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BESTFRIEND
so i have this best friend. she is so great and we do and think everything the same. i LOVE being with her. is it possible to like her TO much? like not in a sexuall way but in like a way that she might get sick of each other way.
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There is a chance that you could be to close to each other. In other words you spend your whole day around her. If this is the case then maybe you should sget some time away from each other. However, if you guys just think in similar ways that does not mean that you are to close it just means that you know each other very well. You may want to bring up your concerns to her and have two way conversation. This way she is not left out in the cold about your recent feelings and concerns. She may even fear the same thing. The best thing to do in my opinion would be to talk to her about this and see what she thinks. Then go from there.
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we hate the thought of becoming so close to our best friend, that it ends up tearing us apart, but unfortunately it does happen.
ill give you an example. real life examples seem to help people out a little more.
my two best friends go to the same college together and they are roommates. they made it where they have the same classes everyday, at the same time. they have the same friends so of course they are going to be seeing eachother a lot that way. only one of them has a car, so shes the one that drives wherever the want to go, which ends up being the same places. and when they come home for the weekends, my other friend who doesnt have a car is always getting rides to and from everywhere as well.
now the girl with the car is an independent person. she likes her space, and just doing things alone sometimes, but as for my other friend, thats not her at all. to be honest, she is dependent on everyone around her. and thats the problem. its like if she doesnt have someone do something for her, she falls apart.
now, the independent girl has done so much for my other friend and doesnt even ask for any gratidude whatsoever. but the other one can be really stubborn at times if she doesnt get her way.
they reached their breaking point, and everything that was bottled up from the beginning of the year came out one night. all the things that they couldnt take anymore was brought up and it wasnt good.
this happend last week, and finially they just clashed. they are total opposites, and all hell broke loose. they were yelling at each other and ended up completely not talking at all. the girl with the car went home, and just communted to school all week. [which is driving from home to school, then back home.]
the girl who stayed in their dorm rooms wouldnt apologize for calling the other girl a mean bitch and all this. i love them both to death, and i hate taking sides, but in this case, i had to stay by my friend who went home. she does everything for her roommate. with gas being so high as it is now, its crazy expensive using so much gas like she does each week. she doesnt even ask for money, but in reality its common courtusy to help out a friend. but the stubborn one didnt do anything for her.
they are acutally better now. they finally made up a couple days ago, so its all good.
my point is that if your with someone 24/7 your going to clash somehow. your going to start noticing that one pet peeve that your friend always does that gets on your nerves. when your with someone every second of your life, you just simply get fed up with them at times.
so i would advice you to just not be clingy towards your friend. everyone needs their space, so respect that.
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Yes, it's possible! That's how it is with my best friend/roommate. Seeing/being with each other too much starts to get overwhelming. When you see each other too much, you start to get annoyed with each other and pick out the things you don't like about that person. That's why it's good to not always be together and to hang out with other friends from time to time. It makes you appreciate that person more. so, just take breaks from her from time to time lol.
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