe at lunch he can meet you come where while your in schooll.. or maybe on like saturday nights or over the weekend you can spend the night over there and take a friend or 2!! well i hope i helped and if you need nething else you can im me!! ly XoXoXo's MaRiSsA
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Omg that almost made me cry. That is completley unacceptable for a father to do that to his own child! You should tell your mom what's been going on, and you really need to tell her you've been hurting yourself. You don't need to hurt yourself hun it's not your fault. You shouldn't try to keep in touch with your father or his side of the family as long as they are treating you this poorly. They will only make fun of you and treat you like you're nothing. Everyone wants, NEEDS, to have a father. I have no choice because my father died when I was three, but I've been living without one. It must hurt you a lot to know your father doesn't treat you well, but you'll always have your mother and her side of the family to support you and be there for you. If you ever need a shoulder to lean on, you can consult with your friends too. You don't have to be alone in this. I can't put in words how sorry I am for you, but I hope you can make it through. If you need anything more, I'm here for you.
~laura
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Wow. First off. Does your mother know about this, or any aunts on her side, friends? I think you should try talking to you mom about this, she'll probably be there for you. As for your father, that's not a father at all. Who calls their own daughter down to the lowest and forget's her birthday. You should try at least talking to him and if he doesn't listen, try not going to see him for awhile. Maybe you not being there, he'll realize what he's missing.
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awwww!!! you should bring this up with your mom.. or like sneak a tape recorder in ur coat so ull have proof..OR just try being really really nice to him n ask to spend time with him *hope i helped* love alwaiiz, aLi
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