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best friends for never?
lauren and i have been best friends since 6th grade, now were freshman. we always have had major fights over stupid things that last a while or not long at all. well weve been good for a while now, not much fighting but shes like never satisfied with her froup of friends, like we have one group thats like our normal friends that she has over her house. then in school, she has to be the center of attention and is like friends with like everyone and now people are talking i think. shes gone from britt in 6th grade, to me, (big fight, during the fight) mel, then me, then now sarah and nicole and now back to me. as best friends. i feel hurt because i dont know why she does that and i dont want to leave her because when we are at our best its awesome. so ive been good friends with britt for a long time and shes kind of person who doesnt care what people think and is a bitch at times. well she talks a lot of shit but is really funny. lauren hates her, well maybe not hate, i guess doesnt like/trust and i dont trust her either but we went to the mall tonight and were talking over coffee and she started talking about all ^ (and laurens boyfriend problems, they break up a million times a month) so thinking id be a good friend, i texted lauren to tell her all of what britt told me and now lauren is mad at me, she said "ashlee wanna know the truth, now i dont trust you because your hanging out with britney so i gotta go bye." like omg i dont have a big group of friends like she does, i need britt because im not good at making friends (i can talk easily to people but like getting to the hanging out point im awful at) so with britt shes normally around. i just dont know what to say (lauren gets defensive and can turn the whole conversation around and make it my fault) i dont think she takes the truth well. i dont know what to do so that i can be her best friend i understand high school changes people and i accept her new ways i just wanna stop the fighting and be back to normal and have her stop leaving me for sarah. also i need to find a hanging out group of friends...
HELP PLEASEEE
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It looks like lauren is one of those people who just hang out with people when they feel like it. If you consider britt a true friend, stay with her, if you don't, find somebody that actually will stay your best friend and not turn her back on you every second. Hope i helped.
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Argh, high school dramas suck eh?
Give some space firstly. She'll be calmer in a few days and then you can talk to her about it. Then after that, explain you were just being a good friend and telling her what happened. And you have every right to still be friends with someone, even if she's not friends with her anymore.
Explain to her, that you'll still hang out with Britt, but you'll never talk about her or ask her to hang out with you when you're with her.
And if she then doesn't understand that, I know this isn't what you want to hear but she's honestly not worth it. She can't control your life and tell you who you can't hang out with.
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this is tough. I have had MANY friend problems. I am a junior in highschool so im telling the truth when i say this is only the begginning. me and my best friend just stopped being friends too, but i have learned to just let it go and give some space. You could try talking to her calmly, just the two of you, without bringing anything up, and see if she goes back to normal..but she shouldnt be leaving you for other people all the time. She is probably just curious and wants everyone to like her..thats normal. You need to find more friends though, dont waste all your time on just one, have many!!! So stick yourself out there and find other people to hang out with...over time she will miss you and things will cool down and everything will be better :)
-itslovedarling
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