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Kind of Mean
Hey. I need some advice. I appear to be very aloof and tend to get attitudes with people easily, even if its not them I'm mad at. When i talk to people, it sounds like i dont care. I dont even make eye contact with people. BUT, so far nobody's complained about these things (unless they do it behind my back) and its important to be yourself, right? sometimes i try to hide this side of me because i'm worried that people will think i'm mean, but at the same time, thats who i am. what should i do? thanks
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I kinda know what you're going through. At my current school, I've somehow created this second identity which I absolutly hate because it represses the true person I am and it's hindering me in many ways. I can't even show my true self now.
Don't fall into the trap of creating a person who isn't you, yet controls you in your every day life which is what has happened to me.
If nobody has made any complaints about the way you are, then don't worry. Remember: everybody in this world has a different attitude and some people can accept that, some others can't. Go out there and be the person whom you are and be proud of it.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help you
all you have to do is think before you say to make sure you are not acedentaly (sorry for my spelling)
saying something that could be mean in other peoples ways ! It's okay you will eventualy not
feel this way! If know one realy complained that
must mean you aren't acedenataly acting like you don't care! sometimes everyone does that and they
don't know it. It happens to me once in a while!
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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I think there is a difference between just being yourself, and being rude.
Being aloof or indifferent is personality. Being curt or rude because of your own frustration, although occassionally unavoidable, is plain rude.
Rude isn't 'who you are', it's a choice to not make an effort to put other people at ease and respect them. If you believe you are being rude at times, that is probably worth trying to stop.
Being aware of your tone of voice, and being able to control it, can only help you in life. Clearly, giving 'attitude' to an employer, customer, parent or boyfriend could very problematic in your life. It will also be problematic if you can't at least say to someone "I'm sorry I used that tone of voice, I wasn't angry with you, just something else."
You are obviously very aware of your emotions and behavoir, and that is a great start. My advice to you would be to 'fake it 'til you make it'. By that I mean put in the effort to be a polite person until a polite person is who you are. That doesn't change anything fundemental about how you are feeling, just about how you communicate those feelings to others.
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