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15 and pregnant
Please don't juge. I got a lot of that already! 15/F. I think my pregnant. All the symtoms are there like abnormal pain and tender boobs and stuff like that! I want a abortion. I know its killing a poor soul and so on. But I don't have any other choise. Also I can't tell my mom or dad because it was with my nephew (32). I have this huge pain °̩n my left kidney. What could this be? And how could I stop it? Please don't be mean, I only need someone who is supprtive thxX
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Maybe give some free advice about: Pregnancy?
There is more here than just the question on the kidney pain.
First: You need to make sure your pregnant. You can do so with a home pregnancy kit or because you are 15 by Federal Law you are old enough to see any doctor or go to a planned parenthood clinic with or without parental permission. (I will explain)
Kidney pain would be unusual this early in pregnancy if you are pregnant. So the pain you feel there could be a urinary infection or a kidney infection.
Once you know for sure if you're pregnant then you can make the choice to abort the pregnancy.
Federal Law: The federal Law is called HIPPA, which is an acronym and with in this law is a section that covers young people ages 14 and up. It gives them medical confidentiality for all things related to their reproductive systems. This would include pregnancy.
Under this law your parents have no say in what you decide. They cannot prevent you or force you from having an abortion it is you choice. They cannot have any access to your medical records concerning your visits to any doctor for matters concerning your reproductive health and your doctors cannot discuss anything concerning your reproductive health with them. The fact that their health insurance may cover any procedure does not give them any rights to see you medical records. The only way anyone can see these records is with your expressed written permission to the doctor.
Congress wrote this for just this purpose so that in situation like this a person would seek medical assistance before it was too late and not just to late for an abortion. Too late for a variety of medical health reason related to Reproductive Health. You can after this is over ask for birth control as well. Your parent s have no say in this either.
Your Nephew: Even if you consented to the sex it is still rape. Under the law in every state you are too young to consent to sex. Therefore besides the incest which is also illegal your nephew committed statutory rape. Statutory rape is sexual knowledge of a minor or sexual relations with someone under the age of consent.
If you did not consent and he forced you to have sex with him, in an definition of the word forced, then he is guilty of Rape, incest and they will throw on additional charges which probably would include Statutory rape, and sexual predator charges.
IF your Nephew you did rape you or in some way coerced you into having sex with him I can understand your embarrassment about telling your parents or sister or brother. This is something sexual predators and rapists depend upon to continue to rape and prey on young girls.
If your Nephew is a sexual predator then I would have to believe you are not the first person he has raped or coerced into having sex with him. There is something not right when a 32 year old man looks to have sex with someone more than half his age. If I'm right then you have to be brave and tell your parents what happened. Your nephew is sick and has to be stopped before he really hurts someone.
Whether or not you are pregnant you still need to tell your parents. If you are pregnant and you tell your parents as I told you they cannot stop you from making the choices that need to be made in regard to your pregnancy. Under the HIPPA law the choices are yours alone. I'm sure they will want to advice and counsel you. That the law can't stop. But the choice is yours.
Do the right things here. See a doctor, find out for sure if your pregnant and tell your parents about your nephew for regardless of the circumstances of how it happened he was very wrong to have had sex with you. I am just as sure if he had sex with you he is also looking at and has had sex with other girls your age. This is not only illegal it is sick.
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You need to tell someone, Whether it was willingly it was rape and what makes matters worse is it was incestuous. (Family related)
When people who have sexual intercourse with family members get pregnant not only are their a high risk for deformities and disabilities but there is also a lot of risk of other complications as well.
Hiding the truth isn't going to help you, The baby's father will eventually be revealed somewhere down the line..
Your nephew raped you, That's exactly what happened.
You must let your parents know the situation, If you choose not to abort then I highly recommend the possibility of putting the baby up for adoption. Legally, Your cousin can get into a lot of trouble. Incest is a crime and carries a hefty punishment.
You must get checked out and see a doctor as soon as possible to make sure you are well.
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You need to see a doctor, pronto. We are not medical professionals and can't diagnose you over the internet.
If you're not sure if you're pregnant, wait until your first missed period and take a test. Often your normal hormonal cycle can make you feel pregnant. Don't panic until there's a reason.
As for the kidney pain, you definitely need to see a doctor. I had pain in my lower back along with vomiting, thought I was pregnant and turned out I had a kidney infection. You could have kidney stones, or it could be any number of things. Only a doctor can diagnose you.
Medical stuff aside, you should be talking to your parents. I know it would suck, but if your cousin is 32 and you're 15, he would have committed a crime by the laws of most countries/states. Your parents might be mad for a while, but it would be out of concern for you. Even if you don't end up needing an abortion, you still need to be screened for sexually transmitted infections and to have regular gynecological exams now that you're sexually active. If you do need an abortion, you won't be able to get one without your parents finding out. In any case, you will probably want your parents' support while you deal with the aftermath of all of this, and they would want to be there to support you. Don't shut them out right now.
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