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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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are there any amaziing songs like "le disko" by shiny toy guns around? its great music. thanks.

I would suggest bands like The Killers for you to listen to.

If you need more songs by Shiny Toy Guns, you can search basically any lyric site. I use:

www.musicmademe.com

And what do you know, they have Shiny Toy Guns lyrics. =)

you know what sucks?
the fact that in the begging of every school year im so quite and concerned about what people think and im not really myself. and then right when it starts to get hot out
[i loveee the heat :)]. i like start to not care what anyone thinks of me and i act just like who i am and everyonee starts to really like me.
i wish i could have that attitude in the begging of the year because then i would have an amazingg year not just an amazingg few months of school and then have everything end because the summers coming up & im not going to see those people again thro out the whole summer.
i dont really know what to ask for advice but just anything that you think will help me with this problamoo tell.
thanks.

The answer is corny, but just be yourself. If you can do this in the last few months of school, you should be able to do this all year round as well.

well i was going out with this guy (Z) and my friend told me that he had poked this other girl. when i asked him about it he sed he doesnt even know a girl with that name i kept asking him but he kept denying it until one day he finally told me the truth. he told me it would never happen again so we continued going out, then a month or so later i then heard from everyone that he had cheated on me with like two or three other girls so i broke up with him. i still talk to him on MSN...we have been broken up for over a month now and most of the time when he starts talking to me, he asks me out again i always say no but he just keeps asking me. i say to him i can't trust u, i can't trust that your not going to cheat on me again and he always says i promise i won't i just want you back..this is really annoying me and i want to be mean to him and tell him to f*** off but then i think thats mean so i don't do it. so i just need some advice on what to do everytime he asks me out again.

Talk to him about it. Tell him that you can't trust him or believe him since he cheated on you & then lied to you about it. If you rather be friends, then tell him that & make sure you tell him firmly so he'll understand. It's best if you do this on the phone because you can't understand the tone if someone is writing. They can say something in a totally different context & you'll think of it a different way.

Anyways, if he doesn't seem to understand that no means no even after you've told him firmly, then maybe stop talking to him for a bit & see if that helps. If it doesn't, then you're going to either have to block him, or be rude.

lately, i havent been able to fall asleep until around 3 in the morning. like right now, its 237 and im wide awake. and then i dont wake up until 12 or 1 in the afternoon. what can i do to fall asleep sooner? i dont want to take sleeping pills. what else can i do?

thanks!

Read a book. When I can't sleep, I grab a book & read in result making me tired. Try to do that around 11pm-12am & see if it helps. =)

Does anyone know a site where I can get a code for a comments scrollbar on myspace? All I can find is a scrollbar that will put comments AND friends in the one scrollbar. I only want my comments in a scrollbar, not my friends.
Thanks

www.freecodesource.com

I use that for everything on MySpace. =)

Can you get AIDS by drinkin after somebody that has AIDS?
thanks :]

Do they teach sex-ed where you go to school?

Answers NO. The only ways to get AIDS are:
- Sharing needles with someone who's infected.
- Child birth & breast feeding.
- Sex.
- Oral sex. If you have a cut in your mouth/oral area & vice versa, & you/the other person has AIDS, it's possible to become infected.

If you haven't done any of those with someone who has AIDs, don't worry. If you're not sure, get tested. In order not to get AIDs/STDs, make sure you wear a condom everytime. Protect yourself.

I don't think I'm beautiful back home. Maybe pretty sometimes.. but not pretty enough to get compliments or stares from guys. that's saved for the real beauties.

But i'm on vacation right now, a few states away from home.. and apparently guys were staring and showing off for me. some tried talking to me too

but i dont understand.

is it just... a new place... different preference?

because it's all weird.. guys back home.. don't notice me [i'm from cali]

For a fact, guys are weird. It's known, and it's questioned. The way they think when it comes to girls is super weird as well, and it's hard to figure them out.

I'm gonna think of it this way: The guys where you live know you, and they either don't see you that way, OR they don't know how to tell you that they like you, so they don't -- which ultimately leaves you with the impression that you're not attractive.

However, I'm sure you are. The reason the guys where you are are so gkfhgkfOMG over you is because they've never seen someone like you before. They've got all those girls around them, but then they see someone new & it's like paradise for them. It could just be because they're weird or bored. But I'm pretty sure that you're beautiful wherever you go.

Don't worry about this so much though. Guys aren't everything. If a guy doesn't like you, his loss. You're still pretty & you'll find someone eventually.

im 14 years old and barley a 32A =[ . im going to highschool this year but i want to have a figure. i work out and im getting toned and stuff but still i just dont have boobs. its really anoying me. i mean im not like those girls who stuff or anything and i dont think i would ever stuff. =|
is there anyway i can grow my boobs.?
i dont know about stuffing cuz even if i didnt i would only do it a little.. but i dont know if thats a good idea. and pills. hm. i dont know about those either. i mean do they work or like okay for me or what?
so yeah anything on how to make them grow or apear bigggger. if you know anything about the pills or anything tell me too =]

&& please dont say that i shouldnt care what others think (because its hard not to) and im just 14 and they'll grow because there not grow alot over the summer.

thanks =]

There isn't anyway to make your boobs grow. I don't suggest pills, nor do I suggest stuffing because both ideas are just stupid.

If you want your boobs to look bigger, wear a push-up bra. That's your best bet for right now. Boob size is all in genetics & you're only 14, so you've still got a while to grow. Don't be so impatient. Having big boobs isn't everything.

did kurt cobain commit suicide or was he murdered? everytime i listen to nirvana, or any type of grunge music for that matter, i end up asking myself that question. personally, i think he was murdered. i think that courtney love hired someone to kill him because he was getting ready to leave her. if he did, none of the nirvana estate would belong to her. as far as the note goes, i think he wrote it with the intentions of leaving rock and roll and courtney all together, no intentions of suicide. i'm interested in hearing about any theories anybody may have about kurt cobain's death. here is a great site run by the original investigator of the kurt's death:
http://cobaincase.com/

He shot himself, so he did commit suicide. I'm sure he had plenty of reasons to go through with it, so you can't really argue against it.

My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

Talk to him about this. If you don't want to have sex, or if you're not ready to, tell him that. If he still keeps pushing the idea on you, dump him. If he loved you, he'd respect you & your decisions.

Ok is it wrong to go out with a 17 year old guy if you are 14? even if you really know him because he is a friend of the family.

No, there's nothing wrong with it, but when he turns 18 it could become illegal since he will be an adult & you'll still be a minor. However, I believe it'd only be illegal if you had sex.

Anyways, if you wanna date him, go for it. Age is just a number.

our son just turned 16 and was sneaking around with a girl that was 18 at the time and is now 19
he was told that he was not to see her anymore our we was going to press charges well now we got papers in the mail saying that i had to take him to get dna testing she had a baby this is in ohio wondering what we can do we know that its both there faults but my son is a straight a student in school has 2 more years and we heard bad things about this girl after the fact and the sneaking around.

What in the world does your son's GPA & grades have anything to do with the fact that he's probably been sleeping with this girl?

Just get the test done & if he's the father, make him own up to it & take care of the baby. If he's not, punish him for disobeying your rules & take his stuff away. He obviously cannot be trusted so until he can learn to do as you say, then he can deal without the things that are priveleges [sp?].

Sometimes, I predict things without knowing I predict them. For example, when i was walking into my tv room I was thinking about the movie karate kid and I did a karate kid kick (i'm strange) then when I got to the tv room a band was talking about the movie Karate Kid. I didnt even hear the tv before I got in. Or maybe i'm thinking "i like the name luke for a boy" and a mom nearby with her kids has a kid named luke and says "luke". This happens alot! Is it just a really big coincidence or might I be physcic or something?

I think it's just a coincidence.

i really wanna grow my hair long this summer. like a whole bunch but i always get split ends (even if i just straighten my hair ONE time with protection) and i like always let my hair natural tho. and then it takes forever when i get my hair cut for it to grow back.
does anyone know of some good things to prevent splitends, grow hair faster, or pills or something to make my hair grow as fast as possable before school starts. :] thankss

Cutting your hair & trimming it is supposed to make it grow faster. Instead of cutting your hair though, trim it instead. When you've noticed that you've gotten split ends, go to the hair salon or maybe a Supercuts & get your hair trimmed. That should help.

Hey! I hear this term a lot, but I never really understood what it meant. Anyways, let me get to the point:

what exactly does it mean to hook up with somebody???

Thanks :

Hooking up could be:

- Kissing/making out.
- Oral sex.
- Handjobs.
- The whole shabang aka SEX.

So if you hook up with somebody, you'd be doing either of those things.

I have this problem where I basically feel guilty about saying no to guys that ask me out...I know, pathetic. But I feel guilty about almost everything including not helping out around the house even if it's my birthday. So when a guy asks me out, I feel like I have to say yes because I feel bad for turning the person down. And I have this idea that everyone deserves a chance. I think I really need to stop doing this.
What's your view and how should I learn to say no? In a nice way that is...

This isn't always a bad thing. Giving people chances isn't bad at all UNLESS you know that they don't deserve it or that it'll hurt them in the longrun.

And why feel bad about not doing anything around the house on your birthday? It's your special day, you shouldn't have to. I don't.

But, if you wanna learn to say no, then you need to start doing it. The person below me said there isn't a way to say "no" nicely. I disagree. If someone asks you out & you don't like them, say "I'm flattered, but I don't see you in that way, sorry" OR "I think we're good as friends, I'm sorry." That is a way to say no nicely. However, although it sounds nice, it depends how you say it. When you say no, say it like you mean it so that they're clear that you're not interested & don't keep trying.

It's not hard to say no, you've just gotta work on it.

You know those pop-ups that say "win a free TV?"
How are they scams? Like what happens if you sign up for one?

It's a scam because they con you into buying something you don't need. If you do end up getting what they sold to you, it'll be of a lesser quality & it'll be a waste of money. You usually don't get the product though.

Not only do they con you into wasting money, but they make you give them personal information AND they give your computer tons of spyware which messes it up, gives it viruses & makes it slow.

Don't click the pop-ups, don't play the little games & don't give any personal information to anyone.

what does poser exactly mean?

Poser means to pretend to be something you're not.

Usually posers are fake & you can point one out super easy or at least I can... Anyways, if you're a skateboarder but you're trying to be Paris Hilton, you would be a poser.

Always be yourself. There's no one else you should be but just that.

okay i used to like breakdance a lot and i tried to learn it and i even went to the club to learn it because it was fun but i stopped because i i couldnt learn it since im a beginner so i stopped and then my friens told me to try skating so i did and it was fun and now im gonna buy the skateboard and trying to learn how to do the tricks but the question is am i being a poser?

No, there's nothing wrong with it. Trying new things is how you find out what you like/don't like & it defines you.

Do what you want & if people rag on you for it, don't listen to them. They don't know what they're talking about. =)

Hi everyone,
im so frustrated and sad. I can't stand my mom anymore. she treats me like a little girl. Like i cant take care of myself. My mom doesnt trust me. she never wants to let me go out. I have a boyfriend. She thinks im just going to go out and have sex. Im so sick and tired of it. Im not stupid I know what the concequences would be. Its all because my sister got pregnat when she was 17. Im 16. How can i make her understant. I cant talk to her anymore. All we do is fight. PLEASE HELP. I TRIED TALKING TO HER BUT DIDNT WORK =(

I absolutely understand. My mother is the same way. My cousin had a baby at 16, & even though he's the love of my life [and not my child], my mom thinks I'll end up the same, even though I told her I wouldn't.

I would love to tell you to rebel against your mother & do what makes you happy, but that could probably get me & you into trouble. Me with advicenators, & you with your mother, so that's not my goal.

However, even if you've tried talking to her, was it calm & collected or was it chaotic & arguing? The way you talk to your mother depends on the answer & outcome of the problem. I found that if I talked to my mother about things calmly instead of letting my temper get the best of me, I'd end up getting what I wanted, not to mention a happy mother who has no complaints. ;]

If your mother doesn't loosen up, you may just have to accept her rules & follow them. I realize you're not your sister, but your mother is still worrying, and do you blame her? It's not fair to you, yes, but you'll have to deal if talking in a new way doesn't work out. If it does work out, keep discussing things that way. I hope things work, so let me know how it goes. Good luck.

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