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Q: I do not know where to start but to make the long story short i hate my self and my life I am 25 years old i am not capable of having any kind of relationship cause I am the person you want call when u r having bad times however I am never there when u r having good time. Moreover,I finished law faculty but hate it so never practiced.I have done my master degree on something else, event management, but hate it as well. Right now I do not know what I want to in my life. So I have start to think best thing to is commit suicide....do you know the easiest and quickest way to do it.

i understand what you are going through. I recently tried to commit suicide but i took responsibility and went to the hospital. i stayed in an overnight suicide watch program and it helped alot!!!! I realized that life IS worth living and i am cared for alot..if you commit suicide you hurt so many people besides yourself. Suicide is one of the most selfish ways to die because you effect so many people. you are important in this world and things will get better :) just believe in it.

Q: I'm not allowed to do anything with my leg or arm hair. My parents think it will grow back thicker no matter how much I convince them. I also have kind of sensetive skin I guess? Well, I need every possible way to get rid of leg hair. Every time I look at my legs, theres either more hair, or getting thick. My parents think shaving will make it grow back thicker, the hair removal cream will harm my skin, and waxing, they think its bad?
If you can please help, then can you please please please list these :
- Positives and Negatives for every possible way to remove body hair
- If you tried any, then please list the comments
- Some ways to convince my parents to buying them

My parents dont even have leg hair, my dad does, so I guess it genetics. Otherwise, they still dont let me. Any advice would help. Thanks ;♥

i had that problem when i was 10...my parents wouldnt let me shave and they said it wuld just grow back even worse..well i went and did it anyway and since i had already done it, they had to let me. Your parents may just not like the idea of you growing up so fast, cut them some slack :)

Q: I have a new boyfriend and he is very sweet and we've been talking for a while now...and Im pretty sure that we love each other. I want to leave home and begin my life with him and we will get an apartment together. He lives in Texas and I live in New York. He has a very good, secure job and I will find a secure one also. We are both practicing celebacy and to ensure the stability on the matter, for now, we plan to get seperate rooms. My mother is a very religious woman, and I am also into it as well. She thinks that all matter of fornication will take place and I try to explain to her, its not going to be like that. I really love this man, but I'm caught in the realm between my mother thinking that I might forfeit my christianity and my boyfriend questioning my love for him. What Should I Do?

First of all, how old are you? if you are still in college or highschool i wouldnt move to texas for him just yet. if he truly loves you he will understand and will wait for you. I dont want you to get caught up in the moment and regret it later...just be cautious.
-itslovedarling

Q: what are some simple ways to flirt without being obvious and just kinda being friendly? and then some that are more obvious and stuff. i am just worried that if i flirt with a guy who isnt interested he will be like "that girl is stupid why does she keep flirting with me??"

Less obvious- talking!! or smile at him but then look away so its just friendly, not anything more.
Obvious- brush up against him on "accident", smile at him ALOT!!! wink!! :) sit with him and talk about everything!! To know if he is interested or not you really have to look for the signs. does he smile at you? do you catch him looking at you? is he nice to you and tries to talk to you? or does he seem to walk off everytime you get the chance, or ignore you? you really just have to read signs, or go for it and ask him!! :)
-itslovedarling.
i hoped that helped

Q: lauren and i have been best friends since 6th grade, now were freshman. we always have had major fights over stupid things that last a while or not long at all. well weve been good for a while now, not much fighting but shes like never satisfied with her froup of friends, like we have one group thats like our normal friends that she has over her house. then in school, she has to be the center of attention and is like friends with like everyone and now people are talking i think. shes gone from britt in 6th grade, to me, (big fight, during the fight) mel, then me, then now sarah and nicole and now back to me. as best friends. i feel hurt because i dont know why she does that and i dont want to leave her because when we are at our best its awesome. so ive been good friends with britt for a long time and shes kind of person who doesnt care what people think and is a bitch at times. well she talks a lot of shit but is really funny. lauren hates her, well maybe not hate, i guess doesnt like/trust and i dont trust her either but we went to the mall tonight and were talking over coffee and she started talking about all ^ (and laurens boyfriend problems, they break up a million times a month) so thinking id be a good friend, i texted lauren to tell her all of what britt told me and now lauren is mad at me, she said "ashlee wanna know the truth, now i dont trust you because your hanging out with britney so i gotta go bye." like omg i dont have a big group of friends like she does, i need britt because im not good at making friends (i can talk easily to people but like getting to the hanging out point im awful at) so with britt shes normally around. i just dont know what to say (lauren gets defensive and can turn the whole conversation around and make it my fault) i dont think she takes the truth well. i dont know what to do so that i can be her best friend i understand high school changes people and i accept her new ways i just wanna stop the fighting and be back to normal and have her stop leaving me for sarah. also i need to find a hanging out group of friends...

HELP PLEASEEE

this is tough. I have had MANY friend problems. I am a junior in highschool so im telling the truth when i say this is only the begginning. me and my best friend just stopped being friends too, but i have learned to just let it go and give some space. You could try talking to her calmly, just the two of you, without bringing anything up, and see if she goes back to normal..but she shouldnt be leaving you for other people all the time. She is probably just curious and wants everyone to like her..thats normal. You need to find more friends though, dont waste all your time on just one, have many!!! So stick yourself out there and find other people to hang out with...over time she will miss you and things will cool down and everything will be better :)
-itslovedarling

Q: http://www.windsorstore.com/shop_detail.aspx?id=67702

what do you guys think of this dress? i dont know if i shold get it or not.. i noticed the back and its like impossible to wear a bra so i was wondering how i should wear a bra.. like one that is just in the front?

i think it is an extremely pretty dress!! About the bra issue, you may have to look for a strapless bra, try one that matches the dress just in case the dress slides a bit. Make sure you get a well fitting bra or else you will be pulling it up the whole night..or you could try it on without one, that could work too

Q: So, me & this girl just started being friends again sometime around the end of February. Well, we're sort of getting closer & hanging out more often. But when she comes over, I never have any idea of what to do, but I don't want us to just sit there, you know? & she's spending the night this weekend. So, any ideas of what we can do?

Ok well it seems like you have a strong start :) so just stay calm with her and have fun. Girls like it when guys are open and sweet, so make her feel special. watch a chick flick, such as a walk to remember or the notebook..have some popcorn and cuddle on the couch..that will keep you busy for like an hour and a half. Maybe suggest a game like twister or something where touching is involved :) Or you could go for a walk and just talk, it'd be a good chance to really show her how much you like her. :) & make sure she's comfortable when she goes to bed.

Q: I need R&B songs just to do with like really really liking a guy and you would do anything for him to like you and he just makes you really sick and makes you go through a lot ?

Sorry if it's too confusing =/

Hate that i love you- by Rhianna and Chris brown might be a good one. They love eachother but they go through alot of pain.
-itslovedarling

Q: 15/f

I want to try and get into Yale. I know it's a lot of work. Can someone tell me all the qualifications and stuff?

i couldn't really find it on the website.

also do colleges like that have everything? like if i wanted to do fashion would they have courses on stuff like that?

thanks to anyone who can help!

i dont know all the qualifications but i am 17 years old and a junior in High School so i know all about applying to colleges. Keep your grades up, that is number one!! Get involved, do charity work such as volunteering at soup kitches. Participate in activities in your school and stay on your teacher's good sides..you may need a recomendation from them. To find out if that college has a course you are interested in, you would have to go to their website and check their academic list. I wish you all the luck :)
-itslovedarling