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My daughter gets lunch from the school and she always complains about how disgusting the food is. She asked me to pack but I just dont have the money to spend. I was wondering if there was any ideas of super cheap lunch ideas or something like that. Thank you!
Peanut butter and jelly is about the least expensive lunch to pack. With it you can pack some carrots or celery and a cookie along with a juice box. You should be able to pack the whole lunch for under a dollar a day.
A friend of mine packs her daughters lunch in partitioned containers. The lunches she packs her daughter can be leftovers from dinner the night before along with a piece of fruit and a homemade treat. Other times she may make her a salad along with slices of cheese. She also makes her own granola bars so they will pop up in her daughters lunch.
School lunches tend to be bland and tasteless as they have to cook for a variety of tastes and food allergies. Children who may be use to highly spiced food at home will definitely not like the school lunches as they are very bland.
With a little creativity I'm sure you can put together a very inexpensive lunch for your daughter. If the meal requires refrigeration try freezing the juice box. By the time lunch time comes around the juice should have thawed and while doing so will have kept the lunch cool.
Please don't juge. I got a lot of that already! 15/F. I think my pregnant. All the symtoms are there like abnormal pain and tender boobs and stuff like that! I want a abortion. I know its killing a poor soul and so on. But I don't have any other choise. Also I can't tell my mom or dad because it was with my nephew (32). I have this huge pain °̩n my left kidney. What could this be? And how could I stop it? Please don't be mean, I only need someone who is supprtive thxX
There is more here than just the question on the kidney pain.
First: You need to make sure your pregnant. You can do so with a home pregnancy kit or because you are 15 by Federal Law you are old enough to see any doctor or go to a planned parenthood clinic with or without parental permission. (I will explain)
Kidney pain would be unusual this early in pregnancy if you are pregnant. So the pain you feel there could be a urinary infection or a kidney infection.
Once you know for sure if you're pregnant then you can make the choice to abort the pregnancy.
Federal Law: The federal Law is called HIPPA, which is an acronym and with in this law is a section that covers young people ages 14 and up. It gives them medical confidentiality for all things related to their reproductive systems. This would include pregnancy.
Under this law your parents have no say in what you decide. They cannot prevent you or force you from having an abortion it is you choice. They cannot have any access to your medical records concerning your visits to any doctor for matters concerning your reproductive health and your doctors cannot discuss anything concerning your reproductive health with them. The fact that their health insurance may cover any procedure does not give them any rights to see you medical records. The only way anyone can see these records is with your expressed written permission to the doctor.
Congress wrote this for just this purpose so that in situation like this a person would seek medical assistance before it was too late and not just to late for an abortion. Too late for a variety of medical health reason related to Reproductive Health. You can after this is over ask for birth control as well. Your parent s have no say in this either.
Your Nephew: Even if you consented to the sex it is still rape. Under the law in every state you are too young to consent to sex. Therefore besides the incest which is also illegal your nephew committed statutory rape. Statutory rape is sexual knowledge of a minor or sexual relations with someone under the age of consent.
If you did not consent and he forced you to have sex with him, in an definition of the word forced, then he is guilty of Rape, incest and they will throw on additional charges which probably would include Statutory rape, and sexual predator charges.
IF your Nephew you did rape you or in some way coerced you into having sex with him I can understand your embarrassment about telling your parents or sister or brother. This is something sexual predators and rapists depend upon to continue to rape and prey on young girls.
If your Nephew is a sexual predator then I would have to believe you are not the first person he has raped or coerced into having sex with him. There is something not right when a 32 year old man looks to have sex with someone more than half his age. If I'm right then you have to be brave and tell your parents what happened. Your nephew is sick and has to be stopped before he really hurts someone.
Whether or not you are pregnant you still need to tell your parents. If you are pregnant and you tell your parents as I told you they cannot stop you from making the choices that need to be made in regard to your pregnancy. Under the HIPPA law the choices are yours alone. I'm sure they will want to advice and counsel you. That the law can't stop. But the choice is yours.
Do the right things here. See a doctor, find out for sure if your pregnant and tell your parents about your nephew for regardless of the circumstances of how it happened he was very wrong to have had sex with you. I am just as sure if he had sex with you he is also looking at and has had sex with other girls your age. This is not only illegal it is sick.
So i got my 1st period few months ago and i already had it few times, i always tried to tell my mom but i didnt know how to.. And one time i got it , it left red mark on my bed and she saw it and asked me what is this and i said i dont know and i feel horrible for lying to her !! Please help
I do not understand why young girls are so embarrassed or afraid to go to their mothers when their first period arrives. Your period is a normal part of a woman's bodily function. Something that will be part of your life for the next 30 to 50 years. Your mom most likely still deals with her period each month.
Your period has nothing to do with sex other than the fact it stops if you become pregnant, while your pregnant. Your period is the cleansing of your womb each month to prepare the womb to accept a fertilized egg and nurturer it until that egg becomes a child and is ready to be born. No egg the womb cleanse itself and the cycle repeats.
I could understand not wanting to go to your father and why you might find it embarrassing to go to him. Fact is though your father is very much aware of a woman's menstrual cycle. If he wasn't before he married you mom he became very much aware shortly there after.
My advice is to go to your mom and tell her. If you find it hard to do so face to face. Then write her a letter and leave it on her pillow before you go to bed. It is very important that mom knows about this and any other things that happen with you and to you. There are certain things that as you become older mom needs to help you with, like buying your first bra. She needs to help you with how to properly care for yourself with your period and to see to it that you have a proper cycle. Pregnancy is not the only reason a period will be missed; especially at the beginning of your periods.
Just remember mom is built just like you, was once your age and has gone through everything you have and will be going through. This makes mom your best source of information. Sex by definition is something that happens between you and someone else and generally involves intercourse. IF that hasn't happened then it is not sex or involves sex. Periods do not involve sex. So talk to mom.
Okay so here goes about a month my boyfriend I did everything but have intercourse together but everyone is telling me that I have nothing to worry about because his penis didn't go inside me but i am having some doubt because i am having symptoms of pregnancy and we haven't been dating that long either only about 2 months now at the most . my symptoms are food cravings for the past two weeks I have been eating a lot of chocolate and this week I started wanting chicken salad sandwiches and I don't even like chicken salad at all . I am having really bad head aches and backaches and feeling sick to my stomach . am I pregnant or could it possible be my nerves oh yeah and it is to early for me to know if i have missed my period or not .
You left out one very important piece of information without which it is impossible to say if you are pregnant or not. The fact that his penis never entered you is in your favor. What is needed is did he ejaculate semen? If so did he do so on or around your vagina?
The symptoms you are having could very well be psychosomatic. Meaning you are so stressed out over this that you are having or manifesting these symptoms without reason. If you are this stressed out the chances are high, better than 95% you will also miss your period. Stress of any type is the biggest killer of a woman's period; not just stress over being pregnant.
As long as you are confident no semen entered your vagina then you cannot be pregnant. In the future if you are going to fool around like this. Cap the boys penis with a condom to trap any escaping semen. Even pre cum has enough semen in it to make a women pregnant if she is fertile at that time. Which is the other factor you need to know about yourself to when and when not to fool around. Though it is always best to make sure the boy has a condom on any time he is erect and you two are naked. Just incase things get out of hand. No pun intended.
i have been out of work. today i first got an interview where i would like to work. a little later i got a management job offer with no indication of hours. i am already employed with them but car broke down and car was required. they couldnt find me inside work until today. they may still not be able to give me many hours. what do i do?
I would suggest you take the job that is in hand. If the interview you had turns into a job offer and it is a better job than the one you have then you can resign and take the other position, It is the old saying the "Bird in Hand is Worth Two in the Bush"
The job you interviewed for is not a sure thing. Waiting on an offer is like betting on the come. Should an offer not come through then you have nothing and have to start over. This company seems to want you if they are finding an inside position for you when you were offered an outside position. To me it would seem they understand that you need to earn money to fix your car or replace it, so they are making that possible for you. I would say they are placing a lot of value in you to do this for you.
Then there is the other factor to consider. Even though the economy is what it is and unemployment is what it is. Employers looking for new help place a lot more trust in hiring someone that is employed when they interview than someone who is not. Meaning that two equally qualified candidates for the same position one of whom is employed and the other is not. Most employers will offer the position to the candidate who is employed.
I can't explain why it is done that way though I have done it myself. As I said it has something to do with placing trust in the person you are offering the position to. The employed person earns more trust than the unemployed person.
So take the job offered even if it is not your first choice and continue to look for a better position.
Hey my girlfriend and I had unprotected sex for a short amount of time. I did not cum in her and 3weeks later she missed her period but she's been stressing like crazy. Do you think she's pregnant?
Yes it is possible. She should take a home test.
If i had unprotected sex 6 days after my menses will i b pregnant?
It is very possible. About 80% of women are most fertile during the middle 14 days of their cycle. This would be from the 14th to the 21st day of their cycle. The other 20% can be fertile during any portion of their cycle including when they are having their period.
If you are among the 80% having had sex on the 6th day of your cycle and considering sperm live for 3 days. This puts you on the higher side of the probability quotient. It would all depend on when during that 14 day time period you actually ovulate and expel and egg.
If you haven't gotten your period pregnancy is one reason for not getting it. Another reason and the most likely reason is you're stressing over being pregnant. Stress is the biggest killer of a woman's period.
If you have missed your period get a home pregnancy test kit and test. If you have not come to the time for your next period and are stressing go to the pharmacy and find a test kit that allows for the earliest possible time to test after intercourse but before missing your period.
These early test kits are prone to false positives so if you test positive don't freak out wait and test again in ten days or after you miss your period.
Hello, I know this is probably a bit dramatic, but I'm nervous about going back to college and I need some advice.
I am 26 hears old and I haven't gone to school since I was 22. I dropped out after the fall 2009 semester. If I'd graduated in four years, I'd have been done in May 2010, but I know that wouldn't have happened even if I'd stayed in school. I don't know how much longer it's gonna take me to finish, but I still want to go back so I can improve my life and accomplish my dreams.
I don't want to sound like a cry baby, but sometimes my life is so boring I can't take it. I have a loser job and I've never done anything that great or noteworthy. I've GOT to do something to improve my life and keep me from being a loser forever. Not to say that anyone who doesn't go to college is a loser, but not having a degree is the only thing standing in my way of doing the things I've always wanted to do.
I plan to get a job at the museum that my university owns, which I think will be fun. I love history and I've always loved that museum. If I get the job, I'll get free tuition and be allowed to leave work to go to class. It's a great deal and I think it alone will make my life more interesting, but I'm nervous about going back to school.
I'll be going to school with people much younger than me. The freshmen this year were SIXTH GRADERS when I was their age. The seniors were freshmen in high school. What are these people going to think of me? That I'm some bum in her late 20's that's screwed around so much in the past 7 1/2 years that I STILL haven't managed to get a bachelor's degree? Or that I'm so stupid that I can't get one? Most people think I look young for my age, so my classmates may not even know that I'm that much older, but what if they do?
Nervousness isn't the only thing I'm feeling, I'm also excited and anxious to make my life more interesting, but I don't want my nervousness to get worse and make me back out of going to school. I don't think it will, but I'm still worried. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? If so, what did you do?
First off lets get rid of that word loser for there really is no such word. There are people who plan to fail and people whose plans fail. You have a plan so lets make sure you have a plan that cannot fail. So far you have a great looking plan. What is needed is a contingency plan incase the job at the museum is not available.
Next I hate the word stupid and from what you have written you are far from stupid. You know for example that in order to get ahead in today's world you need that college diploma. Anyone knowing that is not stupid. If anything you are correcting a mistake you made earlier in life and you will find people older than you walking around campus correcting the same mistakes they made by not getting that degree or returning to get a higher degree.
Last who cares what other people think. I spent my whole working career in sales. Sales managers motivate by trying to focus you on money to be made. I never worried about making a sale. My focus was always on me on the fact that the only person I had to be better that was the person I was yesterday. I was not concerned if I made a sale or not today, if not I would make two or three the next day. My concern was on learning something new that I could use to help me or my customers.
Never worry about what others think of you. Your main concern is you and how or what you need to do on a daily basis to make you better that you were the day before. If we are not constantly learning we are not moving forward.
You know this because you have decided to return to school and finish your education. Just remember your education does not stop when you leave school. Always have a plan and work your plan to meet your goals. Only people who fail to plan are failures in life.
for some reason recently I have been feeling somewhat miserable and empty. I also keep longing for the past, keep thinking about is "I wish I had did this or I had done that" or "I wish I had talked to that person or that person" or "I wish I had participated in this or that activity". And missing people that I no longer see. I think hanging out with friends would be a good way to get rid of this feeling but they have been busy recently. I just feel empty and down. I don't know how to feel better. And I am only a 22 year old guy
Relax your normal and this feeling will pass. We all feel this way at one time or another and you will feel this way several more times as you go through life. I cannot explain why this is but we always long for the past.
Right now I would say you feel as you do because of the time of the year and your age. The holidays are over friends and family have returned to their own homes and lives. Your life as a student may be behind you and now in a sense it is time to man-up and face the world as an Adult.
Right now the world is a scary place especially if you have a low paying job or no job and a huge college debt facing you. It is easy to understand why you would want to go back; to long for the past. The past was a place that was much safer and secure. A little curbside psychology if you will.
The reality is we can never really go back we can only move forward. If this feeling continues for more than a week or so then you may need professional help to get over it. I don't see that as being the case for you unless there are things you have not said that should be taken into account.
Everyone gets busy with their own life right after the first of the year. Give your friends some time to get their lives settled. Once that happens I believe things will return to normal for you.
For as long as I can remember, I've been addicted to invading others privacy. Deep down, I know it's wrong but it's hard to stop. I've read conversations between my sister and her then boyfriend, hacked into family members facebook accounts to find out what they're saying about me, stalked both of my sisters blogs just to check on them, read their diaries, etc. I recently told my sister this and she's furious with me, which she has every right to be. I'm so angry with myself for letting myself be that impulsive. I feel horrible and like a huge jerk. How can I stop this habit for good? I've never heard of other people having this problem before.
I'm not a doctor and I am certainly not a psychologist or psychiatrist so I could be wrong in what I'm seeing in the little you have written.
What I see may have started as more nosey than paranoid that has turned into an obsessive compulsion. You are now acknowledging this compulsion ands asking for help. This is the first step in the right direction.
It is very possible you may have an obsessive compulsive disorder and this is how it manifests itself. As I said I'm not qualified to make that kind of diagnoses. What I do know is if what I feel is correct you going to need some help in controlling this behavior.
Before I send you off to your parents to ask for help I would like you to call a hotline set up for kids just like you. It is called the kids help line. The number is 1-800-668-6868. Anyone under 20 can call them and speak to a train counselor about anything. The call is free and totally confidential.
They also have a website you may want to look at. The web address is: http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/Teens/Home.aspx
Hello 15/F*
My mom keeps reading my diary! I try to hide it but she is allways snooping around!! I write EVERYTHING °̩n there because that's the way I express my feelings. I don't act weird I'm allways bubbly, but I have my down days. Why does she keep reading it. And any good ideas where to hide it? I can't hide it °̩n my matress or pillow. So any other ideas? ThxX lvj! XxX
Why your mom reads your diary is a tough question to answer since I do not know her. As a parent myself I can only give you a generic answer to your question.
You are probably thinking mom reads your diary because she does not trust you. This may or may not be true. Teenagers are famous for not communicating with their parents and we were not different when we were teenagers.
As a teenager the feeling is we are no longer children though we are not truly adults either. Still we fill we have a right to be treated more like adults than children. Some parents are better at this than others and find way of finding out what their children are up to both in school and out. This is easier in a small town than in a large urban area.
If I can remember back when my so was your age. A typical conversation went something like this. "How was your day?" "Okay." "Anything happen in school." "Have much home work" "about the same, call me when dinners ready."
Really not a lot to go on to see if everything is okay with him. What he is doing during the day. How he feels about things. One of the longest conversations we ever had was one where he wanted me to sign papers for a delayed enlistment in the Army. He would actually be in the Army while in the last year of High School. That needed explaining.
My thought is that mom if she is open about reading your diary is not snooping as much as she is trying to find out what your day is like and how you feel about things. Things you are telling your diary that she might like to know. Things she my need to know as a parent that you are not telling her. Things you will want to know about your daughter when you're a mom.
My advice is to be more open with mom about things. IF mom feels you are giving her the type of information she need to know as a parent then maybe she will stop trying to read your diary. One thing for sure is there is no place you can hide your diary that she did not try to hide her diary from her mom. So where ever you try she will eventually find it.
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Okay so I'm mostly straight (I've only dated guys), but my first kiss was with a girl (I was at most 7 and my older sister kinda...you get the idea.) and I've made out with a female friend a couple of times.
I come from a strict Catholic family, from a homosexuality standpoint. But the times I made out with my friend, well... they were amazing. The first time we were just messing around and pretending that we were going to kiss eachother, but at one point our lips accidentally met. We both looked shocked for a moment, and then pulled in for another, and started to make out quite intensly. I was becoming a bit overwhelmed afterword, because my parents view it as sin and because we both had boyfriends (we were 12 for gods sake), but she reassured me that we were just practicing on one another. The second time, I was feeling aroused and invited her over. We ended up making out, each taking turns to stimulate the other, and eventually dry humping. We both decided then that that was the farthest we'd go, including 'scissoring'. But that was the last time because I freaked out and almost killed myself over shame.
Now I feel kind of bad, because I could tell that both of us were developing crushes.
I guess my questions are:
1. Is this sin? Should I be ashamed?
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2. should I contact her- the friend- and apologize? Its been 2 years, but we're still in contact.
Thanks.
Let me start by saying I do not believe homosexuality is a sin. I feel this way because it has been proven to me and I have proven it to myself that one does not just decide to become gay or lesbian. This is the way they are born.
I am also not a very religious person I do not believe in organized religions but I do believe in a higher power. For lack of another term I call that power God. This makes me an Agnostic, not an atheist.
Given what my beliefs are then I also believe that we are all made by god. This means homosexuals also are made by god therefore it cannot be a sin to be a homosexual. Of course this is my feelings based on my thoughts, my beliefs and my research and reading.
God has given us the power to think for ourselves. Your parents have taught you their believes. Now is the time for you to take what god has given you and what your parents have taught you and decide what your beliefs are, what you believe is right for you. Nothing says you have to accept every belief your parents have exposed you to. You have the right and the power to question and to decide for yourself how you feel. These feeling will change greatly when you marry and you and your husband mold your family beliefs that you want to pass on to your children.
As to apologizing to your friend. First I don't see anything to apologize for. What happened between you was perfectly normal for young teenagers just starting through puberty. I would hazard a guess that as many as 80 to 90 percent of all teenagers first sexual experience is with a same sex partner. As you said it is done to practice on one another or to learn about sex and our own sexuality. There was no reason to freak out and I'm very glad you did not hurt yourself over this.
So the question as to whether you should apologize is this. You two are still friends. Do you think what happened is something that is coming between you, meaning not allowing you to be closer friends? Do you, after reading what I said feel guilty?
If the answer to my questions is yes. Then you might consider having a conversation with her and asking her if what happened is a wedge between the two of you? If so, why? It may be that what you feel you need to apologize for is not what you need to apologize for. she may have entirely different feelings about what happened. So I suggest you talk then decide if and what you need to apologize for.
Okay, so I took eight 500mg Tylenol &' I'm afraid something is going to happen. The reason that I did this was because I really wanna get high &' I have no weed ... So that is what I did now I'm afraid. Please tell me what to do!! Also, is there another way to get high? Oh, I'm 15 &' weigh 103 lbs. I'm a girl. Thanks.
The recommended daily dosage of Tylenol is 4000 mg over a 24 hour period. You took that much at one time. I doubt you got high from it as there is nothing in Tylenol to get you high what most likely happened is you got sleepy or disorientated.
One dose of Tylenol in that amount should have made you sick to your stomach causing you to throw up and have severe cramps bad enough that hospital treatment may have been required. The fact that you didn't need medical intervention says your body tolerated it better than most.
DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN, you got away with it this time. Continued doses of this amount will do you permanent hare. Harm of the type doctors may not be able to fix. Does of this amount will harm your liver, Kidneys and your heart. The only possible correction for some of the harm it can do is transplants which are not readily available.
I do not recommend using weed either. I don't believe it is as safe as some people believe it to be. Just like too much alcohol weed if consumed in excess has to have an adverse effect on the body and the brain. That's just my 2 cents worth on that subject.
Hi, i am 15 years old and a male. A year ago, i had gay sex with a friend of mine. We Kissed and i inserted my penis into his anus.It was somehow pleasant but i regretted it later when i realized what i had done. Now, I get an erection every time i think of having sex with that friend of mine and also when i see a naked man on the INTERNET.Right now i am able to resist the temptation having gay sex but i do not know how long i can resist it since being gay is both illegal in my country and i sin against God. Please someone help me!!!!!!!
While there is nothing wrong with being gay I do not think you are gay. At your age it is not unusual for boys or girls to have their first sexual experience with someone of the same sex. I call it safe sexual experimentation. It is how we learn about sex our own bodies and how to go about having sex with someone else.
Being attracted to someone of the same sex does not mean you gay. You could be bi or bi-curious. One thing you have not said is how you feel about girls or if you are sexually attracted to girls.
If you are not sexually attracted to girls then you may be gay. Though that depends on why you are not attracted to them. Is it out of fear of rejection or because of your one same sex encounter you feel your gay.
As I said there is nothing wrong with being gay. What is wrong is putting a label on yourself at such an early age. If you were gay this is something you would have known long before you hit puberty as it is the way your are born. You just don't wake up one morning and say, Hey I'm gay, or have a gay encounter and decide you're gay.
I think you need to take your time and really get to know your sexuality before you put a label on yourself.
I am 21/f and I moved in with Tim 26/m last march. We had known each other about a year previous and both happen to be looking for roommates around the same time. Anyways, for awhile things were messy because we wound up sleeping together a few times but we became very close friends. We talk about everything and trust each other deeply, even when we decided to not have sex anymore. Anyways, he accepted a job out of state recently and just left about 30 minutes ago. He's going to be back in a few months but we are officially not living together anymore. In march I move back in with my parents. It was a very sad goodbye and I still can't stop crying. I've been anxious about him leaving for weeks now and I'm so depressed. The last time I can remember being this upset about something was when my first boyfriend broke up with me when I was still a teenager. I feel broken and empty and all those other emo analogies. My friends are here for me but I still feel a void. I know things get easy over time but how can I speed up the grieving process?
This is a question asked of many psychologists and psychiatrists. Their answers is the same. Grief has to run its course and everyone grieves differently. Grief has many different stages as well. Depending on the hurt and how you handle grief you may have to go through all of them before you feel better.
Right now the hurt is fresh and raw and the way you feel is normal. My wife would tell you to have yourself a good pity party. Get out the box of chocolate ice cream and indulge yourself for a day or two. Then pull yourself together and start to move forward.
The hurt will stay with you for a while. It sounds like you had a good relationship with him and maybe in your own way you loved him. The empty feeling will pass as find other things and people to fill the void.
I know you are moving back in with your parents for economical reasons. I might suggest for the next month and a half you look to see if you cannot find someone else, possible a girlfriend or co worker who can move in a pay half the rent. Moving back in with mom and dad is going to slow the healing process or slow whatever gains you make in healing between now and then.
Having your own place gives you your privacy so that when he does return you can see if he is still the guy that walked away.
I have to get 4 injections tomorrow and I have a very strong fear of needles. I'm trying to be brave about it but I've always had difficulty with getting them. I know if I see the needles at all I'll be out of there. It's the pain/thought of the needle in my arm that scares me. It's a new doctor so they don't know about my fear. Since it's a new doctor would I need a blood test too? Any advice about that one?
I understand your fear and there are things the doctors can do to lessen the pain of the injection thus hopefully lessen the fear. I was injured in a auto Accident a number of years ago and now suffer from chronic pain. To deal with the pain I undergo regular injections into my spine and knees. Comparatively speaking a shot in the arm is a walk in the park compared to the needles that go into my back.
To lessen the pain my doctors use topical anesthetics. My orthopedic doctor uses a spray that he sprays while he is giving me the injection. The spinal injections are more complicated and they use different types of pain relievers as they maneuver the needle into where it has to go. I know yuck.
Ask the doctor about using a spray anesthetic while giving you your shots. You can ask him to use thinner needles as well but I must warn you the thinner the needle the longer it takes to push the medication. Meaning the needle will be in you longer. The same with drawing blood.
When drawing blood they usually try to size the needle to the vein the find. They can use a pediatric needle if you ask but they are very small and it will take longer for the blood to fill the tube.
You know that guy Newton once said, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. I just say there is always a trade of to be had. when asking for something of this nature.
I see no reason though why the doctor would not comply with a request to use a topical spray anesthetic. You don't say how old you are or when you are. IF you are under 18 have mom call the doctors office and ask them to have this spray available when you visit.
Hey 15/F (please don't juge)
I hade sex with my bestfriend and he used a condom.but just to be sure I want to take the test. I can't wait till after my period because it comes and goes. I don't have a cycle for sure. So saturday its 2 weeks since we did it. Can I take the test on saturday?
GO to the drug stores and find the test kits. Read the instructions on the packages. Different kits have different waiting periods before you can test. Find the kit with the shortest waiting period after intercourse and purchase that one. Then go home and follow the instructions as to when you should test.
If the condom didn't break your chances of being pregnant are slim and none. Since your period is irregular I understand why you would want to test to make certain.
While I do not condone having sex at such a young age please make sure you are not doing so just to keep you boyfriend with you. There are many boys out there who use the line; "If you love me you will have sex with me." Having sex with someone is not the way to prove your love for someone.
Boys do not define love as a girl does. Boys have an entirely definition of love which is all the physical side of. Where as a girl needs more than just the physical side of love to be in love.
If all your boyfriend is looking for is sex, then he is not truly in love with you and does not have the proper respect for you.
Helo 15/F
I have UTI but I am drinking antibiotics. But I can't get I still have the irritation of having to pee! Please help? Can I do something to just ease it up a little bit
If you�re the same girl that wrote to us on Friday; then I will assume you have seen a doctor and have been prescribed antibiotics for your UTI. Hopefully mom has not given you something she had left over as this is wrong for any number of reasons. One it could be the wrong medication & two you never take someone else's medication. With antibiotics you need to take the full course of medication which can be 10 to 15 days of medication or the infection can return. If your are taking someone's leftover medication then you cannot take the full course of the medication.
Should I be correct that you have seen a doctor than there is really nothing you can do but to follow the doctor�s directions and give the medicine time to work? It will take anywhere from 24 to 72 hours before the medication really kicks in.
You can help the medication by flushing your kidneys and urinary track by drinking plenty of fluids. Water is best. Sodas and any carbonated beverage is bad as is any beverage high in acids such as certain fruit juices like Orange juice and tomato juice.
If in 48 hours after starting the medication, you have not felt any improvement, contact your doctor as there may be a need for a change in medication.
Ive had a bad personality for a while.. I cry and look at negatives a lot. Ill cry over the smallest things bc im so hurt inside. How can I stop and learn how to take stuff better? Not cry and not look at things bad.. Everyone says I need to "Glo Up" meaning grow up and stop doing what im doing. I think way to much and idk how to stop
There is really not enough information here to give you any really good advice. It appears you are able to cry at almost anything and you have a negative outlook on the world. These two symptoms by themselves do not spell depression, though they are part of the overall group of symptoms a doctor would use to make a diagnosis of depression.
What I would suggest is you make an appointment with your family doctor for a complete physical. Your doctor would need to do a complete physical to rule out any organic reason for how you are feeling before a diagnosis of depression could be made. When you are with your doctor ask to be screened for depression.
The screening for depression is a number of questions the doctor will ask you while doing your physical. Based on your answers and the results of the physical the doctor can make a proper diagnosis and prescribe the proper course of treatment.
There is something wrong with you as you should not be in a constant state of negative or depressed state. It may be found that you suffer clinical depression, which is really a medical condition and not a mental illness as would be bipolar or manic depression as it is also known. Clinical depression is the lack of certain hormones that help control mood swings. Your body may not be making enough of the one or two hormones. This is easily fixed with daily medication.
Then working with a therapist you work to find out if there may be hidden stressors that have over loaded your natural chemicals and work to relieve this stress or handle it in a better manor.
15/F
Hey. So I have UTI and I tried to say nothing but I can't take it anymore! It is sooo irritating! I have to pee the whole time! So yesterday I told my mom and she said I will go and check if I have sometimg (after she screamed at me and told me I'm to flirty with my nephew! I mwan he's my nephew!) But she never went.... And I'm not gonna remind her again.
Any help
As a 15 year old by a Federal Law called HIPPA for problems related to your Reproductive System, you do not need parental permission to see a doctor. Since your urinary tract is part of your reproductive system this law allows you to see a doctor, be treated for this condition and have any questions concerning reproductive health answered by your doctor.
These visits are totally confidential, meaning no one not even your parents can be told what you are being treated for or have access to any of your medical records related to any treatment sought for reproductive health reasons without your expressed written permission to your doctor. Ask your doctor for a HIPPA confidentiality form, which all doctors have, on that form you can state who can see your records.
This law also says your mom can no longer be in the exam room if you are to have any type of reproductive system exam. She must by law wait in the waiting room. The fact that her health insurance is paying the bill gives her no leverage. I could be paying you medical bills and I still could not see your records without your permission.
This law was passed by congress not to give young people a reason to have sex. It was passed so that they could get proper medical care when needed without having to go to their parents with questions or complaints that would embarrass them. So that they can be totally honest with their doctor so the doctor can properly treat them. This includes prescribing birth control medication if you ask for it.
Your mother is also very wrong in her assumption of how you come to have a UTI. All women and some men get UTI's. Most UTI's in women are caused by reasons other than sex; if left untreated this infection can infect the kidneys and other parts of their bodies.
So if mom will not take you to a doctor you should seek a doctor’s treatment on your own. You can see your family doctor, or a GYN.
Since you have had this for a while I would suggest going to one of the urgent care places that have opened. They have doctors who can prescribe the antibiotics required to clear this infection up. The longer you wait to see a doctor the more chance you will have a kidney infection as well. If you spike a fever while waiting then you must get to a doctor, urgent care facility or hospital emergency room immediately as this would be a sign the infection has worsened.