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best friend and old crush.
so all through elemtry school into middle school i had this crush on a kid, lets call him mike. and i could never ever tell him i liked him, because my best friend, lets call this one jay, adored him. and was upsessed with him. so i never told anyone i liked him. 7th grade he got sent to rehab, and i kinda forgot about him. now, 3 years later, he is back. and i hung out with him, and my new best friend, lets call her shelly. well i started liking him. and then he tells me that he thinks shelly is hot. and then he also told our friend ron and ron told shelly. and shelly started liking him. though she knows i like him. and yesterday they ran away from me and our other friends and dissappeared for 3 hours... and today i walked in on them hooking up. they have known each other for 3 days... and she knows i like him. like is it bad that im mad? like should i be this upset? cause im like furious and disstroyed. im so lost. help?
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Rage is perfectly fine for somebody in your position as you don't let it consume you. I think saying that you're 'distroyed' is a little dramatic, don't you think? Love can happen very quickly between two people, and in this case, they felt the same way about each other.
Now, I'm a little confused here, you said that you hadn't told anyone that you loved Mike, so how did Shelly find out? You've had to tell her that you had feelings for Mike. Now was this before or after he went to Rehab?
I know that it is horrible seeing somebody you love going out with somebody else and that person doesn't notice you. Trust me, I've been in that situation myself.
But do you know what? I got over it and I felt happy for that person because they're with somebody they love and really, all I've ever wanted since then was to see that person happy and I've wanted the best to happen to that person. I've even tried to make good things happen in ways which don't really matter here (nothing illegal by the way!!!).
This is what I'm telling you now: be happy for them, if they're in love then you should respect that. Wait for a while and just think it over: could you have a future with him? If Shelly and Mike and see a future together, then let it be.
I know this may or may not be what you want to hear, but this is my opinion.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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yes you should be mad!
she shouldn't hook up with someone you have a crush on. its like girl code, well friend code, you just don't do it.
and i could possibly understand if she did it after knowing him for a long time and liking him longer than you,
but she hasn't. she has only known him for three days.
i'm sorry. let her know how you feel, don't hold anything back.
good luck :D
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Good friends dont jump like she did first of all. Second, just wait and see what happens. I understand your mad. But, I wouldnt interfere with what they have going on.
Hope this helps. Ask me questions anytime.
~Loverocks~
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