I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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so all through elemtry school into middle school i had this crush on a kid, lets call him mike. and i could never ever tell him i liked him, because my best friend, lets call this one jay, adored him. and was upsessed with him. so i never told anyone i liked him. 7th grade he got sent to rehab, and i kinda forgot about him. now, 3 years later, he is back. and i hung out with him, and my new best friend, lets call her shelly. well i started liking him. and then he tells me that he thinks shelly is hot. and then he also told our friend ron and ron told shelly. and shelly started liking him. though she knows i like him. and yesterday they ran away from me and our other friends and dissappeared for 3 hours... and today i walked in on them hooking up. they have known each other for 3 days... and she knows i like him. like is it bad that im mad? like should i be this upset? cause im like furious and disstroyed. im so lost. help? (link)
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Rage is perfectly fine for somebody in your position as you don't let it consume you. I think saying that you're 'distroyed' is a little dramatic, don't you think? Love can happen very quickly between two people, and in this case, they felt the same way about each other.
Now, I'm a little confused here, you said that you hadn't told anyone that you loved Mike, so how did Shelly find out? You've had to tell her that you had feelings for Mike. Now was this before or after he went to Rehab?
I know that it is horrible seeing somebody you love going out with somebody else and that person doesn't notice you. Trust me, I've been in that situation myself.
But do you know what? I got over it and I felt happy for that person because they're with somebody they love and really, all I've ever wanted since then was to see that person happy and I've wanted the best to happen to that person. I've even tried to make good things happen in ways which don't really matter here (nothing illegal by the way!!!).
This is what I'm telling you now: be happy for them, if they're in love then you should respect that. Wait for a while and just think it over: could you have a future with him? If Shelly and Mike and see a future together, then let it be.
I know this may or may not be what you want to hear, but this is my opinion.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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There are a cOuple of answers i wanna ask , but please [ guys reply Only].
- What makes a guy " want " a girl , like say your in a relationship but what would make you just " lust " or want a girl bad.
- How come guys dont care as much as girls do
- & why do yall not like to express yalls feelings like we do?
Please answer those 3 questions , thanks :)
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1) Different guys have got different views on what they want in a girl. Some like smart girls, some because of their personality, whilst others go for the hot, sexy type.
2) That's a difficult question to answer. I woudl guess becasue girls dream about having a good strong realtionship and care about having one with another guy. But guys don't really go looking ofr romance, we just take chances and see what happens.
3) Guys are absolutly usless at expressing feelings because when we express them, they tend to sound wrong and plus: WE'VE GOT NO CONFIDENCE AT ALL!!! Or it's because we don't know how we feel about a certain girl and we don't want to dissapoint them by giving them false hopes.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay so maybe i am looking too much into this one. But a long time ago i told this guy i liked him and i pretty much scared him off and he told me he was gay (such a lie). And now like i notice he will look at me when before he wanted nothing to do with me. And now he will actually watch me. I sort of get weirded out because he never has wanted anything, and i mean ANYTHING to do with me. he avoided me. And like this morning he talked to me and was like "how are you feeling about barnbash" and my friend was like "its a barn" and i said "very very great very great" and he was looking at me...
so what could come of this?? i mean seriously isnt it a little weird that he is doing all of this now?? maybe i am looking too much into it. I dont know what do you think?? (link)
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Well, I would just ask him as to why he's behaving in the way he is to you now. I know that it is weird but to be honest with you, you'll only ever find out the truth if you ask him.
I think it is just the case that he's begun to have feelings towards you and is showing them to you. If you think that a realtionship could work with him, then go out with him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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do you believe in witches?
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Well, I do believe that there are witches out there and there are certainly witch practitioners amoung us today.
triquetra
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okay so i have a boyfriend who really loves me and i was in love with him but im more in love with his personality than looks. but i know you shouldn't go by looks in a relationship but it helps. we've been going out for 6 months and i recently became friends with this guy i like knew about before i was going out with my boyfriend and hes extremely attractive. he even likes me and ive hung out with him a few times and we have a lot of fun. i know ive been going out with my boyfriend and i would never cheat on him because im not like that but i feel like i want to be able to like flirt with people and explore, but i feel like im not able to with a boyfriend. Like sometimes i love having a boyfriend and sometimes i feel like i wish i didn't have one. but my boyfriend is in love with me and i don't want to break his heart. he got mad at me for hanging out with this other really hot guy who likes me, but i feel like i should be able to hang out with whoever i want. i dont know what i should say to my boyfriend or what i should do. this is a tough situation because i know my boyfriend will be there for me but this hot guy i kind of like but i don't know if he just wants to just get with me, be friends or anything more or less. this other guy seems really nice and likes me and im attracted to him. i dont know what to do, please help me. (link)
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Thanks for inboxing,
You're quite right, this is a tough situation to be in.
It is clear to me that you're still not sure that you want to be in a realtionship or not. You're feeling as if you need to get out and meet other people and see what they're like before tying yourself down to one guy.
The only thing which I can think of is to have a break in the realtionship. Have some personal space. That way, you can think over what you want to do. As for this other guy, ask him what he feels for you because if he feels the same way as you do about him, then you might as well go out with him.
I'm noting the fact that you used the past tense when you described the reaktionshi between you and your current boyfriend. Are you still in love with the person, or who that person is? If you're only going out with your current boyfriend just for his personality, then he isn't the right guy because personality can change and you could get hurt in ways I'll never know and that's something which an advice columnist doesn't like to hear or see.
As for your current boyfriend, tell him the current situation with you and you need to tell him EVERTYHING because if you don't, he won't understand. I know that this will be hard, but if you take the risk, you've taken a very big step to helping yourself and a step towards your decision. Trust in what you're doing, you're still trying to find out what you want for yourself and he must allow that.
Do get back to me if you want.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Okay I aready wrote this question, but im giving more infomation, and needing more advice and sorry its so long. So im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out. Last saturday me and a bunch of mine and his friends went and played this game late at night where you have a few people hide, and some drive and the people who are driving look and if you are seen by the people driving you have to get in and help them by looking for the people who are still hiding, well anyways we had like a group of people hiding and all of them got caught except me and him, so we start out hiding and its just me and him, and we are just talking more and more and actually looking at each other, and than he becomes really thoughtful, like when we have to run and hop fenses he askes me if im okay, and he i need help, and he grabs my hands to help me a lot. Well we finally get back to where were all suposta meet, and he follows me around, and when were in the car we take a big corner and he grabed my hand, but i pulled away too fast to see if it was ment like that. Now we text all the time, talk at lunch and are going to play the game this coming saturday.... I dont know really what to say, but i mean it kinda seems like he likes me again, but im not sure. i feel blindsided cause i like him so much that i might not be seeing the signs of how much he does or does not like me. Its complicated. and i REALLY REALLY REALLY need advice. i need someone to tell me the truth cause im nervous and dont want false hope. so if anyone can help me understand this, please help me cause your my last hope.
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Well, it seems that he's been doing some thinking and may have some feelings for you after all. It could be originally that he thought that it wasn't going anywhere.
Sometimes, we don't know what are feelings are for another person, and it can take a while for us to decide as to what they do feel. This seems to be happening here.
I think that the first positive sign that he likes you is the fact that he asked you out to the prom and the second sign would be the fact that he held your hand, even though you pulled away.
If you want to be absolutly sure as to what he feels for you, you won't find the answer here. All we can do is to guess as to what he feels and guess' can be wrong sometimes. The answer that you seek lies on the other side of that telephone line. I know you feel confused, but calling him and asking him is the only way that you'll know for certain.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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I live in a small town of 1200 in the middle of nowhere. I hate it here. I'm destined to be somewhere else like Hollywood. I know I can make it there, but I just need help getting there.
First off my parents tell me I won't make it and I know they won't help me pursue my dreams. I won't give up. I will do it on my own, but I'm not sure how just yet. So what is the best way about this to go? I want to be an actress. Is it better for me to try and get an agent? Acting classes? I need all the information I can possibly get about anything that pertains to acting in Hollywood.
Second, how do I get my parents to believe in me? (link)
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Many people have got those kinds of dreams: needing to get out, thinking that they're stars and they'll be recognised in Hollywood. But they need to work towards that dream and they expect everything to happen magically for them and they'll get all the fame that they need. This cannot happen to those whom don't work for it. The stars which we see today used to be like you or me, except they worked hard to get to where they are.
So this is what I'm going to say to you: go to acting classes first and then see how you feel about it. Don't aim to high just yet because IF (and only if) they say 'no', then you're going to be in for a lot of dissapointment. Just make targets which you can reach for now, put Hollywood out of your mind just for the minuet. Just focus on what is to be done to get you there.
There's going to be a lot of hard work (which I'm sure you know) and one hell of a lot of commitment from you. Because to get to Hollywood standard, you need to be able to act well and also act in different genres.
Aas for your parents: just tell them that you want to act. DON'T tell them that you want to go to Hollywood. Keep it to yourself for a while until the time is right and you'll know when that is. Your love for acting should be enough to convince them, but for them to keep on believing in you, you really need to work you butt off.
Nobody has the right to take your dreams away, just hold onto them and you'll find a way to get them to believe, just don't force them. Go into a local production and try and get the leading part because then they'll know that you're serious about this.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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INLOVE?????
There's a difference between lust,like,love,and inlove.
Well I have 2 questions.
Is it possible to TRULY be in love at 14/15?
And 2......
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE IN LOVE???????
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1) You can be in love at any point in time when your in or after puberty.
2) There really isn't anyway to know if you're in love or not: you just know. It's something which you know deep down in your heart that you're in love with that person. Sort of like butterflies in your stomach when you think of that person and have that sort of 'urge' to be with that person and that you want that person.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help (link)
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I understand that you're going through a tough time. But listen to this (again).
You got great responses from people whom you've never met in you life, and not one told you how to take it. Doesn't that tell you that people do care for you? Even it isn't your immediate family, there are people who do care for you.
I know that you don't want people to talk you out of it. But here's another thing: people have told you not to do it, which shows that people whom you DO know DO care about you. If not, you would not be alive today if it wasn't for them and you wouldn't be on this site.
Now, everybody in their own way is strong, and you've got to believe that somewhere inside of you is this strong person, who wants to live. I'm going to come back to the point of helping yourself. You've got to try and help yourself if you want to get out of this. Simple things can go a long way in life.
Since you obviously didn't listen to the song which I recommended, here are the lyrics and think about their meaning:
"There's a hero
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
[Chorus]
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Oh Yes it does.
This is a long road
When you face the world alone
And no one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love , oh yes you can,
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
[Chorus]
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
Because you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't let anyone
Tear them away
Just hold on, and hold on
And hold on.
There will be tomorrow
In time You'll find the way
[Chorus]
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
Because you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Oh yes it does, oh yes it does,
I know it does, A hero lies in you"
Think about it. Please, do get back if you just want to talk. E-mail me at: triquetra_advice@hotmail.com
triquetra
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I do not know where to start but to make the long story short i hate my self and my life I am 25 years old i am not capable of having any kind of relationship cause I am the person you want call when u r having bad times however I am never there when u r having good time. Moreover,I finished law faculty but hate it so never practiced.I have done my master degree on something else, event management, but hate it as well. Right now I do not know what I want to in my life. So I have start to think best thing to is commit suicide....do you know the easiest and quickest way to do it. (link)
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Honey,
The only way you're going to get out of this is if you begin to have some faith in yourself. If you don't have any, then you won't get out of this rut which you've created for yourself. Get all of these negative thoughts out of your head and begin to focus upon the high points in your life.
You will only keep the hope with you if you act hopeful. Go out into the world and have fun. There is no point at all to live in darkness and only lament what you've got but hate. Find something which you want to do with you life and something which you enjoy and pursue that.
Let me tell you something, suicide may be a way as to solve all your problems but we're all humans. Some of us have got a straight and easy road, but some of us have got bumpy roads and we've got to fight our way through and it's these fights which make us stronger physically and mentally for the next challenge in our lives. Now admitedly, yours is a really bumpy road but think about it: why would get all of this if you weren't a strong person? You may not think you are, but also deep inside, you're a very strong person who's meant to do good in this world.
I'm including lyrics to one of Mariah Carey's songs which has helped others in your position because it helps them to realise that they are worth something in life. It's from the Music Box album and it's called 'Hero':
"There's a hero
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
[Chorus:]
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
Because you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you.
It is a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love, oh yes you can
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
[Chorus]
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't you let anyone
Tear them away
Just hold on and hold on and hold on
And there will be tomorrow
And in time
You'll find the way
[Chorus]
Oh yes it does, oh yes it does.
I know it does, a hero lies in you"
Don't ever give up on life because soon, somthing very special could happen to you.
May God be with you in every step of your life,
triquetra
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please help me. my friend she left her mom's house and her mom is abusive and now shes living with her dad permanetly because her parents recently divorced but now that she is living with her dad should either she or i tell her dad? she has a little brother too and he still lives with his mom sometimes but she doesnt hit him. just my friend (shes older). my mom said that the dad must know and they divorced so he probably knows about her behavior but i dont know if he does really. my friend said she things he doesnt know how serious it is so should we tell him? cause i dont want to tell him if he already knows and it be awkward but i know making sure he knows is more important and i think to myself if he knew she was abusive why would he let her stay with her mom? right?? thank you so much this is so important-thank you :) (link)
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What her parents do is between them. I think that's it's unlikely that the dad left your friend and her brother at your friend's mum if she's abusive.
But there is always the possibility that he doesn't know. If you do tell him, you've got to be CAREFUL because anything you say to the father could result in something much worse like mum wants to move far away and takes your friend and her brother with her or the kids staying with the mum whilst the dad moves away. The best senario which I can think of would be the mum moving and your friend and her brother staying with dad or visa versa.
But first, let's take a look at what your friend's mum could be thinking and see whether this could be a possibility:
The abuse could be anger from the divorce and that she still feels sad. One thing which could be sparking this sadness and anger could be seeing her eldest daughter, the result of the love which her mum and her ex used to have and seeing her (your friend) could be making her remember the realtionship and that could be hurting your friend's mum.
BUT IT ISN'T YOUR FRIEND'S FAULT. IT'S NOBODIES FAULT. HER MUM IS MAY STILL SAD ABOUT THE SEPERATION.
You didn't exactly say as to how long this was going on so I assume that it's only been happening recently.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i need some songs that are like... kinda sad but they make you think.. ya know?
like the song I Miss You by blink182
or a song the has to do with like
a girl that likes a guy and the guy likes her back but he has a girlfriend and he loves her.
i know, really specific =/
music that suits my mood helps me go to sleep and well-
i really cant sleep tonight... =/ (link)
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We Belong Together by Mariah Carey I think is the right song for you. Here's the lyrics:
http://artists.letssingit.com/mariah-carey-lyrics-we-belong-together-2ggnjgq
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I need R&B songs just to do with like really really liking a guy and you would do anything for him to like you and he just makes you really sick and makes you go through a lot ?
Sorry if it's too confusing =/ (link)
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We Belong Together - Mariah Carey.
My All - Mariah Carey.
I Still Believe - Mariah Carey.
Dreamlover - Mariah Carey.
Endless Love - Mariah Carey and Luther Vandross.
Emotions - Mariah Carey.
Fantasy - Mariah Carey.
Someday - Mariah Carey.
How Will I Know? - Whitney Houston.
I Wanna Dance With Somebody - Whitney Houston.
As you can tell, I love Mariah Carey!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My older sister is working in Alberta this summer for a couple months. I wanted to buy her a Going Away present because I won't get to see her for a couple months. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Get her something which she can keep upon her desk at work, something like a photo of you in a nice frame. As long as it's from the heart, then all should be good
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Hey. I need some advice. I appear to be very aloof and tend to get attitudes with people easily, even if its not them I'm mad at. When i talk to people, it sounds like i dont care. I dont even make eye contact with people. BUT, so far nobody's complained about these things (unless they do it behind my back) and its important to be yourself, right? sometimes i try to hide this side of me because i'm worried that people will think i'm mean, but at the same time, thats who i am. what should i do? thanks (link)
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I kinda know what you're going through. At my current school, I've somehow created this second identity which I absolutly hate because it represses the true person I am and it's hindering me in many ways. I can't even show my true self now.
Don't fall into the trap of creating a person who isn't you, yet controls you in your every day life which is what has happened to me.
If nobody has made any complaints about the way you are, then don't worry. Remember: everybody in this world has a different attitude and some people can accept that, some others can't. Go out there and be the person whom you are and be proud of it.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay hi there My question is my bf and I had bn friends for like six years when a couple weeks ago we got into this big arguement about her friends who acted real bad towards me you know like ignorin me etc and when I told her about this we got into a big arguement and decided to call it quits I guess what Im askin is how do I get over a friendship which was more like a sister hood???
any help is apreciated!!
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Don't give up upon a friendship which has lasted for that long. Every relationship, whether it be in friendship or love relationship, experiances bumps along the road which i believe are tests to test the bond between the two people.
This is just one such test, to see if you can overcome your fights and remain friends, no matter what happens. So here's the thing, with a friendship which has lasted for that long, it's hard to get over because you'll still see each other and want to be friends. Trust me, it will happen.
So try and speak to her and get over the fight because this is a truely special friendship which you could benefit from in the future. What has happened has happened and there is nothing which anybody can do to change that, don't let one fight destroy something which has lasted for 6 years.
Who cares about what her other friends do? True it may hurt your feelings but if that's the way they're going to act towards you, then ignore them because why should their actions destroy the bond between you and your friend.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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I'm 15/f and over the last year or so, I always feel so irritated when my parents talk. Like I find them really annoying, even if they're are asking me something like ''what do you want for dinner''
I'm wondering if this is just a teenage phase or if there's something wrong with me?
I mean my parents are cool and I like them, but I always feel annoyed when I'm talking to them, and I hate it.
Thanks! (link)
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Well, I'm going through that as well so it's just another stage of our development. There's nothing to be worried about.
Like all phases, this should just pass and then all shall be normal again.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I mean sometimes in certain moods I am.. but I hate how some people at school think im shy or quiet.. cause I'm usually not like that at home or with my friends. like sometimes i find it hard to be outgoing.. especially since its the third semester of 8th grade so its hard to just be like "hey whats up" to someone that you've seen everyday but never reallly talked to them. thats like what ya do on the first day of school. thats how i was then, i wanted to get more good friends and fell pretty good about myself a lot. but then soon as cliques developed and stuff.. i mean a lot of my friends are from diff cliques and i never really found one i could really be with forever.. im not even sure if ive found my best friends yet.. even with some people i've known since like 1st grade.. sometimes idk i dont like "love them to death" like a BFF should. i dunno if other people worry about those kinds of things too since most people already have their close knit circle of friends and stuff.. so it makes me feel like.. maybe i just dont have good friends? cause i mean some of them i like but some traits get on my nerves so i wouldnt call them my bests, and i wanna get to know more people. i was even looking forward to moving, for a new start, but it turns out my fam may not even move next year but i guess its better we're going to high school with even more new people. like with some friends too like i cant be all crazy and stuff.. i dont know why. and i see other people can be like that but idk whats stopping me from just doing it like i act at home. i hate when people get that wrong perception of me. so how could i guess fix these problem? :( 14/f and thanks (link)
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When I first read this, I had to check the Questions which I've asked because this is exactly me!!
I know what you're going through and I know that it's tough. I started off on a bad foot when I started at my school, sending out negative signs and now, I'm beginning to regret making those extremely rash decisions and it's only know (3 years on) that I've begun to turn my life around and begun to show the others my real, good side which I never let them see before (bar one or two). So far as I'm concerned; I've only got two friends whom I can trust. But everybody else thinks that I'm a blood thirsty freak whom loves violence which isn't true at all and my column proves that.
When I get back to school I intend to speak to others more and to accept them as to whom they are and be more open to them that I was before and just be myself around them, even though they've got their own group of friends, I know I've got to try and open up to them.
This is what I'm going to tell you to do: just be yourself around these people and just be around them more often or as often as you can.
Plus, here's a song which is helping me to gain confidence in myself to break the life of solitude which i've had to endure for 3 years. It's called 'Hero' by Mariah Carey which tells you how to become confident in yourself.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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It's my dad's birthday in a couple of days and I have no idea what to get him. He's turning 48, and anything he wants, he just goes out and buys, so its difficult to think of anything. I'm also working with a pretty small budget. So any ideas? It could be homemade or storebought, any help is appreciated, because its impossible to shop for guys/men! thanks (link)
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You know, i think that the best present any father can receive is a homemade cake which can be made by everybody or by yourself, depending how you are at cooking.
Don't buy a cake from the shops because i feel as if it is lazy and that you don't want to put an effort in (not you but generally), make it and decorate it yourself because then he can see that you've put enough effort into making something for him and it is something which all the family can enjoy together.
I hope this helped and happy brithday to your dad!
triquetra
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Im a junior in high school and the friend ill be talking to you about is a freshman. I dont know why i should care about her but i really do because were friends. Were into the same stuff in school so i talk to her alot. Shes dating this one guy, and i know him, hes really a nice guy and they seem to really like eachother. But she tells me her parents dont let her see him. I have to admit that breaks my heart. Its innocent love and i think its sweet. I know i really cant do anything so please dont tell me that. Theyre always texting, video chatting, talking on the phone, and meeting up anywhere local they can, its quite sad actually. But they are just so happy together, and it really shows me what love is.I feel bad she cant see him though. Would you have any advice for her? Maybe i could talk to her about it (link)
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I'm glad to see that you care about her this much, it's evident to me that you've got a big heart made of solid gold!
I would ask her as to why her parents won't let her see him. Could it be that they're protecting her from getting hurt? I mean, they may feel as if she's too young to be in a relationship with another guy and that she should wait. There are endless possibilities to why they don't want her to go out.
See whether it's possible for her to convince her parents to let him come round for...i don't know...the day and see what they think of him. If he isn't as bad as you say, then they should like him, well enough to let her go out with him.
If not, then there is one other option which your friend may or may not like and that it to talk to her parents about what she feels for this guy. Nothing should get in the way of love except for parental protection (well, in my rule book). She needs to talk to them about what she feels, why don't they let her see him and then try and persuade them (persuading should really come first because if all else fails, she can ask whether he can come round for the day so that they can see what he's like and then they can make a decision).
Parents want what is best for their kids and it hurts them to see how hurt their child is if they've broken up with somebody because they feel as if they've not done their duty and a parent properly. They just don't want their kids to be hurt by anybody or anything.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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