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i feel rejected... and i dont know whats wrong with me...i tried dressing up more dressing down looking this or that acting this way or another... i tried virtually everything conceivable to attract a guy.... i've tried just being myself and still to no adieu..... i know many of you will suggest to give it time... but believe me i've tried for so long and it is not like my shift are drastic and sudden or short spanned...
i am ashamed of asking people to rate me sincerely on my looks ( because that essentially will make me look like a maniac) i am not overweight but even if i were i don't understand how that would stop someone from liking me... i've seen people who are attracted to those on the "healthy" side of the scale and have had prosperous stable relationships with their loved ones .... is it my personality? i do not know... i'm really confused... i have a diverse wide number of friends from all walks of life and i'm very social and liked.... what is wrong with me?
it is really wearing me down.. i am 20 and never had a boyfriend or any form of relationship beyond friendship with a guy for that matter.....
please help.....
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Well on thing you definatly NEVER want to do is act like something you're not or dress in a way you're not comfortable just to get a guy.
Just take social situations to your advantage. Be calm but strong. As i said before, don't dress skanky but look nice when out.
People are lucky to be in true love ever in their life. It DOES take time!
Don't ever get into a relationship just for the purpose of being in one. You want to be sure this guy treats you right.
AND REMEMBER THIS.
If you're around woman who are dressed skanky, you should dress covering uo somewhat. Mkae sure the guy is liking you for you. The longer you make them wait for any sexuality the longer they'll be interested so don't just sex yourself out, get prego, and have the guy leave you. That's the worst caste scenario.
Hope this helps at least somewhat!
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relationships work in strange ways sometimes. they dont always go the way we would like them to; thats just life i guess.
all i can say is that maybe your not looking in the right place for a guy. and you shouldnt settle for just anyone--so im glad that you wouldnt just date some random guy just so say you dated someone. kuddos for that.
you just need to try and put yourself out there more, show everyone your avaliable and what you have to offer. you sound like such a sweet and chill girl. and what guy wouldnt want that to themselves?
another factor could be that, its just simply not the time or place for you to be in a relationship right now. maybe for some reason its taking longer so that it can lead up to something really special for you. i believe in the quote 'things happen for a reason.' and i really do think that hope isnt up for you. you WILL find what your looking for, but for now, its just a journey.
i know you didnt want to hear the expression 'it takes time', but in this case, its so true. EVERYTHING takes time whether we like it or not. and you will get to the point where you start seeing things really good happen for you, and its your job to keep going your way. life only takes us so far, and when we reached a certain point, its all up to us on how it goes.
so when your time is here, be ready to take control of your future.
good luck (:
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I don't know if this came to mind or not, but have you considered online dating? Before, I used to think it was silly and would never work, but one of my good friends met a guy through an online dating site. Three months later they're still together and have never been happier. If you tried online dating, it could change your entire perspective about dating. The web site can match you with the people you share interests with.
If you are feeling that low about yourself, I think it might be a good way to boost your confidence. Even if you only make a profile and you don't date anyone, you'll get messages from guys that are interested and that might be enough to boost your confidence tenfold.
Maybe instead of waiting for guys to come to you, you should go to them. Take a risk. Put yourself out there. Work on getting happy with yourself and you'll get the confidence to seek any guy you choose.
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