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Living Situation
I'm going into my second semester of college and I live in a dorm with two bedrooms where I have one roommate and two suite mates. All four of us became very close and have had a good first semester. Unfortunately, my roommate is now moving out to go to a different school and I will be having my friend move in with me next semester. My friend I have known for 18 years and we have had many fights and many good times. Over first semester, my long time friend and I have had our discrepencies even when we didn't live together and my suite mate has heard me talk about it all so she thinks she already has an idea on what type of person my friend is. Although I had previously asked my suite mate if she cares that my friend will be moving in and she said no, she now says she doesn't think she can live with her because they won't "get along". The problem is, my friend has already moved her things in and there is no turning back. I just don't think my suite mate has even given my friend a chance so I would like to know what I can to do help solve this situation and make sure we all have a great second semester. Thanks so much!
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hey what i would do is tell her straight up.. that she has been your friend for a long time and she is actually pretty cool... and you should tell her to give your friend a chance... and be like yea since we have been friends for a long time it is like we are sisters so thats why we get into fights like that... not because shes a bitch or anything... and if she still says the same thing tell her to try at least.. i mean its not going to kill her
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When your friend moves in, have a roommate "party." Play a board game and share some dinner. That will break the ice and give a little insight into how they think. Just share some time together and things will smooth over.
Everybody gets aggravated with their friends sometimes and confides in other people. Try to accentuate the positive side of your friend more for a while. It will probably work out just fine.
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Interestingly enough I had a similar experience this semester, only I was the newcomer. I am a freshman and the three people I was roomed with are juniors who have lived together since they were freshman. It was a bit ackward at first, but it worked out. I think you should still have your friend move in. You should just keep an eye on both of them, see if they do get along. If you think it might help, because it really depends on your friend, you might want to tell your friend that you're not entirely sure how it's going to work out. At the very least you should tell your suitemate that your friend is actually a really nice person, and so on. Maybe before classes start all four of you could go someplace around campus and hang out. It would certainly help break the ice.
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Don't have your friend not move in on account of your suite mate. Your suite mate may just be taking the change hard since the other four of you kicked it off so good the first semester. Now with one leaving and a newbie entering, it will take getting used to and that's easy for some and harder for others. Try to ask your suite mate to try and get along, because you don't know until you try. If things don't go too well, then that's between them, really. All you have to do is enjoy the company of your friend and hopefully no bad times will come of it. If your suite mate gets mad at you about it, um, well, it's Oh Well for her. Hope everything works out for you all.
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just let your suite mate know that your friend is a great person to get along with and that she should just give your friend a chance befor she judges the situation...tell her that if she doesnt give your friend a chance then no it wont work out...tell her that they should get to know eachother and hang out and get to know eachother.
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