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Last week I posted up a question about two guys I'm stuck between. Oh my god it just got harder, now my childhood friend says that he doesn't want to lose me and my boyfriend the one I'm on break with told me that he is going to fight for me as long as he knows that I love him. This situation just got hard and I'm even more stuck because I don't know if I should be creeped out over this or I should take what my boyfriend told me into consideration and get back with him. If your wondering what my situation is just go to my questions and look up Who do I choose? thats where the story of these two guys are. I'm stuck I have to choose now or never.
There is a saying that is like "If you fall for two people, pick the second one. Because if you really loved the first one, you would never have fallen for anyone else". I never saw your other post, so i'm not too familiar on what exactly your situation is, but my best advice to you is to go with the person who wasn't first in your heart. You could also do some pros and cons in your head of the two, and find out which one you're more compatible with, which one makes you laugh and so on. Hopefully one guy stands out to you and is a better match in the long run. Good luck with whomever you choose to be with!
Hi. So I'm just about sixteen and I've been depressed since I was nine years. I was physically, sexually, and verbally abused, and I was also neglected until about eight months ago by my parents. I'm in foster care now, but I still have horrible flashbacks, panic attacks, and am extremely paranoid. I'm still really depressed and want to kill myself. I've been cutting since I was nine years old. I feel like everyone would be much better off if I was dead. I feel like no one gives a damn about me. I just need to know what to do. I really do want to be happy, but I don't know how! help!
I recently lost my older brother to suicide, and i'll tell you right now that leaving that way is not the answer. He thought he wasn't loved and that no one would even notice/care that he was gone. I can't tell you how wrong he was, and i know he's looking down on all of his friends and family wishing he wouldn't have left the way he did. When someone decides to leave this world by choice, it's not like the world just goes on like nothing happend, every single thing changes for everyone who knew that person. I understand where you're coming from regarding feeling like no one cares and that this would be easier, but i'm strongly asking to reconsider. I want you to trust in someone, anyone and let them know what's on your mind. I want you to tell them that you do want to live and be happy, but you don't know how to. People all around you will drop what their doing to help you out in any way they can. I would give my life to make sure my brother knew he wasn't a waste of space, but unfortuantly i didn't find out until it was too late. Don't give up. Life is so damn hard, but just look past all the hurdles and think of all the good you're going to expierence. I really hope you don't do something you regret.
he's about as weird as they get. i'm absolutely in love with him though. this guy is in a class of mine at school. he's not nerdy, he just doesn't go out, and doesn't really do anything about his social life, so we never cross paths outside of school aside from the internet where we talk. we've become good friends though and he clicks well with mine. i think he likes me by the way he smiles at me and talks to me differently than with other girls. he flirts with me like crazy and turns red every time we talk. he doesn't talk to many girls though. i try to make it obvious that i like him but boys can be stupid and i don't think he's getting the picture since he's never had a girlfriend or much experience, and i really want him to ask me to hang out. what do i do?
That's so cute! I've known plenty of guys who were too shy to make the first move, or had zero clue on what to say/do to let you know they want to be with you too. I think your best bet is to be the one to ask him out, because i can almost assure you that if you don't make the first move, nothing will happen. Just go for it and soon enough he will start to loosen up and feel more comfortable with things, i promise!
I'll try to keep it short. One day, I was playing games on my boyfriend's phone when I noticed a series of texts from this girl (we have tons of mutual friends so I was wondering why I didn't know this girl). I went through the texts and I didn't like what I saw. Texts like "smart is sexy", "hanky panky is a fun exercise ;)", etc. were in there and I got really angry. I confronted him about it, but he didn't seem concerned at all. He casually mentioned he's known this girl for a while and they've always joked around like that and it wasn't a huge deal. I'm old fashioned and I see it as a mild form of cheating. Am I overreacting or should I be worried? Thanks so much guys in advance.
I hate to admitt it, but i've been the other girl that your boyfriend is texting. I have flirted purposely when i know a guy has a girlfriend, and 95% of the time, it's because the guy finds the other person attractive in some way or another. If i were you, i would for sure be mad about it, you have every reason to question his behavior because he should know better.
Of course flirting is harmless, and that could be the only thing going on, i'm not saying he is actually cheating on you. Everyone flirts, but it just depends if the guy is taking it to a level that he knows he shouldn't be.
Just talk to him about it; don't always assume, but don't just look past it either. You can let him know that you don't feel comfortable with him sending those kind of texts to other girls, and hopefully he respects you enough to stop.
i want to quit my job because my boss is a racist bt my partner is not letting me do it
First of all, you shouldn't let anyone tell you what to do. Especially your partner. They are suppose to be there to support you, and if they can see that you are stuck somewhere you don't like, they should have your back. It's YOUR life, and you are the one being surrounded by a negative enviorment, not your partner. Do what's best for you.
hello, i wanna start taking the pill im 21 and im very nervous i dont trust condoms so i have the money and everything i dont care about going to get them , the only problem is , is it really necesarry to go to see a doctore before start taking them? or do i just get them and start the process? why do you need to go see a gynecologist if in fact i need to ? im very stressed out and its not easy to get an appointment with a gynecologist cause first id have to go into general apoointment with a general medicine doctor, then they could send me with the gynecologist etc...cause thats how health system works where i live, we don't have planned parenthood things here i am not from the US, why do they say you need to see your doctor before being put on the pill? cant i just buy it and start taking it ? thanks !
Unfortunately there isn't any way to get the pill unless you go see a gyno first. It really shouldn't be as complex as you're making it sound. Ask your mom if you can go to the person she sees, and all you do is make an appoitment, get checked out and he/she will prescribe one for you to get filled! Good luck!
Does braces hurt after they are done putting them on?? My mom is getting me to get braces REALLY soon beccause my teeth are terriable .
Please help ; i am really scared they will hurt afterwarrds ,
And if i get them, what CAN i eat ? ;o
I actually just got braces four days ago. When they put them on it didn't hurt at all, it took like 9 hours to actually start hurting. It hurt like crazy for two days or so, and then after that it only hurt when i bit down, or tried to chew.
Start out by eating soft foods like soup or mac and cheese. I ate pudding and pretty much anything that i could swallow without having to chew at all.
A few days later i taught myself how to chew solid foods again, i would put small pieces in the back of my mouth and chewed with my wisdom teeth. So if you still have those, then they will be a better alternative.
i feel rejected... and i dont know whats wrong with me...i tried dressing up more dressing down looking this or that acting this way or another... i tried virtually everything conceivable to attract a guy.... i've tried just being myself and still to no adieu..... i know many of you will suggest to give it time... but believe me i've tried for so long and it is not like my shift are drastic and sudden or short spanned...
i am ashamed of asking people to rate me sincerely on my looks ( because that essentially will make me look like a maniac) i am not overweight but even if i were i don't understand how that would stop someone from liking me... i've seen people who are attracted to those on the "healthy" side of the scale and have had prosperous stable relationships with their loved ones .... is it my personality? i do not know... i'm really confused... i have a diverse wide number of friends from all walks of life and i'm very social and liked.... what is wrong with me?
it is really wearing me down.. i am 20 and never had a boyfriend or any form of relationship beyond friendship with a guy for that matter.....
please help.....
relationships work in strange ways sometimes. they dont always go the way we would like them to; thats just life i guess.
all i can say is that maybe your not looking in the right place for a guy. and you shouldnt settle for just anyone--so im glad that you wouldnt just date some random guy just so say you dated someone. kuddos for that.
you just need to try and put yourself out there more, show everyone your avaliable and what you have to offer. you sound like such a sweet and chill girl. and what guy wouldnt want that to themselves?
another factor could be that, its just simply not the time or place for you to be in a relationship right now. maybe for some reason its taking longer so that it can lead up to something really special for you. i believe in the quote 'things happen for a reason.' and i really do think that hope isnt up for you. you WILL find what your looking for, but for now, its just a journey.
i know you didnt want to hear the expression 'it takes time', but in this case, its so true. EVERYTHING takes time whether we like it or not. and you will get to the point where you start seeing things really good happen for you, and its your job to keep going your way. life only takes us so far, and when we reached a certain point, its all up to us on how it goes.
so when your time is here, be ready to take control of your future.
good luck (:
i got fired from my job in decemberand ever since then i have been putting in numerous applications almost every day. i have only gotten one interview so far for a job and they said that they selected someone else for the job.i feel like nobody wants to hire me. the problem is iget unemployment for being out of work and im afraid that i wont have a job before my unemployment runs out, which will be in a few months and my mom wont and cant give me any money. im just getting really discouraged with my jobsearch, because it seems like i havent got anything out of it. if anybody can help it would be appreciated. thank you!
oh i totally know what your going through. thats like my situation every single time when i need a job.
it seems like whenever i need a job really bad, no one calls, but when i already get a job--the other people start calling me for interviews.
some companies have a file of applications they have to look through everyday, so getting a call back right away doesnt happen that much anymore.
all i can say is just apply to as many places as you can, and be pacient. because people WILL end up calling you; more than one im sure.
when you go in for your interview, remember to dress to impress, be yourself, and show a good impression--since the first impression is a huge factor on whether or not you get the job.
dont let this get you down, you just need to hold in there and i gaurentee you will be getting called in for an interview in no time.
good luck!
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it seems to me like there is this universal standard look of beauty..... long flowy hair (even beyoncay, hale bare, maraiah carey spend hours turning it into something Caucasians and Latinas have) what ever happened to curly hair? even curls the curls the have are fake!
not that i am saying all those women are ugly or anything but if thats the standard then heck i'm way out of the picture....... and its making me feel terrible. i am not fat or anything, my face is clear no acne... its just that my nose isn't a ski slope, my hair is super curly and my eyes are pit black (i know that is anatomically not possible but it is the last shade of brown before black!) i'm not tall (only 5'4) and i only fit into a size 8 (sometimes!).........
this sounds cheesy but seriously with that high of a standard what are my odds to look beautiful in the eyes of someone?! if there are any odds at all...
this is really depressing ...
i dont know why, but it seems like people are brainwashed to feel the need to look up to all women in magazines and on t.v. and if you really think about it, theres nothing THAT good about them. i mean, how are they any different from a normal person? besides the fame of course.
i guess it is good to have a role model in life, but it shouldnt be taken as 'i HAVE to look like this person, or else i wont be beautiful.' thats just so cliche, and not true at all.
i honestly think that everyone has their own kind of beauty in them, no matter what it is. we are all different in our own ways, and thats what makes us who we are today. and you should admire that about yourself--being like someone else isnt as cool as some people think it would be if you really think about it.
my hair is naturally curly, and i used to hate it with a passion. but you know what, people spend tons of money on one hair appointment to get their hair to look half as good as what we were born with. and it doesnt even last long anyway. but us, we can play with our hair so many different ways--and it holds any style. its great.
im 5'5 and i feel like a giant compared to some of my friends. i get self conscious when i dress up and have to wear heels, because i hate the fact of having to look down while i talk to someone. so enjoy your height--the shorter, the better. [:
there are plently of guys out there with different tastes in girls. im not saying that every single guy will like certain things about you, because thats not true about anyone. but i do know that their are plently of guys who are attracted to your characteristics.
you are beautiful in peoples eyes, so dont ever think otherwise girl. you have your friends and family. and your going to meet people down the road who love the way you are, and wouldnt want you to change for the world.
people are always going to want what they dont have. we just need to learn to appreciate what we do have, and work with it. and eventually, we grow to love it, and will be glad that we are this way. trust me.
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I am a 17 year old girl who has lost 10 pounds in the past month. I am obsessed with weight, and I really want to lost 10 more pounds. I was never overweight, but it is just that I want to be thinner.
For breakfast, I have a few bites of applesauce. I skip lunch whenever I can. I eat a normal size dinner, though less than I did before I started this. I try hard not to eat dessert, and I only eat it so that my parents won't suspect anything. Right after that I chew sugarfree gum so I don't eat anything. I also drink a lot of water.
I count calories a lot, and my goal is definitely no more than 1000 calories a day, although I usually try for 800. I exercise a lot, burning between 250 and 400 calories per school day.
After school, I am more tired than usual, and I sometimes feel a little weak in my legs when I walk down the stairs.
This probably isn't an eating disorder, but could it develop into one?
i kind of went through the same situation until like a month ago.
it seems like no one will ever be happy with how they look. even if nothings wrong with us, we still tend to find that one thing that we need to change. its stupid, but so true.
i got to the point where i would fret about every single thing i put into my mouth. even when it was barely anything, i was still worried it would make me gain 5 pounds instantly for some reason. so i got to the point where i was pretty much eating nothing.
my mom started bawling one day because she was worried about me and how critical i was towards myself. my friends kept talking to me about it too, and how i needed to stop what i was doing. it made me realize how many people out there care and that i dont need to starve myself to be happy. because honestly, i think i was like pretty much the opposite of what i had always been.
stressing about how my body looked, and focusing on trying to not consume so much food just made my life miserable to say the least. i didnt really like the way i was anymore.
im not like that anymore, thank god. but i do have those moments where i double think about what im about to eat. hopefully that will pass though.
anyway, the road your going on doesnt sound too good. so i want to you think of all the other ways you can be happy and healthy, and STILL lose weight.
get involved in activites that keep you motivated. try things you enjoy, and it will be so much easier to keep wanting to do them.
fruit and vegis are really good. and you can eat as much as you want-- and you will see good results! i promise.
try special k. if you follow their diet plan in the back of some of their boxes, you can lose 6 pounds in two weeks. they have a lot of little snacks and cereal bars and protien bars you can chose from. i love that stuff.
cut down on your carbs a little more. try not to eat bread, butter, potatoes-- things like that.
eat salads with low fat dressing or have grilled chicken. there are so many good foods out there that if you eat the right way, it will actually help speed up the goal you want to be at.
so if you can eat foods that taste amazing, AND lose weight, why wouldnt you chose that over just eating a little snack here and there and then starving yourself the rest of the day. thats no way to live a fun life.
and btw-- losing weight the wrong way tends to make you gain all the weight back sooner or later. so if you think about it, your doing all of this for nothing. all your going to end up doing is damaging your body. eating healthy foods keep the weight off, and it wont come back if you stay on track.
good luck girl!
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prom is on saturday. i am going with my boyfriend. the plan after prom was to go back to my friends house and everyone in our group would sleep over. last night i told my boyfriend the plans and he was like ok thats fine. then a couple seconds later he was like "actually, im going to jake's house after prom we can get alcohol and ride around and stuff". i didn't really feel like arguing so i just said alright. i told my best friend about it today and she was mad and texted him saying "good job youre ditching your girlfriend to get drunk". normally i could care less if he wants to go out with his friends and get drunk or whatever. but its prom night, the only night we have an excuse to sleep in the same house together haha. would it be wrong to tell him not to go to jakes? or should i just let him?
i completely agree with you about being mad about this. i mean seriously, why would your boyfriend rather go off and hang out with his guy friends and not his girlfriend on prom night?
last year at prom, my best friends boyfriend was NOWHERE to be found literially all throughout prom. she went looking for him, and finally gave up and just sat at our table all night. i felt so bad for her. i dont think guys know how important this night is for us girls, you know? they just think of it as just a night. but its so much more i think.
anyways, my point is that knowing your boyfriend isnt going to be spending time with you afterwards might put you in a sad mood all night. because what are you going to look foward to when prom is over?
your boyfriend needs to know how much you want to be with him at the end of the night. so let him know that this is a special night for you and you want him to be in it. he can go drinking any night he wants, so skipping it on prom night shouldnt be such a big deal.
confront him about this and give him your thoughts about this situation. and if he cares about you, he should want to make you happy any way he can.
good luck, and have fun at prom!
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This is not a huge deal, I just don't know what to do. I have these two very good friends, Sabrina and Julie. We are pretty close, and all three of us do track together. The thing is, I always feel like a third wheel with them. They are always laughing and joking and I am standing there trying to go along with it, but when I say something they kind of just look at me. They have eachother, cool. Thing is I don't have many friends on track, so without them I am pretty lonely. Whenever one of them is not at practice or whatever, the other one comes and is all chummy with me until the other one is back. It is like I am the friend that is being used when the other is not there. It doesn't seem fair. Today at the meet they left me, so I was alone for most of the time. I am friends with other people on the team of course, but not close enough. I want to just swallow the problem and ignore it, but it is just getting worse. I don't want to seem like the whining friend that complains, "Oh, you ignore me." So I don't really know what to do.
Any help?
i dont know how long you guys have been friends with each other, but it kind of seems to me that maybe they have known each other longer so thats why they are closer, and have there own little jokes between them.
again, i could be wrong. but when i see something like that, it tends to be in that direction of some sort.
i definitely dont think you should just brush this off though. you guys are all really good friends, so feeling left out is something that shouldnt happen when it comes to best friends. if you start to feel left out when it comes to whatever they are doing again, i think it would be best to let them know whats going on in your head about all of this.
chances are, they dont realize you feel this way. sometimes people cant tell whats really bothering other people, thats why we always need to express our feelings towards others.
so let them know. and when you do, they are going to do everything they can to make sure it doesnt happen again. i know they want to be close with you too, so make sure and point out the fact that you feel like they arent meeting you half way.
good luck
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alright so, ive been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months, and i dont love him is that normal? like.. if i dont love him by now should i brake up with him.. what would other people do? everyone around me is saying to brake up with him.. i do like him a lot i just dont love him..
thanks.
the first thing i want to say is that you should NEVER question your relationship with other people. they arent you or your boyfriend, so asking them if you should or shouldnt be with someone isnt how you should go about this. no one can tell you who or not to love, or tell you to give up on something just because its taking longer than you expected.
falling in love is different for everyone. some people rush into it fast, a little too fast might i add. and others, they take the time to actually get to know the person they are with and then falling in love comes after it.
if someone has told you if you dont fall in love with by a certain time, then the relationship is a waste of time, seriously has no clue what they are talking about. falling in love just happens. its not something that you have to mark on your calander and wait until a certain day.
take your time, enjoy being with your boyfriend, and when you are ready, you WILL start falling in love with him. and gradually your feelings for him will increase over time.
dont give up just because you havent found 'love' with this boy yet. it will happen sooner or later. and when it does, cherish it with all your heart.
good luck
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I don't understand why I act in a way that is different from myself every time I am around a guy that I like in a date type situation. I mean I have only had one boyfriend in the past but he broke up with me because the relationship was weird, and it was my fault. It was my fault for not being myself and for trying to hide who I am. Ever since I was little I have been strange but I take pride in that and all my friends love me because of who I am. I like my personality too but I can't show that through in relationships. Like right now I really like a guy but feel like when I am around him he is not really SEEING the real me. He is only seeing the shyer, awkwarder version of me. Before I liked him, like before the flirting and more serious situations I could talk to him and try to open myself up to him. I just wish i could understand what my problem is, and i could be able to show people who I am. Because if there is one thing I hate its feeling like I can't control who I am.
i think you may just be scared to put yourself out there. it seems to me like sometimes putting yourself out there, its just a good way to get hurt. im not saying that its true about every one, but it can and has happend before.
my advice is to keep your gaurd up for those who you may not feel is trustworthy yet. and when you are ready, take it down and let them in. you will know when the time is right and who you want to let in your life.
the guy you are with now im sure you guys really enjoy being with each other. but you might not feel completely sure of yourself, or even him at the moment. i think you need to take time to get to know each other little by little. the things you tell each other dont have to be anything huge in your life, just minor details are fine.
it can be hard to trust someone, and you want to make sure that the trust is 100% there before you give it out.
the feeling of not knowing how to control who you may think you are is frustrating im sure. but i think you could still be trying to find out exactly who you are. you dont need to rush it, dont worry.
just be comfortable with yourself the way you are now, and know that it is ok that you dont know every single mystery about yourself just yet. life works in crazy ways sometimes. so just be pacient and everything will make sense sooner or later.
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It happens a few times but this time it made me sad. . . .
okk this is what happened:
we went to this dance right and i have these 3 friends i mostly hang out with and i admire them as my sisters but we aren't blood related though. . . yeahh.
My three friends were dancing but then more friends came and i was backed off and they did nothing. . . i was alone
this happened a few times i felt like i was nothing to them.
when it was over we hang out in front of the school and wait a while until we decided to go home
As usual they formed their own circle thingy
and i was out of it
one time my eldest friend
our class was skating
i told her i was going to go skate fast and yeah but then i came back to her and skated with her
while i was skating fast she was with lets call her A.
Friend A said to her to go skate with me because she was tired but then my friend said that i wasn't like a talkative person like talk about stuff
i was hurt.
I am sometimes talk alot one day and not the other day.
When I heard her say that I ignored it.
Sometimes they talk about stuff I don't even know of and talk behind my back
What do they think I am to them?
What should I do?
it seems like your friends dont respect you that much, which isnt the way friends should treat others at all.
i really dont think this is the case to be telling you how to get your friends to notice you or anything, because something like this should never happen in a friendship.
my advice is you might need to re-think the people you call 'friends'. i would say you need to start meeting different people. aim for others who arent already in your group of friends, because more than likely, they could end up treating you the same way as these people are now.
theres always going to be certain people who pretty much think that they are the only important people in the world. i cant stand when people dont think about how they are treating someone, because they are so focused on what they want.
no one deserves to get treated like they dont matter, you are better than that. and there are people that will treat you the way they want to be treated, i promise. so put yourself out there to meeting new people.
good luck
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so i have this best friend. she is so great and we do and think everything the same. i LOVE being with her. is it possible to like her TO much? like not in a sexuall way but in like a way that she might get sick of each other way.
we hate the thought of becoming so close to our best friend, that it ends up tearing us apart, but unfortunately it does happen.
ill give you an example. real life examples seem to help people out a little more.
my two best friends go to the same college together and they are roommates. they made it where they have the same classes everyday, at the same time. they have the same friends so of course they are going to be seeing eachother a lot that way. only one of them has a car, so shes the one that drives wherever the want to go, which ends up being the same places. and when they come home for the weekends, my other friend who doesnt have a car is always getting rides to and from everywhere as well.
now the girl with the car is an independent person. she likes her space, and just doing things alone sometimes, but as for my other friend, thats not her at all. to be honest, she is dependent on everyone around her. and thats the problem. its like if she doesnt have someone do something for her, she falls apart.
now, the independent girl has done so much for my other friend and doesnt even ask for any gratidude whatsoever. but the other one can be really stubborn at times if she doesnt get her way.
they reached their breaking point, and everything that was bottled up from the beginning of the year came out one night. all the things that they couldnt take anymore was brought up and it wasnt good.
this happend last week, and finially they just clashed. they are total opposites, and all hell broke loose. they were yelling at each other and ended up completely not talking at all. the girl with the car went home, and just communted to school all week. [which is driving from home to school, then back home.]
the girl who stayed in their dorm rooms wouldnt apologize for calling the other girl a mean bitch and all this. i love them both to death, and i hate taking sides, but in this case, i had to stay by my friend who went home. she does everything for her roommate. with gas being so high as it is now, its crazy expensive using so much gas like she does each week. she doesnt even ask for money, but in reality its common courtusy to help out a friend. but the stubborn one didnt do anything for her.
they are acutally better now. they finally made up a couple days ago, so its all good.
my point is that if your with someone 24/7 your going to clash somehow. your going to start noticing that one pet peeve that your friend always does that gets on your nerves. when your with someone every second of your life, you just simply get fed up with them at times.
so i would advice you to just not be clingy towards your friend. everyone needs their space, so respect that.
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Alright, so I am going to Prom on May 24th, 2008 and I really wanted to get tanned and stuff to look nicer since my dress is bronze. I was wondering what would be better a spray on tan or use a tanning bed (is it too late, would a month make a decent tan?) I do get sunburned a little easier, so i dont know if thats of use, i just figured i wouldnt stay in the tanning bed that long if i chose that.
i would recommend using a tanning bed because mystic tanning makes you orange and splotchy. my brother did it and it looked absolutly horrible. after a couple days it started to ware off, but only on some parts of his body. his arms were an uneven orange tone, and its noticable, so i would not do that. especially before your prom.
you will for sure get a bronze color in a tanning bed by the end of the month. it looks really good, so its worth trying it out.
you said you get sunburnt, so just start out at a low time, like 5-7 minutes if that. and then you will gradually increase the time little by little and you should be fine. make sure you put lotion all over your body though.
there are good tanning lotions at the place, but depending where you go they can run pretty expensive. so if you dont want to spend much money, i would say you can buy some lotion at wal mart or target and places like that. get one that has bronze on it, and that will speed up the process as you tan.
have fun at prom!
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Ok, heres the problem. I feel very comfortable with older people then I do with people my own age. The trouble with that is I'm 17 and the people I get along with are like 34-whatever. Well, when I'm at school I literally can't even look up at people. I get so nervous. I mean it's kind of pathetic but I talk to this janitor everyday more then I talk to anyone else in the school. I literally have my head down and I wear like uberly baggy clothes as well. I feel very uncomfortable with myself. I've had a shrink since I was 8 so don't suggest that. And I already take meds which obviously isn't helping. What can I do?
i dont think being around people older than you is a bad thing at all. i mean there are people who prefer hanging out with more mature and well rounded people, which is completely fine.
the one downside of hanging out with people our age, is all the drama and immaturity that comes with it. sometimes its best to keep your distance from that, and it looks like you find the perfect way to do so.
but since you are only seventeen, you still have so much more living you need to do you know? you need to expierence boyfriends, and parties and everything that comes with being young. its ok to let loose and not care about being responisble once in your life.
i think the reason why your not comfortable in your own shoes when your at school is because you havent branched out when it comes to meeting new people. so i would say a way to rise your confidence level is to overcome what your going through, and make an effort to indroduce yourself to people.
believe it or not, many people are scared to be the first one to say something when it comes to meeting someone new. because you never know what the other person is thinking. you could be thinking like will they like me? are they nice to people they dont even know? a lot of thoughts will come to your head, like it does with a lot of people.
i like to look at it this way. whenever im at work and i notice someone new and its their first day, i imagine how nervous they may be. it sucks being the 'new person'. knowing everyone else has been there longer than you, and everyone seems to already have their own little group right? well i ALWAYS go up to them and indroduce myself and try to get to know them.
i know i would feel so much more comfortable knowing im the new girl at work and that i already have people i can come talk to whenever i get bored or whatever.
if you dont try to make someone feel like they are welcomed, they will continue thinking negative thoughts about the situation.
i dont know your place at school and if people have tryed to make an effort to bring you in or not, but if they havent, i strongly recommend you being the first person to do so.
once you know that you have people to call your friends and have your back, you will feel so much better waking up everyday and going to school, i promise. its like a weight being lifted from your shoulders.
so branch out, meet people, show them your a nice and fun person to be around and everything should start getting much better for you.
confidence is key--so show you have some and it will pay off in no time!
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I am a senior girl getting ready to graduate, and I have never even been to a graduation party. It's not that I'm anti-social, the opposite actually, I've just never been to one. Just a couple graduation dinners.
My mom wants to have a party for me (family appropriate, no beer!), but I really don't know how to go about it, and neither does she. Most of my friends are having open houses, but I don't even really know that that is. My aunt is also graduating high school from the same school, so we are probably going to have one together, but she doesn't really know either. Can someone give me the info on this stuff? What do you do at grad parties, who comes, etc.?
& Personal experience is appreciated over links. Thank you so much!
graduating high school is such a huge thing. im sure your ready to get out of the drama scene. i know i was.
my graduation party was not how i would have liked it to be, but i didnt plan it, so maybe thats why. a lot of my friends threw their own parties that consisted of pretty much only us, and not so much parents. it was a fun time to dress up all cute, and have everyone together under one roof for one last time-- since everyone goes their seperate ways for college and all.
but mine, my mom planned out, and it had like seriously ALL my relatives. like all of them flew in for the weekend to come. there was a theme to my party, so everyone kind of dressed to fit that ocassion.
my graduation party was a time to pretty much say bye to a lot of family members that i would most likely not see for a year or so. lots of pictures were taken. i got like a massive amount of presents which was awesome. we had food and cake and all that. my cousin and i graduated the same year, so it was a party for the both of us. it was pretty cool being the center of attention that night. it was a good way knowing high school was over.
so for your party, i would say to invite friends and family [this goes for your aunt too]. you can think of a creative theme for your party. it will be fun decorating the place for it. make sure you have a cute outfit for the occassion, thats always a must.
you guys can all eat and talk and take pictures to remember the night. i hope you have fun, and congratulations on graduating!!
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