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my best friend loves me???
me 15 him 18
my best friend and i dated for like 2 weeks this time last year but when it didnt work out cause he wanted to be with "the love of his life" and then we became best friends. Well we are on the " I secretly like you and want to be with you" kinda thing. we agreed we wouldnt acculy do anyhitng or say we loved each other. Then this week he started to say he loved me and I said it back because I did, and i thought it was as a friend kinda thing. Then this weekend he was in town and his girl friend wasnt so he asked me to hang out with him. it was 2 in the morning and I said no. Then he said well I want to do stuff with you and I asked like what he said "sexual" things. He is still a virgain and he knows I am not. So I told him that I was going to bed and he said he loved me and he always would. I thought he might have been drinking or maybe he was high so I didnt repliy to him. now he keeps saying it and saying he wants to be with me this weekend. He said that I am number 2 to his girlfriend but it might not be like that for ever. I want to be with him more then anyhting and I am so confused on what he wants cause he says he loves me but loves her a little more...I love him and he knows it but what do I do right now?
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Never settle for being number two. Let him know that if he wants you that you need to be first, and only, in his life. You're worth more than that.
Second, and this is going to sound REALLY bad and I'm sorry, he sounds like a major moron. He's trying to cheat on his girlfriend with you, and that makes him a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and he's not even TRYING to be crafty about it.
It's fine if you want to be still be friends with him, and if you want to be sexual with him, that's cool too. I have a friend that I'm like that with when I'm not involved with someone and I love him more than life itself, but I WOULD NOT lower myself to being his number two gal. He knows that. He also knows that we could never work as a couple because of how he is (a cheat and kind of a whore) and your guy sounds a lot like mine except that he's still a virgin.
You're better than being his backup, and you need to sit down and tell him that you won't be his second. All or nothing.
He's lucky you don't rat him out to his girl in MY opinion. Guys like that infuriate me.
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Sorry, this won't be the answer you're looking for.
Firstly, he can't think very high of you OR his girlfriend.
Look at it this way. He wants her as his girlfriend. He wants you as a toy. He wants to cheat on her.
He hasn't said he would dump her for you. He's said you come second.
I think that speaks for itself. You need to tell him you're happy to be his friend, but you can't wait around for someone being disrespectful to both girls in his life.
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