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I do not know where to start but to make the long story short i hate my self and my life I am 25 years old i am not capable of having any kind of relationship cause I am the person you want call when u r having bad times however I am never there when u r having good time. Moreover,I finished law faculty but hate it so never practiced.I have done my master degree on something else, event management, but hate it as well. Right now I do not know what I want to in my life. So I have start to think best thing to is commit suicide....do you know the easiest and quickest way to do it.
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I'm sorry I'm so late answering this question, but as soon as I saw it, I knew I couldn't just not at least try to help. You seem like you have so much going for you right now. The last thing you should be wanting to do is end your life. I may only be 17, but I've felt that way that you did or maybe even do now more then once. I've been through a lot of crap, and although all these things I've went through dragged me down, I was able to bring myself back up from them. I've went through a lot from physical abusive boyfriends to mental abuse as well. Thing is you shouldn't let others dictate your happiness. Suicide won't solve anything... trust me. I had a friend who killed herself and it is a very painful thing to go through. So whether or not you think your appreciated, you are to someone somewhere and killing yourself won't solve a thing. Once your gone there's nothing you can do. And so what, you may not have a relationship right now, but I gurantee you will. Your only 25. You still have a long fullfilled life ahead of you. You seem like a very intelligent strong woman. If you ever feel this way again you can write to me, and I will do my best to help you through it. Or you could contact me if you have a myspace... My url is [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
xoxo,
dottie4
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Honey,
The only way you're going to get out of this is if you begin to have some faith in yourself. If you don't have any, then you won't get out of this rut which you've created for yourself. Get all of these negative thoughts out of your head and begin to focus upon the high points in your life.
You will only keep the hope with you if you act hopeful. Go out into the world and have fun. There is no point at all to live in darkness and only lament what you've got but hate. Find something which you want to do with you life and something which you enjoy and pursue that.
Let me tell you something, suicide may be a way as to solve all your problems but we're all humans. Some of us have got a straight and easy road, but some of us have got bumpy roads and we've got to fight our way through and it's these fights which make us stronger physically and mentally for the next challenge in our lives. Now admitedly, yours is a really bumpy road but think about it: why would get all of this if you weren't a strong person? You may not think you are, but also deep inside, you're a very strong person who's meant to do good in this world.
I'm including lyrics to one of Mariah Carey's songs which has helped others in your position because it helps them to realise that they are worth something in life. It's from the Music Box album and it's called 'Hero':
"There's a hero
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
[Chorus:]
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
Because you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you.
It is a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love, oh yes you can
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
[Chorus]
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't you let anyone
Tear them away
Just hold on and hold on and hold on
And there will be tomorrow
And in time
You'll find the way
[Chorus]
Oh yes it does, oh yes it does.
I know it does, a hero lies in you"
Don't ever give up on life because soon, somthing very special could happen to you.
May God be with you in every step of your life,
triquetra
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Let me tell you a story, actually two.
Last year towards end Fabrury someone I know attempted suicide, multiple times. She told her friend she was going to kill herself once and for all that nightm frightened her friend called this girls mother who immediatly called Crisis Servise's for help. She was hospitalized for about 1 1/2 months. The night i found this out I was torn to shreds. You don't think anyone will care and stuff, but do you realize you mean more than you believe. I can't even imagine not having her here. This girl, was my sister. My best friend. The girl I turn to for everything. Without her I'd have made some dumb mistakes right now.
and my second story, January 26 2008. I attempted suicide. I had for many years attempted. However this one could have killed me, I overdosed. I used a half bottle of extra strength. Scared I called my friend to tell her. She told her mother, who called 911. I was rushed to an emergency room. It turned out, it was not harmfull enough. They kept me the night, and told me things that wouldn't mean a damn thing to someone who honestly wanted to end their life. People who know blamed themselves thinking what if I'd have been there that night. But it is not their fault. My parents thought, What if i had checked in on her, but again it was not there fault. I lost all responsiblity i had earned. This wouldn't matter to someone who wanted to die though. However i thank god i'm still here everyday, theres a reason i'm here and i'm going to fullfill it and not quit halfway through.
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You may think that killing yourself would be better for everyone, but its not. YOur not only going to hurt yourself but all of your family. Can you imagine being a mother or father and sitting at your funeral thinking for the rest of their lives that if they would have done ONE thing their child could still be here. All you need to do is find something that makes YOU happy. NOt someone else...YOU. Call a hotline just so you can talk about your emotions. Call a family member. You may not have a good relationship with them but you always need to rember that friends come and go but family will always be there for you. No matter what you need weather yu hate them or not they will be more than willing to help you. Why not stay with someone just so you can get your mind off of this. I think that if you want to be a better friend you have to act like one first. Take some time out of your day and think about all the less fortunete people out there. Knowing that you have food on the table and a house that you can live in. Those are just some of the MANY things kids and adults don't have around the world. Live your life to the fullest. Live your life for those who couldn't. Live it for all the people who died of cancer. Natural death. Think of everyone who commited suicides family. They have to live, for the rest of there lifes, that there loved one is gone forever. Maybe if they just took 10 minutes out of there day to ask you wahts wrong or made the effort to talk to you, they'd STILL be around. Do you really want to cause that much pain and suffering to people? As much as you think life is horrible, there are people out there who have worse. Please, Please, Please. Reconsider the way you are thinking of ending your life. VIOLENCE IS NOT THE ANSWER. Just like suicide is not.
-E
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Suicide is not the answer. The professions you have studied can only have more meaning to you, when you come to recognize and appreciate what you bring to the table. It sounds like you are suffering from major depression and the best course of action is to get into therapy and also explore some medications.
You contradicted yourself in your question, you said you are not capable of having a relationship or any kind. If this is really the case, people will not call you when they are going through bad times. That people call you for help is testimony that you are well liked and capable of having relationships. That's the thing about depression; once it overcomes you, you only see the dark side of things, and not the positive. I am willing to bet that there plenty of positive things about yourself you are ignoring, another example would be your obvious smarts. Please see a therapist; this is your best course of action.
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Well, I, being a pagan hippy, don't think that suicide is really an answer here... mostly because in the long run everything turns out... I've had friends and lovers kill themselves... and I never felt like I could ever understand them when they felt like you do, only worded a little different... Then the day came when I didn't think I could take life anymore and I ran that razorblade down my arm after taking enough pain killers and crystal meth to floor a herd of elephants. I woke up in a psych ward. Somewhere between the Haledol and trying to kill myself with bedsheets and throwing myself into walls (I thought it was a good idea at the time) I figured out who was waiting for me on the outside. I got a couple letters, mostly saying they couldn't stand the thought of me trying to off myself and they refused to visit because it hurt them so badly that I wanted to leave them behind. My little sister, people I thought wouldn't care, because I was never there when they had a good time either. Turns out, they just never knew I wanted to join.
I know a lot of ways to kill yourself. I've thought about it even to this day, but I've found a new path to follow, and there's always something to live for, even if it's just my cat.
So... in short I think you should get a cat...
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My step-mom's brother committed suicide about 3 years ago, he hung himself over his stairwell at him home when him and his wife were going through divorce and his thought he was going to loose his kids. He had 2 boys, one was 6 and the other was 16 and one girl and she was 12. His whole family were in shock, and its so painful to know that someone did this cause they would never cry out and tell someone they hated life, he could have saved himself and all the pain he caused. so this is really not the way to go. Life can have so many up's and downs, but commiting suicide is not the way. Suicide is so selfish to everyone around you, and it makes things so much harder cause your leaving this place with unfinished business and people who really do love you. Your 25 years old, your life is now really begining to have flourish and to know the ins and outs of whats wrong or right. I think you need to tell someone, this is a serious matter, or call a hotline, it may be best to go to classes or something to see that your not the only one feeling like life is pointless. Life is worth living, no one said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
Just please take my advice, im not asking for some super hot rating like a 5 or anything, i could care less if you gave me a 1, i just want the feeling and the knowing that i helped someone, and people the love from feeling the unbearing pain you get when someone kills themself over depression. i dont know you, and i probably never will, but maybe one day when i walk by you in a street, it could be that just putting your problems out there saved your life, and it will all turn around, you just have to wait it out and see, life's full of surprises and changes, one is heading you way, i promise.
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Life is too short. Don't waste it with hate. Love thyself before you love others>>Find something you like about yourself, and rethink your situation.
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i understand what you are going through. I recently tried to commit suicide but i took responsibility and went to the hospital. i stayed in an overnight suicide watch program and it helped alot!!!! I realized that life IS worth living and i am cared for alot..if you commit suicide you hurt so many people besides yourself. Suicide is one of the most selfish ways to die because you effect so many people. you are important in this world and things will get better :) just believe in it.
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First off, you need to get help. Not next week, not tomorrow, but like yesterday.
Phone. 911. Immediately. Not joking.
So folks call on you when they're having bad times. That means you are a reliable shoulder to lean on, obviously. But why don't these folks call on you for having a good time? Have you asked them? If not, you should.
EVERY relationship, friends, significant others, family, etc., thrives on communication. You need to tell them how you feel about this.
I mean, come on. They come to you when their times are tough, shouldn't you be able to go to them in return? Yes. You should. If they don't like that, then you are rolling with the wrong crowd.
So you hate law, and you hate event management. Well, don't cut yourself down for that. At least you are a person who finishes what they start, even if they don't like it. You have degrees to prove that. But just because you have degrees in such areas of work doesn't mean that's what you have to do in your life.
What do you LIKE to do? Seriously. Sit down and think hard about it. Do you have a dream of what you'd like to be doing for work? No, no. Don't base 'dream career' on salary. Money is nice and all, but it doesn't buy happiness. An enjoyable job will create happiness.
An enjoyable job is basically getting paid for doing something you find fun and/or interesting. I mean, if you think you'd be happiest working at scraping barnacles off of tug boats, then why not try it out?
Perhaps you like crafts, and you'd be happiest working in a crafts store with dreams of owning your own someday. Then why not try it out?
You may not just like the job, but LOVE it.
I'm telling you, my friend, a job you love is a job worth having, no matter what the pay. Shoot, if I got paid $5.00/hour to pet and care for fluffy bunny rabbits all day, it wouldn't be a job, really. It would be enjoyable to do, and I'd get paid for it.
I love roller coasters. I think it would be fun to design one mean, nasty thrill ride of a coaster. And I'd get paid for having such a good time.
Can't beat that with a whole heap of sticks.
Catch my drift?
Now. Suicide is NOT the answer to your problems. Sometimes it may look that way, but looks are QUITE deceiving. It's honestly a very selfish act.
(Yah, those one folks who are only looking you up when things aren't going good, being a part of the reason you feel the way you do.... Take them out of this equation.)
Think of your family and TRUE friends. By killing you, you're killing them inside, too. You're killing a part of them. You are an important part of their lives. Nobody deserves having a loved one do that to them because life is hard.
It will cause them a lifetime of pain and self-blame: "I should have... If only... Because I didn't only, I'm to blame..."
And it goes on and on for a lifetime. It will always be there in the back of their minds, haunting them like an evil ghost.
Ever stop to think about them? Ever stop to think of how you taking your life would effect them?
That's why suicide is a selfish act.
I'm not coming down hard on you to make you feel worse. I'm just being honest. I'm trying to make sure your eyes are open, and that you are seeing the world outside of your box.
Make sense?
I certainly hope so.
What IS the answer, is making the effort to figure out what needs to be changed in order to make your life happy. Then do whatever possible to CHANGE it. If it can't be changed, you need to learn to accept it, adapt to it, overcome it.
Yah, often times it isn't an easy task, but you are worth doing that for yourself, you know.
So. Start by dialing 911. I'm serious as a heart attack. You need to seek immediate medical help for your suicidal urge. Some good ol' head therapy would be awesome for you right now. The hospital WILL see that you get the attention you need.
After that first, crucial step, you need to reevaluate everything in your life that is filling you with all this negativity, and make the effort to replace it with positives.
Again, because I can't stress it enough, it's because you are worth the effort to do these things for yourself.
I certainly hope you realize that and heed the advice everyone has given.
ygs-29/f
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like younggradma said, you will not get the advice you asked for.
look, the thoughts that you are thinking of (suicide)believe it or not will pass. I know life seems really bad and difficult, but that is what life is. Without all the bad things, the good things would not seem as great.
Don't hate yourself. You have good qualitites. You just need to remind yourself of them. You need to learn how to be more confident about yourself. You are great at something, go find it.
Forget about what you hate. Find something you like to do. Try more things, with your career. People change career field all the time. You are lucky enough to see it now, because you still have the chance to find something that suits you. Some people don't realize what they hate until it's too late.
Please, go talk to your parents, siblings, or friends about your feelings. You may not realize it, but they will be very concered about you and they will truly want to help you.
You are too young. Things always get worse before they get better, and things will get better for you! :)
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suicide is NEVER the answer. im sure you may hear that a lot, but its so true.
your only 25 years, and believe it or not, you still have so much more living to do. life works in mysterious ways sometimes you know? right now your getting this curve ball thrown at you but you cant let that get you down.
overcoming something is such a great feeling.
my advice to you is to look into a job that has your interest. you need to find something that you love doing everyday, because if your not even interested in your work, you will be misrerable going to it in the mornings.
as for the relationship issue, everyone has their downfalls when it comes to finding someone. im sure im not as expierenced as you when it comes to love and all that becuase im only 18. but i believe its so worth the wait to find someone who truley and deeply cares for you.
have you ever heaqrd the saying 'Love is the closest thing to Magic'? why wouldnt you want to live your life and expierence that for yourself? everyone deserves a wonderful feeling like that.
the people that you surround yourself around now may not be the right people for you. so branch out, and meet new people.
i hope you do reconsider your actions and realize that you are a special person who deserves a great career, a ton of close friends, and someone who loves you more than anything; vise versa.
hope i helped (:
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You won't find any members of this site
giving you suicide tips. If you are
having suicidal feelings you need to seek
medical attention. An emergency room
will work in a pinch. Please get help for
this.
A place to start is just by refusing
to listen to anymore of your friends
problems. They come to you because you
have allowed them to. Its a habit, break
their habit.
Find a job you like. You don't have to
work in the field you have degrees in.
If your education is a plus to that job
all the better, but it isn't necessary.
Knowledge of law can be helpful in almost
any job you might try for.
Make changes in your life that make
YOU happy. You don't have to worry
about anyone else. Get help for your
depression. :)
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