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There are a cOuple of answers i wanna ask , but please [ guys reply Only].
- What makes a guy " want " a girl , like say your in a relationship but what would make you just " lust " or want a girl bad.
- How come guys dont care as much as girls do
- & why do yall not like to express yalls feelings like we do?
Please answer those 3 questions , thanks :)
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1. I would say that when a girl just acts like herself, what the guy actually fell in love with, that's what makes him want her. Wearing clothes that show off your body will help, but don't overdo it. Wear stuff that you look good in and tease a little, but don't leave nothing to the imagination. Go for cute, not slutty.
2. Guys do care as much as girls do. Half the time, they care more. Just because you may have had some bad experiences with guys or have observed this in other relationships, doesn't mean that you can know what someone else feels. You can't. Not everyone expresses themselves in the same way, which leads in to your next question.
3. Not everyone expresses themselves in the same way. I don't know about you, but I've certainly seen guys express their feelings. I see guys shout, cheer, dance, swear, hug, high five, and carry on a whole lot more than girls. I would say that girls hold in their feelings more than guys. A lot of girls put up appearances and hold everything all in until they burst out crying because they are just filled with too much emotion. Now when it comes to getting emotional, crying, showing vulnerability, well, lots of guys do this. You are right about this one though, a lot of them don't. Unlike what another columnist suggest, it's NOT genetic and it's not because of any differences between the genders. It's because of how we are raised. Boys are raised not to cry or show sensitivity, while for girls, it's okay to do that. Guys let their emotions out all the time so that it doesn't come to tears, but let me tell you, there's not a guy on the planet that hasn't cried before about something, even if nobody saw. It's all because of society, not because of how people are. What you need to do is let your guy know that it's okay to be sensitive around you. That's not enough though, you need to make him feel comfortable in doing so. This has a lot to do with patience and empathy. Don't push him and when he does open up to you, which he will, if you don't respond in the right way, he won't want to do it again. It takes work from you as much as from him if you are with a guy that doesn't show vulnerability. I'm guessing you're a young teenager. When emotionless guys get older, they tend to stop putting on a show and will be more sensitive around you. In a few years, you probably won't have such negative opinions about guys.
As you get older, you will realize that problems with communication aren't just the other person's fault. They're just as much yours as they are his! You need to understand a guy as a person instead of just a guy.
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What makes a guy want a girl...when I first meet a girl I look at their smile. I think that says a few things about them..if they don't brush their teeth, I dont want em. The way a girl dresses to me, is really important. Girls that where big baggy sweatpants and tshirts to school all the time, gross me out and I want nothing to do with them. I'm not saying you have to be attractive to go out with someone. You've just gotta have a good presentation. I hate when girls wear their hair sloppy, and dress like they just woke up. If you look nice, I'll probably be attracted to you. But, then for me, its all personality. I like funny girls, and girls who like to have a good time. I hate girls who act stuck up. Guys do care as much as girls do, atleast I do. Just because I don't come out and say it, doesn't mean I don't like someone. I show girls that I like them, by listening to them when they tell me their whole entire day, word for word. I show them I care when I constantly look at them. I show them I care when I call them or text them alot. I show that I'm thinking about them all the time, when I text them, and just said whats up. Theres alot of things I do. Theres alot of things other guys do too. It just may not be as obvious.
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Im a sensitive personality guy, so heres my answers :)
1. When I want a girl in the relationship, it's usually because shes being cute, or very attractive, or something that gets my interest. For example: Doing hobbies I like, laying on a bed innocent and cuddly, her wanting to look extra good for me.
2. The second question isnt true. I know as a guy, always love my girlfriend when in a relationship to the fullest. *From my experiances, most of the time i've loved them more :/
3. Guys don't like to express their feelings at all or rarely because we think it's mushy gooshy (or atleast I think so). Example: When a girl says "aww" after we say something cute complementing her. Tip: It would be better to smile and kiss us on the lips then to say "aww".
Hope that helped a little :D
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Hello.
First off, I would like to point out that your correct. Most guys are like statues. They dont show any emotion. I am not like that however. (yes, I am a guy, no I'm not gay) I LIKE talking, and when I ask out my crush I will talk to her alot. When a guy wants to ask out the girl and/or hook up with her, thats considered him "Wanting her". And I care alot. ALOT of guys think they should have the stereotypical guy attitude; tough, not show emotion, be all cool. Tell your guy that you dont like him when hes like that and you want him to open up to you.
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ok im a guy and thats why my fiance love me and i love her not all men are stupid and have no feelings i love giving advice because it helps other exspecaily when it comes to romance and realtionship's i own a advice solum and a teen to teen advice group and im only 16 but i junior major in teen psychology. Ok now what makes guys want a girl simple hormones and fate and love, lust is the feeling where either a male or female are really hormonal about the other person and is all about there like the person, ok well there are different ways to look at it, a guy could want a girl bad snd not really love her and on the other hand he could really really want her and love her truely with out no dount in his mind.Its what everybody think's in there own mind but either way it takes two to love and it take truth and trucst within eachother to make a realtionship happen and not break apart.
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1) Different guys have got different views on what they want in a girl. Some like smart girls, some because of their personality, whilst others go for the hot, sexy type.
2) That's a difficult question to answer. I woudl guess becasue girls dream about having a good strong realtionship and care about having one with another guy. But guys don't really go looking ofr romance, we just take chances and see what happens.
3) Guys are absolutly usless at expressing feelings because when we express them, they tend to sound wrong and plus: WE'VE GOT NO CONFIDENCE AT ALL!!! Or it's because we don't know how we feel about a certain girl and we don't want to dissapoint them by giving them false hopes.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well, on your first question. Pardon me if I to bold. It depends on what I'm expecting to get out of the relationship. If I am looking for a good time then I might pick someone who's attractive. If I am looking for something more serious I may choose a woman that I can sit down and have an intelligent conversation with. The perfect woman would have all qualities wrapped up into one and someone who understands my needs. Fortunately enough for me I found that person.
Now for your second question. I think we may care, even to some degree more than some women. I think this may just be a stereotype, a simple misconception. For an example; A girl is concerned with who is dating who on the biggest soap opera on TV and that guy she's with could care less about it. By they same token, when he's watching the main event of the WWE and is concerned with who will win and she doesn't care. What I really think you meant to say was, 'why doesn't the guy care about her feelings?' Well, I usually think, "if she's got all she needs why do you have to complain?" I care but why are you unhappy?
Your final question.
Women live with their emotions on their sleeves while mean live with it inside. Women don't have a problem crying in public. However I admit, I cried in public when the Cowboys lost their chance at the Super Bowl. It's a behavior rooted in the very genetics of our human nature. Showing emotion shows vulnerability. While this is ok for woman, it's not ok for men. In today's society it would be ok but not at the dawn of man, when the man was the hunter-gatherer. Could you imagine a man who expressed his emotions at the wrong time, when faced with a challenge? "I'm sorry Mr. Saber Tooth, I'm having a bad day today, I'll kill you later." Oh boy, I am sure that last few sentences will garner a response from the ladies. It's the truth I am afraid. Now, we are talking about ancient times remind you. Some of those genetic traits have persisted even today. Man still physically resembles prehistoric man. Strong upper body, legs, torso, arms etc...This was all for killing, protecting and seeing to it that our women and our children had what they needed to survive. I know that's a mouthful to read but sometimes the simplest of questions don't deserve the simplest of answers.
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