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Help!!!! I think i am gay.
Hi, i am 15 years old and a male. A year ago, i had gay sex with a friend of mine. We Kissed and i inserted my penis into his anus.It was somehow pleasant but i regretted it later when i realized what i had done. Now, I get an erection every time i think of having sex with that friend of mine and also when i see a naked man on the INTERNET.Right now i am able to resist the temptation having gay sex but i do not know how long i can resist it since being gay is both illegal in my country and i sin against God. Please someone help me!!!!!!!
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Start planning to move, and get away from whatever country you are living in where they will harm you for being gay.
If you don't ever want to act on your sexual desire for men, because you believe it's sinful - that's fine. Some homosexuals make that choice, because they believe it's the choice God wants them to make. However, this desire will never go away. You will always be gay. Anyone who tells you that you can turn yourself straight, is just lying to you. It doesn't happen. You will always be attracted to men.
Regardless of what you believe about sin, you need to get out of any country that would harm you for being gay! That's not a safe place for you to be, even if you always resist temptation. The stress and the threats of living in such a place will ruin any happiness you can have - even if you never act on your homosexual desire. Please, you may be young now, but it's time to start considering your options for leaving a country for a place where you can live safely and with human dignity.
You deserve that, and it's worth everything to be safe and respected in the place you call home.
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While there is nothing wrong with being gay I do not think you are gay. At your age it is not unusual for boys or girls to have their first sexual experience with someone of the same sex. I call it safe sexual experimentation. It is how we learn about sex our own bodies and how to go about having sex with someone else.
Being attracted to someone of the same sex does not mean you gay. You could be bi or bi-curious. One thing you have not said is how you feel about girls or if you are sexually attracted to girls.
If you are not sexually attracted to girls then you may be gay. Though that depends on why you are not attracted to them. Is it out of fear of rejection or because of your one same sex encounter you feel your gay.
As I said there is nothing wrong with being gay. What is wrong is putting a label on yourself at such an early age. If you were gay this is something you would have known long before you hit puberty as it is the way your are born. You just don't wake up one morning and say, Hey I'm gay, or have a gay encounter and decide you're gay.
I think you need to take your time and really get to know your sexuality before you put a label on yourself.
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I'm 13 and Christian. I have many gay friends and their all awesome! I totaly support you, but if you really love a man you need to let them know. DOn't hide it because it's not who you are. If it's illegal just remember that boy loves you for you. If you want to be with him be with him no matter the curcumstance. That's true love. :)
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