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so i'm new at this school and i want people to like me. how can i make this happen? today was my first day and people where nice to me etc but i still have noone to hang out with and i was alone in the breaks. what can i do to have a 'good vibe' ?? (link)
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Hey. I've been the new girl twice, so I know what you're going through.
Firstly, talk to people. Don't shy away when people talk to you. Ask them questions about the school.
But here's my main piece of advice: don't stay with the first group you hang out with. Sure, do get to know them, do hang out with them when they ask, but just because you now have someone to hang out with doesn't mean you shouldn't keep your options open. You may have heaps of things to talk about in the first few days, but that could wear thin quickly.
At the first school where I was the 'new girl' the popular kids kept asking me to hang with them. I accepted once, but then kept declining the next few times because it didn't feel right. Then I hung out with my friend who I had known for years. Although I got along with her nicely, I didn't with her friends. Then I finally settled down with the group of friends in most of my classes, and they stayed my friends for the rest of my time there (give or take a few due to silly fights)
At my second high school, I stayed with the first group that offered. The first day was great, we got on really well. The second was okay, I could speak a few times. The next week I found it hard to enter conversations so I stayed silent most of the time. I ended up sitting away from them and just texted people all lunch.
It was like that for 9ish months. I then finally started talking to new people, and now I have a few groups to sit with at lunch, and I can finally talk during lunch and enjoy it.
Sorry to ramble about my life, but it was the best example I could use. Don't feel obligated to hang with the first group you find.
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I'm 17 and female, and I'm really thinking about going on the pill. However, I do NOT want to start taking it because I'm sexually active. I am NOT sexually active and I'm still a virgin.
The reason I want to start it is to regulate my period. I've had it for 4 years now and it has never been regular.
I just don't know how to talk to my mom about it and that is what I need help with. I'm afraid she'll assume that I'm sexually active and think terrible things about me or something...
Any suggestions? =) (link)
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Do you have a boyfriend? If not, point this out to her when you ask.
If I were you, I'd be subtle and sneaky about asking. It may take longer, and it's a bit embarrassing, but this is what my boyfriend told me to do when I wanted to go on birth control.
Just keep complaining to your Mum about having an irregular period. Make it out to be one of the worst things in your life.
She might then offer to take you to the doctor. If not, say something along the lines of 'hey Mum, this is sort of awkward to ask because of what birth control is really for....but I heard it regulates periods. Is this true?' and go from there.
Where you live, can't you go by yourself anyway? In Australia, as soon as you hit 16 you can go to the doctor without a parent. I was 16 when I did this, and got the birth control pills by myself (yeah I didn't follow my boyfriend's advice)
Anyway good luck, and bc works wonders with regulating periods. Mine was whack for about 4 years as well.
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what do i do when my body odor is unbearably acrid, even to me? sometimes when im in class and i raise my hand, i catch of whiff of my pits, and its not pleasant. i wear deodorant in the morning, but it wears off. i know i can reapply, and i do, but what should i do when the smell leaks out of my armpits? should i pretend like i dont smell it? should i confess and say its my body odor? or should i blame it on my best friend? please help! im tired of making up excuses for my stench!
ps-- what do i do about sweat marks on my tee shirts? when i perspire a lot, which isnt too often but it happens, i'll put a hoody over my sweaty tee shirt, but the sweat marks seep through the hoody material! help!! (link)
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Do you shave under your arms? That would help, A LOT. They collect the sweat so that would give you sweat marks and bad odour.
Other than that, I suggest using roll on deodorant other than spray on deodorant. The powderyness of it collects the sweat but stops it from going wet because the powder cancels it out.
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I just dont get this one guy I saw across the street . He sounded like he called me a bitch. And I am not sure if I saw him before. Because it kind of feels like he was this guy that used to bother me back in highschool. I just dont get what he's deal is with me. And he hurts my feelings. He can not let go of little things that in his opinion hurtful. I think you know what it means when someone calls some girl a bitch so that is what of the reason why I am mad too. This whole thing bothers me because maybe he was this guy that bothered me in highschool and he could still be continuing everything. (link)
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Hiya!
I know how it feels when someone from your past wants to continue to hurt you. You are just sick of them, and you want to leave them and the feud in the past but they keep bringing it up.
It's understandable how you feel. Someone who doesn't even know you anymore (You mentioned you went to high school with him, I'm going to assume you graduated a while ago and haven't seen him since then) is still judging you and trying to hurt you, even though you've put it in the past and moved on.
Hopefully, you won't see him for a while again. If you do however, there are two options
a) You can ignore him like you did then. There is nothing wrong with that. He's in your past, and you don't have to see him reguarly.
b) Say something back. If you do, say something alongs the line of "Who are you and why are you insulting me?"Show him you don't even think about him anymore, and you've put him in your past. No matter how much he wishes, he doesn't haunt you.
Just remember, this is some jerk who can't let go of ridiculous high school shenanigans. Even if he hurts you, you're the better person because you've moved on. You feeling hurt is only a human feeling from this, him being a jerk is human too, human enough to show he is a complete failure in life.
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So i read your response to one of the Depression questions, and I was sorta going through the same thing as her. I've figured out that I just need a change of environment and I need new people in my life, but I don't know how to get there. I have no money, no car, no boyfriend. Could you give me ideas on how to start changing little things to help me out until i'm off to college. thanks :)
p.s. i'm 17 f (link)
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Hiya :)
No matter what anyone says, I know how hard it is to make new friends at school.
No idea about your situation, but we'll use mine for example. I went to a pretty bad school, in a bad area. Ever since my first day I was hated for actually paying attention and all that jazz. I was picked on constantly, and lost all the friends I did make. Everyone on here told me just to make new friends, but I couldn't. So I know that it can be impossible to make new friends once you're stuck at school.
Before I had a chance to change schools what did I do? Made a weekend group. Although I couldn't change environments, with my house and school, I could change my environment on weekends.
You mentioned having no car or money. Does your town have a reliant public transport system? Like you, I am licenseless and moneyless, but public transport is affordable and it gets you almost anywhere.
If it's not, how far would your parents drive you? I'm sure if you explained to them having new friends means a lot to you, they'd be willing to drive you places.
ANYWAY, for the most important part, the new friends. Whenever you ask that question on here, someone will say something like "Stuff that interest you, sporting clubs, drama clubs, basic clubs etc" but sometimes it's hard to find those sorta clubs.
FACT, a lot of friends in your life you'll make unexpectantly. So in your day to day life be on the lookout for new friends. Strike up conversations with people, talk to people longer than you normally would.
A good way to meet people are at gigs. What sort of music do you enjoy? If you go along to those, you'll find heaps of easy ways to talk to people and meet new people.
Activism is another thing, sounds pathetic but I met heaps of my friends and even my boyfriend at protests of all sorts. You could give those a go.
Basically just look around for events and social things you have a passion for, and strike up conversations with people.
Another way to meet people is online. Join a forum for something you enjoy, friend people on MySpace who are friends of a friend of a friend who sound interesting. It may sound desperate, but in this modern day and age it's a wonderful tool to use to meet new people.
So yeah, I hope I helped a little bit!
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Mkayy well I don't know if this is a cute idea for a guy or whhahh. But my boyfriend is a senior, I'm a sophomore. We've been dating on and off for almost a yearrrr, anyway, I was just wondering if this is a good idea to ask him to like Winter Formal:
So like over break, I'll tell him I need to talk to him, he'll come over but then in my driveway will be WINTER FORMAL spelled out in rose petals and then like in tea light candles put a huge heart around it and light it?
I don't know if this is like good for a guy haha my Mom was like um I don't think your bf will like that, that's more of like a girl thing with the rose petals? My other idea is just spelling out WINTER FORMAL in tea lights but like that'll take awhile haha and I'm scared only parts of the letters will stay lit, if you know what I'm saying? Anywayy thanks(: (link)
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Although they don't show it, guys like romance as much as girls. They like it when girls put effort into impressing them.
That shows romance and you trying to impress him, and I'm sure he'd love it, definitely more than you just asking him verbally to go with you.
The fact you're thinking about it, and came up with that idea shows you think he might appreciate it. You know your bf more than your Mum, so if I were you I'd go for it!
Even if your plan somehow screws up, it still shows you made effort and I'm sure your bf would love it!
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I feel like there is nothign I can do to be happy. I've cried 3 out of the past 6 days, and cannot get happy again. The reason I never got help is becasue I'd have 3 bad days, and then have one good day and thinkn that I am fine. I have a loss in appitite, headaches, I feel like I'm just going through the motions every day, I want to be alone a lot, and I feel like I'm pushing some people away. Help!! (link)
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Aw you poor thing :(
I suffered depression for 3 years, and about 6 months ago I got over it.
The first step to getting over depression is the same step to getting over a lot of problems/disorders. That is to pinpoint why.
Why are you depressed? I'm not asking for the answer, but I'm asking you to find the answer. Because once you find that answer, you can start to attempt to overcome that problem and the depression itself.
The second step can also be the first. Sometimes for some people, it's obvious why they're feeling depressed. For others, it's not so obvious. They just feel down, and they don't know why.
So the second (and maybe the first) could be seeking professional help. For some people professional help is great. For others, it's pretty much useless. However, it's great to go a few times, just so you know if it's the right choice or not.
But they can also help you come up with a solution to fix your depression.
If professional help isn't for you, confide in family and friends. They, like professionals, can help you assess the situation and come up with a solution. Sometimes that's better than a professional.
If your depression was like mine, sometimes even a change of environment is needed. The place around you is depressing, and you're not fitting in. This can be a very difficult step because a lot of people aren't financially prepared to change environments because of something like depression.
However, hopefully your depression isn't reliant on that, and do the first few things and cross that bridge when you come to it :)
I'm sure there are other columnists on here who will give much better advice than me, but I hope that helped a little bit, from someone who has recently overcome depression.
The journey isn't as long and winding as it seems if you have support behind you. Overcoming depression is the best thing you can do in life, and you'll be so happy after you do it. I wish you a safe and happy 'journey' overcoming this :)
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HEY PEOPLE!
yeah, im 5'5 15 years old. And i weigh like 158, which i think is like really overweight, i would really like to be at 150, or 145. And I did this diet for 5 days like, 5 days. And it was kinda like the cabbage soup diet. It was where you could only eat all the soup and fruit you want. Well, i lost about 8lbs on it and i quit on the 5th day, because i passed out from not eating like anything, because where i was at, they didnt have anything, and i almost went to the hospital from lack of food and no sleep that night (i was with my friends the night before and got 3 hours of sleep) and now that im not on the diet. I feel extremely HUNGRY. Everytime I eat I want to eat like double of what i normally used to eat before i went on this diet. And I dont want to gain all the weight back. I really need some help. I dont know what to do really. (link)
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Hiya!
I know what it's like going on those crappy diets. I went on one too, and I quit very early too from bad effects.
I used to be about that weight, well I weighed even more to start off with actually.
The best way to lose weight really is diet and exercise. I know people say that as if it's really easy, and it isn't!
You don't have to go overboard. Just a quick walk a day would do.
As for diet, you can still enjoy nice foods. All you have to do is cut out most junk, honest, it turns out well. You can still enjoy foods with carbs, just cut out foods with excessive carbs, and foods with excessive bad fats.
So in short, cut out junk food, foods high in sugar, soda and go for a 30 minute walk a day and you'll see results, I promise.
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me 15 him 18
my best friend and i dated for like 2 weeks this time last year but when it didnt work out cause he wanted to be with "the love of his life" and then we became best friends. Well we are on the " I secretly like you and want to be with you" kinda thing. we agreed we wouldnt acculy do anyhitng or say we loved each other. Then this week he started to say he loved me and I said it back because I did, and i thought it was as a friend kinda thing. Then this weekend he was in town and his girl friend wasnt so he asked me to hang out with him. it was 2 in the morning and I said no. Then he said well I want to do stuff with you and I asked like what he said "sexual" things. He is still a virgain and he knows I am not. So I told him that I was going to bed and he said he loved me and he always would. I thought he might have been drinking or maybe he was high so I didnt repliy to him. now he keeps saying it and saying he wants to be with me this weekend. He said that I am number 2 to his girlfriend but it might not be like that for ever. I want to be with him more then anyhting and I am so confused on what he wants cause he says he loves me but loves her a little more...I love him and he knows it but what do I do right now? (link)
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Sorry, this won't be the answer you're looking for.
Firstly, he can't think very high of you OR his girlfriend.
Look at it this way. He wants her as his girlfriend. He wants you as a toy. He wants to cheat on her.
He hasn't said he would dump her for you. He's said you come second.
I think that speaks for itself. You need to tell him you're happy to be his friend, but you can't wait around for someone being disrespectful to both girls in his life.
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does anyone know any songs that:
are about wanting to be with someone but can't because they are leaving to go somewhere else
or songs about:
wanting to be with someone but you can't because of an age difference in the real world or in high school. (link)
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Someday, Someday - Thirsty Merc
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there's like an orchestra thing that plays the more orchestra version of background music like pocketful of sunshine and a bunch of coldplay songs and stuff. whats the orchestra/band's name?? (link)
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Is it the string quartret tribute? I know they've covered some pop rock bands like Fall Out Boy and Panic at the Disco as an orchesta piece.
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what really is a fling? is like when two people just makeout and do intimate things together but not have any feelings?? or is it liek a sex-buddy, when you just meet up to have sex and leave.
thanks. (link)
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A fling comes down to a personal opinion, but whenever someone brings it up in conversation you know what it is. It depends more on context.
A fling to me is a brief period when you are with someone, for sexual reasons. That can be making out, to sex. Usually no strings attached.
I think if it goes on for longer, it isn't a 'fling' but a sex buddy or something.
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I have a iTouch (not the phone) and the only place I can use the internet is when I go to Panara Bread and I don't have wi-fi at my house. Is there anything I can get so I can use the internet anywhere? (link)
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Nope, the iTouch internet only works through a wi-fi signal.
There are things you can get which you plug into a laptop (Or alternatively phones which come with one, such as a HipTop or sidekick) which pick up and use cell phone waves instead of a wi-fi signal, however I don't think they've made a piece of software avaliable to use on an iTouch at the moment.
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on msn plus, how we can like make our messages coloured, how do you make it faded?? i know theres a trick to it, not just highlighting every individual letter and making every letter a shade lighter.
But could you please tell me how to do the fading thing??
Thanks:) (link)
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Open up an MSN convo with anyone.
See next to the voice clip convo there's a small msn plus icon? Well next to that there's a mini pane of colours. Click that. When that pops up, click the "T" then click "gradient text" Then pick the starting colour you want, then the finishing colour.
For example say I wanted the fading text to start with red and end with black. So I'd pick red first then black.
Then type in your message and click enter. Presto! Fading text in your choice of colours!
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lauren and i have been best friends since 6th grade, now were freshman. we always have had major fights over stupid things that last a while or not long at all. well weve been good for a while now, not much fighting but shes like never satisfied with her froup of friends, like we have one group thats like our normal friends that she has over her house. then in school, she has to be the center of attention and is like friends with like everyone and now people are talking i think. shes gone from britt in 6th grade, to me, (big fight, during the fight) mel, then me, then now sarah and nicole and now back to me. as best friends. i feel hurt because i dont know why she does that and i dont want to leave her because when we are at our best its awesome. so ive been good friends with britt for a long time and shes kind of person who doesnt care what people think and is a bitch at times. well she talks a lot of shit but is really funny. lauren hates her, well maybe not hate, i guess doesnt like/trust and i dont trust her either but we went to the mall tonight and were talking over coffee and she started talking about all ^ (and laurens boyfriend problems, they break up a million times a month) so thinking id be a good friend, i texted lauren to tell her all of what britt told me and now lauren is mad at me, she said "ashlee wanna know the truth, now i dont trust you because your hanging out with britney so i gotta go bye." like omg i dont have a big group of friends like she does, i need britt because im not good at making friends (i can talk easily to people but like getting to the hanging out point im awful at) so with britt shes normally around. i just dont know what to say (lauren gets defensive and can turn the whole conversation around and make it my fault) i dont think she takes the truth well. i dont know what to do so that i can be her best friend i understand high school changes people and i accept her new ways i just wanna stop the fighting and be back to normal and have her stop leaving me for sarah. also i need to find a hanging out group of friends...
HELP PLEASEEE (link)
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Argh, high school dramas suck eh?
Give some space firstly. She'll be calmer in a few days and then you can talk to her about it. Then after that, explain you were just being a good friend and telling her what happened. And you have every right to still be friends with someone, even if she's not friends with her anymore.
Explain to her, that you'll still hang out with Britt, but you'll never talk about her or ask her to hang out with you when you're with her.
And if she then doesn't understand that, I know this isn't what you want to hear but she's honestly not worth it. She can't control your life and tell you who you can't hang out with.
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So I like this guy who's a friend and we were getting closer. Like a lot closer. We went fro barely talking to each other a couple times a week to talking, saying hi, and hugging everyday. Like everytime he saw me he'd come up and talk to me and hug me and whatever but he had a gf. I mean I knew that and I wasn't trying to be a homewrecker or anything and try to break them up but we were like that even before they started going out. But anyways out of no where he just stopped talking to me. Like it literally happened over night. We were fine one day then the next day I said hi and hugged him but he was seemed really distant. And I thought he was having a bad day or something and I just ignored it but for days it was like that. Then it was weeks.
And still to this day he barely talks to me. He'd pass right by me and not even look at me and walk around me when before he used to go out of his way to come and talk to me. I've started thinking that maybe his gf got jealous or something and didn't want him hugging other girls all the time or something but I see him with other girls all the time. It seems that its just me he's been distant with.. And last week I found out that his gf broke up with him because it turned out he'd been distant from her too..
He still says hi to me every once in a while but its not the same and its really awkward. And sometimes I'll catch him looking at me but then he'll look away all of a sudden and sometimes I try to catch his eye and he busies himself in watching his feet or something.
I just want to know what it means and like some guys' point of views would really help. I mean I don't know if I did something wrong or what but I really miss him as a friend. I've tried talking to him about it but he won't really give me the time of day. So any insight/advice or anything would really help. Thanks in advance. (link)
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I think the reason he distanced himself could be something cliche, like his girlfriend asked him to or pointed out how close you were. However life isn't like a television show, he would have been too embarrassed to tell you why and to be honest, probably too chicken.
Also, maybe he got freaked out. He realised what was going on and now has no idea how to act around you, or he avoids you.
I know it sounds cliche, but it's more likely than you'd think.
You haven't done anything wrong, remember that. I don't think there's much you can do, other than wait for it pass over. Maybe you should confront him, and be like "what the hell have I done? Why are you avoiding me? Tell me, and I'll have the information I need and leave you alone"
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Why is there even an American Idol? Only one artist was popular [Kelly Clarkson] and I can see Carrie Underwood following her footsteps. But the other winners.. do they only do songs based on what society likes? I was listening to Jordan Sparks songs.. and it doesn't even show off her talent. it's just repeating a few words and it sounds so fixed. is this what people like nowadays? =s (link)
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American Idol is run for ratings, and not how successful the artist will be later on.
The makers don't care about how the artists do, they only care about pulling in ratings. I don't live in the USA (Australia, we have Australian Idol here and our producers are doing the same thing)
I think people are over manfucatered artists. Voters only have a small selection to choose who they'd want to win, so they may vote for who they believe derserves to win, but at the end of it, it doesn't mean they want to become fans of their work.
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i need a code that hides the words in the comments that say : 'comment back send message block user'
i only want that hidden, not the comments just those words above the message in the comments. thankyou..:) (link)
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If you're worried about it showing up in your profile to other users, don't worry about it. It only shows up to you, as it has no need for anyone else.
Go onto a friend's profile, then their comment section. You'll notice they don't have it either, and I'm 100% sure they didn't use any code.
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ok... so I am looking for some new music that I think that I would lke. My type of style is rock, pop, alternative (but not screamo). The bands I like are paramore, hinder, threedaysgrace, and boyslikegirls. Are there any other music that i would like?
thanks (link)
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Hi there! Here are a list of artists you might enjoy:
- Jack's Mannequin
- Something Corporate
- Sixpense None the Richer
- The Academy Is...
- Less Than Jake
- The Living End
- Garbage
- Bowling For Soup
- No Doubt
- Reset
- Third Eye Blind
- Counting Crows
- Phantom Planet
- MxPx
- AFI
- Sugarcult
- Kisschasy
- Killing Heidi
You've probably heard/heard of most those artists before :P But if that's the case, just take a more interested listen, see if you want to listen to more of their music or not.
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Does anybody out there know any Obama videos (pro-obama) like
"Hey There Obama"
and the 'Obama Girl' ones?
I'd like to see others liek those.
Thaaankss :) (link)
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http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=eBGIQ7ZuuiU
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