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I got my period and i didn tell my mom !!!!!
So i got my 1st period few months ago and i already had it few times, i always tried to tell my mom but i didnt know how to.. And one time i got it , it left red mark on my bed and she saw it and asked me what is this and i said i dont know and i feel horrible for lying to her !! Please help
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You know, I did the same exact thing that you did, and the same exact thing happened to me, possibly for different reasons though.
I was very young when I got my first period (nine years old) and I was very much a tomboy. In contrast, my mother is very big about celebrating "womanhood" and all things that go with it, like taking me out to dinner and giving me presents when I got my first bra. All I wanted to do was strap the things down and go climb a tree, so the thought of my mother singling me out and making me feel all womanly was mortifying. When I got my period and she found out, she literally took our phone out on the back porch and called my entire family, crying tears of joy.
The important thing to remember is that your mom went through this too. Depending on our upbringing and knowledge, getting your period can be a scary or embarrassing thing to go through, and I guarantee she went through something similar. You know your mom best, so you could probably guesstimate how she would react to any of the following advice, but this is what I would do.
Go to your mom, and just say, "Hey, I didn't want to hide this from you or anything, but I just don't want to make a big deal about it...I just want to let it go, if that's okay," and tell her that you got it. If you feel horrible about lying to your mom, it tells me that you and your mother have a relatively honest and open relationship, and she'll probably understand. Like I said, she's been through it. Not many girls like to scream out to the world that she's gotten it when it happens to her.
If you don't feel comfortable confronting her face to face, you could even write a note. My mom LOVES passive aggressive notes :) And just say the same thing: Mom, I know you saw the mark on my bed, and I'm sure you know what it is, and I'm sorry I hid it from you. I wanted to tell you, but didn't know how. I just don't want to make a big deal about it. Thanks for understanding!
Honesty is the best policy. I can bet that your mom would be less upset that you hid it, and happier that you were honest with her in the end.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
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I do not understand why young girls are so embarrassed or afraid to go to their mothers when their first period arrives. Your period is a normal part of a woman's bodily function. Something that will be part of your life for the next 30 to 50 years. Your mom most likely still deals with her period each month.
Your period has nothing to do with sex other than the fact it stops if you become pregnant, while your pregnant. Your period is the cleansing of your womb each month to prepare the womb to accept a fertilized egg and nurturer it until that egg becomes a child and is ready to be born. No egg the womb cleanse itself and the cycle repeats.
I could understand not wanting to go to your father and why you might find it embarrassing to go to him. Fact is though your father is very much aware of a woman's menstrual cycle. If he wasn't before he married you mom he became very much aware shortly there after.
My advice is to go to your mom and tell her. If you find it hard to do so face to face. Then write her a letter and leave it on her pillow before you go to bed. It is very important that mom knows about this and any other things that happen with you and to you. There are certain things that as you become older mom needs to help you with, like buying your first bra. She needs to help you with how to properly care for yourself with your period and to see to it that you have a proper cycle. Pregnancy is not the only reason a period will be missed; especially at the beginning of your periods.
Just remember mom is built just like you, was once your age and has gone through everything you have and will be going through. This makes mom your best source of information. Sex by definition is something that happens between you and someone else and generally involves intercourse. IF that hasn't happened then it is not sex or involves sex. Periods do not involve sex. So talk to mom.
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Pretty much every girl goes through this. I don't see the point in lying at all. It's not like you have something to be embarrassed about..
Just go talk to her when she's alone, maybe ask her how old she was when she got her period or something. Or you could just walk up to her and be like, "Hey mom, I got my period." If anything, write her a note. It's not a big deal.
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The more interesting question is why lie? You both know this is normal and expected part of development. There shouldn't be any secrets. She's your mother and has been in your position. If you find it hard to talk about try writing a note explaining it embarrasses you to address it in person.
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