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False Hope.
Okay I aready wrote this question, but im giving more infomation, and needing more advice and sorry its so long. So im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out. Last saturday me and a bunch of mine and his friends went and played this game late at night where you have a few people hide, and some drive and the people who are driving look and if you are seen by the people driving you have to get in and help them by looking for the people who are still hiding, well anyways we had like a group of people hiding and all of them got caught except me and him, so we start out hiding and its just me and him, and we are just talking more and more and actually looking at each other, and than he becomes really thoughtful, like when we have to run and hop fenses he askes me if im okay, and he i need help, and he grabs my hands to help me a lot. Well we finally get back to where were all suposta meet, and he follows me around, and when were in the car we take a big corner and he grabed my hand, but i pulled away too fast to see if it was ment like that. Now we text all the time, talk at lunch and are going to play the game this coming saturday.... I dont know really what to say, but i mean it kinda seems like he likes me again, but im not sure. i feel blindsided cause i like him so much that i might not be seeing the signs of how much he does or does not like me. Its complicated. and i REALLY REALLY REALLY need advice. i need someone to tell me the truth cause im nervous and dont want false hope. so if anyone can help me understand this, please help me cause your my last hope.
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Well if you really like the guy and think that you would want to try and have a relationship then I say give it a try. Just be considerate about the guy who also likes you, try not to hurt his feelings or anything. Well it seems like he does like me, but I really don't know how he feels or what is going through his head. You should probably talk to him and let him know that you are interested and see where he stands on the whole matter. Boys can be really really confusing and it is sometimes really hard to judge them especially when you don't know them personally. I think you should just go with your gut on it and decide where you want to go with it.
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Well, it does kind of seem like he likes you again. This may not be for certain though. Also, don't get to attached because he might end up breaking your heart again. He might just want to get back together with you for a while and break up with you again so remember not to get to attached. Also, ask him if he likes you straight up so you know the truth. This way, if you go back out, you know its really what you both want. Hope this helps.
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absence makes the heart grow fonder. But it also makes us think about what we don't have anymore. Let me tell you this story. I have this sister in law. She had this husband who was mean to her. Every time they would get into this huge fight she would leave and say she wasn't going back. Well she started missing him, he would call and apologize and she would go back. This went on for 15 years. REALLY!! Well finally it all stopped because he died.
This guy has already dropped you once. Like my sister in law you both are missing each other. Some how I guess he thinks you are OK with what he did to you and wants you to open the door again. So here's the problem, relationships are hard to forget both the good and bad. When 2 people break up there is this hole in their life that desires to be filled. In our mind we would rather take the chance that it will work this time rather than deal with the empty feeling. We forget the previous pain by thinking more on the pleasure we think we are having. Your solution would be to confront him about the way he let you go and no you weren't OK with it. And just because you are enjoying his company it doesn't mean he has a chance. You need to see an effort on his part to show you his true intentions before you let your guard down. There are way too many fish in the see to be fooling with a MAYBE fish!
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Well it seems as though he liked you, and then he thought he didnt like you. and then when he saw you again and started hanging with you, he liked you again. or it could just be that hes looking for some fun. guys are hard to predict. so if i were u i wouldnt try. he may like you. if it where me, i wouldnt get to hopeful, or anything. because if he broke your heart once, whats going to stop him from a second time.
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Well, it seems that he's been doing some thinking and may have some feelings for you after all. It could be originally that he thought that it wasn't going anywhere.
Sometimes, we don't know what are feelings are for another person, and it can take a while for us to decide as to what they do feel. This seems to be happening here.
I think that the first positive sign that he likes you is the fact that he asked you out to the prom and the second sign would be the fact that he held your hand, even though you pulled away.
If you want to be absolutly sure as to what he feels for you, you won't find the answer here. All we can do is to guess as to what he feels and guess' can be wrong sometimes. The answer that you seek lies on the other side of that telephone line. I know you feel confused, but calling him and asking him is the only way that you'll know for certain.
Good luck with the future,
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