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alright so, ive been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months, and i dont love him is that normal? like.. if i dont love him by now should i brake up with him.. what would other people do? everyone around me is saying to brake up with him.. i do like him a lot i just dont love him..
thanks.
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Well, if you like him, there's no reason to break up with him. I'm the same age as you, and we're just kids, you know? You don't have to love him. Just have fun with him! If it's not fun, end it. But, honestly, it's just high school. You don't have to get married.
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Well, if you were thinking of marrying this guy, but didn't love him, then yeah... I'd say you might want to call it off. But at 16, I'm guessing that you're not planning any long term future together. You're dating. So what if you're not madly in love with him? If you like him and enjoy being with him, then why not continue having fun with him as long as you want to? That's what dating is all about.
On the other hand, if it starts to become apparent that his feelings for you are a lot stronger than yours are for him, and he wants things to get more serious than you want to, then it would be best to call things off. That way he can move on to someone who will return his feelings... and you can move on as well.
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Relationships can be very confusing, sometimes you think you love someone, and you don't, and sometimes you don't think you love someone until they are gone and then you realize that you did love them. In your case your feelings are the most important part of your decision on braking up with him or not. You need to find out for sure what your feelings are before you want to jepordize your relationship with him. So you should stay with him, because sometimes you don't love someone right off the bat, sometimes it taks a while. If you like him a lot and care about him, then you may love him, you just don't know it yet. If you spend practically every waking moment either with him or communicating with him, you may be experiencing the doubtful feelings because there has been a decrease in conversation since there is hardly anything to talk about. If this is the case, try to spend a day without him, just talk on the phone once or twice, and give it a rest for a while. Once you have been away, you might be able to figure out your feelings for him. But whatever you do, you should not brake up with him if you are not for sure about your feelings because once you brake up with him, you may not be able to get him back, andyou don't want to loose him if it turns out that you do actually love him. I hope I am making sense. Basically, figure out your feelings, and if you really like him, or love him, stay. But if things turn out that you don't like him that much or in that way and you don't love him, then you should probably let him know your true feelings.
I hope this was helpful to you. and good luck in figuring things out.
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Well if you could love him or do you would probably know by now, but if you even think that you really like him and might love him then you should stay with him. But just because you don't like love him right away doesn't neccessarily mean you don't care about him and might love him, figure out how you feel then go from there and if you feel like you really have no feelings for him in that manner and you don't want to be with him then I say cut him loose.
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A ton of people in the world don't know what love is. If you like him...thats not love. You don't have to love him to go out with him. Love comes with time. You get married when your in love...so are you trying to say that you guys should seal the deal at almost 3 months just because you "love" each other? No one is in love after only that little time. Give it a chance. You may never fall IN love with him...but that doesn't mean that it couldn't be there
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You might not ever love him. Love knows no time. It can happen soon or very distant future. If he is what makes you happy keep him until that isnt true for you anymore.
Good luck
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you dont ever have to love him. well unless you're like dating him until you're like 30.. then maybe you should think this over. hah. but right now you're only 16. you dont have to love the guy you're going out with. some people our age (im 16 too) aren't ready for love yet. you may be one of them. or he might just not be the right guy for you. i wouldn't break up with him though. if you like him a lot your relationship may turn into love. it doesn't have to right away though. you don't need to love your high school boyfriend.
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the first thing i want to say is that you should NEVER question your relationship with other people. they arent you or your boyfriend, so asking them if you should or shouldnt be with someone isnt how you should go about this. no one can tell you who or not to love, or tell you to give up on something just because its taking longer than you expected.
falling in love is different for everyone. some people rush into it fast, a little too fast might i add. and others, they take the time to actually get to know the person they are with and then falling in love comes after it.
if someone has told you if you dont fall in love with by a certain time, then the relationship is a waste of time, seriously has no clue what they are talking about. falling in love just happens. its not something that you have to mark on your calander and wait until a certain day.
take your time, enjoy being with your boyfriend, and when you are ready, you WILL start falling in love with him. and gradually your feelings for him will increase over time.
dont give up just because you havent found 'love' with this boy yet. it will happen sooner or later. and when it does, cherish it with all your heart.
good luck
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uhm, yeah don't break up with him, it's okay not to love in it's only been two months i think it's silly when girls that have been only dating a guy for about three months or less or even more say thay are INlove or LOVE them crazy, because you cant BE INLOVE with someone after only two or less or more months a know but it's okay its normal don't listen to your friend's that's crazy there telling you to break up with him if you like him alot then GREAT but love in theres no way, so i understand what your saying keep him around later down the road you just MIGHT love him
i hope i helped take me advice to heart, -xoxo!
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