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Am I Overreacting?
I'll try to keep it short. One day, I was playing games on my boyfriend's phone when I noticed a series of texts from this girl (we have tons of mutual friends so I was wondering why I didn't know this girl). I went through the texts and I didn't like what I saw. Texts like "smart is sexy", "hanky panky is a fun exercise ;)", etc. were in there and I got really angry. I confronted him about it, but he didn't seem concerned at all. He casually mentioned he's known this girl for a while and they've always joked around like that and it wasn't a huge deal. I'm old fashioned and I see it as a mild form of cheating. Am I overreacting or should I be worried? Thanks so much guys in advance.
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I hate to admitt it, but i've been the other girl that your boyfriend is texting. I have flirted purposely when i know a guy has a girlfriend, and 95% of the time, it's because the guy finds the other person attractive in some way or another. If i were you, i would for sure be mad about it, you have every reason to question his behavior because he should know better.
Of course flirting is harmless, and that could be the only thing going on, i'm not saying he is actually cheating on you. Everyone flirts, but it just depends if the guy is taking it to a level that he knows he shouldn't be.
Just talk to him about it; don't always assume, but don't just look past it either. You can let him know that you don't feel comfortable with him sending those kind of texts to other girls, and hopefully he respects you enough to stop.
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I don't think you're overreacting. If I was in your place, that would cause me to have some real trust issues with him.
He might not have done anything with her, so he might not have felt guilty. He might have but you have no idea so your mind just wanders. So you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.
If he thinks you're overreacting then I don't think you would want to be with him. I would get that you wouldn't want to break up with him but you don't want to be with someone while you're always thinking about what is happening and if you could trust him. Just talk to him and see where that goes. Don't get angry and be calm about it. Good luck!
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No your not overreacting- He's disrespecting you by flirting around with someone like that... He never told you about this girl andddddd... You had to find it in his phone... And hanky panky- the urban definiton is-Discreet or surreptitious romantic or sexual activity... Not cool at all... And how would he feel if he found some things like that in your phone... Some ppl may think it's not a BIG deal... but it's a definite dent in your relationship... that can cause major trust issues... If I were you-I wouldn't bring up the issue anymore to him... but I would watch him very closely... I would monitor his actions... And any little thing you may have ignored before I would take notice of... We women have female intuition... and that right there tells us lots of things without hard core facts...
~The best of luck to you and always~
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You are not overreacting. I would feel this way too. Although, if he is saying they joke around like that, that's okay. But, if you notice anything wierd, you should defiantly be concerned.
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No, I don't think you are overreacting. I'd be concerned, too. She's being flirty by being dumb and it's uncalled for on the basis that he already has a girlfriend.
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