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I'm a new young mom who has a lot of things to say to whomever is willing to listen :). I promise not to judge you no matter how crazy you may think your questions are and I will give the best answer I possibly can!

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hey, i'm a fourteen year old and i've never kissed a girl in my life, idk how, and i'm too shy to do it, a lot of people think i'm good looking and i've had a lot of gf's, i've just been too shy to do it, and i don't know how, so, yeah, any tips?

well, life is short. dont sit around and watch it fly by. your young....do SOMETHING! dont think...just kiss her and get it over with. its better to kiss someone then wonder afterwards wat would have happend if you did right?

okay im 13/f and ive kissed a few guys but i've never made out but i want to but i dont know how.. please help

well, everyone has there own way to make out. just a little tip though. keep your nose out of the way lol. hope it helped.

okay my friend got fingured by her boyfriend. shes just about 2 weeks late for her period, and she keeps asking me if that could have affected her period track. she keeps thinking shes pregant, but i know that cant be the case. can someone finguring you cause you to skip a period? or any thing? please post and fast with advice!!

no it cant. if your friend is really consernd then tell her to see a docter.

okay heres the downlow. Whenever my boyfriend is around girls he always flirts with them, even if i'm right there. then when i talk to him about he'll either say i never did that or oh i'm sorry i won't do it again, but he never changes! I don't know what i should do. Part of me wants to break up with him and another part of me doesn't! So what should i do!!??

I'm 13,Female

alright tell your bf that if he doesnt stop then your not gonna take it anymore. tell him the next time he does that your breaking up wtih him. you can do it!

Why should people become Christains? Like what iss the purpose in it?

i never thought anyone would ask that. its because you get so much out of it. i mean after awhile you learn that god gives you gifts everyday. its just a great feeling.

What is the differnece between Catholic, Lutheren and Christian religions? I want to know about the differences befor i pick one.

ok, well, catholic's have alot of stupid ritual stuff....on offence to people who are catholic..but catholic churches scare me. ok anywho, and christians and lutheren's r pretty much the same thing.

ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?

a part of me says

"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."

then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"

any input?

wait untill you get married. i mean even if your husband isnt a virgin...then that means he problably regreats doing it with another girl besides you. do you really want to go through with the rest of your life regreating that moment? i think not. i hope you dont. ♥ leah

My fiancee wants to have sex, and the bad thing is, IM SCARED OF SEX. I am almost positive my hymen is intact, because I don't masturbate, im a virgin,and I detest tampons. Any suggestions?? And since I know were getting married in August, don't tell me to wait, because he's talking about sex on our wedding night, and since I've already told him Im scared, he still wants it, wich I don't blame him, were both virgins, we both dont have diseases of any kind, and after all, IT IS OUR WEDDING NIGHT, so its not furnication (since were both Christians) so please help me, because I'm scared of the blood and the pain. Btw, is it true that when you pee after sex it hurts? My mother said it hurts the first couple times you have sex, and that you bleed, and it hurts, and it burns when you pee for weeks. Is any of this true? Plz help me.

alright. you love this guy right? well, i hope you do, bc your geting married. but anyways, my sister is not a virgin and she says all the pain is worth the pleaser. and if you love him then once your married he should be worth all of the pain. think about who your with when you have sex...not the pain. hope i helped ♥ leah

Okay, I don't know what to do. Should I shave my bikini area? I've shaved it before and it was really itchy and painful. I don't know whether it's normal to be shaved or not. Is it?

ya just dont go too far in

I have this really good workout for my outer thighs and it works great! but this workout doesnt work my inner thighs. does anybody have a good workout for your inner thighs??
thanks! i'll rate high!

jogging, and swimming

hey i just came up with a weird question that i really want to know the answer to. if a bug bites a cat (like a misquito) will the cat have to itch it like humans? haha i know it's stupid but i wanna know! haha.

yea it will

why is virginity and breaking virginity such a big deal? like oh, you had sex for your first time. whats so big about taht? all it is is having sex except the first time. im serious can someone tell me why this is so big?

well, its because your giving your mind, body, and soul to this person. its showing your love in a whole new way. its totaly diffrent from anything else. i hope this answered your question.

Okay, I asked the discharge question like an hour ago. My period just came but i dont know how to tell my mom cause someone from her work is here so shes working with her. How should I tell her, i dont wanna call her upstairs, that'd be too obvious but i dont wanna go downstairs to tell her either! HELP!

alright. just look for a pad in the bathroom or wherever. if you cant find one then you have no choice but to wad up some toliet papper and go with that. but i do think you need to go down there. i mean there both girls...they will understand. just say mom, hi, um...can i talk to you for a minute. then tell her. you dont have to tell her in front of her friends...or who ever. hope i helped.

hi, ive been going out wih my girlfriend for like 4 months now. we are in love. now i know what your gonna say, its only been four months. well, screw you. if your gonna say stuff like that please dont answer, because you dont know the whole story. anyway, im a virgin, and i want us to make love. i am waiting until i am sure who i want the first person to be, and ive found her. im not nervous of i or anything, but i want to know it is a good idea. I mean i love her, i really do, and i dont want things to get screwed up because of this. shes had sex before, so she warns me that you can take back your first time, and i know that. but im sure, i just want outside input... thanks

your gf has a good point. i mean your giving your mind body and soul to her. but if you think your ready for this then i guess...go for it. i mean you love her, she loves you, and it seems to me that you really care about her bc otherwise you wouldnt be asking other people if you should. i hope your making the right desision and i wish the best of luck to you two. ♥ leah

My boyfriend and I are going to seperate schools next year and I think its going to be hard to stay in touch alot but we both really want to stay together because we love each other alot.. does anyone have any tips that will keep us from drifting apart?

1.call eachother VERY often
2.set up times for you two to see eachother
3.tell eachother you love one enother everyday.
i hope it helped even the slightest bit.
♥ leah

Today the discharge in my underwear had a yellowish brown tint to it. Some parts of it looked kinda red. This is the first time this has happened. Is this my period coming or should I worry. I don't want to go to the doctor *unless its really serious* because my family is really short of money right now. I'll rate 5's for any helpfull answer.

in most casses yes! that is your peroid. or some signs that its comming soon. there is no need to see a docter unless it hurts "down there". hope i helped ♥ leah

There is this guy that i like and he likes me but he has a girlfriend. he is my really good friend. but he made a move on me. people tell me to just stay friends with him. i agree with those people but i dont know what i am gunna say to him..*

Help Please

-x- Bridgette -x-

the next time he makes a move tell him that you like him but not like that. tell him that you still want to be good friends but nothing more than that.

what do i do, my girlfriend is geting hi on by her ex, but im not the violent type, or the type o confront, so how do i handle it? it really messes with me, cse it seems like she isnt making it clear to him that her and i are together and there is no chance for him... i dont know. but i really love her and this kind of stuff it aggrovating to try and handle...

i know you dont really want to but your gonna have to talk to her. tell her that you really like her and you dont like it when she flirts with other guys. tell her that you dont think she is really giving her ex the right message. i hope i helped....♥ leah

Hey this is my first time at your column but i heard you give great advice so..
well recently, i broke up with my boyfrend;we've been going out for about 2 months. but a reason why i did is b/c well i decided that this isnt the best relationship ive had and i miss having my old one and that the guy i now *WAS* going out with isnt boyfrend material and not all that. so i broke up with him and i found out that i have mixed feelings. i found out that i MAYBE still like my ex and so i told him i liked him. but then he said it was wierd cuz we're like bro and sis and bffs now...and so he told my bff that hez going to block and delete all my sns on AIM... i sent him an email that we need 2 talk. but he doesnt chek his email that often...so what should i do!? i'd LOVE having him as a bf again but the chances r pretty low. i need advice...

wow, i hate it when that happens. before i tell you my advice i want to tell you that even though you dont think it...you WILL get over him. it just takes a good cry, some break up songs, and a friend. ok well, if you really want to get him back you should call him if you have his number that is. and if you dont then get him to meet you somewhere. tell him that you still like him and you want to give it another try. tell him that he deserves another chance. or if you dont feel confortable saying that last thing...then DONT. well, i hope you guys get back together but if you dont then listen to simple plans perfect. its a great break up song.

♥ leah ♥

what should i name my dog?

waffles, eggo, scotter, yodi, um....bubbles.

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