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ok this girl that i like ive heard she said that im clingy.. well im not really sure what she means. and im not sure what to do about it. so my question is what can i do not to be clingy and still have her like interested in me and what you think clingy means, like try to explain it?! thanks soo much!

well clingy could mean that you hug or just hang around them and they need some space. i have a friend who is clingy and in her case she cant stop hugging ppl and as cute as that sounds, it get so annoying! SO just keep your space and dont make it obvious that you NEED them every breathing second of the day.

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I'm 14 and I already lost my virginity... Is that normal?

do you want facts or opinion? in 2005 its normal is some places but where i live, i personally dont know anyone that has lost theirs and im 14 also. i love my bf but i dont plan on having sex until and if we get married. i friend of mine gave me part of their "talk" ..."theres a difference between fucking and love-making" so basically, i dont encourage it but i cant stop you so i hope u were safe.

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I have no clue what to get my boyfriend for his birthday, he likes sports, and xbox games, I dont know if he would like jewelry. Can anyone please help me?

you could try a gift certificate to dick's sporting goods or best buy or just anywhere he can get xbox games. if he has a favorite sports team, you could get him a jersey.

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What jobs can you get if you are under 16 because i need to earn some money. Or can you think of any other ways of getting some money. Thanks

well you could bag groceries at a grocery store (minimum wage), caddy at a golf coarse (a lot of work for a lot of $),or ref soccer games (i get 19$ a game). good luck!

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What are some good exercises/stretches that focus on toning your butt/thighs? I mean easy things, not complicated ones that I could never do. I already run everyday because of track, so is there anything else you can think of? Thanks a lot!

L-U-N-G-E-S! if you dont know what they are, theyre where you put one foot in front of the other and go down about 2 inches off the ground. if you do enough of them, around 5 sets of 10, its will really work.

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I am so tired of people writing "liek dis" Spell correctly so that you can actually get some advice! I don't even know how those questions even appear on the site if it's not even understandable...Does anyone agree with me or am I just illiterate?

i totally agree with you! whn dey wite lyk dis it pisses me off! you spelled "grammar" wrong but at least it looks like the actual word.

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I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?

well you should put your opinions aside b/c no matter how much you fight over, niether one of is completely right. its an OPINION. tell him your sorry for not valuing his opinion and you want to end the dissagrement and be friends.

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What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more?

im a christian and i dont think believing in God would keep me away from having a relationship with someone. if hes an atheist, he could convert or something but really, being different doesnt make him any less lovable. as long as he doesnt worship satan then its fine and not a sin.

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My mom is like soooo annoying! She constantly makes me repeat myself and takes everything the wrong way(for example: i'll say something like completely random and not in a mean way or anything and she'll take it as an insult and i'll give her an insult and she thinks its like a joke or something). Also, she still treats me like i'm about 3 years old and I'm actually 14!I try to put up with her the best I can but I usually end up being mad at her for severaly pissing me off. I know it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, but believe you me it gets extremely frustrating after 14 long years! Also she always points out the odvious and asks stupid questions and never listens to any answers! plus I just wanted to send in a question cuz this is my first!:)

(sigh), this sounds like my mom...details and everything! in my case tho, she wants me to be 3 one day and 22 the next and do everything on my own, pay for everything and take care of myself however i can. the stupid questions...bear with them and make sure you have her full attention when you answer. look in her eyes and speak clearly. as for the random things...maybe explain where it comes from or just avoid saying them all together. i know how frustrating it is! i would try talking it out before summer starts b/c then you dont have school as an outlet ad things could get ugly. congrats on ur first question! rate mee.

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this guy i dated 4 a week brokeup with me. it was relly hard 4 me 2 getover him and 2 just move on. i said some rude things 2 him and now i guess u could say he h8s me. i still love him and i really want himback but after what i said 2him he doesnt want me. he called me fat and ugly but i said that i h8ted him. i stll really like him and wan him back. please help me i really need it. i r8 5s!
14/f

well i understand but you dont "love" him. ive been with my b/f for a month and im not completely in love with him as much as a care about him. if hes says rude things to you, you shouldnt want him back. thats not love. calling you fat and ugly shouldnt make you attracted to him and if i got that from ANYONE i would dump them. you could apologize for what u said if you want to be friends but i wouldnt get too attached to this guy. this is an opinion...probably not what you wanted to hear

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hey im reese and i weigh 130 and im 15. well ive been a lil "chubby" over the years and it never seems to get any better. i see everyone at my age with different builds but their skinny. but im 5'5 or so and my stomach just never seems to flatten out. and i come from a family whos really skinny. please help. is it because i havent lost my baby fat yet? i would think im sorta underdeveloped at my age but i need others to help! thanks so much! *rEeSe* :)

5'5 130 lbs isnt bad! you prolly still have some baby fat. theres not much you can do about it. i have a bunch on my upper back and it sucks! you can try doing crunches, sit ups and leg lifts. start out with a few and gradually add more. much love

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hey im reese and i weigh 130 and im 15. well ive been a lil "chubby" over the years and it never seems to get any better. i see everyone at my age with different builds but their skinny. but im 5'5 or so and my stomach just never seems to flatten out. and i come from a family whos really skinny. please help. is it because i havent lost my baby fat yet? i would think im sorta underdeveloped at my age but i need others to help! thanks so much! *rEeSe* :)

5'5 130 lbs isnt bad! you prolly still have some baby fat. theres not much you can do about it. i have a bunch on my upper back and it sucks! you can try doing crunches, sit ups and leg lifts. start out with a few and gradually add more. much love

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Ok, well I have REALLY dark circles under my eyes! I don't how to get rid of them , and i get almost 9 hours of sleep! Ive tried falling asleep earlier, but it wouldn't work even if i could actually fall asleep earlier. I hate them and they look so ugly! Any ideas of how i can get rid of these ugly things, or at least cover them up?

i heard that dark circles are heriditary so you cant really get rid of them (ugh) try using a light concealer in the dark area. all u need to do is apply a few dots then rub it around.

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Every gel I use for my hair, makes my hair greyish and flakey. I have used numerous types and its always the same.
Is it my hair?
If not, what gel would *you* reccomend?

Thanks (any advice appreciated)

stop using gel for a while and see what happens. i think most gels do that and i dont really know of one that doesnt.

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Hey, Im 15/f and I have been having some problems with my breasts> (Yeah, I'm sorry...it's sorta ugh). Anyways, recently my breasts have started to hurt. It's not major pain or anything or severe. They've just been feeling like their stretching or something.... Also if it helps, I'm not exactly well- endowed right now....Thank you so much! ~West

well it could be from a lot of things. you may need a more supportive bra.

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hi im 15 and my boyfriends 16. although many adults say that us teens dont know what love is teens know when their in love. i just want peoples opinions (teens and adults) on if teens know what love is and also me and my boyfriend are really in love and its NOT lust. we know it. anyways we decided we were going to have sex (no my boyfriends not like that hes never pushed me into sex ever) but were not having sex for the fun of it we really do love eachother. please give us ur thoughts and please dont be mean thanx!~Kelley

you can be in love at 15! having sex does not mean you are in love (believe it ot not) and also, it doesnt fully commit you to each other. have fun doing other things besides sex...i discourage it but if you really want to and nothing will stop you because you want to porove your in love then go for it, i cant stop you. be safe!

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i want to join a martial arts class but dont know which one as in karate, judo, taekwondo etc, plus anyone know whats the difference between them all?

TAEKWONDO is definatly the best! if you want to do a martial art i recommend it! lemme know if you have any more questions.

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I was just wondering how long it takes for your boobs to grow in after you get your period.Dose it happen right away?
i rate high. thanks :)

some people have a big chest and dont have their period and vice versa so really, its different for everyone.

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Ok,yesturday i went to the bathroom,did my busness[sorry sp].Like anything normal,of course.Then today my area smelled really bad after i took a shower. It smelled all day and other people could smell it to!I was so embarissed but they didnt no it was me.I didnt no what was wrong!! I havnt had my period yet[i dont mean this month,i mean i NEVER have] [i turned 13 a couple of days ago,and obviously,im a female] Dose anyone no whats wrong?
i rate VERY high.

it may be an infection. if it get irritated, get it checked out. otherwise, i think the ppl who answered before me are right..

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So this one boy tells me that he loves me. And I don't love him. But he really seems to mean it. How do I respond to that statement if I don't love him back and I don't wanna lie?

tell him you would rather love him "like a brother" than a bf. whatever you do, dont lead him on or flirt with him cuz when he finds out you dont like him back, it will hurt him.

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