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prom problem
prom is on saturday. i am going with my boyfriend. the plan after prom was to go back to my friends house and everyone in our group would sleep over. last night i told my boyfriend the plans and he was like ok thats fine. then a couple seconds later he was like "actually, im going to jake's house after prom we can get alcohol and ride around and stuff". i didn't really feel like arguing so i just said alright. i told my best friend about it today and she was mad and texted him saying "good job youre ditching your girlfriend to get drunk". normally i could care less if he wants to go out with his friends and get drunk or whatever. but its prom night, the only night we have an excuse to sleep in the same house together haha. would it be wrong to tell him not to go to jakes? or should i just let him?
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Look, you don't get to 'tell him not to go' or 'let him go'. You aren't his keeper, you are his girlfriend.
What you DO get to do is express your own feelings and wishes. Let him know that you would rather that you both go to friends rather then get some booze and ride around (I'm going to ignore that fact that that statement sounds praticularlly dangerous, and illegal).
Respect the fact that it's a big night for him too, and the last big time he gets to hang out with all of HIS friends. Make sure the plans you end up making have something in them to make you both happy.
It's okay to be upset, and it's important to let him know your opinion on the matter, but you don't get to decide for him, and you have to respect his wishes even if you disagree with them.
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haha i would so be mad about this. the whole time i was reading it i was thinking the same thing when you said "the only night we have an excuse to sleep in the same house together haha."
to be honest, i'd say something to him about it. and i would include the fact that its the only time you can sleep in the same house together. he should be excited about that. just let him know you arnt trying to be controlling, and that it would just be fun because its prom night.
if he still doesn't wanna spend the night with you, i'd let him stay with jake. but i would make sure he knew i was pissed at him.
good luck :D
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i completely agree with you about being mad about this. i mean seriously, why would your boyfriend rather go off and hang out with his guy friends and not his girlfriend on prom night?
last year at prom, my best friends boyfriend was NOWHERE to be found literially all throughout prom. she went looking for him, and finally gave up and just sat at our table all night. i felt so bad for her. i dont think guys know how important this night is for us girls, you know? they just think of it as just a night. but its so much more i think.
anyways, my point is that knowing your boyfriend isnt going to be spending time with you afterwards might put you in a sad mood all night. because what are you going to look foward to when prom is over?
your boyfriend needs to know how much you want to be with him at the end of the night. so let him know that this is a special night for you and you want him to be in it. he can go drinking any night he wants, so skipping it on prom night shouldnt be such a big deal.
confront him about this and give him your thoughts about this situation. and if he cares about you, he should want to make you happy any way he can.
good luck, and have fun at prom!
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