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so i'm new at this school ...
so i'm new at this school and i want people to like me. how can i make this happen? today was my first day and people where nice to me etc but i still have noone to hang out with and i was alone in the breaks. what can i do to have a 'good vibe' ??
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well walk up to a group introduce yourself - and just be yourself!!!
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First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
-Laura (17-f)
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Hey. I've been the new girl twice, so I know what you're going through.
Firstly, talk to people. Don't shy away when people talk to you. Ask them questions about the school.
But here's my main piece of advice: don't stay with the first group you hang out with. Sure, do get to know them, do hang out with them when they ask, but just because you now have someone to hang out with doesn't mean you shouldn't keep your options open. You may have heaps of things to talk about in the first few days, but that could wear thin quickly.
At the first school where I was the 'new girl' the popular kids kept asking me to hang with them. I accepted once, but then kept declining the next few times because it didn't feel right. Then I hung out with my friend who I had known for years. Although I got along with her nicely, I didn't with her friends. Then I finally settled down with the group of friends in most of my classes, and they stayed my friends for the rest of my time there (give or take a few due to silly fights)
At my second high school, I stayed with the first group that offered. The first day was great, we got on really well. The second was okay, I could speak a few times. The next week I found it hard to enter conversations so I stayed silent most of the time. I ended up sitting away from them and just texted people all lunch.
It was like that for 9ish months. I then finally started talking to new people, and now I have a few groups to sit with at lunch, and I can finally talk during lunch and enjoy it.
Sorry to ramble about my life, but it was the best example I could use. Don't feel obligated to hang with the first group you find.
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It would be incredibly unusual if you had become extremely popular on your first day. First day's always seem worse than they'll be in the long run, I've had my share where the people didn't even like me to begin with..
Give it a bit of time. In a few days you'll feel much better and more settled in. If you really want to speed up the process, however, there's only one sure way to do that, and it's to get out there and make the first move. Smile at classmates and initiate conversations whenever you can. At first things may seem really awkward but everyone will go through that stage, it's unavoidable until you get used to the people and your new surroundings.
I can assure you though that if you make the first move towards friends you'll soon find the awkward phase has not only subsided but become a thing of the past.
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