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I have a gay friend which claims it's not against the laws of nature while I think it is.He said animals can be homosexual.Has he lost his mind?!
Whether or not you agree with homosexuality or not, homosexual behaviour among animals has been well documented. You might find this article interesting:
http://www.cambridge.org/catalogue/catalogue.asp?isbn=9780521864466&ss=exc
However, as it is so subjective, it is impossible to come to a final conclusion as to whether or not being gay is against the laws of nature.
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What are some great things o do whn you are at home with a trampoline in the summer? Also awy from home too! ( if you hve 1 or 2 friends) games? Things to do? ...ect. Thanks!!!
I did a quick Google search for games you can play on the trampoline and came up with these:
CROSSFIRE... A fun version of dodgeball. Two people are up on the trampoline while the rest of the team is on the ground around the trampoline. A soft ball is thrown at the people on the trampoline from the people on the ground. If they hit that person with the ball, they switch positions, and the person they hit then goes to the ground. Points are earned when players on the ground successfully tag someone up on the trampoline. Can go to 10 points, or 20 depending on how many people are playing. For more intense play, use two soft balls. Points are taken away if you tag someone on the head.
HOT POTATO... Four jumpers are on the trampoline. All players must be jumping at all times. A soft ball is thrown between players. Players must catch the ball. If they drop it, fail to catch it, or stop jumping to catch the ball they are out. Play continues until there is only one player left.
CRACK THE EGG.... All players are up on the trampoline. One player is chosen to sit in the middle of the players who have formed a circle around her. The player in the middle sits with knees drawn to chest and arms around her knees. Players jump around her until she "cracks" or releases her arms from around her legs.
SPRINKLER... Place a sprinkler underneath the trampoline and bounce on top. Lot's of fun when the summer heat makes the trampoline HOT!
Here are some more pages with good suggestions:
http://www.ehow.com/way_5313965_games-play-outdoor-trampoline.html
http://www.ehow.com/way_5313966_games-play-trampoline.html
Some more Summer ideas...
Garden parties are always fun. Get some friends round for a barbeque, put some music on and just hang out in your garden, you could use the trampoline for this. It doesn't have to be a big event.
Another fun idea for your garden is a makeshift volleyball court. Just tie a piece of string across a suitable area of your garden to create a 'net'. Make sure you use a soft ball so you're not in danger of breaking anything.
Water fights are always fun and you can have them in your own garden and away from home too. Just make sure you don't upset anyone or get into any trouble.
If there is a swimming pool near you then you could go there. All you need is a ball that floats to play some games in the water.
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Is there any way to tell if your birth control pills are working?
Unless you are taking them incorrectly, you have had excessive sickness/diarrhea or are taking a medication which interferes with it - most commonly antibiotics - there is no reason why your birth control pills aren't working.
If you are concerned, speak to your doctor. Aside from pregnancy, there isn't really any way of telling.
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ok so im 14 and i have a cold sore on my lip. i haven't had one in like 3 years and everyone gets them now and again just like pimples. i was looking at how to get rid of it and it said that if you have a cold sore you have herpes. so does that mean everyone has herpes? or is it like cancer? everyone has cancer cells but some peoples aren't active? is herpes a disease then? because i haven't done anything to get herpes so im confused? do i have herpes but not "have" herpes? lol
The herpes simplex virus manifests itself in different ways. Herpes labialis is the virus which causes cold sores. It's incorrect that everyone gets them but once the virus enters your body, it stays there forever. Lots of things can cause cold sores to flare up - stress, sunlight, sunburn, menstruation and general illness.
Although cold sores differ from genital herpes, it's important to avoid oral sex while you have one as the virus can be transferred.
Go to any pharmacy and pick up some over-the-counter coldsore cream to ease any discomfort. If you find you are getting them all the time then you may want to see your doctor to see if he/she can prescribe anything stronger.
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16/F
LAst night my boyfriend and i weren't planning on doing anything jus, out to eat and watch a movie at his house. Well after we ate we went to his place and pop in the movie Paranormal. usually scary movies don't scare, but this one did. so i was like jumping all over him and he had his arms around me.
well idk what part of the movie it was but things started to get heatd and before i knew it we were in his bed. now i'm not a virgin but last night i felt like one. we didn't do anything because it hurt so bad when he tried to put it in.
i want to have sex with him because we've been datein for a long time and i'm ready... or was. But i'm afraid that if we do i would suffer from internal bleedind or i would have to be rushed to the ER.
1st. is it possible to suffer internal bleeding?
Can i REALY be rushed to the ER?
Is there some way we can do this with out me getting hurt?
Is this normal to have had sex b4 and now it hurt this bad?
if its any help i haven't had sex for a year and a 1/2 now, could that be it?
Can some one PLEASE give me answers or advice???
A vagina is designed the a BABY through it. Now your boyfriend may be well endowed, but it's unlikely the circumfrance of his penis rivals that of a baby's head.
Internal bleeding? Not likely. Normal bleeding because the vagina isn't used to having something big pushed inside it? Probable. There's no need for ER. If you continue to bleed for several days then you need to see your doctor but I doubt it will come to that.
A really important part of sex many people overlook is foreplay. It's not as important for the guy because all they need to do is get an erection but for girls, it's almost essential. When you get turned on, your vagina produces a natural lubricant which helps the penis enter more easily. As an example, try pushing your finger through your fist while it's dry, then add some moisturiser and notice the difference. Now try and compare that to your vagina. It's likely that you weren't lubricated enough which added to the pain. If you find no matter how turned on you are, you still aren't getting 'wet' enough then try a shop bought lubricant such as KY Jelly. It's also really important that you are completely relaxed as tense muscles will cause you discomfort.
Regardless of that, for some girls it takes a few times for sex to stop being slightly uncomfortable. If you only had sex once before or the person you slept with wasn't particularly big then those can both be contributing factors.
If you find that no matter how many times you have sex it's still painful then visit your doctor to make sure everything's okay down there.
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Whenever I go out, people stare at me. I have no idea why, I mean I dress normal and that sort of thing. And then I get self conscious and have to check and make sure I don't have something on my face or whatever, but I never do, is this normal? Does everyone get stared at? Like sometimes people don't take there eyes off me. They aren't glaring but they just keep glancing at me. It just makes me really self conscious when they do this.
I think it's highly unlikely that people are really staring at you. It's more likely that you're just paranoid and self-concious. I used to think people were staring at me all the time and I hated walking alone in busy places because of it. Eventually I reasoned with myself that it was just my paranoia and guess what? They stopped staring.
Sure, I still feel a bit nervous sometimes but I know I'm not the focus of everyone's attention. Now when I notice a person looking at me, I try to convince myself that they're looking for a good reason.
If you can't seem to get past it, I'd suggest you visit your doctor just to make sure nothing serious is going on. Paranoia can take over your life if you don't keep it in check.
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what are healthy foods to help you loose weight?
The key weight loss is a BALANCED healthy diet teamed with exercise.
Yes, fruits and vegetables are good for you but you need to include them as part of a balanced diet which includes all the major food groups. You also need plenty of bread, rice and other starchy foods such as potatoes, lots of protein found in meat, fish and eggs as well as a healthy amount of dairy products, fat and sugar.
This might help you understand a balanced diet more:
http://www.food.gov.uk/images/pagefurniture/ewplatelargefeb10.jpg
In light of this, it's a bad idea to try and deprive yourself of things. Choose low-fat varieties of things like yoghurt, milk and other dairy products. You could also substitute bread and pasta for wholegrain varieties. If you eat alot of red meat, then try to cut down. It's okay to eat it once or twice a week but as it's high in fat, it's a good idea to go for chicken and turkey instead. It's also really important to get a couple of portions of fish into your diet as it's a good source of protein. Oily fish such as mackerel is especially good as it's a source of essential omega-3.
The way you cook your food also makes a difference. Generally, grilling and baking is MUCH healthier than frying. Simple things like grilling your bacon instead of frying it will make a difference. Pick up a low-fat cooking spray to use instead of oil for when you have to fry things (be careful to check the label though, some of those sprays contain lots of chemicals and other nasty things). Similarly, when choosing foods labelled 'diet', 'fat free' or 'low cal' etc, be really careful to check the labels properly. Sometimes these foods contain hidden sugars and salts, which you could be unknowingly consuming.
If you Google 'healthy meals' or 'healthy recipes' you'll come up with thousands of suggestions. In my personal experience, Weight Watchers recipes are usually pretty good.
Remember that a healthy diet is only part of losing weight. Regular exercise is also really important. If you don't want to join a gym or group activities such as aerobics, try going swimming or running/jogging once or twice a week. If 'boring' execercise doesn't appeal to you then find out if there are any dance, kickboxing or spin classes around your area. These days there are so many different things available...I know someone who even goes to a pole dancing class for fitness!
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My boyfriend was recently separated from his wife and they intend on getting a divorce. Should I wait to see the divorce papers and put the relationship on halt until then? I really love him and it doesn't effect me as much as you might think it would. He is 20 and I am 19. He married young and admits that it was a bad mistake. What do you guys think? I really really need advice..
Personally, I think as long as he really is seperated from his wife and in the process of getting a divorce, there's no issue with you dating him.
However, if you find it uncomfortable or immoral to date someone who isn't a totally free agent then by all means put the relationship on hold.
I would however give you a word of warning - divorces can be lengthy processes, you may find yourself waiting for a long time and the break may have a negative impact on your relationship.
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Hey :) well I'm 13 and I need help me and my bf have been going out for 8 months were still virgins but we had conversations about havinq sex together should I ? I realy think he is the one ... Oh and sory another question I have gotten fingerd befor but I'm not sure if I still am a virgin am I?? I did not feel much niether did I bleed. My bestfriend told me that mabey it ddnt go all the way in to make my chery pop is sh right?? I need help I need answers please help :)
With love, gata :)
If you aren't sure, then that's a pretty good sign that you aren't ready. You should only have sex when you are 100% ready and don't need to ask other people whether or not you should do it. I know you won't like hearing this but if you were so sure, you wouldn't have asked the question would you?
I know you think he's 'the one', the guy I dated when I was 13 was 'the one', as was the guy I dated when I was 16. Guess what? Neither of them were and I bet I'll think my next boyfriend is 'the one' too. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you'll be with this guy forever but it's highly unlikely. I'm not saying wait until marriage but at least wait until you're old enough to make this kind of decision. You probably think you know everything right now but at 13, you don't. The Age of Consent exists for a reason - it's the age when the law says you are mature enough to make a decision about sex. The Age of Consent varies from country to country, but where you are it's likely to be between 16 and 18.
If you decide to go ahead with it anyway, please make sure you are using protection against both pregnancy AND STDs.
As for being a virgin...the 'official' definition of a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse. This means penis entering vagina. Although people may twist this definition to suit them, unless you have actually had sex, you are still a virgin.
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Im 13 and have had discharge for over a year and armpit and pubic hair for almost 2 years. No period.. whats the hold-up Mother N?
You have nothing to worry about. It's normal to get your period anywhere between 11 and 16, there is no set age. Considering you've gone through several other aspects of puberty, you'll probably get it soon but seriously, appreciate not having it while you can!
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Can I have sex with a guy at work?
Your company may have a policy about relationships between employees.
If it doesn't then you're free to do what you like, although you should probably consider the implications first. You don't want to end up feeling awkward everytime you go to work.
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I worry all the time. About everything. For a period of time, I went without sleep because i worried about
all these bad things happening. What should I do? How can I stop worryig all the time?
I worry all the time too, I know how problematic it can be.
This is what I find most helpful:
Whenever you find yourself worrying, especially when you can't sleep, write all those worries down in a list. Then go through the list and cross out all the worries you can't do anything about. For example, if one of your worries is 'I think I did badly in a test' or something irrational like 'I'm worried about terrorism' (irrational in the sense that it is totally out of your control) then cross it off because there's nothing you can do about it now.
Then go back through the list and write solutions next to the worries you CAN do something about. For example, next to something like 'I haven't done my homework' write 'first thing tomorrow I will go and speak to my teacher about the problems I am having with this homework and ask for help/an extension.' Or next to 'I'm having problems at work', write 'tomorrow I will speak to my boss'.
Another thing I find helpful is to talk through my 'worry list' with someone. An outsider might be able to offer you some perspective on your worries and make you realise that alot of them aren't as bad as you think or are irrational.
I find that once I've covered these worries and thought them through properly, it's much easier to put them out of my mind, at least temporarily.
If you're still struggling with your worries then it's time to see a doctor. You might need some form of therapy to help ease your anxiety.
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My girlfriend really wanted to give me a handjob. I thought it sounded great and when we go together this past weekend I let her do it. Now, my girlfriend is a virgin and she has never given a hand job to anybody so this was a new thing for her.
She didn't do it right and I had to get her to stop after awhile. My penis hurts now because she didn't know what she was doing. How long will it hurt? When will the pain go away from the bad hand job? Some places her nails got caught or dug in to my skin. She also squeezed too hard and had some really bad angles going on (which made it really not comfortable since there wasn't a whole lot of lube).
I should have stopped her sooner but she wanted to try so bad. When will this heal up? Should I see a doctor or something?
It should feel better afer a few days, just leave it alone. If it doesn't, then go to your doctor.
As for your girlfriend, communication is really important. You don't have to hurt your girlfriend's feelings by telling her it was bad but there are ways you can guide her in the right direction.
If she's doing something right, tell her you like it. If you don't, then take her hand and show her what you'd prefer. It's okay to tell her to slow down, speed up or to stop something that feels uncomfortable. In order for sex to be successful, you have to communicate with each other to find out what you both like and dislike.
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I want to know that my cousin payam love me or not
If you don't know, I doubt anyone on here does.
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hi! i have the habit of biting my nails, and it sometimes gets so bad that they hurt. i'd like to stop, but most of the time i don't even realize i'm doing it until someone points it out. i heard about this stuff you can paint on your nails, and it taste bad, so when you bite, you stop. what's it called? and what exactly does it taste like? does it work? does anyone else know anything i can do to stop?
thanks!
I bit my nails terribly for 15 years before finally breaking the habit. It's tough but it can be done!
Personally, I didn't find the nasty tasting stuff particularly helpful. I found that if I was eating anything with my hands, like a sandwich, the stuff would get on it, making it taste unpleasant. The taste is just really bitter and nasty, it's hard to describe. If you'd like to try it anyway, then the stuff I used was Sally Hanson, although I'm pretty sure there are other brands. You should be able to find it at any pharmacy/make-up place.
What I did was to file my nails down so short that I couldn't bite them. I did this for a couple of months until I wasn't tempted to bite them anymore, then I let them grow. I found that keeping them very neatly filed meant that I didn't want to bite them once they'd grown anyway. Another thing I found helpful was if I wanted to bite them, or found myself biting them, I would sit on my hands until the temptation went away.
What's also really important is the condition of your nails. It's likely that after years of biting them, they will be quite weak and split easily. I used a strengthening treatment which you paint on like clear nail varnish and it just works to harden the nails. You should be able to find this in the same places as the nasty tasting stuff.
It is really difficult and if you're a chronic nail biter, you probably bite the skin around them too - a habit I still have, unfortunately. You just have to have alot of will power.
Good luck!
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I live in Hampshire, England, United Kingdom. and i want a theropist who is cheap and who is female. please reccomed some. :)
The best thing to do would be to go to your doctor and get a referral.
They can either refer you to an NHS therapist, who would be free or if you have private cover such as BUPA, they can refer you to a private therapist.
Alternatively, if you'd rather skip the NHS/private referral and pay yourself, I found plenty of listings by Googling 'Hampshire therapists'.
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so then like twice a week is fine?
like i think if i have to text him first then thats how it has to be. i think that maybe he should see that i am different and i didnt mean what happened.
If you think that's the best idea then do it. Just go with whatever feels right for you and your situation.
I think now you need to just relax and see what happens.
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so i'm thinking about getting one, but pain concerns me a bit. can anyone relate getting a tattoo to another type of pain/tell me what it feels like to get one so i can better understand what i might have to endure? thanks
The pain for tattoos varies greatly and depends on the location, size and individual getting the tattoo.
I have two tattoos, both are relatively small but the pain differed hugely. The one on my wrist wasn't terrible but the one near my elbow was alot worse. Tattoos on the bone tend to be worse and ones that require alot of time and colour will obviously be more painful.
The pain is like a deep scratching/burning and afterwards it will feel tender and sore. If you're getting a large tattoo which takes a long time, you may find that the area goes slightly numb and the pain is less noticeable as you get used to it.
Anyone who says tattoos aren't painful at all is lying, they will always hurt to some extent. It's impossible to say just how much because everyone is different but on the whole, it is bearable and worth it for the end product.
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how do you flirt if we are just texting though?
just to get out of the awkwardness if any.
There's no need to be overally flirty over text. Just simple things like 'it'd be nice to see you soon' work wonders. Another nice idea is to occasionally use their name, for example 'Hey [insert name], what are you up to?' Use faces to change the tone - for example, 'I'm just getting ready for school' sounds different from 'I'm just getting ready for school :P'.
Don't overdo it and try to stay casual. Don't text him ALL the time and don't make every text a 'flirty' text. It's okay just to chat casually with constant flirting, the occasional slightly flirtacious text will do the trick.
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so if we are talking and flirting, i should push to get bacck together. i should just leave it alone.
cause i dont want to push anything on him. like im sure ill get some signs but will i know if he wants to get back together or not?
and when we talk like casually, can i just explain how i thought the relationship had ended and what ive learned? or will that not help anything?
I think you should just do whatever comes naturally. It might feel right to push to get back together, it might not. It's difficult to tell which way it will go at this stage. Just go with what feels right.
Like I've said, the only way you will know for sure if he wants to get back together is by talking to him openly and honestly.
It will probably be helpful to talk about where you went wrong last time, what you've learnt and what you want from any potential reunion but dwelling on it too much might be counter productive. You don't want to end up getting into stupid arguments about the past.
As for flirting, eye contact, gentle touches on the arm when you're talking to him (but not excessive), copying his body language, showing areas such as your wrist and neck etc are good ideas.
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