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Impulsive Decisions
I have this problem where I basically feel guilty about saying no to guys that ask me out...I know, pathetic. But I feel guilty about almost everything including not helping out around the house even if it's my birthday. So when a guy asks me out, I feel like I have to say yes because I feel bad for turning the person down. And I have this idea that everyone deserves a chance. I think I really need to stop doing this.
What's your view and how should I learn to say no? In a nice way that is...
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dont worry too much about being nice. you are probably hurting the guy more by going out with him when you dont like him than you would by just telling him the truth. youd save both of you time and heartache. now if you actually do want to give the guy a chance then thats great, go for it. but if you are just doing it because you think you are saving the guy pain, you are wrong.
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well i have the SAME problem, i feal guilty about almost everything! but i've kinda grown out of it a little bit! its important to have your own oppinion, and now i let mine show all the time! hope this helps! ily, mo<3!
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This isn't always a bad thing. Giving people chances isn't bad at all UNLESS you know that they don't deserve it or that it'll hurt them in the longrun.
And why feel bad about not doing anything around the house on your birthday? It's your special day, you shouldn't have to. I don't.
But, if you wanna learn to say no, then you need to start doing it. The person below me said there isn't a way to say "no" nicely. I disagree. If someone asks you out & you don't like them, say "I'm flattered, but I don't see you in that way, sorry" OR "I think we're good as friends, I'm sorry." That is a way to say no nicely. However, although it sounds nice, it depends how you say it. When you say no, say it like you mean it so that they're clear that you're not interested & don't keep trying.
It's not hard to say no, you've just gotta work on it.
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There's nothing wrong really with giving guys a chance but if you know it's definetaly not going to work then don't feel guilty because you will just break up with them when they are even more attached to you! Learn to say no by not practicing. Just look straight into the mirror and say Im sorry but no. There's no way to say no nicely but there is a way to say it firmly so they don't keep getting there hopes up too high! Hope I helped! Goodluck.
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