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My personality.. cry and look at negatives a lot.
Ive had a bad personality for a while.. I cry and look at negatives a lot. Ill cry over the smallest things bc im so hurt inside. How can I stop and learn how to take stuff better? Not cry and not look at things bad.. Everyone says I need to "Glo Up" meaning grow up and stop doing what im doing. I think way to much and idk how to stop
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There is really not enough information here to give you any really good advice. It appears you are able to cry at almost anything and you have a negative outlook on the world. These two symptoms by themselves do not spell depression, though they are part of the overall group of symptoms a doctor would use to make a diagnosis of depression.
What I would suggest is you make an appointment with your family doctor for a complete physical. Your doctor would need to do a complete physical to rule out any organic reason for how you are feeling before a diagnosis of depression could be made. When you are with your doctor ask to be screened for depression.
The screening for depression is a number of questions the doctor will ask you while doing your physical. Based on your answers and the results of the physical the doctor can make a proper diagnosis and prescribe the proper course of treatment.
There is something wrong with you as you should not be in a constant state of negative or depressed state. It may be found that you suffer clinical depression, which is really a medical condition and not a mental illness as would be bipolar or manic depression as it is also known. Clinical depression is the lack of certain hormones that help control mood swings. Your body may not be making enough of the one or two hormones. This is easily fixed with daily medication.
Then working with a therapist you work to find out if there may be hidden stressors that have over loaded your natural chemicals and work to relieve this stress or handle it in a better manor.
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Hi. You seem to be going through a low patch and seeing negatives everywhere. We're human. We cannot really maintain a perpetually 'up' and happy state of mind, although we can often make the effort to 'put on a brave face' as it were, to the world. And people saying 'don't worry' and 'cheer up' is no answer. There are times when worrying is the correct response to a situation, there are times when 'cheerful' is not the frame of mind demanded. However, a lot of the time there's a lot of truth in the line "There's nothing good or bad, that thinking doesn't make it so". Are you with me? I see what your friends mean. That is, don't cry and look for all the negative aspects, but make the effort to find any possible positives and put a more hopeful 'spin' on things. Those that really do lack anything you can truthfully call a 'plus', try a little 'damage limitation'. Isolate it. Does it really have any great power to hurt or harm you? Or is it something that with a little distance and perspective won't be quite such the disaster as it might seem right at the moment? I'm not sure the 'grow up' advice is really that valid. Young children do seem to live in a little 'world of their own' as you might say. They can be happy to almost hysterical levels, and their tantrums when foiled can seem equally passionate. But to a more adult eye, these nursery and school playground dramas are in most cases...well..pretty trivial to put it bluntly! Don't you think? Adults usually come to accept that yeah, some things are very signifcant. Some things work out great, and some things are just 'OK', could be a little better or could be a lot worse. Some things we can strive to imporove, some we just have to accept as they stand. I get the feeling that you ARE growing up here, and taking onboard a more mature outlook. Don't assume you are childish or sinking into a clinical depression that needs therapy or medication of some sort. It might well just be that 'transitional' period, a shift of perspective. Make the New Year a new start? Analyse each experience as it comes. Prioritise. Judge it on it's merits. React appropriately. No gloomy introspection or sulks mate! Seek the positive and build on that. You're OK!!
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Although you could be suffering from depression, in which case therapy could help, it sounds to me that you may be in a slump. Life can be tough, and sometimes we feel stuck and in a really dark place, where even the littlest thing can make us feel awful. First, ask yourself how long you've felt this way, and if something in particular happened that triggered these feelings for you. If these feelings have persisted for a long time, and may/may not be connected to one event or situation in particular, you may be depressed. Next, figure out if you feel the way you do because of a general dissatisfaction with where you are in life. I, for one, fell into a dark place when I felt like my life lacked direction, and I was totally lost and didn't really know what I wanted to do. I felt like crap all the time, would cry easily, and even felt like it was difficult to get out of bed. It took a lot for me to finally move to a better place--- I will say these four things work GREAT: meditation, exercise, good nutrition, and therapy. In my opinion, medication should be reserved for more serious cases of depression/anxiety-- but it's a personal decision. I say try to incorporate more exercise into your life, eat better, meditate, and you will see results over time. If you feel you really cannot function in spite of trying these things, then consult with a psychiatrist for an evaluation, but in my opinion, that should be more of a last resort, if other natural options do not work for you. Finally, ask yourself who your sources of support are- do you have good friends you can count on? Do you feel like everyone misunderstands you, or do you tend to keep to yourself most, if not all the time? It's good to have someone to talk to during your difficult times, especially when that person gets you and understands what you're going through. Trust me, I also have a tendency to over-think, and it only makes things worse. MUCH worse. I don't know how old you are, but growing up in today's society is not easy. MANY, MANY people feel the same exact way you do, so don't be too hard on yourself. With the right steps and support, you can feel much better.
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That can be really difficult. I'm first going to try to suggest to build your self confidence. That will definitely help. You can also try writing. It's really good to let things out but then try writing out the positive things in your day.
It's a process that won't happen overnight so it'll take time.
If it still isn't working well for you, go see a counselor. They'll help you find way to deal with problems better and try to find ways to look at the positive side of things.
I mean hey, it just might not be something you can do by yourself.
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If this is something that just doesn't go away and has been long-lasting see a doctor. You could be depressed and sound it from the symptoms you stated.
If it's a medical thing over time treatment and medication can get you back to your normal self. Mention it to adults who know you best and can take care of it.
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